Posts by copperridge77

Hey there! Does anyone happen to know where I might be able to track down a Baymax figure from Big Hero 6 here in the city?
I’m not strictly set on just a figurine, though—I'd be open to other toys or related collectibles if they're available. Any leads would be greatly appreciated!

Robert Collins2 said:copperridge77, look, you can't just brush off depression if the diagnosis is F32.1 or—God forbid—something even heavier. Those meds are literally what give you the strength and the actual will to get out of bed and move again; I’m speaking from my own lived experience here. So, please, I am begging you, stop trivializing a psychiatric and scientifically proven ILLNESS. This isn't some made-up label or someone's "crazy idea"...

Let me clarify, because I realized I didn't fully explain my point. I have absolutely no intention of trivializing or downplaying depression as a legitimate illness. Since you're speaking from experience, you surely understand that there are different types of depression, and most require medication as a way out (and just so there's no confusion, I am certainly not claiming he didn't need meds to navigate his own struggle). My point wasn't malicious; based on what he wrote, it feels like he thinks the pills solved everything and that nothing else needs to be done besides staying on the prescription. In my view, there still has to be an active effort to "get moving," because without that personal initiative... nothing is truly resolved.

mistyseal11 said:How'd you even come to that conclusion?
Honestly, I have zero clue who even penned that post, and frankly, I couldn't care less.
...because I'm just a selfish, full-of-myself, narcissistic, egocentric piece of work. 😍

The real issue is that we’re being forced into these social circles we didn't even ask to be part of.
Look, we don't even need to be friends if we aren't on the same page—period.

Who am I even supposed to be asking for help here? Like, who is this girl anyway?

Look, let’s just be real here—depression isn't some mood swing or a lack of willpower; it's a legitimate medical condition that needs actual treatment, like antidepressants, to get managed.
Honestly, you guys who have no clue what's actually coming—just start crying now. 😁

Exactly. "Friendship" is just a concept forced upon us by society, which is precisely why you're so desperate to find some...
As for her, you're likely just making assumptions, dying for a bit of validation.
You can try selling your "coolness" theories to others, but they don't work on me.
Depression is an illness that is treated with medication as a last resort, because once you pop a pill, there's no need to exert any effort anymore; you don't have to summon the courage to reach out to friends, family, or anyone else you know actually gives a damn about you.
You can deal with depression and other "issues" without relying on Zoloft; you just have to take action. But you'd rather stay stuck in your delusions—if that works for you, hey, who am I to disagree? 🤷

mistyseal11 said:More what exactly?

...a post that literally makes my blood run cold😬

Does it actually make your blood boil that you happen to have a friend? And honestly, how is it that this isn't viewed as a flaw in the world, but rather as some sort of personal failing on your part—that you’re expected to actually put in effort for a friend?
What exactly are we supposed to call it when you go looking for her help? You know as well as I do that relying on chemicals isn't some kind of silver bullet. It’s never been the answer, and it certainly isn't going to be now.

It’s honestly visible just from how your father reacted. Look, I don’t want to be judgmental—and obviously, this is just my own subjective take—but if one of my closest family members attempted suicide, the very first thing I’d do once I was certain the immediate danger had passed and they were physically safe would be to ask *why*. I’d sit down and actually talk to them.
And frankly, I don't see why there's such an immediate rush to list off medications. Those should really be treated as a last resort...
Besides... it’s incredibly difficult to weigh in on something like this when you only have half the story.
But if they didn't "teach" you properly—and hey, that doesn't necessarily make it a bad thing; I grew up being yelled at constantly, but it made me the responsible adult I am today. Not every harsh lesson is a tragedy; sometimes, those who were never corrected end up much worse off. If that's the case, then just accept it. We all mess up, including our parents (assuming they are indeed the ones in this situation), and you just have to start learning for yourself. It’s like what you said about cars: nobody is going to teach you how to drive perfectly just by lecturing you. To truly learn how to handle a vehicle, you need hands-on experience that no instructor can simply "install" in your brain. They can explain the mechanics, but eventually, you have to find the clutch yourself. That’s just how life works. You have to take that first step. If you stall the engine the first time, it’s not the end of the world. If you fail the second time, you try a different approach and eventually succeed. You can't reap any rewards if you aren't willing to take a risk....

mistyseal11 said:My answer is basically what I said before: yeah, I got the attention... but it was the depressing kind that just ends up weighing you down even more.

