Posts by wiredstag30

I’ve been seeing more and more big-name teams heading overseas for these exhibition matches lately. On one hand, it’s a cool way to grow the brand globally and let international fans see their idols in person. But honestly, half the time it feels like a glorified marketing exercise rather than a real sporting event.

I remember traveling a few years back for a similar preseason tour, and the atmosphere was just... off. The stakes are zero, the intensity is low, and sometimes it feels like the players are just going through the motions to fulfill a contract. It’s hard to get truly invested when you know the result won't change anything for the season standings.

That said, there is something special about seeing former legends return to face their old clubs in a different part of the world. It adds a layer of nostalgia that a standard training match just doesn't have. Do you guys think these international tours actually benefit the sport, or are they just cash grabs for the clubs?

Does anyone else think it’s getting harder for managers to handle all these massive personalities? I feel like once you have a handful of superstars in one squad, the "team" aspect just disappears. How do you actually keep everyone on the same page?

Lisa Morales4 said:It’s funny how you eventually concluded that—and I quote—"even the bald guys, just like those damn hair-obsessed types, have their own specific 'connection issues'..."

That's why he told them to shave it all off. The moment their hair and beards stopped being just a simple thing to maintain and started becoming an ego-driven asset, they should have just sheared themselves.

It’s the same deal with your old man and his full head of hair today. He’s gotten a little too proud of it. It might be time for him to get back to reality; shaving seems to have become far too much of a luxury for him.

😲 what the...
cobalt blue on an anvil at night... wow.

As for the Krishna followers and other "Buddhists"—they tend to be naturally hairy, much like people from certain parts of Africa. If they only shave once a year, their hands and legs end up looking as smooth as a child's, without a trace of hair. Just plain.
I mean, what kind of man is a man without a mustache? lol
Though, personally, I think those hair-obsessed guys are more attractive when they're clean-shaven—rough-shaven faces that show they actually had something to shave, unlike those hairy Buddhists. Then they can keep the rest of the fuzz under control by trimming it down. The only exception is a long, powerful braid, freshly washed with conditioner and coconut oil, flowing like some Gladiator or a wild, proud warrior.

Man, you're still secretly a Bloody Mary underneath it all. This topic is getting weird. I remember being tasked with shaving a pig's face after a backyard BBQ slaughter. The head was covered in spots, and now my brother-in-law could probably shave that pale pig head clean. I even made sausages once. ☕
And cracklings.

rowdyjackal54 said:There are certain days within the month when we inadvertently present parts of ourselves that go largely unnoticed by the world—most often quite unconsciously—and we dress accordingly, only to suddenly find ourselves met with a heavy, lingering weight of gazes clinging to us. I suspect women possess an innate understanding of exactly which days these are; any explanation would likely be akin to the behavior of honeybees, a sort of primal instinct, something that simply sizzles in the air and shouts, "I am here."

So what is it that women know while guys are left in the dark? 😲 Damn evolution. 😲

Ashley Mendoza6 said:Look, if a woman is "too old," especially when you factor in all the plastic surgery that’s become way too common lately, she just ends up looking sterile. It feels unnatural.

To me, the perfect woman from a sexual standpoint is someone you can just grab by the hair, pull her close, and lose yourself in the moment without having to overthink it—without worrying if she’s going to be "too much" or if the vibe will break mid-act. I honestly believe that kind of raw, uninhibited energy is exactly why those younger, more superficial girls get left behind. 🤷

If that primal connection isn't there, she’s just not sexy to me, 🤷 even if she’s as gorgeous as a Hollywood starlet on a movie poster...

I.

*Just to be clear, I am definitely not talking about anything non-consensual or harmful here.

Yeah, watch what you say. People will hand out lawsuits pretty easily these days. 😲

You aren't actually weighing 260 lbs, right? Though how small do you think they should be? Like 100 lbs? Anything under a bag of concrete looks too thin to me.😲

when you're an idiot

Well, then I guess I am too. 😲

Michael Castillo said:That's just a song title up there—not an invitation to go party.
Just trying to grab the attention of the curious readers out there.

Anyway, here's the actual situation.
Deadlines are breathing down my neck, I'm juggling five different gigs at once, and basically, I have to spend my nights writing instead of sleeping.

