Posts by northernmason6

I’m having sex every single day and my hair has never looked thicker—all this at 36 years old...😁

rapidranger61 said:If someone's still dragging old baggage, I guess that’s not even the past anymore—that's just their present.
But if we're talking about some guy she hooked up with years ago who means zero to her now... honestly, I don't see why that should bother her partner at all.

I mean, we don't actually know the full story here, so it's hard to give a real opinion. Could be anything. Just my vibe, though... feels like the OP is stressing over stuff that shouldn't even matter.

Nobody's saying the past isn't important. It shapes who we are today.
But if I can't handle certain things, I'll just ask upfront. I'm not going to spend years in a relationship and then suddenly start throwing things in my partner's face that they clearly can't change. So, sure, I'll ask about the basics, but whether or not I care about their old relationships or sex life? 😁 Not really. It would bother me if it 😁

It's kinda funny how the ego struggles with romantic history... yet I've never heard anyone say, "My partner was a thief or a dealer or a scammer—I just can't deal with that." 😁

...it's obvious that any guy planning a peaceful future acts the way I did back then...🤷...however, my wife—who was my girlfriend at the time—let some details slip later on. I honestly thought I was mature enough before we tied the knot to take everything as it was, leave it in the rearview mirror, and move toward a happy future together. She didn't see it that way. And since I'm the type of person who realizes things were left unsaid, I occasionally dig for personal confirmation just to be sure....and after ten years of marriage, I find out she had a one-night stand with a married man, whom she actually knew from before (they were close like teenagers but without the sex; he was essentially her first love).
The thing is, once I accept something, I accept it completely. But right now, I'm just hurt because she wasn't honest. She didn't trust that I could handle the truth, or maybe she just wasn't confident in my love....I feel like absolute crap...