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Finally getting some big boxing action at Madison Square Garden. Berlanga is a heavy hitter, but I'm curious to see how Butler handles the pressure in NYC. Does anyone have a winner prediction for the main event?
Freud once suggested that newer generations carry a deep sense of guilt toward those who came before them, simply because they enjoy a better quality of life. He believed that as humanity continues to advance, this tension will only intensify, becoming an even greater psychological burden for individuals and entire generations alike.
Personally, I find myself nodding along to that idea. Though, looking at the discussion here, it seems like maybe not everyone has dived into his work or interpreted it the same way.
Regardless, I think the topic was certainly worth exploring. 🙂
Look, I haven't lived under my parents' roof for ages! 🙂
Have you all actually read up on this? It’s essentially based on a Freudian thesis, isn't it? 🙂
The whole "should I move out or stay put" debate... honestly, in my specific situation, those kinds of tips just don't really apply. 🙂
@Jeffrey Fisher5, I think you might have missed the mark on this topic. There are actually a few different threads floating around here specifically about ungrateful kids, so maybe give those a look?
What I’m really trying to get at is how people handle that heavy, natural sense of guilt that kicks in when they move away from their parents. And isn't that feeling so much more intense if your parents were actually good to you? It’s a different beast entirely compared to when the relationship was toxic...
How do you all deal with that weight?
Exactly. Parents are the ones who set the entire tone for the parent-child dynamic. By virtue of bringing them into this world and raising them, they hold the reins. So, if there’s a breakdown in that relationship? Well, the responsibility falls squarely on the shoulders of the caregivers first and foremost.
Sure, there’s no denying parents carry a huge chunk of the blame here—it’s actually triple what it would be otherwise. But honestly? I think this weight would still exist even if they hadn't been involved.
How did you all manage to shake that feeling?
Lately, I’ve been trying to tell myself that they were entitled to their own lives, just like I’m entitled to mine. And
besides, they had to leave their own parents behind too. It’s the same cycle. If anything, I think they were even harsher on their folks than I’ve been on mine. Thinking about it helps a little, though barely...
Then again, looking at it from another angle, my parents definitely struggled more in certain ways—they had so much less than we do now. But then again, how is that my fault? Right?
Still, I can't help but feel Freud was onto something. This sense of generational guilt is definitely real for everyone; it just hits some people harder than others..
Freud once suggested that the guilt felt by younger generations toward their elders would become one of our greatest future struggles. It’s this heavy sense of debt because we live better lives, possess more, and chase our own versions of happiness. I think he hit the nail on the head.
My own guilt feels much more grounded, much more personal. I’m living 25 miles supported by my parents while trying to carve out a life of my own. But I feel terrible. I feel guilty for leaving them behind when they are "old and frail"—which isn't even entirely true, since they used to be quite selfish and difficult—but the feeling persists regardless. Sometimes, I feel guilty just for being alive, or for not "trudging through two feet of snow just to put food on your table," as my father used to say.
How do you all deal with this kind of guilt, if you experience it at all? How do you let it go?
Logically, I know it isn't justified. Rationally, I understand that. And yet, I just can't shake this feeling...
I’ve been scrolling through this thread, and honestly, some of the things people are saying here really bother me—especially all this intense pushback against using birth control to manage PCOS. I just can't get behind that logic. I think it's fundamentally flawed. For many women, hormonal contraceptives are actually an incredibly effective solution for PCOS, provided you find the specific brand and dosage that works for your unique body and doesn't cause debilitating side effects.
And as for these claims about endometrial thickness affecting pregnancy? It’s just nonsense. Pure nonsense. The lining of the uterus starts thickening precisely because you're already pregnant! The points made by casualridge8 were, quite frankly, ridiculous. In fact, having a thick endometrial lining without being pregnant is a major red flag—it often signals something much more serious, like cancer.
It would be such a kindness if people on this forum would refrain from weighing in on medical topics when they clearly don't have the expertise. It would prevent a lot of unnecessary misinformation and harm.
I’m really glad I found this thread because I’m dealing with so much of the same stuff. I’ve had my hormone levels checked plenty of times, and honestly? They seem to fluctuate wildly on their own without any actual treatment—just shifting based on whatever else is going on with my body. I’ve almost never received proper medical care, let alone adequate treatment. There were a few minor attempts here and there, but nothing systematic or effective. It always ends with some doctor telling me, "Just be patient," or "You have too many risk factors for hormone therapy, so it's better not to risk it," and so on and so forth.
Basically, I haven't been treated, and besides the physical symptoms—which I won't even list—I definitely, *definitely* feel the psychological shifts.
