Posts by Henry Kim3

vivideagle8 said:Yeah, I know that this lack of self-belief triggers all the other problems in life. This constant self-guilt happens because I haven't found myself yet and I don't love who I am. I constantly put myself down and let others walk over me. Life is a struggle, and you're on your own. I'll listen to the advice; there are good people out there who want to help, even if it's just virtually. I just know the theory perfectly, but in practice, I'm a total mess.

You have to let go of that guilt, because it is absolutely destroying you...! Life IS a struggle, despite what some of these lifestyle pages claim about it being nothing but fun and games...! Try "having fun" for a while and see how life really goes... It's easy to enjoy yourself when someone else is doing all the heavy lifting for you... 😉

Stop belittling yourself. Nobody is more valuable than you are, so just get that through your head...! Don't let others walk all over you, because if you respect yourself, then other people will follow suit...!

Elizabeth Castillo87 said:Forgive who? And for what, exactly? Look, vivideagle8, at the end of the day, words are just vibrations in the air—they don't mean anything until you decide they do. You're the one handing them all that weight. That's why what Henry Kim3 said about guilt is actually spot on. It eats at you, sure, but it’ll keep gnawing at your soul as long as you believe there’s actually something to be forgiven. Because if you're looking for forgiveness, you're basically admitting someone had the power to hurt you in the first place. Why give them that much control?

Honestly, I think the real question isn't what happened or why... it’s more like, WHERE THE HELL ARE YOU? Seriously, where have you been hiding? I can't even begin to wrap my head around this one. Seriously, where do we even start? It feels like we’re just spinning our wheels in the sand at this point, doesn't it? Everything is just... messy. I mean, honestly, how did we get here? Is anyone actually paying attention, or are we all just collectively deciding to close our eyes and hope for the best? Because from where I'm sitting, it looks like a total train wreck in slow motion. Does that make sense? Or am I just shouting into the void again? Probably both. Definitely both. Stuck? Feeling like you’re hitting a wall? Look, I guarantee there’s an angel hovering nearby whispering, "Hey, this isn't on you. Let it go. You’re worthy of better than this." But then—bam!—that other voice kicks in. That nasty, intrusive little voice that screams, "Are you kidding me? How can you be so naive? You *are* to blame! It’s all your fault!" And just like that, you crumble. You break down, the tears start flowing, your heart just shatters, and it feels like game over. Your angel is sitting right there, totally helpless, because you aren't listening to the light—you're tuned into some spiritual fraud that’s busy tearing you apart. Listen, life is tough. You have to walk through the fire and gain some actual wisdom just to figure out which voice is telling the truth. Every single soul is fighting a spiritual war, and let's be real: you HAVE to learn how to fight. You are standing right in the middle of the battlefield every single day, and your only job is to come out on top. So, stop asking, "Where did my angel go?" Instead, try asking, "Where am I getting stuck?" Give that angel a chance to actually reach you. If you let them in, nothing can touch you. Their whole damn purpose is to protect you, heal you, guide you, and eventually lead you home to that eternal joy in the presence of Jesus. 🙂

Henry Kim3, where exactly is this "spiritual warfare" supposed to be happening?

And so, I suppose you're trying to tell her that forgiveness isn't necessary?

Elizabeth Castillo87 said:Forgive who? And for what, exactly? Look, vivideagle8, at the end of the day, words are just vibrations in the air—they don't mean anything until you decide they do. You're the one handing them all that weight. That's why what Henry Kim3 said about guilt is actually spot on. It eats at you, sure, but it’ll keep gnawing at your soul as long as you believe there’s actually something to be forgiven. Because if you're looking for forgiveness, you're basically admitting someone had the power to hurt you in the first place. Why give them that much control?

