Posts by Thomas Gonzalez9

Amy Brown13 said:That’s news to me... how do you even treat those fissures? It can't be that there's absolutely nothing available for it! Honestly, eight months of that kind of torture... I'd lose my mind.🙏🙏 🙏

And I have no clue how they're treated... my OBGYN told me I should probably see a specialist for stuff like that (I can't remember the specific term 🙈), but I felt too embarrassed, so I just didn't go...🤣🤣

As for me, the fissures actually healed... the bleeding stopped and there's no more pain, or rather, no more stinging... but the scar tissue feels sort of gross. Now, whenever I go to the bathroom, it hurts quite a bit. Like everything is just stretching...🤣🤣

Amy Brown13 said:It's like this... I gave birth a full two months ago. I never dealt with hemorrhoids before pregnancy or even during it. It isn't even the pain itself 😲 when I'm on the toilet that bothers me most... it's the bleeding over the last month. 😢 Not every single day, but maybe every other day, just a little bit. I'm terrified things might get worse. My mom is already insisting I see a doctor, but the thought of any kind of exam makes me shudder because the stinging and burning is just driving me insane... 🤷 Is there anything I can do for some relief? I bought one of those liquid treatments with ten different types of herbs and botanicals, but it’s useless since it's only for external use. It feels like they're internal to me, since I don't feel anything on the outside when I'm showering. Please help... my mom is going to force me into getting a colonoscopy...😲😲😂🤣🤣

BTW: apologies to the moderators if this topic already exists... I couldn't find it after scrolling through 15 pages, so please move it if necessary.

Are you certain they're actually hemorrhoids? Because I had the exact same issues, but it wasn't them—it was actually anal fissures caused by a really difficult labor... 😢 My OBGYN told me it's rare for someone who never had issues before or during pregnancy to suddenly develop hemorrhoids postpartum; she said fissures are much more common, but people just don't realize the difference.
For me, it just cleared up on its own, though even now, nearly 8 months after giving birth, that scar still hurts terribly whenever I'm using the bathroom... 🙂

I dealt with some serious bladder issues right after giving birth 😢 because I picked up a UTI about eight days postpartum from the catheter... plus, I think my uterus was just putting way too much pressure on my bladder or something, so for two weeks straight, I was basically 🤣🤣just leaking through my clothes because 😳I had zero control over it. Eventually things settled down, though for a couple of weeks after that, any sound of running water would make me rush to the bathroom 🤣but now, I feel like a completely different person 😍

Laura Jackson56 made a good point, though—try drinking cranberry juice or some uva ursi tea, maybe that'll help you feel better. Honestly, I wouldn't suggest going in for an exam just yet... I went in for a pelvic exam on my eighth day postpartum specifically because of the infection, and let me tell you, it hurt like absolute hell... almost worse than the actual labor 😲

Kevin Bailey2 said:Ugh, give me a break. I never fell for that "don't buy anything yet" nonsense.

It’s such a stupid, outdated superstition. To me, it just sounds like:
"Don't waste money since you might not even make it through delivery."
That's probably where the idea comes from. 🤮

I bought everything ahead of time. I even put the crib together myself... haha... way to go, me. Thanks, thanks. 😍🤣

And please... honestly... my guy couldn't even manage to take a shower while I was at the hospital unless I yelled "GET IN THE SHOWER!!!!!" at him. You think he's suddenly going to magically know how to shop for all the baby gear? Lol.

People tried to get in my head too... telling me I was somehow inviting bad luck by having everything ready for the baby! 😲 😲

As if it would be better if I hadn't bought a single thing... so that once I leave the hospital still recovering from stitches, I have to go wandering through Target🙄, or send my husband out, only for him to come back with clothes meant for a three-year-old instead of a newborn. 😂

One person actually told me, "Why buy things when you don't even know if everything will go okay during delivery?"... excuse me? hello? If, heaven forbid, something actually does happen... I think I'd be more concerned about the money I spent than worrying about some superstition. 😲 Honestly, anyone thinking that way shouldn't even be having kids in the first place. 😲 👎

Morgan Barnes3 said:Haha, I feel so much better now... I honestly had this nagging feeling that everyone else was married to these mature, wonderful men who truly value everything their wives do and can't wait to lend a hand 😉

🤣🤣well, you've certainly lifted my spirits 😁

my darling is anything but mature... I practically have to draw him a roadmap just to get him to do a single chore, because otherwise, he could walk right over my dead body and I wouldn't even notice 🤣

then again, he is a good man and he actually follows through once I tell him what needs doing... it's just the constant need to micromanage every little thing that gets under my skin 🙄

anyway, back to the point...

I'm still mostly annoyed by those women who act like they're the smartest people in the room and assume I'm some kind of idiot who won't survive without their "expert" advice. Sure, this is my first pregnancy, but I do my research... and frankly, I probably know more than they do with their outdated, old-fashioned notions 🙄
look, I don't mind a bit of advice, but when they start lecturing me and trying to force their opinions on me... I just lose it 😠

and then there's my mother-in-law... she drives me crazy because she feels the need to comment on every single word out of my mouth. She acts like she's the most capable woman on the planet, and clearly, I'll never measure up to her standards since apparently everything I do is easier than what she endured 🙄 at this rate, she'll be claiming she floated through her pregnancy while I'm just here, miserably walking 🤣

I honestly think those comments come from women who are just deeply frustrated with themselves and their own life choices... It’s perfectly normal for your life to change, but losing everything you've built? Not happening on my watch 🙄

Based on what these ladies are saying, you should probably be locked away at home from the moment you're born, focusing solely on the house and the kids... and then once the kids grow up and leave, you lose all sense of purpose and just spend the rest of your days being bitter toward yourself and everyone else 🙄

Does anyone else find these women's stories incredibly grating? I heard enough of them while I was pregnant 🤣to make me believe it was all true—that I'd somehow ruined my poor child's future before they were even born 😂 😂

Yeah, I get hit with that same guilt trip too... since I'm still finishing up my degree. But honestly? I'm convinced you can balance it all if you actually stay organized and have a partner who's got your back. Thankfully, I have 😁, and I truly don't believe my kid will suffer just because I occasionally have to head off to an exam at ☕

It honestly irritates me when people feel the need to lecture me on how I’m supposed to just forget my own life, my freedom, and everything else I love once I have a baby... It’s as if they think having a child means you should just go ahead and bury yourself alive. 😠

And I can't stand being bombarded with all this nonsense about childbirth risks and medical complications. I really don't understand the impulse some people have... to approach an expectant mother and start detailing horror stories about women dying in labor, or babies born with illnesses and such. It is truly, deeply awful... 😠😢😲

Just wanted to drop a quick note to praise my gynecologist, Dr. Miller over at Star Health... she really is incredible. I had some truly awful experiences with doctors before her, but she’s actually managed to restore my faith in the profession 😬