Posts by coastalowl212

Just don't cave—do what you planned, otherwise you're looking at daily crying sessions in your room as a form of blackmail.

Peter Doyle2, this is seriously wild—I totally get why you're so frustrated! 🙄

I'm actually pretty annoyed at myself for getting sucked into a debate yesterday about which hospital I should go to for delivery, all with some guy I’ve only met three times in my life. 😠
Of course, he thinks he knows better just because he spent four hours at the hospital with his wife during her labor—meanwhile, this is my first time! 🙂

I’m totally with Frank on this one.

Also, I don't think it's fair to judge everything by your own standards—saying someone's pregnancy test results aren't valuable without ever having actually gone through the process yourself.

It really matters, especially for someone who might wake up one day to an infertility diagnosis. You start digging through the MPO threads, find someone with a similar situation, follow their journey through all the ups and downs of the treatment, what kind of stimulation they got, comparing everything... and in the end, you see nothing—no results, no positive tests, nothing—because apparently those are just "useless" data points lost in some old thread.

For those of us who have been through MPO, being able to compare experiences is huge. And honestly, cheering for a positive test after an MPO cycle feels a little different—no offense—than it does for women who are just trying naturally for a month or two.🤷

Personally, it was a lifesaver when I ran into an unexpected issue right in the middle of my cycle and received so much support and advice, both publicly and in private messages. Someone on the outside might dismiss my questions as just "chat," but it means everything.😉

Sean Long4 said:I might just throw my two cents in here... Honestly, I have my doubts about whether MAGA actually meant everything they wrote to their godmother, but when emotions run high, people tend to say things they don't really mean.

It’s the same for me—I wasn't exactly losing my mind at my mother-in-law this morning, but yesterday? I felt like I could have ripped her head off. So, yeah... sometimes your fingers move a lot faster than your actual thoughts.

I'm with you on that.
She wrote what she wrote, but whether she truly meant it—well, that's between her and God.

I'm pretty sensitive about this kind of stuff, so I definitely have a right to be annoyed by a comment like that.

Jason Lee2 said:My godmother really got on my nerves last night... It’s not my fault her marriage is hitting the rocks. And it's certainly not my fault her husband was all over me. She spent the whole evening in a foul mood because of it, then had the audacity to tell me I’m going to gain 20 pounds by the end of this pregnancy. Honestly, screw her and her 20 pounds. Even while pregnant, I weigh less than she does, and I look better after a month of barely leaving the couch than she does after hitting the gym every single day! :2up:
I'm pissed—but I just want to see how she handles it when she's stuck on bed rest for three months with nothing to do but go from the bed to the bathroom. Then we'll see if she gains 2 pounds or 10. :2up:

Well, you definitely sound a bit cranky! 🙄

OT:
It really bugs me when a woman—especially one who's pregnant herself—can say something like that to someone else, particularly with all that talk about weight gain. 🙄

electricpilot4, just imagine all these comments—plus the fact that you can't even have kids without IVF! 🙄

I'm telling you though, you'll probably be back on this thread soon enough. Once you're visibly pregnant in a week or so, everyone will jump back in to give unsolicited advice, comment on how you look or how big your belly is, and start sharing their own birth horror stories—not to mention the people who act shocked if you don't want to know the gender or if you keep your baby's name private!

Man, for some reason, pregnancy just becomes public property!

Jonathan Grant2 said:Are you even sure they actually changed the recipe? It might just be that your taste buds are acting up today.🤣

I really need to follow up on my posts from yesterday, because man, those servers were driving me crazy... I had a little chat with them and it felt like we finally clicked, which led to one guy asking me at ten last night if he could just wrap things up early so he could head out to a party with his wife.🙄
Guess what, I told him he absolutely could.🤦

But then this morning, the mailman totally paid the price because I took all my frustrations out on him... though, to be fair, he kind of earned it. This absolute idiot rolls up on his moped, too lazy to even get off the thing to open the gate, so he just slams into it with all his weight until it pops open, and then—of course—he doesn't even bother to close it behind him.😠
That’s when my dogs see their chance and bolt toward a crowded beach. I scramble to round them up, shut the gate, and tell him, "Hey, close the door behind you!!!!"
And what does he do? He slams it again and leaves it WIDE OPEN!!!! 😠
So naturally, I chased after him, running alongside his moped, screaming that he is the biggest moron on this entire island and that next time I'm letting the dogs loose on him so they can tear him apart!
If I ever see him again, I swear! What an idiot!