Honestly, I think the real question isn't what happened or why... it’s more like, WHERE THE HELL ARE YOU? Seriously, where have you been hiding? I can't even begin to wrap my head around this one. Seriously, where do we even start? It feels like we’re just spinning our wheels in the sand at this point, doesn't it? Everything is just... messy. I mean, honestly, how did we get here? Is anyone actually paying attention, or are we all just collectively deciding to close our eyes and hope for the best? Because from where I'm sitting, it looks like a total train wreck in slow motion. Does that make sense? Or am I just shouting into the void again? Probably both. Definitely both. Stuck? Feeling like you’re hitting a wall? Look, I guarantee there’s an angel hovering nearby whispering, "Hey, this isn't on you. Let it go. You’re worthy of better than this." But then—bam!—that other voice kicks in. That nasty, intrusive little voice that screams, "Are you kidding me? How can you be so naive? You *are* to blame! It’s all your fault!" And just like that, you crumble. You break down, the tears start flowing, your heart just shatters, and it feels like game over. Your angel is sitting right there, totally helpless, because you aren't listening to the light—you're tuned into some spiritual fraud that’s busy tearing you apart. Listen, life is tough. You have to walk through the fire and gain some actual wisdom just to figure out which voice is telling the truth. Every single soul is fighting a spiritual war, and let's be real: you HAVE to learn how to fight. You are standing right in the middle of the battlefield every single day, and your only job is to come out on top. So, stop asking, "Where did my angel go?" Instead, try asking, "Where am I getting stuck?" Give that angel a chance to actually reach you. If you let them in, nothing can touch you. Their whole damn purpose is to protect you, heal you, guide you, and eventually lead you home to that eternal joy in the presence of Jesus. 🙂

Henry Kim3, where exactly is this "spiritual warfare" supposed to be happening?

Forgive me, but I detect an overwhelming amount of sarcasm and condescension in that question. I don't really feel any inclination to answer it, especially since it seems like it wouldn't be understood anyway... 😉

vivideagle8 said:Yeah, it's definitely time for me to start letting go of this weight inside me; it's holding me back. And it didn't happen overnight—it's built up over my whole life, especially these last two years. I don't know if all highly sensitive people remember every single mean word ever said to them, every action, or every mistake they made (I'm constantly blaming myself), but it kills my self-confidence, my spirit, and my very sense of being because I'm always finding something to feel guilty about. So you're absolutely right—the problem isn't the people, it's my reaction to them. I allow them to hurt me and make me cry, even though I know deep down they don't have any power over me. I know I'm making everything sound pretty bleak here, but that's not the whole truth. Usually, I'm a happy person and I have close friends, but none of that matters if I'm not at the level I want to be when I'm alone with myself. Where did my angel go? 🙂

There’s this persistent voice inside you that won't shut up, constantly whispering: "Look at how weak you are. You're worthless. Everything goes wrong because you're fundamentally flawed. Nobody loves you, nobody actually wants you around... It’s all your fault, this and that, and you know you'll never be able to forgive yourself..." I guess it's important to realize that this isn't some divine guidance from God. It’s more like a demon has crept too close because you've kept your heart walled off. First things first: you have to learn how to forgive. You need to start by forgiving others for everything they've put you through. Honestly, just deciding in your own heart to let it go and making a genuine effort to move past it is enough. And after that, you really need to forgive yourself. If you do, I imagine you'll feel this massive weight finally lifting off your chest. 🙂 Furthermore, I think you should try praying to God a bit more often. Maybe pray that He might release you from those chains of guilt and the hatred you hold against yourself...

vivideagle8 As specified by Henry Kim3:
I suppose I just let people hurt me and drive me to tears, even though deep down I know they don't have the slightest clue who I actually am.

I suppose allowing others to hurt you isn't necessarily a bad thing, provided you actually learn how to forgive. It’s much harder to be the one who causes the pain—the kind of guilt that eats away at you until you can't even sleep at night because your own conscience is tearing you apart. Maybe the real lesson here is just learning how to respect yourself first; if you do that, respecting others becomes a natural byproduct. You have to forgive people, you have to forgive yourself, and then you just need to go out and live YOUR life. Don't waste a single second worrying about what people are saying or all their mindless lecturing. Honestly, I think it's better to live alone or just with one decent person than to spend your life chasing after a pack of idiots just so you can be the leader of them.

vivideagle8 said:Yeah, it's definitely time for me to start letting go of this weight inside me; it's holding me back. And it didn't happen overnight—it's built up over my whole life, especially these last two years. I don't know if all highly sensitive people remember every single mean word ever said to them, every action, or every mistake they made (I'm constantly blaming myself), but it kills my self-confidence, my spirit, and my very sense of being because I'm always finding something to feel guilty about. So you're absolutely right—the problem isn't the people, it's my reaction to them. I allow them to hurt me and make me cry, even though I know deep down they don't have any power over me. I know I'm making everything sound pretty bleak here, but that's not the whole truth. Usually, I'm a happy person and I have close friends, but none of that matters if I'm not at the level I want to be when I'm alone with myself. Where did my angel go? 🙂