Nah, I don't have winter tires on and my car is too low to the ground to handle any snow.

Maybe, but—honestly, looking in the mirror yesterday I just felt totally disgusted with myself and that was the breaking point, I just snapped! That’s why I cut myself,

but my old man stopped me. It wasn't like I called 911 or anything...
he just offered me some Xanax to try and calm me down...

Are you talking about the attention from your father, or did someone else comment on that?
If it wasn't him, then let me ask a more pressing question: how did your dad actually react (aside from offering the Xanax), and what did he say to you?
Get rid of all the mirrors in the house 😁, just kidding. Look, I don't claim to know the core of your struggle, but based on a superficial glance at the situation, I can't quite wrap my head around such a drastic move. On paper, you have a roof over your head, and I assume you aren't facing some massive financial crisis either. From what I gather, you seem like a relatively successful college student with a decent sense of humor, which usually points toward a fairly high intelligence level (that’s just my experience, anyway). As for your physical appearance, I've already given my two cents. 😍 Mind you, those are entirely my own subjective impressions based mostly on online speculation; I could be completely off base. The only real issue you mentioned yourself was a lack of friends and a sense of connection. I deal with that too—it's been a struggle for a year or two now—but I personally don't see it as a big enough problem to justify taking such an extreme step. 🤷

Are you seriously just going to ignore me? I never said anything even remotely close to "idiot," "I didn't expect that from you," or "I don't care." :/

If I recall correctly, the whole suicide attempt wasn't actually about ending things—it was more about getting some attention, right? So, did you actually pull that off, or did the whole thing just fail to achieve its true purpose?
And what happened, did they shut down the local Starbucks so you couldn't make it to coffee?

and p.s. you're pretty cute 🙂 😍 👍

crimsongull12 said:I mean, come on, surely out of that group you had at least ten people you actually managed to stay on good terms with? But honestly, it doesn't even matter...
The real question is, are you still hanging around the same city, or have you moved away for college somewhere?
If you aren't hitting the books, you might want to look into getting a job as a server; I can guarantee you'll meet plenty of people that way.

The guy is clearly struggling with depression, and your brilliant advice is to go work as a server? You might as well just hand him a bullet so he can get it over with right now... 🤣
Come on, mistyseal11, get over here. We'll kill the depression and the boredom together—problem solved.

mistyseal11 said:man, I’m definitely standing.

Look, if everything worked as smoothly for me as it does for you, I wouldn't be in this mess, but hey, I'm glad someone's actually getting lucky here...

It isn't just about everything else being in place; it's about you standing your ground.

shadowcrane5 said:I mean, I’ve always been this way—just someone who doesn't really gravitate toward crowds. I think I just haven't quite figured out the whole "people person" thing. Lately, though, I’ve actually started hanging out with a few people more regularly, maybe two or three friends total. Even if it's just grabbing a coffee with one person once a week, I'm actually pretty happy with that. Is that pathetic?

I honestly can't say... personally, I don't even have that much social interaction right now, and I’m the type of person who needs way, way more than just one coffee date a week to feel balanced. Then again, I suppose that need varies wildly from person to person.
Is it pathetic? Look, what's actually pathetic is you asking if you're pathetic. Give me a break. You're clearly struggling with some serious self-esteem issues here, but why on earth would you be "pathetic"?

shadowcrane5 said:I get that I’m the one responsible here (mostly because there are just so many people like that out there), but honestly, the last thing I need is someone telling me how pathetic I am. It's not like I don't realize it myself—believe me, I'm fully aware. I haven't found a way to fix things yet, though maybe there's a solution out there somewhere once I figure it out.