Trust me, 😉, I’ve been drinking Starbucks every single day since I found out I was pregnant because it’s the only thing that hits the spot—even though I wasn't really a coffee person before—and I opened a new bag yesterday and totally noticed it. 🙄

I still have a little bit of the old stuff left, so I compared them today, and there’s definitely a new scent. Even my husband—who isn't pregnant—noticed it too!

Just take care of yourself, okay? Set some clear boundaries and don't do anything that puts you or the baby at risk. If waiters and mail carriers can deal with being photographed, you can too. 🙂

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Sarah Adams3 said:A lot of things really threw me off balance...
what really got under my skin was seeing my husband kissing his ex-girlfriend's stomach because she’s pregnant just like I am, and he was acting all sentimental and sweet toward her.
He was just beaming with smiles, and honestly, I felt physically sick. Eventually, I just lost it and started screaming at the top of my lungs—calling him trash, saying he was disgusting—it just completely rattled me.
I actually woke up feeling that angry.😂😂
So, I just went ahead and told him exactly how I felt while I was still fuming.😁

🤣🤣🤣

It kind of bugs me—they changed something over at Tropicana, and now it has this totally different scent! 😠😠😠

Sarah Adams3 said:My gut just went crazy! 😍
I’ve honestly never really felt any movement from my intestines or whatever, but I felt this little tap immediately, and then it just kept thumping.
And today... it feels like there's some tiny little witch inside losing her mind or something, she just keeps hitting and hitting.

I was so busy waiting for those famous "butterflies" everyone talks about 🙄, so I just brushed off the thumping feeling. 🙈
I honestly just thought it was gas. 😬

I was honestly losing my mind thinking all that movement was just my digestion making it impossible to feel the baby 🙄, until I actually saw it on an ultrasound—watching my "gut" literally punch me back. 🤣

And yeah, that was exactly what I thought were just gas pains and digestive issues. 🤦

Those endless baby checklists are seriously getting on my nerves.
I feel like a complete amateur—I don't even recognize half the stuff on there. 🙈
Like, I actually had to Google what a cloth diaper was just to make sense of things. 🤷
And it’s so frustrating that every single item on these lists has its own massive, 290-page thread, with the very first post dating all the way back to 2003. 😠

Jason Lee2 said:It's definitely my gut. And it’s driving me crazy. I've been lying around with terrible digestion, trying everything to fix it. I had a handful of dried apricots this morning, and now my stomach feels like it's boiling over.

Yeah, it's still way too early for you!
I get this weird sensation sometimes myself—though I can't say for sure if it's actually happening. 🤷
🙂

Rebecca Vaughn7 said:It’s driving me absolutely insane that I can't feel the baby yet.

I know, I know—it's still early. It's my first pregnancy, the placenta is anterior, and I've got a pretty thick abdominal wall... but I just want to feel those little kicks. 😢

I’m just frustrated because I can never tell if it’s actually the baby moving or just my digestive system acting up. 😢 :not_sure: 😬

A killer headache.
And I can't even take anything effective to help! 🙂

Anthony Watson35 said:Explaining things is great—I'm always all for it. But how much of that actually sticks with the people you're talking to? That's the real question.
You see it all over this forum—people arguing about whether a 7-month-old needs ham; that crazy grandma who made scrambled eggs for a grandson with an egg allergy just "to get him used to it"; or the crowd of idiots who act like allergies are some kind of myth or fake illness... you name it.
There’s a huge difference between something that actually puts a baby's life at risk—like crossing the street without looking or that madness with the egg allergy—and just thinking we shouldn't give them snacks when Grandma and Grandpa decide to sneak some in anyway.
That second part isn't dangerous (assuming there's no allergy, right?), it's just incredibly annoying.
Not every future grandparent is going to be some saint—perfectly reasonable and easy to talk to—so explaining everything won't always be that simple. 🙄