Your sense of inadequacy is eating away at you, and honestly, it’s destructive. You're letting other people's words and actions get under your skin, and that is something you can never allow to happen—not to yourself, and certainly not to them. Let them talk their trash and act however they want, but you need to live your life for yourself, not for their approval. If you want to show them you're stronger than they are, just let them see that nothing they do can touch you. I guess you have to learn how to outgrow your own reactions. It sounds easier than it looks, but you can achieve that through forgiveness. You simply shouldn't take everything people say or do to heart. People have become incredibly malicious lately; they will do whatever it takes to tear you down just to feed their own egos. It’s like they’re trying to siphon off your life energy to fuel themselves. Don't let them. Build a shield using your faith in God and your own heart, and then nobody can touch you. I don't think you realize just how much damage people can actually do to you if you give them the permission to. I'm not saying you should go around breaking people's arms when they attack you, but in your own heart, you have to know your own worth. You have to know what others are truly worth, too. You really need to learn how to filter out the noise from everyone else.

vivideagle8 said:Yeah, it's definitely time for me to start letting go of this weight inside me; it's holding me back. And it didn't happen overnight—it's built up over my whole life, especially these last two years. I don't know if all highly sensitive people remember every single mean word ever said to them, every action, or every mistake they made (I'm constantly blaming myself), but it kills my self-confidence, my spirit, and my very sense of being because I'm always finding something to feel guilty about. So you're absolutely right—the problem isn't the people, it's my reaction to them. I allow them to hurt me and make me cry, even though I know deep down they don't have any power over me. I know I'm making everything sound pretty bleak here, but that's not the whole truth. Usually, I'm a happy person and I have close friends, but none of that matters if I'm not at the level I want to be when I'm alone with myself. Where did my angel go? 🙂

I suppose a better question would be, WHERE DID YOU GET STUCK? Your angel is right there, surely telling you, "it isn't your fault, let this go because you are worthy," but then this other voice creeps in saying, "how stupid can you be, how can you believe you aren't at fault, YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR EVERYTHING!!!" and then you just break, you cry, your heart shatters, and that's that... Your angel is powerless then, simply because you aren't listening to them; instead, you're listening to some fool on the other side of spirituality who is destroying you...! A person has to learn wisdom, they have to go through so much in life just to learn HOW TO KNOW which voice is the right one, because, for every single soul, there is a spiritual battle, and you MUST learn how to FIGHT! You are standing right in the center of all of this, and every day you are on a spiritual battlefield from which you must emerge as a winner...! So, don't ask "where did my angel get stuck," ask "where did I get stuck," because, if you allow your angel to approach you, no one will be able to touch you, since their entire purpose and goal is to defend you, protect you, heal you, help you, advise you, and lead you to themselves into eternal joy before the face of Jesus... 🙂

vivideagle8 said:I agree that there’s a link, it’s just that he phrased it in a way where I couldn't see any connection to what I was talking about. What I need is control and a total reset—especially regarding my mindset.

Maybe try to realize that in this life, absolutely NOTHING ever goes according to plan... So, you just have to accept that you are going to fail a hundred times, fight through it, and so on...

If you ask me, I learn something from every single problem I face. I don't really despair; if anything, I kind of enjoy the process. Because, when a person asks God, "God, please give me knowledge and wisdom," God responds by sending them problems...! They are honestly the best way to STRENGTHEN yourself and learn how to actually live and understand what life's values are... There is nothing inherently bad about having problems. I have been dealing with some heavy issues for 12 years now, yet here I am, happy, and finishing up two different degrees at university... 😉 So, yeah, never despair, because it isn't going to rain forever... 🙂

Michelle Sanchez2 said:My friend, we are discussing how to maintain spiritual strength, which isn't necessarily tied to religious dogma. It’s about spirituality itself, a concept that can be interpreted through many different lenses.
And just to clarify one final point: I am certainly not an atheist. You are more than welcome to look back through my previous posts here to see that for yourself.

