Posts by slywolf45

Rebecca Moore10 said:I’d suggest seeing Dr. Sakoman over in Chicago, along with a lot of your own sheer willpower.

I have my doubts about Sakoman... I know a girl who tried mixing Heptanon with God knows what else, and it didn't do a thing for her... much like how it fails 99% of other addicts.
I watch them walk out of Dr. Sakoman's office after he recommends they take 15 Heptanon tablets a day... then, after two or three years of steady usage, they go back for a check-up and the good doctor bumps them up to 20 tabs... and so on. I mean, hello?? How long does this cycle go on? And of course, it’s an open secret that besides consuming Heptanon in every possible way—crushing it, injecting it, you name it—they’re also selling it on the side, usually getting into scraps with local dealers in the process. No one here can tell me otherwise because I see it playing out every single day (it's my profession). They show up at the clinic, making a massive scene, trying to convince us they haven't received their daily dose yet... and it just goes on and on.

Then George Ramirez11 suggests that rehab isn't for everyone... Well, sure, it isn't for people who lack a serious intention to get clean and just want something extra to wreck their bodies with. Can someone please explain to me how taking 20 or 25 Heptanon tablets a day for years on end is considered "healthy"?

brightgardener40 said:

A young woman from an earlier thread was using him for a few months. When she finally checked into rehab, she had to be clean... (I won't even get into how much of a nightmare that process was)

I don't get this part. She has to be clean before entering rehab?😕 If she could actually quit on her own, she wouldn't need a facility in the first place. And here's another thing—they expect you to have healthy teeth too. Most addicts have trashed teeth, it's obvious. I'm honestly surprised by their entry requirements for these programs.

So, what you're saying is that someone isn't allowed to use any kind of chemical aids—like heptanone or whatever else—while they're in the commune. Essentially, you can't step foot into the community if you're still relying on those types of substances at all.

mellowjackal33 said:I honestly believe a recovery community is exactly what you need right now. Does being religious even matter? Their main goal is to get you clean. After that, it's about reintegrating into society. If you happen to become a believer along the way—well, that's their right to celebrate "finding another sheep to the flock." But they aren't going to toss you aside if you don't. At the end of the day, the person comes first.

What kind of education do you have? Yeah, your path is definitely harder. But a community might give you new perspectives, maybe even help with job placement or getting more schooling... Plus, you might find that working with others in recovery is so rewarding it becomes your new career—helping people. There's no better reward than that! I think the opportunity is there; you just have to open the door.

Just remember one thing: by staying on this current path, you're losing both yourself and your child. So—regardless of how you're framing it to yourself—YOU HAVE NOTHING TO LOSE. You can only gain. Everything else is an illusion—just thin ice keeping you afloat, and the question is how long that lasts. YOU HAVE NOTHING, SO YOU CAN GAIN EVERYTHING. 🙂

I couldn't agree more. I know people get uncomfortable being in a faith-based group if they aren't believers, but nobody is forcing you to subscribe to any specific doctrine. Your primary mission is to get clean, and they are definitely equipped to help you with that. That’s really the only thing that matters right now.
Forget about trying to manage with methadone or similar stuff; it’s clearly a dead end.

Benjamin Lee5 said:The idea that methadone "cures" addiction is a total misconception.
It isn't some magic pill that just makes your addiction vanish.

Methadone is really meant for opioid users who, for whatever reason, can't manage total abstinence right away. The goal is to pull them out of the illegal market and get them into a controlled environment. Once they are stabilized under medical supervision (within whatever limits they are comfortable with), the hope is to eventually build up the mental strength and willpower needed to pursue full sobriety.

Addiction is brutal, and honestly, not everyone is strong enough or mentally prepared to handle total abstinence immediately.

So, saying methadone doesn't help is just wrong. It does its job, which is keeping people in a managed, safer setting.

And regarding rehab centers, I agree too... it’s a solid option if there's a chance your son can go with you. Especially since you mentioned you don't have many deep ties to the local area—just a few friends and a social circle you wouldn't want to leave behind.

Hmm... I have to disagree on the methadone front. I see people in treatment every single day, and years go by without anyone actually getting clean. Some are swallowing thirty pills a day and still finding ways to inject heroin on the side.
So, in my view, forget the rehab centers. It's more like a "Turkey Baster" approach—you just have to ride out those first massive cravings, and then focus on manual labor.

I’m on the same page as Steven Lopez19 regarding methadone... under no circumstances should you attempt to tackle addiction that way.
Working in healthcare gives you a front-row seat to what "detoxing" on methadone actually looks like. It’s essentially just swapping one dependency for another, and even then, the dosage often isn't enough to take the edge off, so people end up supplementing with other stuff anyway. I know individuals who have been on methadone for fifteen years now—which is about as much "recovery" as you can call it.👎 They have absolutely zero intention of ever trying to quit without it.

Look, you know you don't have any other choice but to give this everything you've got if you want to get clean from this mess. You need to be able to breathe normally again so you can actually provide for that child. That kid deserves nothing but the best, especially given the circumstances—having a mother struggling with addiction and a father in prison... honestly, Child Protective Services is going to be all over that situation. As much as you think you're doing what's best for them right now, you aren't being objective.

If you can't pull this off on your own—and let's be real, you probably can't because someone needs to look after the kid while you're crashing through withdrawal—then either check into a rehab facility or, if you insist on trying solo, find someone trustworthy, like a parent or whoever else, to watch the child until you've found some stability.
I'm not sure what other concrete advice I could possibly offer you.😕

Jerry Martin19 said:🙏 🤣

Who says Brian Molko isn't brilliant? 😕

P.S. He said it 100%, but whether he was actually quoting someone else or just repeating a sentiment is a different story altogether. I initially thought the line was his own, but now I’m starting to suspect he was just channeling Woody Harrelson. Mladja provided the link 🙂

Look, I'm not suggesting Brian lacks intellect—if he didn't have it, I wouldn't be hanging out with him in the first place. 😉 I just wanted to point out that I don't think those were his original words.

Anyway, what would we ever do without Mladja? 😁 🙏

Ah, the critics... people who desperately need something to do. Once they finish their little "criticism school" 😕 it becomes their entire identity. We usually find ourselves nodding along with anyone who praises the movies we love or drags the ones we actually enjoy.
But at the end of the day, they’re just humans—not some programmed robots that you only switch on when it's time to assign a rating—so while they're tearing a film apart, they're really just projecting their own personal tastes.
That’s why you shouldn't take their reviews as gospel or let them dictate whether a movie is worth your time or not.
Because, as some wise soul once said (I can't recall who, and no, I don't think it was Brian Molko)... everyone has an asshole. 🤣 🤣