Posts by Zachary Scott67

Look, the "kid" is clearly just overcompensating—he can't handle his own frustrations. I say "kid" because he's the younger brother, not because of his height, and honestly, he just refuses to grow up. He won't drive his mom to the ER because he can't face the reality that she’s sick, or worse, that he might lose her—and if he does, he loses his status as the "baby" forever. So he digs his heels in and plays dumb about the whole thing. It sounds twisted, I know, but go talk to a therapist—they'll tell you it's textbook.

Ever since their dad passed, he probably got a ton of attention from his mom and brother, but in his head, it’s still never enough. He’s constantly fishing for it, using whatever works in the moment—whether it's being charming and helpful or just being a total jerk and acting out.

I wonder if there's anyone left in that family with enough backbone—an uncle or some older relative—who could actually sit him down man-to-man. Someone to look him in the eye and explain that he’s an adult now, and people expect actual responsibility from him, not this spoiled child act where he sulks over stuff that happened years ago. (And yeah, he feels cheated because he grew up without a father, but nobody did that on purpose, and everyone else in the family suffered just as much—if not more—than he did... and now they're suffering even more because of him).

So what’s your guy saying about all this? Like, why he acts the way he does? Does he think it’s just his personality—or maybe some weird upbringing or life stuff making him different from everyone else?

You mentioned his brother is close to him, so—maybe he doesn't really care about any of this drama? How does he actually treat his brother, then?

Jason Sanchez3 said:Man, if only it were that simple... it really isn't. She still thinks it's his house too, so she feels like she can't kick him out...

He actually pulled some nonsense on me recently, and when she found out, she got into it with him about it... but then she ended up apologizing to *me* for how he was acting. It's just pointless. A total vicious cycle.

You're gonna lose if you try to take him on. The guy is clearly a master manipulator—you'll just end up getting burned. And Mom? She’s always going to side with him, mark my words. She'll act all awkward around you and apologize, sure, but nothing "real" will ever change. She'll always stick by her little boy; it’s easier for her to let you get hurt than to deal with him...

So, bottom line: the house is his, Mom is his, and he's got all the freedom in the world to act out. Your only real move is to decide that if that's how it is, you aren't stepping foot in that house anymore. If you actually want to see your future mother-in-law, you meet her for coffee or invite her over to yours. You tell her straight up that her son is way too much drama—too rude and disrespectful for you to sit there and let him mess with your head or treat you like garbage.

Jason Sanchez3 said:She isn't being possessive at all, nor is she giving him money. He earns plenty—by American standards, he actually makes quite a bit—but she secretly wishes he'd move out, she just can't bring herself to say it...

Okay, sure, she made some mistakes because she wanted to give them everything, but if I could pick my parents, I'd choose someone just like her... and honestly, it's because of her that my husband turned out 👍
He's been cooking since he was 16 and does everything himself, always helping everyone... same kind of parents... just goes to show upbringing isn't everything...
The woman gets a 10/10. From wanting to understand them to showing interest in their lives, being open, easygoing, and helpful whenever needed... everything.
She's nothing like other women... not controlling, not jealous, and definitely not possessive...

From what I'm gathering, your husband is the brother of that "problematic" one?
You're saying Mom feels awkward telling him to move out? She needs to suck it up and tell him; she should tell him she's overwhelmed, stressed, exhausted, and dealing with health issues—that she has a right to peace in her own home... and that she wants him to have his own peace and independence too, since he's an adult and needs to find his own apartment.

Even without all that, there are plenty of laundromats and dry cleaners in Washington, D.C. to go to—let him take his clothes there and pay for it out of his own pocket. She needs to drop those "housekeeper" duties first, and then the next time he gets disrespectful, let him know she's done with his crap and show him the door.

Richard Moore53 said:I spent my entire life taking the easy way out. I was never a fighter, and honestly, I'm not sure why. Maybe it’s just how I was wired, or maybe I just never saw the point in fighting the good fight. Or perhaps I simply lacked the support system I needed, or maybe I was just too weak. Either way, I’ve hit a wall. I'm standing here alone, without friends, feeling unappreciated even by my own child. I know I have no one to blame but myself; after all, I'm the one who let others dictate my destiny.

Why aren't you getting appreciation from your own kid? Or is that just how you feel? Just show them some love and support—that's usually what they're looking for—and suddenly you'll be treated like you just won a Nobel Prize in Chemistry. And look, it's never too late to change course. People evolve their whole lives...

Start by fixing things with your child first—that's the priority. Everything else comes after. Think about what small thing could help rebuild your self-respect when you're around them. Just take baby steps; don't feel like you need to pull off some massive, life-altering gesture right away.

I’m pretty sure stress is the main trigger—at least from what I’ve seen with friends or family dealing with psoriasis. Definitely hit the beach this summer if you can, the ocean air helps, but otherwise maybe look into some relaxation stuff... like autogenic training or whatever. Once you sort out the stress or whatever mess brought the psoriasis on in the first place, it should start backing off gradually.

Motion sickness has always been my curse—total nightmare. Luckily, Dramamine gets me through it. It’s just one of those things where you have a sensitive inner ear and there isn't really a permanent fix. 😢 😢 Ask if there's anything else besides Dramamine that actually works.