That’s just it... And you atheists, do you even have any connection to spirituality at all??? All you ever say is "God doesn't exist, it's a fairy tale, it's nonsense, it's for the uneducated or the incompetent," blah blah blah... So, basically, you aren't actually helping with anything. I guess it would be better if you could provide one concrete way to help a girl, rather than dragging every single topic that has EVEN THE SLIGHTEST connection to God back down to that repetitive "God exists" vs. "No, God doesn't exist" argument...!

Michelle Sanchez2 said:My friend, we are discussing how to maintain spiritual strength, which isn't necessarily tied to religious dogma. It’s about spirituality itself, a concept that can be interpreted through many different lenses.
And just to clarify one final point: I am certainly not an atheist. You are more than welcome to look back through my previous posts here to see that for yourself.

Spirituality can only be interpreted ONE way...! That's just how it is... And since you atheists are MATERIALISTS who only believe in what you can see and touch, I guess I wonder why you think you're even qualified to have a say on this subject?

Michelle Sanchez2 said:My friend, we are discussing how to maintain spiritual strength, which isn't necessarily tied to religious dogma. It’s about spirituality itself, a concept that can be interpreted through many different lenses.
And just to clarify one final point: I am certainly not an atheist. You are more than welcome to look back through my previous posts here to see that for yourself.

It doesn't matter... As far as I'm concerned, there are two types of people regarding faith: BELIEVERS (those who love God, Jesus, and live by those principles) and NON-BELIEVERS (atheists, New Age followers, and everyone else who thinks God is a myth...)!

Finally, for the billionth time on this forum: LEARN TO RESPECT SOMETHING THAT SOMEONE ELSE LIVES BY... 😉 If you don't believe in God, fine, you don't, but then try to help a girl in ANY capacity instead of constantly claiming God is a fairy tale or whatever...! For me, Jesus is everything in the world, but I still love you atheists, respect you, and value you as people; I even enjoy chatting with the people around me regardless of our differences... But, nobody should be spitting on anyone else... Peace should prevail, and everyone should be happy and content... 🙂

Michelle Sanchez2 said:So, following a bit of logical common sense, we should conclude that the story of Jesus is just a recycled version of other myths, right?
Are you aware that back in the day, the Church burned every ancient text that didn't fit their agenda, cherry-picking only the ones that served their political interests? Not to mention how they persecuted anyone who refused to bow down to the new dogma.

Therefore, isn't it reasonable to suggest that if the narrative surrounding Jesus is virtually identical to some Egyptian deity from 5,000 years BCE... one might at least suspect that the story of Jesus is merely a rewrite of older gods?

Think about that.

The logical, common-sense conclusion here is that I don't hold it against you for being completely out of your depth... Honestly, people only make mistakes EXCLUSIVELY out of ignorance... So, yeah, I suppose I forgive you... 😉

Michelle Sanchez2 said:So, following a bit of logical common sense, we should conclude that the story of Jesus is just a recycled version of other myths, right?
Are you aware that back in the day, the Church burned every ancient text that didn't fit their agenda, cherry-picking only the ones that served their political interests? Not to mention how they persecuted anyone who refused to bow down to the new dogma.

Therefore, isn't it reasonable to suggest that if the narrative surrounding Jesus is virtually identical to some Egyptian deity from 5,000 years BCE... one might at least suspect that the story of Jesus is merely a rewrite of older gods?

Think about that.

Wait, are we talking about Jesus or the Church? 😕 Or do you actually think they are one and the same... 😁 Look, I know what the Church has done better than you little atheists... But, BELIEVERS WERE TORTURED MORE HORRIBLY THAN THE CHURCH ITSELF EVER WAS! So, when you say things like that, just remember that YOU have also tortured believers with unimaginable cruelty... So, once you finally realize that, I honestly don't see why you even bother saying what you're saying... 😉

Michelle Sanchez2 said:So, following a bit of logical common sense, we should conclude that the story of Jesus is just a recycled version of other myths, right?
Are you aware that back in the day, the Church burned every ancient text that didn't fit their agenda, cherry-picking only the ones that served their political interests? Not to mention how they persecuted anyone who refused to bow down to the new dogma.

Therefore, isn't it reasonable to suggest that if the narrative surrounding Jesus is virtually identical to some Egyptian deity from 5,000 years BCE... one might at least suspect that the story of Jesus is merely a rewrite of older gods?

Think about that.

