Posts by Thomas Young4
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Christian Wells3 said:Hey, hope this PDF works okay.
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My question is: How can I be a good person without getting walked all over? People have taken advantage of my kindness and naivety way too many times.
The last time it happened was just a few months ago.
I was living in a small rental apartment. There was this older janitor in the building (he had some special needs). He was a great guy, seriously, he always helped me out, wasn't making much money, and lived in this run-down little shack. Anyway, I suddenly had a death in the family and ended up moving into a much bigger place. Since the old place was furnished, I told my former landlord he could give my stuff (TV, fridge, bed) to the janitor.
A few days ago, I called my old landlord because a coworker needed a place to crash for a couple of nights. Not only did he charge her an insane amount ( $333 for just 3 days, when I used to pay $200 plus utilities), but he actually sold all my stuff and didn't give a single thing to the janitor...
There have been plenty of other times where I've been used and ripped off.
What I want to know is, how do you carry yourself in life so things like this don't happen? I'm the type of person who would give someone the shirt off my back to help them through a hard time, but I almost always end up getting played.
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I'm still chewing on that one... I'll let you know once I figure it out. 🤔
Jeffrey Chase442 said:You can't fight your own nature, you know? You can't force yourself to be a piece of work if you aren't one, you either are or you aren't. Being a decent, honest person is such a rare breed these days that the scum in this world just sniff it out and exploit it.
I know it's going to cost you a lot in the long run, and you're probably going to get let down a hundred times as you realize just how low people can sink. Maybe the only thing you can try is to create some distance and stop trusting people so easily (I can't even manage that because I'm such a chatterbox 😁), so instead of being dishonest, just don't trust them and don't broadcast your intentions...
It's tough, though. I'm so disillusioned with people, especially with the mindset we have here in the States, which is why I'm planning on moving down to the South. I'm not saying everyone there is perfect, but I believe they're fundamentally different than what we deal with here.
I'd tell you from the bottom of my heart not to change because good people are hard to find, but you can't just flip a switch on your own personality and character anyway.
So yeah, that's not really advice, especially coming from someone who has pretty much checked out of society... 😬
Good luck, truly, and just try to stay pure-hearted...
I'm with you on that! Though, honestly, a little healthy skepticism when handing out trust doesn't hurt anyone. My goal isn't to go out and be a menace to society—it's just to try and keep myself from getting stepped on.
Basically, "anizo" is short for anisocytosis. That’s just a fancy way of saying the red blood cells aren't all uniform—they show up in all sorts of different sizes and shapes. If you break down the Greek roots, "an" means negation, "isos" means equal, and "cytos" refers to the cell, which in this context is the erythrocyte.
Then you've got "micro," which stands for microcytosis. That's when the erythrocytes are morphologically smaller than they're supposed to be.
Anyway, I figured I'd throw that out there since nobody else seemed interested in actually explaining it.
Solaris says:
Do you think Freud’s psychoanalysis is the only thing that matters here, or is there room for other perspectives too?
Oh, far from it. But honestly, picking a specific psychotherapeutic approach really comes down to how the therapist reads the patient and what they're actually aiming for—are we talking about short-term fixes or long-term deep dives? Techniques are definitely evolving, though you won't find every therapist using every single tool in the shed. But hey, maybe that's a rabbit hole for another day. 🙂
It’s always way easier to throw out questions than to actually provide answers. Nobody ever asks you to back up a question with evidence, and let's be honest, most questions have more than one right answer anyway.
If we're talking about a specific psychiatric diagnosis, you'd realistically need a psychiatrist for that. Besides, I'm not even sure everyone in this thread is actually talking about the same thing or the same person. But if you were looking at a diagnostic menu, you could easily find stuff like personality disorders, a depressive episode (maybe reactive?), or even pre-suicidal syndrome...
As for those questions about motivation? Yeah, obviously I don't have the answers. But I'll fall back on that Schopenhauer idea: "What we know has double the value if, for what we don't know, we admit that we don't know." Though, if you just take that same question over to the "Religion" subforum, I'm sure you'll get plenty of opinions.
Regarding the whole regression thing, all I can say is that it's always the *ultima ratio*—the absolute last line of defense. Everyone uses regression to protect themselves when things get heavy or reach a breaking point. Sure, some people start showing it during minor illnesses, acting like they expect the world to stop and cater to them. Isn't that kind of self-destructive behavior actually just a desperate cry for help?
And explaining the "ideal being" would probably just boil down to that tired, overused cliché about the Id, Ego, and Superego—the bread and butter of the psychodynamic approach to neuroses. So, if you're following that logic, you'd likely have to look for a solution, or a "cure," within a psychodynamic psychotherapy framework.
From a hematologic oncology perspective, they might define this state as leukemia, lymphoma (or some other myeloproliferative disorder) involving cells with poor prognostic markers.
Does anyone here actually know what the hell we're even discussing by the end of this thread? 😕 😁
Someone long ago decided that life is nothing more than a constant struggle. In that mindset, giving up on the fight is basically synonymous with giving up on living itself. For anyone with a shred of mental stability, that kind of surrender is just off the table. So, if we decide we *don't* want to play that game—if we end up using all our remaining energy to sabotage our own people and cripple our own progress—then our "condition" is pretty easy to diagnose according to any standard American psychiatry textbook.
Then there's the second thing I'm chewing on: how can we ever actually be sure we've exhausted every single option? Is it enough to simply *feel* like we've run out of moves?
Thirdly: where does our drive actually come from? What’s the fuel behind it, and is that well supposed to stay full forever for everyone? At what point, and why on earth, does that reservoir run dry?
As for that whole destructive or self-destructive spiral you mentioned, Solaris, it feels to me like a regressive, honestly quite immature psychological defense mechanism. It’s essentially how a protagonist who's given up tries to manage their own anxiety—which, let's face it, probably stems from a broken perception of themselves as some sort of "perfect" or superior being. By hating that idealized version of themselves, they take their anger out on themselves, or—more likely—they project that rage (and that weakness) onto others, destroying them as a way to settle the score with themselves.
Let’s be real: the whole concept of "normality" or being "healthy" is basically just arbitrary guesswork. It’s all just decided by whatever happens to be the statistical majority at any given moment. From a sociological standpoint, we’re all guilty of ethnocentrism, and psychologically speaking, we’re just ego-driven—we constantly hold ourselves up as the gold standard for what "normal" should look like. Even when you try to get technical with biomedical standards, it’s still far from universal. Take fetal growth, for example. A "normal" weight for a baby is just defined as falling somewhere between the 10th and 90th percentile based on gestational age, parity, and the specific ethnic background of the mother. This means a white baby born at 40 weeks weighing 2,900 grams might be labeled "abnormal" or underweight, while an Asian baby born at the exact same time with that identical weight would be flagged as perfectly "normal" and healthy. There are endless examples of this kind of nonsense out there.