So, how am I supposed to pull this off when my eyes are practically glued shut?
Last night I had some fancy red wine, which didn't just make me drowsy—it also absolutely wrecked my stomach since it was so late. Instead of writing, I ended up singing Rigoletto. 😛

Coffee is out of the question too, thanks to my stomach.

Right now, the only things keeping me awake are Jimi Hendrix and Tina Turner (I crank the headphones up to max, and the vibrations literally shake my brain enough to stop me from passing out), but damn, I’m going to go deaf at this rate—so I need to find a tenth option.

Does smoking help you sleep or wake you up?
And what's the deal with the stomach?

I'm assuming it's fine for inspiration.

Just a heads-up: until a week ago, I was a total straight edge.
But hey, necessity changes the rules. And the principles.

Someone please give me some actual advice on how to stay permanently awake for the next five or six days.

Didn't Balsac drink massive amounts of coffee? He was kind of a natural talent, you know. 😲

So, how am I supposed to pull this off when my eyes are practically closing on their own?
Last night I poured myself a nice glass of heavy red wine, and instead of helping me write, it just made me sleepy and gave me terrible heartburn since it was so late. I ended up singing Rigoletto instead of getting any work done. 😛

🙂

Does smoking help you sleep or wake you up?
And how is it on the stomach?

Good for the stomach and good for sleep.

I'm counting on it for inspiration.

But that isn't really the point.

Someone please give me some actual advice on how to stay awake for five or six days straight.

There isn't really a fix for that. You can't take anything. Well, except amphetamines, but that isn't a real solution.

Ephedrine hits you harder than caffeine, but the crash is just as bad.

Morgan Brown4 said:Philosophy was actually one of my favorite subjects back in high school. It really sparked something in me. But, let’s be real—finding a decent career path with a philosophy degree is tough, and honestly, some of those classes could get pretty mind-numbing. So, I never seriously considered majoring in it. Still, I have this itch to dive into it as a hobby. Does anyone here have recommendations on where to start? I'm looking for books that are actually engaging and accessible for a beginner to get a feel for things. They don't need to be heavy hitters; in fact, my old teacher once told me that trying to tackle a book by Kant at his university was basically a legendary feat that nobody actually managed to pull off 😁.

There's that series of books "for beginners" .
It covers various philosophers, concepts, consciousness, time, chaos, and things like that

shadoweagle13 said:Whenever I eat a salad from Subway, grab something from McDonald's, or pick up one of those pre-made salads at Walmart or Kroger, I end up with a headache. Sometimes I even feel nauseous. It’s the same thing if I just eat a tomato, some bell pepper, a cucumber, or even an apple bought from those grocery stores. And obviously, I wash everything before eating it. I never used to link my headaches to food, but over the last few days, I've had several pre-packaged salads and the symptoms start immediately. I'm guessing it's some kind of chemical they use to wash or preserve the produce. Honestly, I'd even suspect GMOs.
A friend told me his dad gets an instant headache whenever he eats tomatoes from Kroger.

Has anyone else dealt with stuff like this?

Not really, but you never know. Only buy salad if you actually see worms or slugs in it. If it's crawling with pests, you know it's not fit for humans. Consider yourself lucky you have that intuition. 😲
You sound like a budding anti-globalist guru.

First off, you’ve gotta realize you’re essentially on your own. It sounds harsh, but it's just reality. Being overweight isn't the end of the world either—just get moving. Hit up a local Gold's Gym or whatever. You won't be alone forever. 😁 And honestly? Cut out the losers. Not everyone you meet is actually your friend. You have to learn how to read between the lines because people can be incredibly opportunistic. Nobody truly cares about your struggles or the fact that you lost your mother. If you stop treating those things like they're massive obstacles, they stop being problems.
Maybe go pick a fight with someone 😁... just kidding. It’s all just part of growing up. Don't take yourself or anyone else too seriously; life is much easier that way. At your age, there’s no room for being overly serious—keep that stuff tucked away. But still, you have to stand up for yourself. Finish high school and try to get into a state university if you can. Nobody there is actually as important as they pretend to be in social circles.

