Posts by Harold Adams5

Olivia Carter25 said:Look, kids can be incredibly manipulative. Especially if they have narcissistic tendencies, and frankly, it looks like she had the perfect setup to build a fake persona just as a defense mechanism. People say her family was anything but stable—divorced parents, an unstable grandmother, constant fighting, even a huge blowout the night before she vanished. And how does she respond? "I had a family that loved me and always showed it." To me, that sounds like straight-up denial, the kind you see in a kid who simply can't wrap their head around the fact that their parents aren't perfect.
Furthermore, half of her story doesn't even add up. You're telling me there wasn't a single chance to escape at age eight while being stuck inside the house the whole time? Give me a break. At the very least, we're looking at some serious Stockholm Syndrome here, if not something even deeper. The problem is, there isn't anyone left alive to actually debunk her version of events.

So, the whole thing feels like she’s dealing with a severe personality disorder. That supposed "strength" of hers? It’s nothing more than a survival tactic—pure denial. She built that "tough personality" just to stay alive. The real question is whether she would have developed it if that guy hadn't kidnapped her. Given the circumstances, developing those traits was practically a guarantee once he started treating her like the "woman of his life" and some twisted sort of ideal during those eight years.

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I'm with you on the narcissistic personality disorder.

That's exactly what I saw in the interview. It wasn't trauma. It was just bad acting—fake tears, coughing fits, reaching for the tissues... all just to feed the hungry masses craving an "authentic" reaction.

shadowowl9 said:Who’s stopping you? Just keep learning. But personally, I still find her story suspicious.

Me too. Because this isn't really her story anymore—it's a story constructed by psychiatrists and psychologists. It's based on a "standard" understanding of what kidnapping should feel like. That’s why we hear so many contradictions, and why people refuse to "discredit" Natasha.
She describes her feelings exactly how THEY (and by extension, we) imagine captivity should be experienced. They’ve essentially forced specific emotions onto her—feelings of humiliation, suffering, claustrophobia—that she might not have even processed that way. The reality was likely different. After the initial shock, she probably just surrendered to the situation, accepted what was happening, and found a level of calm that we can't even fathom. Maybe she handled it better than her own family did? Why didn't she run straight into their arms the moment she escaped? She cooked, she cleaned, she shopped, she celebrated birthdays, she asked for gifts, and she gave him orders. Meanwhile, he used suicide threats to keep her there. He worked, he earned money. It functioned like a marriage. And believe me, I know, there are much worse setups out there.
She escaped because she WANTED to. I'm sure she could have done it much sooner.
She feels guilty because he took his own life, and now she's terrified of being judged by the public.
In life, we see what we want to see, not what is actually there, simply because the truth is too uncomfortable or arrives too late. So, we inflate the narrative to make it fit.

Not at the moment, and hasn't been for quite some time.
Staying on topic here...

So, how exactly does a "best friend" manage to rob you blind?
It sounds to me like you just misread the situation entirely...
Or maybe YOU were actually the bad friend here? You didn't see he needed it, so you didn't step up or lend him a hand. And there’s more to it than that. Why are you trying to bury what happened? Is it because facing the truth means having to face yourself? (Though let's be honest, most people never even make it that far. We're always the hardest on ourselves.)

Carol Lee4, even if you hadn't mentioned you were working remotely, I would have figured it out myself.
...that whole idea regarding mandatory supervision,
( specifically once a week )
is pure fantasy in our field, especially
for private practices like ours, which basically operate without any oversight..
( aside from the "inspectors" who show up when you're "registering a small business" or moving offices.
They just want to see if the space is adequate.
( They check the square footage, whether there are two restrooms, and look for a bunch of useless equipment—stuff you might just borrow from a local hospital for the day )
Those officials "know" you borrowed it.
But they can't prove it. And frankly, they don't care. It’s irrelevant.
You don't actually need that gear for psychotherapy (according to the regulations).
The most important thing is whatever circus act happens during that "inspection" process.😍>
( Just like at those big medical conventions. ) 😍>
I won't even get into the rest of it; it's just incredibly unprofessional.

Larry Hall54 said:I've got stuff going on.
Look, the last time I actually felt emotionally wounded was ages ago.
Take this scenario, for instance: You have a close friend, someone you hang out with almost every single day. Then, they steal from you. You know it was them—you saw it, or you found the items exactly where you knew they’d be.
Would that hurt your feelings? Most people would. Me? I just forgot about it. I push the experience down and move on. That's it. I'm focused on other things. Especially since my job doesn't exactly allow me to let my emotions fly. So, I learned how to isolate myself. Simple as that.🙂

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That wouldn't get an emotional rise out of me either. Maybe "materially," though.😲
And that doesn't hurt. At least not for me. I am not my wallet. I'm not emotionally attached to it.
(My debit card!😍 🤣 I carry that close to my heart, but it's not *in* my heart.
Also, it feels like your definition of being "hurt" is a bit vague and overly broad.

Robert Diaz7 said:Are you one of those people? 🙂

Yeah, I’m definitely one of those🙂 who feels like solving one issue gives me some kind of leverage over similar problems in others..

I honestly think the issue is that most psychiatrists are just way too "healthy," or they've never actually faced true mental "rock bottom," so they can't genuinely connect with a patient.
I've noticed this with several psychiatrists, even with a highly regarded psychoanalyst. Sure, her approach dictates she shouldn't be overly empathetic with patients, but still... I wasn't convinced she actually understood what it's like—to live with borderline

And let's be real... you don't get what borderline even is. It's honestly shocking how little understanding you have about it... or any other personality disorders

Look, a degree, a Master's, even an internship—none of that matters if you don't have the actual talent or the intuition for it..

