Posts by nimbleowl6

Bradley Nelson2 said:It’s because they aren't getting paid for moderator roles—so they just use the position as a way to flex some power they don't have anywhere else. Plus, they lack any common sense or basic manners. Those who fit the description will know exactly who I'm talking about.

You're welcome.

Look, I totally get it—I didn't need anyone to open my eyes to that. It's crystal clear to me that we're all just human, underneath it all. No matter how much someone tries to act like a total pro, we all fall victim to our own little weaknesses and biases sometimes.

But honestly? That’s exactly why rules and codes of conduct are such a damn good thing. They act as a shortcut—a way for us to keep our professionalism intact when we're being hit by those irrational, emotional impulses. It keeps our "inner" assholes from running wild.
In my opinion, a major, high-profile institution like this forum should definitely have these rules in place and actually respect them.

I’m actually pretty relieved that slynomad14 showed up—it kind of validates that I wasn't just making things up in my head. 😁

Specifically, we're talking about the whole "Should you marry a divorcee?" debate.
The way the thread was set up, it felt like it was built right on top of a stereotype. From what I’ve gathered, the whole point of this forum is to challenge and poke at those old-school cultural clichés—basically creating a space where we can rethink things in a much more constructive way.

At one point during that discussion, some users started using irony to tear down those stereotypes, and honestly, I think irony is a totally legitimate way to talk about stuff like this. It shouldn't be lumped in with trolling.

And if you ask me, being able to tell the difference between those little nuances is exactly what defines a decent moderator.

Plus, like slynomad14 mentioned, most people posting here aren't exactly rookies when it comes to long-term relationships or living together—we've got years of experience under our belts. Yet, we still deal with moderator interventions that make us feel like... well, like a bunch of bratty kids in preschool throwing food at each other just because they're being obnoxious.

Comments along the lines of "Oh, you guys are just here for fun"—especially coming from a moderator who I'm guessing is probably in her early twenties—are really unnecessary, let alone helpful.

And again, I'm with slynomad14 on the whole sanctioning thing. There’s already a system for warnings and strikes. If we "go too far," we get the red card. Simple as that. My only question is—why should we be penalized just for dealing with someone else's, frankly pretty toxic, attitude?

I’m curious—do the mods and the rest of the admin team here actually follow some kind of code of conduct when dealing with users?

My question is pretty much sparked by how one specific female moderator handles things over at ZUD. I don't think it's necessary to drop names just yet, but if this goes anywhere, I'll be happy to point out exactly who I'm talking about.

It really comes down to her attitude—specifically the way she uses certain language during her moderator interventions in particular threads.

The whole vibe is mostly patronizing, rude, and indirectly insulting—honestly, I'd describe it as how a terrible preschool teacher talks down to toddlers.

And these aren't even comments triggered by anyone breaking rules or anything; they just seem to reflect what I'd call a general intolerance toward the users themselves.

What’s the actual purpose behind phrases like, "Alright, that's enough now"? You know, those kinds of lines used during her mod interventions?

Look, I’ve personally spent plenty of time leading debates and moderating discussions at all sorts of different conferences and roundtables—and if I had ever said something like that in any professional setting, my career as a moderator would have been dead on arrival. I would've been labeled as non-constructive or just plain disrespectful to the participants.

So, I want to know—is this some kind of moderator trend? These interventions wrapped up in this fake sense of humor that ends up being blatantly rude?

Why is it considered such a weird thing to just say, "Excuse me, please get back to the topic"? Or something simple like that?

If people are breaking the site rules or ignoring moderator warnings, there are already sanctions in place—you know, the whole "card" system.

So why do some moderators feel the need to supplement those penalties with condescension and belittling the folks posting on this specific subforum?

At the end of the day, what I really want to know is: is there an official code of conduct for moderators regarding how they treat users? And if there isn't one, I'd love to know why.

Thanks.

George Booth34 said:So, I had my last period back on February 18th, 2013—though things really started getting messy around March 3rd—and I finally went to see my doctor on March 7th. She put me on some medication called Dabrastona and told me to just hang tight and come back for a follow-up in two months. Well, here we are, and honestly? It’s been a total disaster. Sometimes it’s just a little spotting, but other times it feels like a literal flood—it's actually pretty scary, and I'm at a complete loss for what to do. On top of that, the abdominal pain is absolutely brutal... like, I can't even bear to be touched without it hurting like crazy. I'm seriously spiraling here—what am I supposed to do? I don't even know who else to turn to at this point.🤷🤷

Look, you need to get yourself to the ER right now—seriously. I’m not even joking around here. I learned this the hard way once when I ended up with some incredibly brutal anemia because I didn't listen to my body, and let me tell you, it was a total nightmare. If I were in your shoes, I wouldn't waste another second—just head straight to the emergency room.

Kenneth Scott41 said:Personally, I’ve found Wellbutrin to be quite effective so far. It feels fundamentally different from any other antidepressant I have experimented with in the past.
The main distinction, I suppose, is that Wellbutrin provides this massive surge of energy. I feel constantly alert and driven to get things done, whereas my previous medications tended to leave me feeling somewhat dull or even a bit sedated... I used to be very calm, perhaps too withdrawn, but this Wellbutrin seems to have a certain kind of momentum to it... I am not entirely sure how to articulate it properly. It simply wakes me up, making me feel as though I could run a full marathon😁,and, perhaps most importantly, it hasn't caused those issues with libido or erectile function; I am actually enjoying intimacy again, much like I used to! 🙂
I should probably mention as well that I have been losing weight since starting Wellbutrin. My appetite just isn't what it used to be.👍 (which is likely everyone's favorite side effect, I imagine). I have been searching through various forums for people sharing their experiences with Wellbutrin, but there seems to be remarkably little information out there... it strikes me as odd that so few people seem to be using it... though perhaps it is just because it tends to be more expensive.

Hey everyone 🙂
There’s actually a pretty cool trick regarding Wellbutrin. Basically, back in the day, it was actually a competitor to Pfizer, and it turned out to have some specific advantages—like being a much healthier option for dealing with sexual dysfunction.
But, well, the pharmaceutical lobby backing Pfizer was just way more powerful.
Anyway, here in the States, it's actually pretty standard practice for doctors to prescribe Wellbutrin for erectile dysfunction or female orgasmic issues.🙂
Another funny thing—which goes for the US, England, and everywhere else—is that Wellbutrin is also sold under the name Zyban, which is prescribed to help people quit smoking.
At its core, we're talking about the exact same medication.🙂
The only catch in the US is that your insurance will cover Wellbutrin, but they won't touch Zyban—because, you know, they figure it's your own fault for smoking in the first place.
A lot of my colleagues here in America just bypass that whole administrative headache by prescribing Wellbutrin to people trying to kick the habit instead—just at the 150 mg dose.
So yeah.
Just thought you guys might find this stuff interesting.🙂