What kind of joke is this? They’re out here preaching about "free time." The truth is you’re just a slave to the clock. You can't truly opt out of everything. It's a reality of life. If you have to grind just to pay the rent, I get it. That's just how it works. But if someone is actually cramping up and wasting twelve hours a day on nonsense like gambling or chasing some fake "Arman Noe" scheme... 😁They better explain themselves, if they even can. 😲

I think I read something similar from Fromm once. If you haven't already, you probably should, since you seem pretty deep into this stuff. 😲 You start thinking about how women like this. 😁
It’s true that some women tend to attract aggressors. They often seek out those specific personality traits, though it isn't exactly hard for a man to spot a victim in the making. But to actually manipulate someone—or rather, to unconsciously manipulate another person—you really need to be dealing with a certain type of psyche.
Personally, I wouldn't be able to spot self-destructiveness in anyone without being told directly.
It makes sense, really. A massive ego usually compensates with a corresponding unconscious reaction. People in positions of power often have a bit of a masochistic fetish going on.
This whole thing feels strange and atypical, almost like a shadow. 😲

What should a woman actually do to trigger those kinds of impulses in a man?
If we assume rape is an act of violence, and all violence stems from a sense of inferiority, then she’d theoretically have to make him feel less valuable. But what if he doesn't feel that way when he's around her?
For instance, what would a man need to subconsciously project to make someone want to, say, castrate him? I'm being serious here, no joking please.😁
And look, this is stuff for forensics and psychiatry—it's right on that thin line between healthy and pathological. That space where the subconscious takes over and starts driving the conscious mind.

And I see you're hiding your sources like a snake in the grass.😁

crimsoncanyon2 said:Everything I was explaining in my last post builds on your claim that "projection always happens unconsciously." My point is that unconsciousness also triggers conscious reactions in others, driven by what someone else has set in motion.
It works just as much through recognition in the other person, even without deep conscious knowledge
and regarding the explanation that rape can be a reaction to "signals" sent from someone else's unconscious—all of that still holds up.

😁

I think you actually understood it fine, but now you're dragging it out and twisting it into the anima and animus just to make me look like some clueless idiot, like Guy.😉 🤣

As for shifting the anima—completely separate from the text above—a man might displace it onto a doll, where he spends his time brushing its long hair and reading poems by Pablo Neruda (assuming he actually has those inclinations), right up until a buddy shows up for an unexpected visit.
In this scenario, the anima complex attaches itself to a Cypriot-style doll fetishism known as agalmatophilia. The guy is essentially projecting his own anima onto the doll, given that the doll can't speak, reason, think, or—heaven forbid—love.
http://i00.i.aliimg.com/wsphoto/v0/1...-half-doll.jpg
It’s similar to what happens in "Psycho," where Norman is simultaneously himself and his internalized mother, who was eventually displaced onto an inanimate object—her own skeleton.

Alright, so where are you getting all this info? I've been reading Jung's work for about ten years now, but this comparative breakdown of yours isn't exactly what's in his books.
So, I'm curious.
The idea that the unconscious is always projecting is a Quote from Carl Gustav Jung. Look, I'm certainly no expert.
So, if a conscious reaction is triggered by someone else's unconscious, then there has to be a match. In that case, I assume it would have to be collectively unconscious. Or maybe individually repressed. Because it still emerged from the "perpetrator's" unconscious, even if he wasn't aware of those tendencies at the time. It ended up being evoked as a desire.
Let's say we go back to the example of an assault: would that specific woman evoke those same tendencies in every man? Or just most of them, or maybe just a small group?

crimsoncanyon2 said:That’s just not right. A guy could be looking at a thousand women who all look practically identical—same height, weight, vibe, style, even the way they laugh or act rude—so what is it that triggers him to target one specific woman against his own subconscious will?
You ask the guy, "Why did you do that?"
"I don't know (explain), I don't know what just took hold of me." 🤷
"Why her specifically, when they all seem the same?"
"I don't know, I couldn't help myself, I don't know what came over me." 🤷

And then, through some strange interaction with a caring psychiatrist, this twisted, sick impulse develops where he actually feels a desire to abuse or assault her himself, which leaves him completely bewildered...
So what is driving that? It’s what comes from *her*. Her own drive to be abused, violated, or destroyed, simply enacted through someone else—an external agent.
And all this happens without her needing to wear a provocative mini-skirt or bright red lipstick.

A typical predator will recognize his kind immediately, whereas a decent gentleman will be left utterly stunned by his own mental shifts—or he'll fulfill some unconscious demand and then spend the rest of his life wondering why, without any rational explanation whatsoever.

