Posts by darkbison15

Look, let’s keep this short and sweet: just sit down and ask yourself one damn question: What the hell do you actually want out of life? Once you finally figure out what your priorities are, then—and only then—can you actually start putting in the work to improve yourself. I know plenty of guys who don't look like they stepped off a runway, but they're constantly surrounded by incredible women and have their lives totally dialed in because they carry themselves with actual charisma. It’s not about obsessing over your reflection; women gravitate toward initiative, toward a guy who takes charge and actually has his act together, someone building a real life. Beyond that, you’ve got to start standing up for yourself. If someone comes at you with a comment, handle it properly—sometimes you might even need to get physical to show you aren't some pushover. And for God's sake, find a job. If you have to pack up and move to a place like Chicago or Austin to find something in your field where there's actual room to climb the corporate ladder, do it. In the eyes of most women, having that upward mobility makes you infinitely more valuable, and isn't that exactly what you're aiming for? Increase your value. Get out of the house, socialize more, stay informed about what's going on in the world. Don't be some loser sitting in your room all day; get out to the local spots, grab a coffee, be part of the world. Hopefully, that gives you something to chew on.

Look, I’m gonna give you some straight-up, well-meaning advice here: you need to actually start *living*. You need to get out there and let life happen to you, whatever that looks like—join a local pickup basketball league, hit up the same Starbucks or diner every single morning so you actually start recognizing faces, just get out in the world. And honestly? Find any job, even if it’s just flipping burgers or working retail at Target, just so you can stop leaning on your parents for every little thing. Once you start pulling your own weight, you’ll see how things naturally start falling into place. The most important thing is momentum, man. Just get moving. Get out of the house because staying cooped up in your room is basically a slow death sentence. Unplug the router, turn off the TV, and go interact with actual human beings instead of avatars... As far as college goes, my take is that you really need to sit down with your folks and have a heart-to-heart about it. Honestly, maybe going back to school when you're 23 is actually the smarter move. I know plenty of guys and girls who didn't roll into a university until they were 24 or 25, finished their degrees, and now they're crushing it in solid careers. They finally figured out what it means to be an adult and take responsibility for themselves. I haven't scrolled through all the previous posts yet, so if there's any other context I'm missing, let me know... Peace.