Don't sweat it, you'll get there... It took me two full years to even start making headway. Even now, I haven't cracked the code on a permanent fix, but at least I've finally stopped standing still. I think that's the common thread for all of us: we have to actually move. We have to take that first step. How you do that, though? Well, that’s the variable. It depends entirely on the individual circumstances. 🙂

Lawrence Rodriguez said:I honestly don't get why people let themselves spiral like this. To me, it just looks like a total lack of character—it’s honestly pathetic. Look, I’ve been through my own share of absolute garbage. There were moments when I seriously thought about ending it all, too. But instead, I chose to laugh at the absurdity of it, pull myself together, and force myself to go out and be around people. There is always someone out there who doesn't know your history, someone you can reinvent yourself for. You can decide who you want to be, and eventually, you realize that at least one person actually gives a damn.

Well... the keyword there is "I," Lawrence. If we were all cut from the same cloth, these discussion threads wouldn't even exist in the first place.
I could sit here and say the exact same thing—that I am this way, or that I did this and that regarding this specific issue—but it’s useless. I can't expect other people to solve their problems using my methods or mine, for the simple reason that they aren't you, and they aren't me. Personally, I find it absurd and completely unnecessary to insult people by calling them spineless. Maybe it doesn't sound like an insult to you or them, but to me, it does. I believe that character, paired with intelligence, are the only things that separate us from horses, sheep, lions, and the rest of the animal kingdom...
But, getting back to the point, I think it's inherently positive that mistyseal11 is admitting to having a problem and seeking help. I just don't know how many people lurking on this forum are actually competent enough to offer any real advice on how to fix one's life or resolve deep-seated issues.

mistyseal11 said:I just got hit by a wave of inspiration, I guess.

And yeah, let me guess—it was a total bummer.

So you're just going to ignore me? 😛 Is it because I'm Black, is that it? 😁

mistyseal11 said:So what was this guy studying back in college?

No, I don't mean "former" as in someone who dropped out. I mean someone who actually finished their degree and is now working as a teaching assistant.😁
Honestly, this whole mess is 100% my fault... man...

Wait a second... are you perhaps a former student of mine? (If I’ve got that wrong, my bad!)

Jerry Martinez5 said:How? Don't like 80 percent of these cases end with the mother?

A mother has a much larger impact on a child than a father does. And what do you think? Which factor is actually crucial in shaping how we relate to the opposite sex? Something more important than parental relationships? Success in math class or eye color?

If this had been posted in Men's Corner, you'd get one type of answer; here, you get another. But I guess we can't say much if I don't write

Alright... look, don't take this the wrong way, but the more I read your posts, the more it seems like you try to pin every single life event or relationship issue on some psychological disorder or a fractured relationship with a parent. And frankly, I don't see why you need all the irony. I never claimed our parents aren't formative; I simply stated they aren't the *only* thing that shapes us. Who knows, maybe our eye color plays a part too...😉 though I haven't quite noticed that trend yet. Seriously, people, our social circles, our interests, our genetics—these are all massive factors in who we become.

hiddenhawk3 said:I wouldn't really go along with that idea.😁
It’s just personality, I guess. Someone prefers a quiet library over a club. Someone prefers mindless small talk about what they ate or who they saw, while someone else would rather hike alone through the woods.🤷 I don't see it as a disorder. To me, the disorder is sitting in some smoky bar, half-deaf from the music, pretending to have fun while some stranger breathes down my neck.🤷 😁

She didn't even say it was an advantage; she was just describing herself.
It's not about being better than anyone else, it's just about people who stand out somehow. Like how some people stand out because of their clothes or because they have nice eyes.

Well, everybody stands out in some way, I suppose.
Maybe it's pretty eyes, maybe it's flaws, charisma, or just the way they walk. I don't really know anyone who is exactly like everyone else.🤷 🤷

I’ve been sitting here reflecting lately, and I can't help but feel like I don't really stand out from the crowd in any meaningful way. I have my flaws, sure, and I have my virtues, and I definitely hold some pretty firm convictions about certain things, but I struggle to pin down what that one defining characteristic is—that singular thing that truly sets me apart. I’ve actually found myself spiraling into these exact thoughts quite a few times, usually right when I'm standing at a crossroads and need to make a major life decision. It's a frustrating kind of introspection, feeling like you're just a collection of traits without a central identity.

