Posts by Jessica Ramirez

James Anderson8 said:I have found myself increasingly agitated by several things lately:

1. That specific, rather absurd question people love to ask: "Oh, is the baby alive now?" 🤣
It’s quite obvious they’re just asking because they can finally feel the movement—but goodness, the baby has been alive from the very start, not just since week 20 when we actually begin to notice those little kicks! The heart is already beating away like there's no tomorrow!!!!

2. I received the exact same reaction from both my mother and my mother-in-law: whenever I tried to share my excitement about the latest ultrasound results, they both immediately chimed in with, "Don't go to the ultrasound too often, it's harmful, blah blah blah..." 🤣 Honestly, some people never change, do they?

3. Then there was the moment I made the massive mistake of telling my mother-in-law how excited we were to be looking at cribs and strollers. Her grand conclusion? That we shouldn't buy a single thing until after the baby is born. She even suggested she would buy the crib for my husband's mother while I'm stuck in the hospital (!! Excuse me? Without me present?), and if she doesn't get around to it, the baby might just have to sleep on a pillow or in a basket for a few days 🤣 Well, absolutely not if it's my baby!
I have certainly learned my lesson and am now being extremely selective about what information I share with them!

I posted this on another forum a while back too... That question seriously gets under my skin. 😲

Noah Ramirez7 said:Ugh, my sister is seriously driving me up the wall... I honestly can’t believe how dense she is, though actually, maybe it’s not her being stupid, it’s just me for letting her get away with this stuff. Anyway, she’s pregnant—which, let’s be real, basically everyone is for those nine months—and during this whole stretch, she went out and bought these fake little baby tights for $4.00... unbelievable... seriously... total trash. Then last week she calls me up asking if we can lend her $100 because she apparently got a lien put on her house over some unpaid Avon bill! And of course, this triggered this massive blowout between me and my husband because, surprise surprise, she blew all the money she got from her girlfriends and now she's broke and expects us to bail her out, even though I don't need the cash... it feels dirty or something, you know? Plus, I don't need to buy anything for the baby yet; things just kind of show up when they need to, or am I supposed to just wait until the baby arrives and then what? 🤷 Wrap the kid in a bedsheet?? 😠 And look, it wouldn't even be such a huge deal if she hadn't sat there at my in-laws' place on Sunday bragging about how her hair stylist is coming over on Wednesday to cut and color her hair. My mind immediately went to "oh, she's using my money for that," obviously. So I bring it up to my husband later and he, the idiot, goes, "Who cares what she spends it on, she said she'll pay it back by the end of the month." He's said that a hundred times before and it never happens, but there I am, getting worked up and looking like a fool again. Then, get this, she calls me yesterday morning to say she gave birth (four days early!) and asks if I can lend her diapers and some other supplies because she "didn't have time" to go shopping. Well, newsflash: I won't need anything until the baby is three months old, so she can just give them back to me when I actually need them, right? Eeeeeeeeeeee, I finally just snapped. This is my first baby and I want everything to be brand new for him, especially cloth diapers... I don't want someone handing me back used crap. Everything I've bought, I picked out with so much love and care for my little guy. Then last night my husband talks to her and she tells him that I told her I'd bring the stuff over, so he passes the message along to me. And I'm like, seriously? Am I some kind of joke or is it written on my forehead? Did she really not realize she was pregnant for these nine months? Or that she actually needs stuff for a baby? And he's just like, "I don't know, what did you two agree on?" I told him I should just call 988 and talk to a professional about this mess. I mean, seriously... so I finally just lost it and told him, fine, I'll go buy the diapers, but she can forget about anything else. And those $100 for under the baby's head? Forget it. I am so done with everyone pulling my leg from every single direction. On top of that, I'm such an idiot asking my niece a few days ago if I could have her stroller since the little one hasn't slept in it for two months, simply because my sister isn't capable of buying one herself! But she has money for everything else—makeup, hair, clothes, whatever—but for the baby? Nothing. Well, guess what, I don't have it either, and even if I did, I'm not giving it. Not to mention his parents are the exact same way. Like I'm some kind of Federal Reserve where anyone can just take whatever they need. Well, here's a tip for all of you: :2up: I am officially done letting people screw with my head.