Listen, I already told you, people make mistakes because they simply don't know better... I have nothing to hold against you; you have your view, I have mine, and, frankly, all I ever want on this forum is PEACE! I mean, if someone starts a thread that concerns EXCLUSIVELY believers, I really don't see any point in someone coming along and saying the things you're saying... Your arguments might make sense to YOU, but to me, they're just laughable... 🙂 So, I guess we can just laugh at each other... 😉

Michelle Sanchez2 said:So, following a bit of logical common sense, we should conclude that the story of Jesus is just a recycled version of other myths, right?
Are you aware that back in the day, the Church burned every ancient text that didn't fit their agenda, cherry-picking only the ones that served their political interests? Not to mention how they persecuted anyone who refused to bow down to the new dogma.

Therefore, isn't it reasonable to suggest that if the narrative surrounding Jesus is virtually identical to some Egyptian deity from 5,000 years BCE... one might at least suspect that the story of Jesus is merely a rewrite of older gods?

Think about that.

Hmm.... You’re lecturing me? Well, tell me, do your parents actually exist? Are you even certain they do? See, if that's the case, why are you trying to convince me that God isn't real and that the story of Jesus is just some version of the Ice Age? By that logic, the story of your own parents is just a myth about Ivy and Mary... Think about that... 😉

Michelle Sanchez2 said:Precisely my point, except some of those figures actually predate Christ. 😉

And? So what if they were dated before Christ? 🙂

And, uh, yeah, I forgot to mention, the T-Rex also existed before Christ... 😉 I mean, if you've seen Ice Age, then there's really nothing left for me to say... 😁 😁 😁

Michelle Sanchez2 said:When you say Jesus, are we talking about Joshua ben Hur? Or perhaps Horus, Dionysus, or Mithras? All of them were considered perfect, preached similar messages, and were viewed as sons of God who died and rose again... but let's be realistic.
I fail to see anyone here actually judging people based on their faith or lack thereof.

You forgot Robin Hood, and maybe even Gandalf, ahhh, oh right: SUPERMAN.... Yeah, they were all just like that... So what! 🙂

Benjamin Taylor6 said:

I suppose I should probably address the elephant in the room—if you can even call it that anymore—regarding the recent discussions floating around the boards. It’s becoming quite a chore to keep up with the sheer volume of noise, isn't it? Honestly, it feels like every time I sit down to actually engage with some substance, I’m met with this endless, repetitive cycle of nonsense. It reminds me of a situation I dealt with back when I was working a mid-level management gig over in Chicago—just a constant stream of people talking loudly without actually saying anything at all. You know the type. They have an opinion on everything, yet they haven't spent five minutes looking at the actual data. It's frustrating, truly. One minute you're trying to have a nuanced conversation about policy or tech, and the next, someone comes along with a half-baked argument that wouldn't hold water in a desert. And don't even get me started on the way certain users tend to derail perfectly good threads. I was reading through some of the earlier posts today—and I won't name names, though we all know who I'm thinking of—and it's just exhausting. We need more rigor here. More thought. Less... whatever *this* is. It’s like we’ve traded actual discourse for a shouting match in a parking lot. Anyway, my point being—if there even is one—is that if we want this community to mean something, we have to demand better from ourselves. Or at least, I should hope so. kaže:
I find this whole thing deeply spiritual—honestly, there’s something almost transcendent about it all. 😁

Honestly, chocolate is a much better bet than religion in any given scenario. ^^
Buddha is basically just a big guy who lives for chocolate—honestly, I can relate. ^^