Jessica Cook11 said:I only met someone like that once. Ever get the vibe that people like that just want to bolt the second you try to get close? I could feel this massive wave of sadness coming off them... honestly, it was like they were carrying all the world's pain right there in their eyes😢

I had that exact same feeling when I met someone a while back. There was this unmistakable aura about them—not just one specific trait, but a whole blend of intelligence, artistic sensibility, kindness, and genuine warmth. They just radiated a sense of being "different" in the most profound way. But at the same time, there was this lingering melancholy in their eyes. It was as if they were carrying some heavy, unspoken truth; like looking at a locked door where you can sense something significant is hidden behind it, yet you know deep down you’ll never find the key. What struck me most, though, was their sheer humility. They weren't loud or performative. There was this beautiful lack of pretension, an effortless modesty that made it feel like they weren't even aware of how unique they actually were. They weren't trying to prove anything to anyone, which, in my experience, is the rarest quality of all.

Rebecca Scott3 said:I live in a massive US metro area—we're talking four million people here—and honestly, I feel like you rarely run into anyone who actually stands out for being uniquely themselves.
Most of the folks who seem to pop out from the crowd at first glance are either struggling with some kind of internal issue or they're just kids trying to figure out who they are, so they put on this temporary persona just to see how the world reacts... it’s like testing out a costume to see if it fits. Then you've got the ones who are just pathologically obsessed with being the center of attention, but let's be real, those aren't "special" characters either... they aren't truly charismatic people.
...the real deal? There are so few of them... incredibly rare... or maybe I'm just not looking in the right places.

I honestly don't think the "quantity over quality" argument holds any water here. Then again, we’re diving into such deeply subjective territory that I realize anything I say is just my own personal take on the matter. It’s all opinion at the end of the day, isn't it?
I was venting earlier about that one specific woman, but I’ve recently crossed paths with someone who is the complete polar opposite. This person is genuinely intelligent and possesses a deep, palpable passion for the arts, but there is a fundamental flaw in her character: she isn't quite as "special" as she desperately wants to be. Because she can't quite reach that level of uniqueness she craves, she ends up viewing herself as far inferior to everyone else—which, in my opinion, is a total misconception. It has become this exhausting pattern where, in her frantic pursuit of being seen as an individual, she will spout absolute nonsense just to stand out from the crowd. For instance, imagine we are in a group of twelve people at a dinner party, and eleven of us are having a conversation about how cockroaches are absolutely revolting, slimy creatures. Without missing a beat, she’ll chime in and claim they are actually "sweet and endearing." Now, look, if that were her genuine opinion, I wouldn't say a word. It would be perfectly fine to have a different perspective. But the problem is that she does this in every single discussion, regardless of the topic. She isn't expressing an opinion; she's performing a contrarian act just to ensure all eyes are on her. Honestly, watching that kind of insecurity play out in real-time is just deeply pathetic.

Jerry Martinez5 said:Why is it such a struggle for you to just admit you love her and want her all to yourself?

You’ve accepted being "the other guy," and you actually nurture that specific niche she has for you. You only feel threatened if a third person shows up—because you have no intention of messing with her relationship with her primary partner.

Yeah, it’s psychological. And I bet if I told you this stems from your relationship with your father, you’d just tell me your old man is great. 😉

To put it simply: it’s a phase of growing up. Plenty of people go through it, maintaining relationships that can be incredibly intense and close, yet completely platonic. It would only be an issue if you spent decades stuck like this, but we aren't there yet.

If I may ask one question: why does every single discussion regarding psychology eventually spiral into talking about having a bad father, an overly close relationship with a father, or a complete lack of a relationship with a father? I believe there are countless factors in life that shape us... (to put it simply, whenever I turn around, I somehow end up back at my dad. 🙂 )
As for this other matter, if everything written above is sincere and truly describes your actual feelings and thoughts without any sugarcoating, then in my view, this is one of the purest forms of love, regardless of its nature. (Personally, it strikes me as a romantic love for a woman rather than just friendship, but I suppose these things aren't easy to articulate, especially when you haven't even figured it out yourself.)