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Betty Harris15 said:5'11. lol
Betty Harris15 said:How tall are you?
Betty Harris15 said:either way, you still weigh more than me lol.
Kevin Nguyen5 said:That is just so typical. If you don't want to follow their exact blueprint, you're suddenly "not normal." I guess I could have saved myself a lot of heartache if I'd just realized earlier on that it was perfectly okay to be different...
Benjamin Grant6 said:My parents made certain mistakes with my brother and me; we didn't even have to cry to get what we wanted, because there was always a cookie, a piece of chocolate, or some ice cream nearby... 😢 For much of our lives, we were raised to believe that breakfast, lunch, or dinner wasn't complete without something sweet, because we were taught to "scavenge" for treats while waiting for the main meal...
I have managed to distance myself from sugar somewhat, though certainly not entirely, as I found myself eating half a Kinder Bueno just this morning. A year and a half ago, I would have polished the whole thing off, followed by ice cream, perhaps a large chocolate bar, or even a whole pack of cookies. When my doctor informed me there was a high probability I would develop diabetes, I felt as though my world was collapsing... after all, how does one find a way to quit the very thing that sustains your happiness?
I made a clean break almost overnight. I didn't keep a log, even though that is actually a very effective method for self-reflection and awareness. I told myself I would try to go four days without any sugar, then seven, eventually setting a limit of ten days. This meant that after ten days, I could permit myself, say, one chocolate bar or some biscuits. This period of discipline lasted several months and required constant vigilance, as the temptations in the aisles were relentless. Nowadays, when I walk into a store, I might think about grabbing a bite, but instead of reaching for chocolate, I opt for almonds, cashews, or fruit... occasionally I'll treat myself to a juice, as I’ve successfully managed to move away from those as well...
The reality is that sugar triggers a sense of mild euphoria that is often missing when we feel stressed or anxious. Back when I used to head to campus in Chicago and tell my best friend how depressed the city made me feel, they would always respond with, "Just make some pasta, eat some chocolate..." However, one can also hop on a bicycle and allow oneself to be flooded with a wonderful surge of energy that provides a satisfaction quite similar to eating chocolate. Or perhaps running? My current tactic for dealing with melancholy is to put on my sneakers and run for at least one minute longer than I did the previous day...
One must set a goal! That goal should be the individual themselves and their own internal satisfaction, which may happen to be accompanied by improved physical appearance. A diet, strictly defined, cannot function if specific habits are constantly undermining it. A diet can only succeed if it becomes a lifestyle—a decision to eat healthier, punctuated by the occasional, measured reward...
Morgan Martin5 said:Starving yourself just leads to that crash you’re talking about, and then you end up overeating anyway. It's a cycle. Honestly? Just eat a little bit of everything—like, seriously, just a couple of bites—but do it throughout the day. You won't tank your calorie count, and you won't deal with those sugar crashes that send you on a frantic hunt for sweets. Much better. 😁
I eat like a bird most days, just hitting those tiny little meals constantly. You spend the whole day feeling full, yet somehow you end up eating way less than when I was actually trying to follow some strict diet. How does that even happen? 🙂
Look, if you actually stick to it—like, if you stay hydrated and get moving for at least an hour a day (honestly, no fad diet is ever gonna outrun a solid workout)—you can basically eat whatever the hell you want.
wearycobra252 said:First off, major props to your friend.👍 Second thing, though—your friend hit a stage where he was so heavy he couldn't move. That means he was pretty far gone, and something definitely led him to that point. It wasn't just "eating kale." When you lose the ability to live a normal life, that's usually a massive wake-up call that forces a change. And before he got there, he was likely miserable being that size, probably dealing with judgment from people like you who looked at him like some kind of spectacle. So many overweight people are trying. They stumble, they lose their way, or maybe they just haven't hit that breaking point where their weight makes daily life impossible yet. Are they somehow less worthy than your friend because he managed to pull through?