She really doesn't want to be a slob. I mean, look at Buddha—he was a total slob himself because he didn't reach enlightenment until he was forty, and by then, he’d already put on a few pounds. He wasn't even planning on getting married at that point. And now we have our friend here on the forum who's already carrying an extra fifteen pounds—it's all starting to add up, isn't it?
She’s standing there at 5'6" and maybe 143 pounds—or whatever she thinks her "ideal" weight should be—complaining that she’s carrying a little extra. Honestly? She thinks she’s overweight, but if you ask me... I’d much rather have a woman with some actual curves than someone who looks like they haven't eaten since the last Super Bowl. It's better to have a little sway in your step than to be skin and bones. 😁
If prayer actually makes her feel better, then fine—let her pray. Or meditate. Heck, she can go hang out on Spark or some other site like it. Honestly, I don't see the harm. But here is my take on why...
I really think we need to address this—and I mean truly address it—because the conversation seems to be drifting toward some rather superficial conclusions. It’s easy to just nod along when everyone is echoing the same sentiment, but if we actually look at the mechanics of what's happening here, the logic starts to fall apart quite quickly. I remember back when I was working a junior position over at a tech firm in Seattle—nothing fancy, just a standard mid-sized outfit—and we had a similar situation during a project rollout. Everyone was convinced that the initial data supported our direction, but they were ignoring the underlying volatility. We ignored it, too, because it was easier to stay the course, and boy, did we pay for it later. It’s the same pattern here. The argument being made by Benjamin Taylor6 is interesting, sure, but it feels like it’s missing the forest for the trees. You can't just take one specific variable and claim it dictates the entire outcome—that's just bad math. It’s like trying to judge an entire American summer based solely on one thunderstorm in Chicago; you’re ignoring the broader climate entirely. We need to stop rushing to judgment. If we want a coherent discussion, we have to account for the systemic issues that most people are conveniently overlooking just to keep the peace. It’s frustrating, honestly. I feel like we’re circling the drain of mediocrity instead of digging into the actual substance of the problem. Let's try to be a bit more rigorous, shall we?

At the end of the day—and I really mean this—everything boils down to the individual and their own specific psychology. It’s all about how a person is wired inside.
If a woman happens to have a high libido—which, let’s be honest, isn't a flaw, just biology—she’s basically walking straight into a brick wall with traditional church doctrines. It’s like an impossible setup from the jump. You’ve got all these rigid rules claiming that even self-pleasure is some massive sin, not to mention the whole "no premarital sex" thing that feels so outdated in this day and age. And then, as if that wasn't enough of a hurdle, you throw in the practicalities like using protection... it’s just one layer of judgment after another. It really makes you wonder how much of these moral codes are actually about faith and how much they're just about control. 😲

Look, maybe try working on yourself first... if you can?

We don't exactly need someone else coming in here to lecture us on what constitutes a sin... I think we know Him better than you ever could... 🙂 But, like I've probably said a billion times already, only Jesus was a perfect human being. We're all sinners, period. Honestly, judging people simply because they are believers or pious is just incredibly shallow and immature... 😉

wearyowl29 said:Honestly? You don't. You just fall down, get back up, and then trip again. It’s a cycle! I always say the only real trick is learning how to land without breaking anything.😁

This makes sense, aside from that first word... 😁 😁 😁

bluemason3 said:To be honest, I've seen plenty of cases where being religious does more harm than good. Especially within certain Christian circles, because:

1 - It burdens people with totally unnecessary complexes and "sins" based on some abstract ideal that shifts constantly. Most of the time, they aren't hurting anyone else, just themselves.

2 - Lately, especially with how far-right fundamentalist groups have gained ground in American churches, they create practical hurdles for things that could actually help. For instance, someone might go to a nurse for herbal remedies, which is fine, but it becomes an issue if they consult an Ayurvedic practitioner. Even if the herbs come from overseas instead of NASA, suddenly it's a problem. 🤣 Apparently, there's Satan in the weeds too. 😬

3 - Most importantly, it helps people dodge responsibility. I've lost count of times I've seen people make decisions that lead to disaster, only to claim it was God's will or an answered prayer. Instead of admitting they were reckless and jumped at the first opportunity, they blame God for the fallout. They cry about why this is happening to them and wonder what the point of carrying a cross is, but they never take ownership of their lives. They won't look objectively at their mistakes, learn from them, or make the radical changes needed to fix things.

Still, I think nothingness is the best solution. Black.

That was enough for me to step in and say something... It is simply NOT TRUE that Christianity has a negative impact on people... It affects those maniacs who are obsessed with evil and actually believe it is the work of God... Even suicides are often "religious" people doing everything in the name of "God," and if you were to lump them into the same category as me—since I am also a firm follower of Jesus—then I would honestly be at a loss for words...!

vivideagle8 said:I’m not wavering in my faith; I pray my whole life and try my best to live by my values. I know even Jesus had to carry his cross, and we all have our own burdens to bear through life. It just feels like nothing I do is ever right lately. Every job interview falls through, love has been long gone, and I’m just... deeply sad. There aren't many people who truly understand, and I don't want to be a burden to them. I try to be a good person, but I always end up feeling like a nuisance or a fool. I can't even meditate anymore; I just can't find any peace. It’s heartbreaking because I can’t see the point in anything right now—it feels like the world would be better off without me 😢 Now that I’ve actually written all that out, it sounds incredibly bleak. Henry Kim3, thank you. You’re a good man; I always read your posts and I really admire your strength and your will to live!

