Susan James said:I guess I just live in a fantasy world where people actually do their jobs honestly and provide the service they’re paid for.
I expect a surgeon to operate ethically,
that a dentist doesn't pull the wrong tooth,
that a mechanic fixes the car so it’s actually safe to drive on the highway,
that a chef at a restaurant serves edible food,
that a cashier gives me the correct change,
that a hairstylist tells me she won't dye my hair if it's too damaged, even if it means losing money right then,
that a plumber actually replaces the pipe instead of just charging for it,
and that a teacher actually teaches the child.
Now, I'm certainly no expert on surgery, plumbing, or pedagogy. I can't claim to be an authority on which literature is "best" (I can have a subjective opinion, but I'm not an expert), nor can I dictate what you all decide to feed your children.
If you think I'm naive or overly optimistic for believing that if I work honestly, the rest of the world should follow suit, then fine.
And I know that isn't how it works.
I see proof of that every single day.
I've heard all kinds of demands from parents.
I've heard teachers say, "I don't care, I know better than you," and I've also heard those who just hang their heads and give up—not just on teaching, but on life itself. They end up failing the kids too... like when a helicopter parent complains that their precious little one is "stressed," so the teacher decides to just stop trying altogether.
Parents aren't going to suddenly become more realistic or reasonable in ten years. Honestly, what are you thinking? 🤣
They might actually get worse, because they're being allowed to micromanage schools (just look at how pediatricians were allowed to bypass vaccinations, and now we're dealing with measles outbreaks).
I see disagreements even among literature professors regarding what reading material should be assigned, and I know that can lead to parental manipulation—where people exploit those academic debates to squeeze out better grades or even just to get their kid out of doing any work at all.
And I know there are teachers who simply check out, who welcome the helicopter parents because it's easier to say, "Oh, reading is just too traumatic for my child right now, can't we skip it?"—allowing the kids to just color during class instead of engaging with the book.
And of course, it opens the door for extra income through private tutoring (with a friend, naturally) or SAT prep later on. When you combine that with low salaries, this whole situation really feeds into the private tutoring market.
And let’s not forget how much the public gets fed misinformation just to serve whatever political agenda is currently in power.
I wouldn't say that; rather, I think you're being quite cynical, and honestly, your own arguments here are contributing to this whole culture of overbearing entitlement.
I expect a surgeon to operate on a person honestly.
Do you walk into a hospital and demand a surgeon treat your gallbladder because you’ve decided they actually need to look at your kidney instead? Or do you tell a professor exactly which book a student should read?
Do you expect an anesthesiologist to administer sedation when the patient hasn't even brought in the necessary lab results or completed the check-ups required for them to safely determine the dosage? Do you expect a doctor to cure someone who refuses to take their prescribed medication or follow a diet?
If the answer is no, then your comparison doesn't hold water.
that a dentist won't pull the wrong tooth.
Do you demand that a dentist pulls your molar instead of your premolar?
Or do you expect them to perform the procedure while you're thrashing around and screaming that you won't open your mouth?
If not, your analogy is off the mark.
that an auto mechanic fixes the car so it can drive on the road just like any other vehicle.
Do you tell your mechanic to fix the clutch when you're certain about one thing, but he insists the brakes are actually the problem? If not, your comparison fails.
that my chef at a restaurant cooks an edible meal.
Do you argue with the chef that the beef is actually turkey? If not, your comparison falls apart.
that a cashier gives me the correct change.
Do you decide the price of the product you're buying while standing at the register? If not, your comparison is flawed.
that my hairstylist tells me she won't dye my hair right now if it looks too damaged, even though she'd be losing money by saying no.
Now, that is the one comparison you actually got right. But even then, if you push hard enough, she will probably end up coloring it anyway—and then you'll just find a way to blame her for it.
I I want my plumber to actually swap out the pipe instead of just sending me a bill for the visit.
Are you actually specifying which pipe they use, its size, or what it’s made of? If you aren't giving them those details, then your comparison doesn't really hold water.
It's like my child's teacher trying to educate them.
But does that teacher also go through the struggle of wrestling with you, trying to convince you, explaining their reasoning, pleading with you, and justifying every single request they make to your kid?
If not, then keep expecting that level of control.
Think of it like this: I'm a hair stylist who might tell you that you don't really need to dye your hair, but if you insist on it, you're going to get the color you asked for. ☕