And where did you get the idea that everyone posting here is fat? I mean, personally, I'm not. Well, okay, I've been fighting my weight my whole life. I gain weight incredibly fast, I have a massive appetite, and food is my comfort zone. But still, I watch what I eat, I track my meals (sweets used to be my big vice, but I'm making great progress there), and I work out regularly... and despite all that, I slip up all the time. A couple of years ago, I put on ten pounds just because I let things slide—skipped the gym and my walks because college finals were piling up, and I started stress-eating. But I got back on track, and I know this battle is going to be with me forever. So, for someone like me, who's been careful since I was ten years old, who has full family support (my dad was basically a drill sergeant about it) ensuring we cook healthy meals, and who actually understands the fundamentals of nutrition and exercise... it's still incredibly hard. So how does it feel for someone who hits 30 and suddenly realizes they need a change? Someone who has a habit and an actual craving for greasy takeout and soda? That person has to overhaul their entire existence! Can you even begin to wrap your head around how difficult that is???
wearycobra252 said:Look, obesity isn't some lifestyle choice. Binge eating isn't a "choice" either. Some people struggle with these behaviors in a way that—and I say this from my own personal experience here—crosses the line straight into compulsive territory. There really isn't a massive difference in the root causes between binge eating and smoking, or addiction to drugs, or whatever else. It's all connected. People just handle their demons differently. Some find a way out by sweating through an hour at the local YMCA, and hey, good for them. Some go grab a bottle of bourbon. And others? They end up face-down in a jar of Nutella. Why is it so much easier to judge the last group instead of actually trying to understand them? We recognize almost every other type of addiction, but obesity and overeating? That's the easiest one to just write off as laziness or a lack of discipline. People act like you should just ship everyone off to the middle of the desert to starve it out and stop complaining about how hard it is, as if they aren't already doing everything they can.🙄
quietpilot87 said:You're honestly wasting your breath🤣 No point even getting into these arguments👋
quietpilot87 said:Aaron Howard27, you really think people just choose to drown themselves in junk food? 😁
I mean, they have an issue, and then they consciously decide to gorge themselves? You honestly think it’s easy for them to just say NO to themselves?
If it were that simple, we wouldn't have such a massive obesity epidemic in this country.
Unfortunately, most of the time it's a subconscious thing—works almost like having a split personality. You overeat, and then thirty minutes later you're beating yourself up, wondering how you could be so stupid.
I'd call it a straight-up addiction. If you haven't been through it, you won't get it.
Sure, you can fight it and win, but it isn't nearly as easy as you're making it sound.
Most of the time, once you start pulling at that thread, you realize you're dealing with a massive, tangled mess of problems.
Keith Jones76 said:It's pretty funny coming from someone who treats women like nothing more than sexual objects 😢—because clearly, guys like that have zero actual life. I highly doubt they've ever had a deep connection with a woman, which is a massive, massive loss in itself. 👎
Kevin Nguyen5 said:I honestly don't get why my people think I'm some kind of freak just because I value my alone time. It’s actually pretty irritating, if I'm being honest. 😢
It’s not like I hate people or anything. I enjoy hanging out, I like going out on the town... I just don't see what's weird about wanting to wander through downtown by myself, or hitting up the mall alone, or even just going for a solo skate or a run.
But I have this need for peace, I guess. There are times when I can go a few days without seeing anyone at all, and I feel perfectly fine with that. 😍
James Ramirez10 said:There’s really no need for comments like this.
Betty Harris15 said:There are plenty of reasons... a rough childhood or whatever. Most people have their own traumas they deal with, and food just happens to be my vice.
There was this one guy I worked with once. Just thinking about him now makes me feel like the pain is going to kill me.
Kate Thompson2 said:Dieting? Please. No. Look, I’m young enough to have an opinion on this, but I won't be recommending diets to anyone. Just stick to sports, get some steps in, stay active, and eat right. Don't starve yourself—that's just a recipe for disaster. Learn to actually like yourself instead of obsessing over calorie counts. 😁