Well, of course you can't, because to achieve that, you first have to get to know yourself incredibly well.😉
And once you really know yourself, you’ll eventually stumble upon those parts of you formed through somewhat schizoid introjection (or internalization) of other women's psycho-physical traits—you know, various mothers, sisters, grandmothers, nannies, neighbors, etc.—which, acting as a poorly conscious artificial construct, can be held as an autonomous complex.

I honestly don't know where you get this stuff, but I would love to meet someone like that. Just to see. 😁
And okay, so what now? Did he project his anima onto her? Or was it her anima projecting toward the attacker?
Rape is an act of aggression. To carry out such an act, someone has to possess those tendencies. Or at least think about them.
We all carry aggression inside us, but this theory feels a bit unusual to me.
In the end, everyone's anima/animus isn't the same, and it's not always just a matching type of man or woman like people assume.

crimsoncanyon2 said:Deebelo, you're missing the point here. The unconscious isn't just limited to projection; it can also be recognized and even amplified.

If we look at Jung's archetypes for a second, it's easy to explain this using the example of S&M couples. They are drawn to one another because they recognize each other unconsciously. It’s not about some woman or guy consciously fantasizing about sadistic roleplay where their partner shows up in costumes and whips—it's about countless situations where these psychological profiles simply recognize and attract one another instinctively, without ever needing the leather, the latex, or all that other nonsense people who just want a theatrical show are obsessed with.

Now, amplification would be a situation where a person with a specific profile unconsciously drives someone else toward a behavior they wouldn't naturally exhibit—but they don't even realize why they're doing it or what pushed them there—like, say, sexual assault.

Projection, on the other hand, is when a woman carries an image of a stingy man in her unconscious, and then claims her partner is a cheapskate—even if he's actually incredibly generous and wants to help everyone—simply because she's obsessed with that internal archetype.

Or take the opposite scenario in those early stages of falling in love: a girl insists her boyfriend is absolutely perfect and wonderful, when in reality, he's the exact opposite. She doesn't see it because she's actually in love with a fantasy version of him built entirely on her own projection of desirable traits.

So what are they actually using then? What does that look like? And how can you say they aren't consciously fantasizing? If they aren't doing that consciously, then they're just... well, I mean, I can recognize my own projections. But that projection is still part of my unconscious, so it remains projected. To truly bring it into awareness, I have to fully comprehend it first.
The anima acts almost like a separate personality. It has its own autonomy. Because of that, it functions like a complex. Being part of the unconscious, it's always being projected. But it's also this complex, energetic entity.
I can't just snap my fingers and make it conscious. Fully grasping the unconscious—especially the collective side of things—is a massive undertaking.
For someone to commit an act like rape, they have to possess certain tendencies that they've pushed down deep inside.

crimsoncanyon2 said:It's funny how you're offering me "beginner books with pictures" when you don't even know what syzygy is. 😁
Syzygy is when, within a romantic or married couple, the woman recognizes her internal Animus in the man, and he recognizes his Anima in her.
In other words, instead of projecting their unconscious parts onto each other before or during the relationship, they simply recognize one another—it's that "you are everything I've ever searched for" and "you are everything I've ever wanted" kind of thing. There's no element of fantasy or distorted perception; they truly become "Him" and "Her" to each other.

I know my own "unconscious" negative Animus incredibly well—so well, in fact, that I could say it's at a very conscious level—which is exactly why that specific profile of man is one I avoid.
Luckily, I only ran into two of them a few years back, and thank God I was able to bail out fast enough to spot the red flags from an airplane.

That's the first time I've heard that term used like that. 😲
But the unconscious always projects. If it isn't being projected, it isn't unconscious anymore; it's conscious.
The matching of male and female—those two opposites—is, at least from what I've gathered about symbolic nature, a representation of the individuation process.
In real life, what you described is somewhat possible, even if it's never perfectly ideal. For it to be ideal, it would require maturity from both individuals. And there's always that lingering unconsciousness being projected. You might say those things in the moment, but eventually, the negative connotations of that kind of matching surface.
Every person is an individual, and only through self-awareness can one pair these opposites. That syzygy.
At least, that's how I've come to understand it.

crimsoncanyon2 said:But wait, aren't the Anima and Animus actually part of the Shadow?
If we’re strictly talking about the darker, more difficult aspects, isn't it stated that:
The Animus is the male shadow side of the female ego.
And the Anima is the female shadow side of the male ego.