Lately, I’ve started paying much closer attention to it, and I am noticing these incredibly sudden mood swings. In just thirty minutes, I can swing from deep depression and crying to feeling absolutely wonderful. Everything feels fine, so much so that I find myself wondering why I was even sobbing a moment ago when my life is actually quite stable and good.
If anyone is wondering if I have an underlying mental health disorder—no, I don't. I've sat through several consultations, and from a psychiatric standpoint, I am perfectly healthy. Thank God I don't have any tumors that could cause this kind of behavior; it really just comes down to the hormones.
Beyond the crazy mood swings, it hits my appetite hard, too. One minute, a quarter of a meal is enough to make me feel stuffed; the next, two full lunches aren't nearly enough, and during those phases, I gain weight at an insane speed. For the longest time, I thought it had something to do with food, additives, or even addiction! I mean, how can one handful of food fill my stomach one day, but the next, two entire meals leave me hungry? It’s clearly not about volume; it’s the hormonal surges.
Anyway, I’m losing my mind here, and I’ve decided to take matters into my own hands. My gynecologist just kept offering variations of "stay natural, lose weight, try this tea, or that root," while everything just kept getting worse and worse for two years straight. I can't do it anymore. Now I see that beyond the numerous physical consequences, it’s reached a point where I feel like I'm becoming psychotic. One minute I'm laughing, the next I'm weeping.
So, I’m starting hormone replacement therapy very soon. Honestly, if it gives me a stroke or a heart attack, I don't even care anymore—I just can't live like this.
I finally understand my mother now. She went absolutely out of her mind during menopause, and it’s finally clear to me that she simply couldn't control it. It was HORRIBLE:
Kimberly Sanchez26 said:I honestly can't tell, but I feel like she started getting all philosophical on us, trying to nudge everyone toward private appointments. It rubbed me the wrong way—so much so that I switched doctors right then and there.
I've had the exact same experience, and frankly, that’s how I feel about Dr. Beljo too.
driftingtinker45 said:Diane 35 used to be covered by insurance—not sure if that's still the case—but from what I know, they have the highest hormone levels. They aren't usually recommended just for contraception alone, especially for younger women, unless there are other issues involved... like PCOS.
Logest is roughly $6.75, and Lindynette is about $10 (you’d pay the difference with a prescription). I think those are basically the only ones on the formulary; everything else requires full out-of-pocket payment and ends up being quite a bit more expensive.
Regarding your later question—they all provide protection regardless of the hormone dosage. However, these newer options with lower hormone levels are much easier on the body... though unfortunately, they come with a higher price tag.
I had absolutely no idea! So some can be covered through insurance, provided you pay a co-pay if you don't have supplemental coverage? Did I get that right?
My gynecologist told me that ALL contraceptive pills are out-of-pocket now. Even Diane, which didn't used to be the case if you actually had a "medical reason."
Does anyone have more clarity on how these payments work?
I can't believe she intentionally pushed Qlaire on me, which costs $47, when I could have gotten something for free! But honestly, it doesn't surprise me. We all know how those commissions work... when they ring it up at the pharmacy, they see exactly who "recommended" it based on whose name is on the prescription.
Does anyone know the exact details?
ironrider11 said:When you say "energy," do you mean like... certain "easy" behaviors? patterns?
Yeah, people feel [pick up on] it... for sure...
"Energy" works wonders...
No. I meant something else entirely, but maybe you men just aren't subtle enough to grasp what I'm getting at. Get it together.
@wearyowl29's story just goes to prove my point once again. It all comes down to the energy you project and how you actually view yourself.
People can just sense when you have that "open energy," and once they do, there’s no shaking them off. But if you’re "closed off"? Well, it doesn't matter how good you look—nobody is going to approach you.
@Quote : Funny queen, that whole vibe and energy? It all stems from our core beliefs about ourselves—beliefs we picked up through how we were raised and the environment we grew up in.
Honestly, it has next to nothing to do with what you wear or how you look on the surface.
If you’re looking to pivot from being seen as a "sweet girl" to a "sexy femme fatale," you first need to dig deep. Why were you categorized as the "sweet one" in the first place? Maybe you were the pampered little kid in your family, or perhaps everyone around you treated you that way, never really acknowledging your sexuality or your needs until much later in life—if at all.
There are sex therapists out there who can help navigate this if you have the budget to see someone... or, you could try a DIY approach. Grab a notebook and write down everything you think about your own appearance and sexuality versus who you actually want to be. Then, jot down the things people said to you when you were growing up—how they defined you back then. You might be surprised by what comes up!