No way she’d ever lend her anything to someone like that... What an absolute nerve.😠

Looking back at these last 36 weeks, there’s really only one thing that’s driven me absolutely insane:

- When we announced the pregnancy, all I heard was: "Oh my god, why wait so little time? It's going to be such a nightmare, you'll be exhausted..." blah blah blah... Even complete strangers on the street would start making comments once they noticed my bump.
Yeah, okay, the gap is small (16 months), but it was our choice. Why is that anyone else's business?!

- And then the question: "Is the baby alive yet?" That just makes me 🙂
Especially when a friend of mine—who literally just gave birth herself a few months ago—had the nerve to ask me that. 😱
Like, hello? The baby has been alive since the beginning, not just since I started feeling the kicks!!!

This rain is driving me insane😠 I can't get out for anything, and now I've just got piles of junk cluttering up my apartment😠

It’s so annoying having to go get my blood type checked all over again. 🙂
I did this last year right before my first baby was born, but now I’m back at it. What, like my blood type just magically changed since last year? 😍

Lawrence Hughes66 said:I remember back when I was four months pregnant, someone actually had the nerve to ask me, "So, did it come back to life?"😱😱😱

Even my friend brought this up once. So what if it’s a mother-in-law or some grandma? Who cares? If the girl is just a little younger than me, she'd figure it out. 😱
Now she’s pregnant too. She actually told me once, "The baby came back to life," and I was just like, wtf? Like, the baby is alive. Was she talking about feeling movement or something?
Whatever. I still don't get it. 🙄

vividhawk87 said:It honestly drives me crazy how my sister-in-law—who’s actually younger than me by just six weeks—gets all the attention during her pregnancy. Every time they post an update, everyone goes "wow," but when I try to share something, it's just a lukewarm "oh, okay." Like, the other day I told them I finally felt the baby kick, and instead of a "that's amazing!" or "I'm so happy for you!", she just immediately pivoted to talking about how her little one is constantly moving around. It’s like my milestones don't even count.

My skin gets so dry after a shower, but I've been using Vaseline, and it works wonders; I feel so soft and smooth afterward.
And don't even get me started on stretch marks. They drive me absolutely insane—no matter how much lotion I apply, they just keep appearing!

Oh, please. 😢
Maybe you shouldn't say anything at all?! I didn't tell a single soul in my family about the first time, and I still don't say much unless they specifically ask. I'd much rather just keep that stuff between me and my husband.

Edward Williams8 said:The younger the mom, the stupider the advice. Is he back on his feet? It’s all man, it’s heartburn—it’s got nothing to do with you. Why didn't you go in for all the tests? You aren't actually going to wait until you're in labor to see a doctor? You just don't care about what you eat. Let's grab coffee. Your life is basically over in two months... My mother-in-law is out here asking me if I'm "normal" for buying things before the baby arrives, claiming it brings bad luck... WTF???? And then when I tell them we decided not to find out the gender, everyone immediately jumps in with: "Oh, it's definitely a girl!!!"

😲

Quincy:

Kate Cox2 Who says? My buddy told me she saw some women at a hospital out in California crying because they couldn't go home. Their husbands and mothers-in-law won't even let them through the front door. What kind of people do that? Another girl born.

Sadly, it's true.

I'm from California, and my parents come from deep in Florida. They tell me back then, it was totally common for husbands to refuse to let their wives into the house if they were having girls. Women actually ended up sleeping in barns and all sorts of stuff. 😠

Ali, there are still people like that today. A relative's husband mentioned some guy he knows who had four daughters—I think—and when his wife got pregnant for the fifth time, the ultrasound showed it was a boy. That guy was over the moon! But no, it was a girl. He said the man had a complete nervous breakdown.

What keeps me going is that it seems like there's less of this than before. I honestly think the younger generations don't care nearly as much about whether it's a boy or a girl.

goldencyclist8 said:Hello everyone.

I find myself in quite a difficult situation and would appreciate any advice you can offer.
To provide some context, I was on Yasmin for four years. I stopped taking them on March 8, 2010, and my cycle returned on April 5, followed by May 7. However, on June 1st or 2nd, a condom failed, which is a significant concern since my period hasn't arrived yet. I took a pregnancy test yesterday morning and it showed only one line—meaning negative—but I am still feeling very anxious and worried. What should my next steps be? Should I wait a few more days before testing again? I would value your thoughts on this. Please help.

Wait a day or two and retest. If you're too anxious to wait, just do it now. Better than stressing out.