I can't quite recall which specific college course this was—it feels like a lifetime ago—but I remember vividly discussing how serious physical ailments are almost always preceded by psychological shifts; they don't necessarily cause the illness, but act as its precursor.
..God works in mysterious ways.. I honestly don't think anyone besides Him knows what's coming next.. We all have a tendency to jump to the worst-case scenario, but the reality is that those fears rarely actually materialize.. We're keeping our fingers crossed for you; things always seem to work out in your favor in the end.
briskbison27 said:Spot on. I spend my whole life getting everything ready—the perfect outfit, the mood, the whole nine yards—only for her to show up once a month and completely kill the vibe. It’s just constant chaos.😵 😵 🙂
Then you can just cut her loose. Someone who shows up once a month is too much of a headache to actually be considered a real friend. I have plenty of people like that in my life, but I can only tolerate them once or twice a month, and even then, only if they bring along some well-behaved kids for mine to play with. A true, one-of-a-kind friend is someone who shows up on their own terms, whether we're laughing our heads off or I'm crying on her shoulder. This one you're talking about? She isn't worth the effort.
Taylor Campbell4;7236122 said:Seeing a friend in person is a hundred times better than just hanging out online—that’s my take. 🙂
Obviously, an in-person connection beats digital interaction every single time... but what I was getting at before was just nonsense, pure fluff, whatever you want to call it. It seems to me, utterly that she just wanted to chat about some trivial little things today. You know how those Saturday nights go, and if you two end up talking until you're exhausted about your deep, soulful connections—how far she's willing to dive into those depths with you—then maybe we can get back to having some actual, vivid conversations again...
briskgull27 said:A really close friend just told me that listening to me talk about my illness is actually depressing for her, and she’d much rather we just chat about makeup instead. What do you all think about that from a healthy perspective?😁 😁
...maybe we could draw a parallel here to the fact that men are more likely to head out to those greasy steakhouse buffets... just pigs and cattle looking for a feed... honestly, honey, you are absolutely revolting.
briskgull27 said:I wouldn't say I've turned into a complete hermit, though. I keep my phone on me just in case, and I might give someone a call once a week. It's really not that big of a deal. I am curious about one thing: Is it true that people dealing with schizophrenia manage to hold down normal jobs just like everyone else? How do they pull that off while managing all their medication?
I honestly don't know... I'd love to hear from someone else because I'm wondering the same thing. You can be an extrovert at heart without needing a massive cell phone bill to prove it. Besides, whenever my anxiety about cancer or heart disease finally starts to subside, my mind immediately pivots to being convinced I definitely have schizophrenia. Then my brain convinces me that this horrible illness always manifests by age 25... but what if my mind is lying to me?😲 I'm heading to bed...
Because they're just "good loners"... supposedly... I haven't the slightest clue... why don't you go pester a therapist into scheduling group sessions for you? Maybe then you could explain to the rest of us how you've managed to remain such a social creature. I seem to have forgotten where we live—that kind of logic might pass in America or on Mars, but certainly not here.
briskgull27 said:Honestly, why doesn't anyone call you out on these tall tales? I actually work alongside one crazy individual who constantly tries to pull this kind of stuff on me. It’s something I hear all the time, and it really makes me wonder: how do people manage to stay on their meds for years and still function like perfectly normal human beings??????
briskgull27 said:I usually get a few compliments here if I'm navigating the forum smoothly—everything seems to be going great on my end.
Dude went to McDonald's and asked me: "Want to come along?" So I pictured the whole trip and told him: "I can't." He was like: "I don't get it," And I said: "I'm scared to go because I'm not exactly a genius sister." So George and dude just headed out, leaving me at home waiting for my homemade fries.
I suggest outoftheblue—since she’s such a psychological pro—post a formal research paper titled "The Total Preservation of Social Mechanisms During Ten Years of Treating Schizophrenia." Or, to put it simply, if she actually pulled it off, she should teach the rest of you how it's done... I truly believe character is something even an F20 diagnosis can't destroy😈 ...I wonder what Del Boy would say about that🙏... "only the bold prevail, my dear"... anyway, I'm rambling... I know an MD who is as wicked as they come😈 ,but I couldn't care less about the DG, it's irrelevant..
briskgull27 said:So, I actually received some compliments recently: someone told me they were proud of me, that they saw my attitude as a strength, and even suggested that being a self-assured woman isn't necessarily narcissism. 😂 😂 😂
Truth be told, I didn't even head out to McDonald's with my brother because I was just feeling totally under the weather. 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣
Anyway, if there are any other crazy people out there, come say hi—otherwise, I guess I'm taking over this whole thread!
I'm a bit slow on the uptake here, so I don't quite get the McDonald's thing... are we all about to lose our minds?
briskgull27 said:Well, while spiraling into depression, I actually stumbled upon this. My goal isn't necessarily to hog the spotlight—trust me, I’m having a blast here—but rather to highlight the fact that schizophrenia only affects about 1-2% of the global population. And yet, every single one of my friends and acquaintances tells me I should just keep my struggles quiet because people will judge me if they find out.😠 😠 😠 😠
That’s basically how it works with all mental health issues; in some ways, keeping it under wraps is fine... I honestly thought you were being a narcissist for a second there, but then again, whatever, I'm on two different meds anyway... though briskgull27 is quite the breath of fresh air... yeah, it's not just that I love life, I'd damn well control everything if I could, but when it comes to ICD-10 Chapters, everyone loses control... that completely ruins my whole concept... just kidding... sort of... I truly hope you face as few hospitalizations as possible... what a ridiculous word that is...
It’s garbage, honestly, but I’d still take it over being stuck in that hellhole between ICD-10 Chapters C00-D48... at least I wouldn't be there... pathetic.
In a sense, we’re both right, though if I’m being perfectly honest—and I say that without any false modesty—I consider myself a parent-first mentor who has achieved remarkable success, and I make it my mission to pass that wisdom on to those who need it. It really boils down to having a little bit of goodwill and selflessness, rather than a genuine shortage of time or money... though I certainly respect the fact that we can't all be cut from the same cloth.
I never even suggested that being a parent shouldn't come before being a friend—that’s just common sense, isn't it? But I will say, based on everything I've seen, that you can only build a truly meaningful, high-quality connection once the PARENT TRANSITIONS INTO A FRIEND. Dealing with the endless stream of rigid, authoritarian parents compared to those who take the opposite approach gives me all the proof I need to see which style actually works! My advice? Be a parent and a guide, sure, but for heaven's sake, don't forget to be a friend to your child. What is the actual point or beauty of parenthood if you aren't actually bonding with them? If your only goal is to act as an instructor, then you're just working a job, nothing more.