If it's about someone being totally out of line, don't stress—just don't leave your kid with those types, even if they are the grandparents.
But if they're just being "know-it-alls" and doing their own thing without any actual danger involved, then yeah, I agree—that's just a test of patience. 🙄

OT: My own pregnancy paranoia is driving me crazy. 😠

Sean Long4 said:It honestly drives me up the wall when I’m working at the clinic. You get these guys coming in to pick up their lab results, and then the nurse will clearly announce, "Pregnant patients, please head to window three; everyone else, please use window two." Immediately, you’ll have two or three people who suddenly think they’re experts on queue management, stepping right in front of everyone else to cut the line at window three. It's such an unnecessary headache.

It’s the same type of people you see on the subway—those ones who refuse to move an inch even when they see someone struggling with a heavy bag or trying to squeeze through a crowded car. They see you're stuck, they see you can't get past, and yet they won't budge for anything in this world.

Right at the start of my pregnancy, some lady in line one actually grabbed my sleeve to tell me not to cut ahead "because everyone else is waiting." 🙄
And once I told her I was heading to the maternity desk, she actually tried to eyeball my stomach to see if I was telling the truth—though, honestly, I wasn't exactly showing much at six weeks...🙄

Jason Lee2 said:I honestly can't decide what's more irritating: listening to a man lecture me—someone who will never deal with morning sickness, stretch marks, swollen ankles, or getting kicked in the kidneys by a baby, let alone actually giving birth—or hearing it from another woman. You’d think women would at least have a shred of empathy.
It's funny how people don't know what they're talking about until they've lived it. I've heard the most condescending comments about debilitating period cramps from other women who probably didn't even realize how lucky they were to avoid them in the first place.

My father-in-law thinks he's the smartest man in the universe—so naturally, he thinks he’s a total pro on pregnancy, too! 😂

It seems like there are plenty of women who just can't wrap their heads around the fact that everyone's experience is different. It drives me crazy when my girlfriends try to tell me what my doctor is going to say during my ultrasound or which week we'll see certain things. Honestly, why pay a specialist when I can just buy them a coffee and get all my questions answered? 🙄
One friend was actually shocked that I wasn't craving soda, because apparently *every* pregnant woman drinks it—which was pretty funny considering plain water was already making me feel like I needed to burp constantly. 😵

Jason Lee2 said:I still haven't gotten over what she said last time. My hips are absolutely wrecked from an 80cm pelvis, and after standing on my feet all day at work, I'm practically in tears from the pain. Instead of helping, she starts lecturing me about how "it's all in my head," bragging about how she was out gardening during her pregnancy and eating nothing but charcoal before giving birth. I just tuned her out. I can barely even sit down in my sixth week because my hips and pelvis hurt so much. A little empathy would go a long way; we aren't all built out of solid steel.

Yeah, my father-in-law told me the exact same thing while I was losing my mind vomiting multiple times a day—that it was "all in my head" and I just had to decide to stop doing it. :2up:

Jason Lee2 said:It doesn't even have to be a grandmother. I hear people talking about their mothers-in-law having two healthy sons, too.
Maybe I should just stay quiet.

What really gets under my skin is when people use those broad generalizations like, "our grandmas used to..." 🙄

I mean, let's just ignore the last 60 years of progress—and setbacks—for a second... 🙄

My mother-in-law is actually great about this stuff—she’ll literally say, "Look, I did some things, but I didn't do others because I was young or just didn't know any better, and there wasn't anyone around to teach me."

It honestly drives me crazy when people start pregnancy discussions with "Well, my grandma used to..." or "Our ancestors didn't have..." as if that somehow proves a point about health.

😈