Posts by Gregory James9

I was watching some college sports highlights this morning and it just got me thinking about how much control these governing bodies actually have over individual athletes. It feels like one minute a player is a hero, and the next, they're being sidelined for something that seems incredibly minor or even just a technicality in a massive rulebook that nobody actually reads.

It’s frustrating to see a team's momentum get crushed by administrative decisions. I remember back in my college days, we had a player who was basically the heart of the squad, and seeing someone like that taken out of the rotation because of some bureaucratic oversight felt like a gut punch to the whole fan base. It makes you wonder if the "integrity of the game" is just a convenient excuse to exert power whenever they feel like it.

When a coach goes to bat for their player against the higher-ups, it makes you realize how much of a disconnect there is between the people on the sidelines and the suits in the offices. Do you think these disciplinary actions are actually about fairness, or is it just about maintaining control over the players?

Larry Wilson25 said:I honestly think it’s pretty normal for women to have that whole "bad boy" fantasy when they're young—it’s just part of growing up, I guess, and maybe even a bit of that natural instinct to let a man take the lead. 😬

Then again, some women never have that fantasy, even when they're young. And for others, it stays with them for life.

What you perceive as kindness or empathy might just be an act... honestly, if things actually progressed, there's no telling what kind of person they'd turn out to be.

I don't quite get this whole photo thing—it’s like you're choosing between two different guys... are these straight from a dating app? Honestly, stay away from internet guys; they'll tell you whatever sounds good, but you'll rarely hear the truth.

Zachary Price5 said:19.
I don't know. In my case, I think the jealousy stems from this nagging sense of being inferior. You know that feeling? You look at anyone else and you can instantly name at least one thing they have going for them that you definitely don't. Then that fear kicks in—this dread that I won't be enough, which then manifests as jealousy. Honestly, sometimes it makes me feel physically sick, sad, and just plain envious of everyone else. There are days when I just can't stand being in my own skin. Not just once in a while, either. It happens all the time.

You're very young, and those years are incredibly volatile. The fact that you've decided to work on yourself is actually a good sign; it shows you aren't weak, but strong.

Most people deal with this at some point.

As you focus on self-improvement (in every sense of the word), your sense of worth will naturally increase. Stop measuring yourself against others; everyone is solving their own unique equation in life. If you feel the urge to compare, compare yourself to who you were at 15, or 19, or 25.

Does your college or high school have a counselor available? Reach out to them; give it a shot at least once. Like I said, these years are formative. You'll see much better results if you tackle this now rather than waiting until you're 30 or older.

How old are you?

Usually, jealousy is triggered by some past experience—like losing someone close to you, for instance. It can also be a learned behavior picked up from your environment.

Your first step should be identifying when it all started, how you feel while it’s happening, and what specifically triggers those feelings...