But that level of ignorance regarding personality disorders was genuinely disappointing😲 👎

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What a conclusion! And what a delusion... "too healthy psychiatrists"?!
Listen, I work in this field, and I can tell you for a fact they aren't any "healthier" than the general public... and the psychology departments (at universities)
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speak for themselves..
So many people study psychology just to try and figure out their own disorders..
..The end of your post actually aligns with my point, so we're in agreement there 👍

HR123 said:You’ve probably noticed that every other psychiatrist looks like they stepped straight out of a Freud biopic. Honestly? I think more than 80% of them don't actually understand psychology; they just pose as if they do to ride Freud's coattails. You see them all with the same stubble and glasses, splitting themselves into little "Freudian" or Jungian cliques, completely ignoring modern psychological advancements. They act like what they learned thirty years ago is some kind of immutable law, as if psychology were math or something. In my opinion, these types can be incredibly damaging to patients seeking help for emotional issues. Instead of actually solving anything, they’ll likely just sedate you with enough pills to make you sleep for two days straight.

I know two guys with stubble😍
one is way too skinny, so he wears the beard to make his face look wider (he's pretty narcissistic, too)
the other one is just lazy, sloppy, and generally disorganized... plus he works way too much,
he doesn't have time to organize himself,🤣
and neither of them ever looked up to Freud.

stormycobra90 said:What am I even saying? Uh...
I know... 🙂
I know you’re feeling everything from great to terrible, and everything in between... 🙄 😍 😛

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But if you aren't feeling any of that, then just admit what you're taking... or at least prove you're actually alive.😍

Larry Hall54

..." so I spent two days completely out of it .."
That's what we're talking about. When you're actually hurt..
Trying to pretend it won't last two days doesn't work. You can't just snap your fingers and make the pain
disappear. Feelings don't care about what your brain thinks..
So, how do you all lie to yourselves? How do you try to convince yourself it won't take two days to recover?

Larry Hall54 said:I don't think a single thing, let alone act on it.
A thought just drifts by: "You have better things to do," and then I move on.
Why bother stressing? Why waste my energy on something I can't even change? No thanks. It doesn't matter how or why; we're all human, right? Isn't "to err is human" a thing?
Nobody is worth my sanity—or my health, for that matter—especially over something trivial.
Especially if someone starts acting tough, like, "Come on, I'll knock you out" or "You're gonna get slapped"...
Who cares? You just say: "If you want to swing, there's a wall right there, and you've got a head, so go ahead."
And then you forget about it.🙂

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Are you really the only person on the planet who can just "forget about it" like that?
Give me a break. It’s not that easy. We aren't robots (though wouldn't it be nice to switch off the feeling when we're hurt? Just for a moment).
That attitude might work on some random idiot passing by... but we aren't talking about them.

northernviper392 said:I go through the instructions for every single pill I take, whether they're mine or someone else's in the house...😁

😍 Honestly, every time I actually sit down and read the contraindications, I start thinking maybe I’m not even that sick after all..

Scott Cooper said:Don't overthink it. You're still young, you've got plenty of life ahead of you. What's gonna happen when you actually grow up?

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Well, isn't that just comforting!

feralcobra92
It’s not malice, it’s mercy 😂
And you, Scott Cooper
You really went there... just get it all out, why don't you? It’s not like anyone on this forum is going to send you a bill for your outbursts.
Maybe change your username afterward so people stop messing with you (though that would be pretty petty!)

So, did you go see a therapist? Honestly, that sounds like exactly what you need right now.

Stana said:okay !?!

I stuck by mine until the very end (I was only 16 at the time) .. I honestly think it made me a better person because of it.. you should try it.

Go ahead, go play nice with your old man and give him a massage with some rubbing alcohol; you’ll feel like a brand new person afterward.

Stana said:I won't even remember this life anyway, so it doesn't matter... I'll just end up scratching at my brain all over again...

If you actually manage to remember that you have a head to begin with. You aren't exactly putting it to good use right now, either.
( unless we're talking about the lower 😲 )

Stana said:they’re fine, really. my old man is sick so I can't really talk to them about anything anymore, and my wife has her hands full looking after him, plus she doesn't need me weighing them down with my nonsense... I try to keep my own stuff to myself as much as possible..
thompson-get a grip.

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Honestly, you’re being selfish. Has it even crossed your mind to step up and help your mom? To actually be useful? That’s your way out, you spoiled brat!
Do you ever stop to ask how they're doing? Why don't you try focusing on the people you love for once?
Or is it just because you aren't the center of the universe right now? Your old man had the audacity to get sick so you could throw a tantrum and make everything about you? You're pathetic.

Stana said:So I'm just going to be someone's bitch?!
Well, whatever. At least I won't have to rely on one hand anymore.

😕 How exactly did you reach that conclusion? You’ll be using both hands, both feet, and probably your teeth just to keep up with everything waiting for you in my twisted little vision.
Just look around. A working mom with one kid... how much is on her plate already? Now imagine if she had twelve!
You're really playing games here. Are we all just idiots to you? Is that what you think—that everyone replying to you is just some clueless housewife?👎

Peach said:Density? 😕 Never heard of it.

Evolutionary development stages
( higher densities correlate to higher levels of consciousness )