Posts by Casey White98

I have to admit, the whole idea of wanting children feels completely abstract and foreign to me. I mean, what does that even entail? Don't get me wrong, I love kids. I really do. I see them out on the street and my heart just melts; I can relate to them, and I’d happily play with them until I’m exhausted. It's a full emotional package. But those are someone else's kids—they already exist. I can observe them and decide they're great, but that's where it ends.

How am I supposed to actually envision my own child? As some random toddler from a daycare center, or as this totally unique blend of me and a partner?
The first scenario feels a bit pointless to me, because it's like window shopping. You don't go to Target to stare at desk lamps, because not all products are identical; you can't look at a sample and predict the final result. Looking at a redhead girl with a specific accent doesn't mean that's what I'll end up with if I base my desire on mere attraction.
The second scenario is just too abstract. I can't predict an image like that, no matter how much effort goes into conception. Because it's so unknowable, I can't really "want" it, unless my desire is actually rooted in some idealized notion of happiness, peace, or the serenity of motherhood—but nobody has implanted that deep enough in me for my partner and me to both identify with it.

That's why I'm not entirely sure what a true female desire for a child actually looks like; I just can't find it within myself. If there are any traces of such a feeling, it's just a desire for the laughter, the joy, and those sweet little outbursts unique to small children—their clumsy movements, their noises, their facial expressions, things like that. But when you consider that this phase only lasts a few years, and my impulses are miles away from a permanent "desire for a child," I guess those are pretty shaky foundations for such a massive undertaking.

And that's not even touching on the issue of parenting—the fear of replicating behavior patterns we see at home or elsewhere that I definitely wouldn't want passed down, especially not through me.

So, yeah. I'm not about to upend two lives just because something seems cute or occasionally fun, without having any clue what the actual impact on my life will be. No thanks. I wouldn't take out a mortgage like that. 😉

Angela Wright said:That is exactly my point.☕ Isn't that just lovely? All because this woman actually believed in the rule of law. What an idiot. She should probably just have everything stripped away from her immediately. 🙄🙄🙄

@Zachary Miller6
Watching the news lately, it seems there are plenty of stories just like yours, all blending together into the same old repetitive sludge. Maybe you should start an association or some kind of advocacy group so you can present a united front. I suspect your chances of being heard would be much higher that way.
I hope you've managed to figure out exactly what you can expect by now, especially since we've seen nothing but conflicting information floating around here. May God give you strength and the funds to keep going; you're certainly going to need them.😢
Are you planning to sue the agency? If you ask me, they're the ones most at fault here, considering they were handling the sale of property with such questionable ownership.

The legal system works fine in a practical sense; it’s just that right now, it isn't protecting her rights. There’s a reason for that, as mentioned above.
I don't really see how her faith in the system provides any advantage over actually verifying facts and taking action. Then again, maybe if I try hard enough, I can manifest a laser beam using nothing but pure willpower.

I don't see the logic in taking anything away from her, especially since she always has the option to handle these things herself using the law and a yellow highlighter.
On the other hand, expecting someone—even the government—to do that kind of work for free? Gimme a break.

Angela Wright said:☕Are you talking about that part where if they lose the lawsuit, they end up owing their attorney something like a third of their house value?☕

I just hope you run into an IRS agent who actually knows how to do their job properly, honey.
Good luck!

☕Are you referring to that part where she’d have to pay her attorney an additional amount if she loses the lawsuit—something like a third of the value of her business premises to cover his fees for running things for, say, five years?☕

So, he's actually going to pay her for screwing up? And that’s even assuming she actually bothered to read the solution she was given all the way to the end? That would be great. It would be fair. But let's be real—it's just not going to happen.

Hey, look, you might want to take a second to actually read what electricpilot29 wrote up there before you jump to any conclusions.
Find yourself an attorney who actually knows how to handle a case like yours, take the lead on resolving it, and then pay their fees.
Or.
Option B: Just decide not to pay. Don't bother following the logic in the previous post. Instead, just rely on some lawyer friends who haven't even looked at your case files—the kind who just spout nonsense over coffee while using the local zoo as an excuse to grab a latte.

lol Arthur Barnes, it’s not like I don't know how or if I can even pay back 😉
I was just sharing my observation on how you can end up getting dragged into pointless arguments or explanations with certain people when you really don't need that kind of drama in your life at all. 😉

People like that usually feel like they have some sort of divine right to chime in.
And unfortunately, I guess their numbers are only going up.

jimmy jazz said:🤣 I don't know if you notice... probably not. But how are you any different from the person you're currently spitting on? 😁

Here is a textbook example of projection, 😁
trying to pin our own flaws onto others.

I’m not twelve years old. I am perfectly capable of understanding nuance without having to break everything down into these simplistic, childish factors.

The point is, I didn't react back then because I didn't feel the need to tell her she was an insecure jerk. It wasn't my job to say it.
It’s the same thing with people pointing out someone’s body type—like telling someone they have small breasts or too much ass—unless specifically asked for an opinion. Anyone can spout that kind of nonsense. People do it all the time, acting like they have the right to shove someone else's "flaws" in their face just to look cool in front of the crowd at a bar.

Just because I think those types of people are insecure idiots doesn't mean I'm the same as them.
I am a critical person, I guess, but mostly I direct that toward myself and the people who actually ask for it.

Lately, I’ve been getting increasingly irritated by people who don't just feel the need to lecture others on topics they clearly know nothing about—which, fine, I can live with—but also feel entitled to take shots at people personally.

For instance, a friend of mine mentioned she’s moving into her own place soon. She’s more of an acquaintance than a close friend, but she felt the need to loudly announce, in front of a group, how unnecessary it is for a single woman to have a 1,000-square-foot apartment. Like, why on earth does anyone care how much space she has? Honestly, it just reeks of insecurity. It seems to me like some people hate themselves and the world so much that they wish they could change their entire lives, but instead of actually getting off their butts and doing something about it, they just compensate by talking trash about everyone else.

I’ve met quite a few Russians while attending language schools abroad, and honestly, I have nothing but good things to say...
We share a similar mindset—that specific sense of humor, the constant joking around, and a shared appreciation for a good drink.👍