Thanks, but you can thank me when you actually listen to me 😉 Look, I know things are hard for you, but you have to be stronger than your own impulses... There's an old saying: "CONQUER YOURSELF, AND THE WORLD WILL BE AT YOUR FEET!" You simply have to learn how to deal with yourself and your own problems alone... I'm telling you, I've been living WITHOUT ANYONE for 12 years now, and there isn't anyone to understand me either. When I fall, I have nobody to complain to, and so on, and so forth... But, the meaning of life is always one thing = FAMILY! Maybe it isn't for everyone, but that is the one true meaning and beauty of life, damn it...! Anyway, try to make a move; if you can't find happiness in this country, think about moving somewhere else... Simply put, there is ALWAYS a solution, you just have to be strong enough to find it... 🙂

Heh, you hit a wall after two years, but I've been building this up for 11 or 12 years now, and I am NEVER going to fall. Sure, I might stumble, but falling? Never...! There’s a simple secret to staying upright: PRAYER. Go to church, talk to God... If you're in New York City, head over to St. Patrick's Cathedral, sit there for a bit in the peace and quiet, and just listen to the silence... Pray to God, even if it's just the simplest prayer you can muster. Because, my dear, everyone else might walk out on you, but Jesus NEVER will! So, don't pay too much mind to those people who would probably say I'm talking nonsense right now, because I'm speaking from actual experience... It sounds cliché, but I haven't taken the cross from around my neck in over 12 years, and I have no intention of ever doing so! Optimism is easy to lose, along with that supposed "tangible spirituality"—if that even exists—but prayer carries immense power... You don't even have to pray every single day... Just being able to wake up in the morning and thank God that you're alive, or remembering Jesus when you lie down at night to wish Him goodnight and greet the angels... is enough. Aaaaaaaah........... Time doesn't solve problems; WE solve them... So, you can't really expect your faith or hope to come rushing back if you aren't doing anything about it... Start with small steps... After all, a baby falls first, then crawls, then walks, and eventually runs..... 😉

Things have shifted a bit, I suppose. I don’t post much, nor do I spend much time reading—just glance at things here and there... I see Uncle Charlie has been cleaning things up a little... It's certainly an improvement over what Gregory Turner71 was doing... 🙂 However, someone else has surfaced who seems to take great pleasure in blaspheming against God, and honestly, given the filth they write, it’s probably better to just look away... 🙂

Honestly, you aren't missing anything with this subreddit, and besides, you're mostly just saving yourself from the frustration...!

Emily Martin said:It’s an objective fact that long-time forum veterans get away with things that everyone else is strictly forbidden from doing. A perfect example is those semi-private chats where users who aren't fully clued into the internal politics are labeled as "outsiders."

Why are you even surprised? Moderation over there is a total disaster...!

Emily Martin said:For instance, Nicholas King doesn't seem to appreciate the sarcasm I liberally sprinkle throughout the Jewish-interest threads. Yet, I haven't noticed any of his own posts being deleted, despite them being absolutely loaded with sarcasm and cynicism.

Well, obviously... If you just take a quick look at the religious topics on this subforum, what you're saying becomes pretty clear... Injustice is everywhere, I guess...

Emily Martin said:Regarding the person claiming what I wrote was nonsense—here is my response, which was, of course, deleted, so I'll just improvise:
"Sure, it's totally nonsensical to have an honest conversation... It's much more meaningful to find out from your daughter that your husband has a young mistress..."

That just points to catastrophic moderation... If you couldn't tell, I'm not even part of that group anymore, though I used to be... Maybe try bringing up a little bit of morality over there, and you'll see exactly how the moderators welcome you....

Emily Martin said:Indeed, my reply to her post was promptly deleted, even though her post remains perfectly intact. A warning was implied. I didn't bother appealing because I don't think appeals are about as useful as pressing the pedestrian button at a red light.

I suppose I agree... But don't stress yourself out... Just walk away from that PDF and leave it at that; it isn't worth the headache, since there isn't anything you can actually do anyway...!

