Posts by Austin Baker4

Hey ladies,
I noticed some of you have been ordering from http://www.yoursclothing.co.uk/.

Did any of you pick up those pants? And if so, did the sizing actually match what you usually wear, or was it a complete disaster?
To be honest, the photos they use for those trousers and the models look incredibly strange to me—almost off-putting. But I suppose that’s just online shopping for you, right? 🙂

I also saw they carry those shirts where the front hem is shorter than the back. Now, if there is one thing I truly despise, it is that specific cut. Please, be extremely careful if you’re thinking about buying them, because that design is absolute garbage, especially for women with curves or a bit of a stomach. The front will end up riding up right at your navel, while the back hangs down half a meter past your rear. It’s just hideous. 🙂 Maybe that’s why they’re on sale? HA HA HA

Michael Morgan5 said:I never claimed otherwise.
But then why the hell did she call me?

She called you because she was trying to offload the burden and the responsibility onto someone else. That’s exactly why she mentioned "a family member" coming by—since you don't fall into that category, she couldn't dump the liability or the decision-making on your head. I don't know what part of that is confusing to you.

I find it incredibly hypocritical to judge someone for not stepping up and taking full responsibility for another person's struggles—specifically in this situation where he hasn't shouldered the entire burden of his friend's care.

To me, it feels entirely hypocritical. I am genuinely curious to see how many of you would actually neglect your own lives just to care for someone who isn't even immediate family. It takes an immense amount of time, logistical planning, and significant financial resources. We all have jobs, we all have our own families, and we all have responsibilities to manage...

If his own family isn't looking out for him, then I suppose everything will eventually boil down to a shrug and a "sorry, tough luck." Beyond that... anything else people say is nothing more than empty internet rhetoric...

If anyone happens to know a solid psychotherapist in the Chicago area who specializes in this particular issue, please let me know!🙂

Everything Bluzara wrote is spot on. I mean, I get it—I really do. It’s all clear to me. But what I’m actually wondering is how I can be useful here. Why are you specifically targeting a psychoanalyst instead of some other branch of therapy? With those types, the process feels like it drags on forever and the bills just keep piling up up indefinitely.🙂Is there anything a bit more efficient?🙂)

Yes, I find myself fearing the weight of responsibility that comes with a committed relationship. It is a well-defined anxiety.
Furthermore, there is this persistent dread that I might inadvertently cause harm to my partner.

Is this something that can actually be resolved? 🙂

I have no idea what "borderline" actually entails, but I don't think that's me.

As for being self-destructive—well, it’s essentially when you go out of your way to do something you know will cause friction, just to drive someone away. You might turn crude, or rude, or start playing mind games and throwing insults; things you would absolutely NEVER do under normal circumstances, but you do them simply to ensure that person eventually walks out on you... it's a bit psycho, if I'm being honest. 🙂 I can instantly conjure up a hundred different reasons why a relationship might fail, and then I preemptively sabotage it by making myself look utterly repulsive to them... if you catch my drift...

I wasn't really conscious of this pattern before. It was always easy to claim "it's always the other person's fault," and that's without even mentioning the endless parade of unavailable guys—married men, emotionally distant types, or just people who were completely out of reach. 62 miles Most of them were just obsessions because, deep down, they were never actually viable partners to begin with.

Is there some kind of elegant way to resolve this? I have a massive fear of commitment. In fact, I can't even bring myself to be a casual fling because the terror of messing things up is just too overwhelming. 🙂

Am I considered self-destructive when I'm single? Aside from my cigarette habit, of course. Or does that count?

I am curious if anyone else here struggles with self-sabotage in their romantic relationships—and more importantly, whether you’ve actually managed to overcome it. Is it even possible? Does one simply need to find a partner with enough infinite patience to weather the storms we create, or is that just setting them up for disaster?
Or is professional help an absolute necessity?

I’m opening this discussion for purely personal reasons; I’ve begun to realize that I am actively sabotaging my own life. Every time things start heading in a positive direction, I find some convoluted way to wreck it. Then, predictably, I sit there complaining that nobody wants to be with me. 😁

I have a decent grasp on where these patterns originate, but what I lack is the roadmap for recovery. How does one actually heal from this kind of behavior?
Has anyone here dealt with this personally? Any insight would be appreciated.