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Brenda Hughes2 said:This really brings up some new questions. 🙂 What happens if you finally find your footing and start feeling better, but your partner doesn't? Or vice versa? Does it even matter? I wonder, can an unstable partner actually motivate you to become a healthier version of yourself? 🙂

I really think they can. 🙂

"Is someone getting the best, the best, the best, the best of you?" - Dave Grohl

boldnomad45 said:A psychiatrist once told me the same thing. Back then, I had a friend who had been through heart surgery just like I was going through my own struggles—he was pretty unstable, just like me. My doctor basically said we were drawn together by the mutual venting, but that those aren't solid foundations for a healthy relationship. You tend to attract exactly the kind of partner you are at that specific moment. Since I wasn't stable, happy, or even mentally healthy back then, that was the only type of person I could pull in. And he was right. I didn't need that relationship, though I did learn something from him. Still, that whole experiment cost me way too much.
I shouldn't have been with anyone at that time. I was actually looking for a friend, someone for support, not a partner. Whatever. I didn't realize it then. I should have listened to the doctor.

I guess I also have to learn everything the hard way. 😬

jadelynx2 said:Anyway, how have you been? Usually, once you start seeing women, things tend to look up.😁

I've actually been diving into some R.L. Stine lately, which has been a blast. Honestly, I think I need to spend less time online.

Kyle Grant62 said:"Normal"? You think they're normal just because they don't have mental health issues?
Nobody's actually fine. Everyone's pretty much screwed deep down at some point. The brain's always working against you.

There’s a massive difference between someone who judges you based on a diagnosis and immediately wants out, versus someone who hasn't lived through your shit but actually tries to listen and get it.

You stop stressing about whether they're just like you or "normal."

Yeah, normal because they don't deal with mental health stuff.

Kyle Grant62 said:"Normal"? You think they're normal just because they don't have mental health issues?
Nobody's actually fine. Everyone's pretty much screwed deep down at some point. The brain's always working against you.

There’s a massive difference between someone who judges you based on a diagnosis and immediately wants out, versus someone who hasn't lived through your shit but actually tries to listen and get it.

You stop stressing about whether they're just like you or "normal."

I usually run into that first type.

Every single Spider-Man movie. I think both of them kick ass, plus Guardians of the Galaxy. Those three are my absolute favorites. Honestly, Spider-Man is just genius—I love him as a superhero.

Brenda Hughes2 said:I've heard about certain couples who met in psychiatric wards and things ended badly—like, you have two people struggling with depression, one gets hospitalized after a suicide attempt, and the other ends up isolated at home and takes their own life—all those kinds of horror stories. Of course, nobody ever talks about the ones where the relationship actually succeeds. 😁

Now, I don't browse this subforum very often, so I have no idea what your specific diagnosis is, but I think it's worth asking how one person's illness might impact the other. What's the likelihood of you being hospitalized? Could that act as a trigger for your partner? Would you be able to handle the fallout? And so on, and so forth.

I mean, it seems to me like you've already made up your mind—I'm just rambling here. 😁

It's not just people who lead lives without any struggles at all who are considered mentally healthy. 😁

I haven't made a final call yet. I just know I don't want to be selfish, and the last thing I want is to hurt her. I just need to see how my story ends..

jadelynx2 said:Forget about normal people; they just don't get us!

Glad to see you're still around. 🙂

I've been thinking along those same lines myself. 😁

Brenda Hughes2 said:Personally, I've been dealing with depression and anxiety, and I also have a history of being in a long-term, abusive relationship.