Emily Martin said:Question:
How many years of seniority or how many posts does one need on this forum to be allowed to use the exact same level of sarcasm or irony as the protected members?
Or perhaps, how can one respond with that same tone without being labeled a bickerer, a troll, or someone who isn't being serious?

Well, look, I’ve got quite a bit of tenure here already, yet the second I open my mouth, I'm immediately branded a troll... 🙂 I suppose it doesn't really matter; I guess the real issue is just how you say things and whether or not the moderators happen to like you. Then again, if you try supporting anything that's clearly wrong, you'll see how quickly things progress, unfortunately...

Sean Moore said:Look, we aren't God, so we have no business judging people or splitting them into categories of good and evil. That simply shouldn't be our role if we actually consider ourselves to be God-fearing people and authentic believers.

And back when Blue Bird was handling the moderation duties. 👍 The debate felt surprisingly balanced, even if it was just one Creationist standing their ground against ten evolutionists. It held its own, at least in the sense that both sides were permitted to use the same terminology and engage with the same level of charisma. There was certainly some insulting thrown around—the evolutionists tended to be more subtle about it, while the other side was pretty blunt—but the discussion flowed without any real interruption. In the end, I guess everyone walked away satisfied with the freedom of speech provided.

But then, Arthur Flores2 and Henry Kim3 decided to jump on the bandwagon and support the Creationist religion on the PDF. That shifted the ratio from 1:10 down to 3:10. Since that one Creationist was already tearing through that group of ten like Leo hunting coyote pups, bringing Arthur Flores2 and Henry Kim3 into the mix made the fight completely one-sided. At that point, ego simply had to step in if he didn't want the PDF religion to turn into nothing more than a Christian pulpit.

But what does the word "forum" actually mean? What is the core essence of that word? Of course, the point isn't that we shouldn't allow certain philosophical or religious stances to dominate; the point is that people should be allowed freedom of thought and speech. That clearly isn't happening here. It is blindingly obvious that those in charge of moderation are openly biased toward both pro-evolutionist and pro-religion agendas.

It’s as straightforward as that.

I suppose I could agree with everything that's been laid out here...!

I’ve always been someone who enjoys a good conversation, but I happened to stumble into a discussion about religion the other day, and honestly, I was just floored. Seeing the kind of rhetoric being thrown around—the blatant disrespect toward God and all that—it really caught me off guard. I mean, how is anyone supposed to just sit there and stay silent when people say things like that? I don't think I could.

Whatever. I just hope things settle down over there and the tempers cool off a bit.

And yeah, Blue bird = respect...

Nicholas King said:You’re acting just like Camelot, judging me instantly and labeling me as one of those corrupt, ungodly, and disingenuous believers.

Man, the way you're talking is just unbelievable...!

I guess I have to fully agree with what Sean Moore wrote in the previous post... It actually makes sense...

And what exactly are you doing here? You're just confirming that I'm right... Instead of actually resolving anything, you showed up just to insult me (even if you're being "polite" about it). What does that say to you?

Look, I don't really feel like getting into a fight with you; this isn't about religion. 🙂 I think you might have missed the point entirely... 🙂

Nicholas King said:I suppose you don't have the time to actually look for evidence of such a serious insult, do you?

Well, do I even need it? Look at you—aren't you living proof?

I haven't offended anyone, have I? No... I haven't. Maybe just try not being as sensitive as a cheap pair of rubber boots...!

Sean Moore said:Of course they won it unfairly, and I suppose I can explain why:

It’s because at one point on that thread, three musketeers emerged: Arthur Flores2, Henry Kim3, and the Creationist. All three are highly intelligent, educated, and intuitive individuals who aren't going to let you mess with them using stupid or half-baked arguments. So, naturally, acting in accordance with their intellect and intuition, they established themselves as a formidable religious triangle—an unstoppable force that just crushes everything in its path.

And something like that simply WILL NOT and CANNOT be tolerated on this American forum!!!

As simple as that!

Exactly, because there are just so many corrupt people on this site, it's honestly unbelievable...!

Unfortunately, the moderators will, as per usual, stomp all over the believers while keeping an eye on everyone else...!

So sad as that...!

rustydrifter10 said:The decision regarding that specific PDF was made collectively by the entire moderation team.

Well, if I may offer my own perspective:

ARTHUR FLORES2 WAS UNJUSTLY BANNED!