Posts by Kyle Sanders2

feralcobra92 said:Michael Diaz4, thanks for the advice, but I have absolutely no interest in sucking anyone dry just to feel better, because honestly, I’d just end up feeling sorry for myself. Once I start getting that bitter and nasty, I realize how pathetic that whole situation actually is (and I bet you feel it too, even if you're too much of a man to admit it), so there's really no point in going down that road.
I'm not out here hunting for unconditional love or total devotion either; a perfectly normal, professional relationship would be more than enough for me.
I just can't stand living this way, constantly dragging work drama home with me. When my kids try to tell me about their day at school, I find myself tuning them out and thinking, "Oh, give me a break, now they're gonna blame me for this or that too." Look, I know I might be part of the problem because I tend to be a bit too soft and struggle with my self-confidence sometimes, but this is just the reality of it. So, how do you all deal with all the absolute nonsense at your jobs?

We deal with it by jumping ship!

For me, I'm already on my fifth job in record time,
and I honestly don't see myself sticking around here until retirement.

Maybe it's just this whole mess we're all stuck in right now,
referring to the current recession-depression-mass psychosis,
or maybe it's just me.🤷

fadedheron892 said:Just bite back at the haters trying to mess with you, but stay loyal to anyone who actually treats you right. You don't owe those losers any respect until they start acting like decent human beings, so until then, treat them like dirt because they haven't earned anything else.

That’s naive. She sticks out in that company like a sore thumb!

I dealt with the exact same thing—just two or three of us with Master's degrees in a workforce of 200.

I don't think she'll stick around long. Once pride takes over,

she'll bail on that job the second a decent opportunity pops up.

Been there, done that!

crimsonviper88 said:What’s your take on average people? You know, the ones who just want a totally mundane, run-of-the-mill life? People who don't care about big thrills or massive changes. They’re just settled into their routine, comfortable with it, and don't have any desire to shake things up.

Lately, I feel like I'm constantly fighting against being mediocre. I hate it. I can't stand people who are just... passive. Honestly, I might even say I feel something close to hatred toward them.

But here’s the thing that really gets to me: I think I’m becoming one of them. I have a small circle I hang out with most—we’ve known each other since high school, maybe five or six years now. They’re my real friends, the only ones I actually care about. Everyone else is just an acquaintance. But lately, I’ve realized this core group is exactly what I described above. Passive. Unwilling to change. Afraid of taking risks or finding excitement. It irritates the hell out of me because by hanging out with them, I’m basically forced to be like them. I don't have the energy to break out of this rut on my own. I don't *want* to be ordinary. But I don't have a social circle that actually pushes me to be different—one where I can actually be myself. The version of me I actually want to be.

Look, obviously I want to keep my friends. I love them, despite our differences. But how do you stop being so dependent on them? Everyone has their own needs and wants, but if the majority wants one thing, then the minority's desires—in this case, mine—just end up pushed aside...

OK, keep writing?🙂

Donna Wood52 said:Have you ever dealt with someone like this? You know the type—the kind of person where it’s always on you to reach out first, to check in, to ask how their week was or what’s new...

For instance, you’re the one initiating the calls and keeping the conversation going—doing it several times, actually—and then you eventually hit a wall and think, "Alright, I'm done calling; let's see if they even bother to pick up the phone or reach out once I stop." And then? Silence. Forever.

What’s your take on this behavior? Does it drive you absolutely crazy, or am I just being overly sensitive?

usually, people with less value tend to mess with those who have more,😳

I'm talking about the balance of value that gets established

in any friendship or relationship, right at the very beginning

because that's just how it's always been, whether we like admitting it or not,

in every single connection, there's one person who is more dominant

and that friend you reached out to a bunch of times, only for them to

ghost you later, they probably weren't even a friend to begin with.

they were just an acquaintance you wanted to turn into a friend

or maybe something more, which they clearly didn't want to be!!!!☕🙂

Donna Wood52 said:Emptiness, sheer pretension.

can you define these two terms, please?🙄