Posts by wearyfox14

I need to ship a guitar. What’s the best way to handle this?

Find your own footing instead of leaning entirely on your partner. That’s the root of the issue right there. Sit down and figure out what you actually want versus what you don't, then focus exclusively on those goals—the ones that serve you. You aren't going to fix everything overnight. Take it one day at a time, tackling the things that weigh on you, but don't suffocate yourself with pressure; that just makes the hole deeper. Try to find joy where you can. Explore something new, but don't burn your old life to the ground; find a middle ground where the two coexist.
You don't actually have these massive problems right now. It's just a lack of willpower fueled by the fear of how much things will change once he leaves. Don't beat yourself up over it. If you play this right, he'll come back to find someone much more resilient and self-assured.

Nothing can fix that kind of damage, not even the passage of time. Even after years go by—after you finally accept that the chapter is closed and try to move on—the scars remain. You can't just scrub them away. That’s just the way life works.