My partner is mentally healthy and very stable—of course, she can't fully grasp everything I'm going through, but she’s such a huge support system. In the early days, this actually put a lot more strain on our relationship because I would spiral into crises more often; I'd find myself ruminating over a single sentence for an entire week or something like that. Fortunately, I finally started seeing a therapist a few months ago who is a perfect fit for me, and I've been feeling so much happier lately. 🙂

Honestly, I'm just glad she's healthy and steady for several reasons. First off, she acts as a sort of reality check for me—like, "Okay, is this a normal reaction, or is this just part of my illness?" Second, it means I can focus entirely on myself when I'm in a crisis. I tend to be pretty empathetic, and if I were with someone unstable, I’d end up wasting all my energy trying to hide my own struggles just so I wouldn't trigger theirs—which wouldn't be good for anyone involved. 🙂

This is such a beautiful post. 🙂

Hmm... about that part. 😬

I need a reality check every now and then too, since my perspective isn't always the most accurate. I get all the theory, but in practice, it all feels pretty silly to me. 😬

I'm actually a really good listener, and honestly, I think two negatives can make a plus. I just love being around people who are "my kind" of person. I truly think it could work.

Jonathan Hayes said:Wait, you're actually going to ask your psychiatrist for girl recommendations? 😁

Nah, I'm just curious. I've heard from plenty of people that "hanging out" with unstable types usually ends pretty fast... just wanted to get a real perspective.

I’d love to keep this thread right here because I have a specific question about my particular "situation."

Long story short, I’ve got a crush on someone. Lately, I've found myself drawn to girls who deal with mental health diagnoses, mostly because they actually give me what I'm looking for. I need mutual support and genuine empathy—things I just haven't found with "neurotypical" guys. Honestly, I'm just relieved I can open up to her without worrying she’ll laugh at me or judge me. With most regular guys, if I mention anything personal, the reaction is usually just: 😲 + 🙂 .

The reason I’m posting is that my former therapist thinks I should be looking for a "healthy" partner, which I really don't buy. 😬 My mom feels the exact same way. I haven't asked my current doctor yet, but I definitely plan to. 😁

Anyway, for those of you in relationships—whether your partner has a diagnosis or not—what’s it like? Are you happy with your choice? Do you find that level of understanding even when things might seem "unclear" to the outside world?

Let me know. 😁

crimsonstag84 said:

Not a great suggestion since there are way more versions available with dual fans for $13.

In my book, the NVIDIA GeForce GTX 740 is basically the absolute bare minimum you need if you want to play anything these days.

Anyone up for chatting with a lonely guy who’s been through the wringer? 🕺

crimsonstag84 said:Better to go used... local pickup, still under warranty:

http://www.ebay.com/itm/graphics-card-listing-example

Buying anything weaker just isn't worth the money, and this one is a perfect match for your CPU.

I actually have the version with that cooler on the AMD Radeon R7 260. It runs incredibly cool, plus it’s got a 3-year warranty... honestly, it's a great card. 🙂

The HyperX Cloud is probably the best headset ever made.

Look, as a Radeon user, I’m telling you: just go with Nvidia. I’ve got an R7 260 and honestly, it has way too many flaws. I only picked it up because the colors felt a little more "alive" compared to my old GTX 750.

I've heard the VRM temperatures on the GTX 970 can get pretty crazy high.

Anyway, I’d still grab the GTX 970 MSI gaming 4. It's hands down the best card out there.

swiftfalcon89 said:What’s the verdict on the ASUS ROG Radeon R9 380? It’s a bit pricier than the MSI or Gigabyte options, but if it performs better, why not? Plus, they offer a 3-year warranty too..

I've heard rumors that the ASUS ROG models have an issue with one of the heatpipes, which causes them to run "a little" hot.

Otherwise—ASUS seems to be the manufacturer that somehow always runs into the most trouble with the 280X cards.

Honestly, I wouldn't touch any of them. This MSI Armor isn't quite on the level of the MSI gaming cards, and I doubt the Sapphire 2 x is going to hold its own against a 3X Toxic or a Vapor 3 x. Gigabyte is the same story—I just don't trust those dual fans to perform as well as the triple fan setup on the 280X. If I were absolutely forced to pick one, though? I'd probably go with the MSI Armor.

Joshua Ramos14 said:...

Honestly, it's a total waste of cash.