Posts by Paul Diaz54

It’s wild how many people act like they don't have free will—like they're just some helpless victim to everything happening around them. Newsflash: playing the victim doesn't get you anywhere spiritually. And all this deep philosophy people try to attach to just hanging out? It's simple. People just love overcomplicating things, even basic social stuff.

TataStaMuJe said:I get where you're coming from.

hit me up if you ever want to have a deep dive conversation 😁 if not, no big deal 🙂

restlessdriver said:Solitude can be a good thing. Perhaps what you consider "deep" is different for someone else. Maybe for some, depth is just having a place to vent. Maybe they find peace in the woods. Maybe coffee is enough for them. Or maybe you simply haven't crossed paths with the right people yet. Perhaps conversation isn't always necessary. Perhaps the depth lies elsewhere. Perhaps...

By the way, I don't quite agree with you. I don't think people are resistant to Good; rather, I believe everyone is working toward Good in their own way. Some just do it a little better than others...

If talking was useless, we wouldn't have language or the ability to speak—and if solitude was all we needed, we wouldn't be this social species. Honestly, I don't get this glorification of being alone. Is it just fear of actually connecting with people or what? I like my space sometimes, just like everyone else, but being alone 24/7 is more of a mental health issue than some spiritual breakthrough. Seems to me like "spirituality" is often just a fancy word for being self-obsessed.

People *do* resist good. If they didn't, the world wouldn't be such a mess, people wouldn't be crushed by negativity, and those bringing light wouldn't be persecuted—like Jesus and many others. But hey, everyone's free to agree or disagree with whatever they want. 😁

silverotter592 said:What I mean is, it really is possible to form genuinely intimate bonds between people who are out there searching for the Truth without falling into those toxic dependencies or losing who they are as individuals. We’re all prone to lying to ourselves, and having a good, honest friend can actually help you tear down those personal illusions. It’s the delusions and the lies that drive people apart, not spiritual growth. When a person is finally able to strip everything away and show their small and large shadows to someone else—someone who won't judge them because they're also aware of their own flaws—that darkness just dissolves and disappears, and the soul gets purified. Not to mention all the other benefits of a friendship like that. Any "truth" we try to keep to ourselves isn't actually truth at all; it's just a deception.

Man, that would be nice. Seems like most people just aren't interested in real friendship anymore—spiritual or otherwise. Usually, it's just grabbing coffee once or twice a month and calling it a day. People lately seem obsessed with being alone. I've tried trying to talk about deeper stuff with people so many times, but it just never goes anywhere.

silverotter592 said:Hey there,
I’ve been sitting here thinking about this, and I wanted to ask everyone: how much substance do you actually find when you hang out with people who are on their own spiritual journey? I mean, when it comes to really opening up and sharing the highs and lows of life across the board—is there any actual depth there? From what I’ve seen personally, every single person I’ve run into who claims to be into spirituality seems to have already picked a specific religion or a certain niche movement to cling to, and honestly, it feels like they aren't actually looking for genuine, soul-level friendship. It feels more like they just want to recruit anyone they meet into their little group or community. So, I'm curious, what has your experience been like in your day-to-day interactions with others who are also walking this path?

Total agreement here. I was part of one of those groups once, hoping to actually make some real friends, but it was pointless. At the end of the day, they were still just strangers to me. I was looking for something else entirely.

Maria Price3 said:Go ahead and make fun of me if you want—that’s basically what this forum is for, right?—but honestly, this is a legitimate psychological issue. I’d argue it’s tied directly to social phobia, and in my own experience, it stems from this deep-seated fear of rejection from whoever happens to be on the other end of the line. Whether I'm trying to deal with a customer service rep at a place like Verizon, filing some paperwork with a local agency, or just calling up friends to hang out, my brain starts spinning through fifty different negative scenarios where the call ends up being useless or awkward. It creates this massive amount of internal frustration before I even dial. Most of the time, things turn out fine, of course, but these kinds of irrational fears—even if they seem ridiculous to someone else—are just a fundamental part of living with anxiety.

Same here—it was definitely social anxiety. I used to freak out about answering Mobile phones because I was terrified my voice would sound weird—like some high-pitched, annoying squeak. Looking back now, it feels so stupid. 🤣

I wouldn’t call myself an eternal optimist—that’s not really my vibe—but I’m definitely in a much better headspace than I used to be. No forcing it, though. No fake-smiling through the bullshit.
To me, being positive just means picking your battles—focusing on the good stuff instead of dwelling on the garbage. Simple shift in perspective. That’s my move: surround myself with things that actually feel right, do what makes me happy, and just tune out the noise of everything else I can't stand.

Usually, people who actually enjoy being single have other stuff going for them—friends, a solid career, hobbies, whatever keeps them busy... If you’ve got nothing else filling your cup, then yeah, you're stuck. I'm in your age bracket too and still single, and honestly? It’s just frustrating how much people my age stop caring about actual friendship. Everything just turns into "are you dating someone?" and if you aren't in a relationship, it feels like you're basically cut off from most social circles anyway.