Posts by placidseal20

Thinking about those steady breezes... I could even throw in some specific names like the Santa Ana, the Chinook, or just general gusts...

01. Andreas Vollenweider - White Winds
02. Broken Glass - Monsoon Winds
03. Xenia - Wind in my hair
04. Distant Shore - fourteen palms 05.
05. PJ Harvey - The Wind

silentfalcon3 said:Wind tracks... (just before the storm hits)

01. Listening Wind (2005 Remaster) · Talking Heads
02. Le vent nous portera - Margherita Pirri (Noir Désir cover)
03. Kansas - Dust in the Wind
04. Fleetwood Mac - Wind Blows
05. The Wind Cries Mary – Jimi Hendrix

06. Sweet - Wind City
07. Mike Oldfield - The Wind Chimes (Part 1)

08. Candle In The Wind - Elton John

Alex Collins3 said:Greetings.

I'll keep this brief and skip the fluff. I’m posting this in Psychology since that seems most relevant.

It’s been over six years, and I still haven't moved on from my ex. I’ve reached a point where I'm somewhat content with my own life, but there's this persistent void where our relationship used to be. Six years later, and I still can't seem to fill it. Finding out he got married after we split was the final blow. It felt like any chance we had was gone forever.

I tried settling down myself, but I just couldn't find any real happiness.
I regret the breakup deeply. I honestly thought we were living some kind of American dream—that we’d be together forever. Reality had other plans.
The regret is constant. I cycle through anger, bitterness, and pure disappointment because he walked away and never once looked back. He made it clear I wasn't his choice anymore. For a long time, I felt played and pathetic, yet the grieving process just won't end.

As the title asks: how much regret is too much?

It’s easy to lose touch with reality sometimes, though I don't think that's what you're doing since you seem fully aware of how much time has actually passed.
Look, you just need to stop clinging to these illusions that you already know deep down can't come true anymore. Once you start focusing on your own integrity and making your own sense of accomplishment a priority instead of chasing a thousand different utopian fantasies, you might finally see the bigger picture and learn how to just let things flow, accepting that everything is just part of a passing life cycle.

nimbleowl6 said:Exactly! That right there. That feeling of being totally stuck in a toxic emotional environment. Now THAT is what I find super interesting

No clue. Yesterday was actually the first time I ever read anything you wrote.

Yeah, I honestly can't quite put my finger on how to describe it, but whenever I'm at my absolute lowest point, there's this sudden mental shift that happens... it's always been like that for me where everything just piles up until I finally break down crying, and then suddenly this thought just hits me like a ton of bricks: "Am I really being this foolish?" and that little moment of clarity is usually what gives me the strength to just walk away from it all.

nimbleowl6 said:Rosey, please move this if there’s a better spot 🙂

So, I was scrolling through one of the discussions here on the forum and it totally triggered a memory about this topic:

https://www.cnn.com/health/wellness-and-lifestyle...

If we just look at the symptoms, they're pretty clear:
Overusing forums to the point where it messes with your mental health, your physical well-being, your job performance, and your relationships with people.

We're talking muscle atrophy from sitting too much, a junk food diet leading to weight gain, wrecked sleep schedules that leave you exhausted, and strained social ties that can mess up parenting or even lead to divorce.

What do you guys think? Anyone have experience with this—either personally or seeing it happen to someone close to them?

For me, the forum is usually a nice place to hang out, and I think I use it in moderation.
But man, I’ve had those rough patches in life where I definitely overdid it—I'd spend way too much time online, and afterward, I’d just feel nauseous, dissatisfied, and honestly, kind of depressed.

It makes me wonder... are the users who are posting from sunrise to late at night, every single day, for years on end, actually living in a constant state of emotional crisis?

In my book, any kind of addiction is basically just an escape from uncomfortable emotions. So, being addicted to a forum would be its own version of running away from reality—avoiding facing the tough stuff and using the internet as a massive distraction from "the things I actually need to get done."

Let me know your thoughts and ideas... thanks so much 🙂

I’ve been in that exact same headspace before, and while it wasn't because of this forum, it doesn't really matter because it's just hard to admit when you're stuck, though it's even harder to walk away from something that creates such a toxic emotional environment, but honestly you can overcome anything if you just find that inner strength haha

feralotter8 said:Please move this post if there’s already a thread like this; I couldn't find one.

Seriously, I need some help here. I’ve had one marriage behind me that ended without much drama—the love just fizzled out, we grew apart as people, that kind of thing.

After a while, I got into a new relationship with a guy I care about deeply.

But I have a massive jealousy problem. Everywhere I turn looking for advice, it’s all written for people dealing with a partner who is pathologically jealous. I can't find anything about how to help yourself when *you* are the one with the issue.

I know what's wrong with me. Every single time, I swear I'm going to change, that I'll never do it again... but it just doesn't happen.

So, here's the deal: I stalk him. I track who he adds on Facebook, what he likes, I dig, I investigate, I watch his last online status on social media, you name it. I build entire conspiracies out of tiny things. Like, if he adds a woman on Facebook and likes one of her photos, my brain goes into overdrive: first, I have to figure out who she is, then I start imagining where they met, if they talk regularly, what they say to each other... I'm terrified he's going to leave me, or that he's cheating and I'm too blind to see it. I check his phone whenever I get the chance. If he gets a text while I'm in the room, I immediately spiral. This disgusting wave of nerves and anger just takes over. And there's plenty more.

I don't show all of this to him directly, though he definitely catches on when I start grilling him with questions. But I keep it bottled up. I'm constantly on edge, scattered, unhappy, and moody. The reason might be something stupid, like seeing him online on Viber at 2 AM... because I *know* he was messaging some girl.

I am fully aware that I'm being irrational. I have no idea why I have this massive fear of being cheated on or abandoned (it never happened during my marriage), but I know if I don't do something, I'm going to wreck this relationship. I seriously doubt he'll put up with this for long.

Does anyone know how to fix this? Any good books, resources, anything at all?

Thanks

That Messenger status can be pretty unreliable since it shows activity even when you aren't actually using the app, and honestly, unless they've changed the way it works, he might not have even been on it at all, but I haven't used it in ages so I wouldn't know for sure.