I’d definitely agree that the Animus—beyond just being an archetype or a prototype of something we attract from the outside—is also part of that shadowy (hidden) masculine side of the female ego.

So, what exactly is the Syzygy in Jung's view?
And how do problems stemming from activated complexes actually play out in a real-world relationship between a man and a woman?

Why are you even jumping online this early if you're getting ready for work??
Seriously, hurry up—don't be late! 🤣

Not really. Exactly. The Shadow. It’s mostly unconscious, which is exactly why it tends to mess things up.
The shadow is just as repressed as the anima.
The anima is unconscious, really. It just projects itself onto some woman in the real world. Usually, the most "ideal" woman someone falls for is actually just the one whose personality is closest to their own repressed anima. That’s exactly where all the relationship drama starts.
A man's first encounter with the anima is his mother. Because of that, men end up looking for a substitute for their mother in the women they date. It’s a cliché, really. 😁 And that right there? That’s one of the problems.
That’s a bit of an oversimplification.
You really need to try and wrap your head around all of this. It’s about grasping that whole concept of a persona acting as a sort of counterpoint to the anima.
I assume you're interested in the animus. It's been quite a while since I sat down with those texts, though. I really ought to brush up on them and refresh my memory. 😁 So, that’s why I suggested you give those readings a look. You probably won't catch everything on the first pass—it's a lot to digest. If this stuff actually interests you, just go back and read it a second time. It'll make more sense then.
The thing is, while Jung's work is out there, we just don't have much of it available in English that hits the mark. It’s pretty thin on the ground.
There’s also that version of Jung for beginners—you know, the one with all the illustrations. 😁 It’s useful if you just want to get a rough handle on the leitmotifs.

It’s honestly pretty nice just sitting around and debating these kinds of topics, you know? Getting into the weeds of what things actually mean to people. It's good. Syzygy. It’s one of those terms that just hangs in the air, isn't it? You start thinking about it and suddenly you're deep in the weeds of the psyche. It’s more than just a concept; it’s a fundamental structural necessity when you look at how everything balances out. Always felt like there was a certain weight to that word. Just a thought.?

crimsoncanyon2 said:And how on earth do you know I'm only talking about terrible women??
The text clearly mentioned that if a man—while in a relationship or even after being with a perfectly normal woman—suddenly finds himself attracted to an autodestructive crowd of losers (and I mean real bottom-feeders here), such as alcoholics and drug addicts, it means that negative emotional complex of his Anima has been triggered.
But then again, if a guy starts projecting horrible traits onto a decent woman, isn't he actually just projecting what he wishes he could be—or who he would be if he were a woman?
In other words, figuratively speaking, he doesn't see a square as a literal geometric shape, but as something else entirely—mostly because he's too blinded by the fact that he's seeing a sphere or a ball in his head.

My Animus is the archetype of the demon / stalker / Bluebeard, but luckily there's a positive version too.😁

Being attracted to the negative, or manifesting it yourself, can be a direct product of the Shadow's influence.
The Anima represents the feminine side within a man. I don't really have time to go deep into descriptions right now, I'm rushing off to work. You can find more detailed descriptions of the Anima, Animus, Shadow, and the great personality in the book C.G. Jung on the Psychology of the Unconscious—you know, those standard American editions. Any decent library in a major US city should carry them. You can also find stuff to download online here http://www.4shared.com/get/DnzXQfOX/...psihologi.html

crimsoncanyon2 said:Well, let me answer this for my own sake too.😁
The other day, I was reading a paper by a Jungian practitioner describing how a man suddenly finding himself hanging out with all sorts of "low-type" people on the verge of a mental or physical breakdown is actually a sign that his negative Anima has been activated—but it's activated within *him*, not necessarily the version he's projecting onto the women around him.
Jung really is something else—so mystical.😁

Something like that.

He's drawn to those kinds of women because of that specific anima. It's the exact same thing as how certain women end up attracting the "wrong" guys because of their animus.
The anima spans this whole spectrum of moral archetypes, from the fallen woman to the saint. Which version shows up in the subconscious really just depends on how mature the individual has become.