Posts by Alex Thomas6

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Getting rid of Bajs will be easy, but how do we deal with Bago? in Close to Politics · Jan 15, 2008

dustyscout53 said:Des Moines is gonna lead us straight into Europe. Honestly, who knew we shouldn't have waited this long to put someone from Des Moines in the Administration? We would’ve been part of the global scene ages ago.

But seriously—all jokes aside—that weird little local chauvinism directed at Bajs really bugs me. It’s like people think he doesn't meet some genetic requirement to be the Secretary of Commerce. As if the main qualification should just be being born in Florida or California.

Look, guys, let’s face the music here—if people from Florida or California actually knew what they were doing, our tourism industry wouldn't be where it is today... it might even be a bit better.

What does a guy from Florida know about the ocean? He probably thinks it's just one giant toilet for when he needs to go, for crying out loud.

You know that old saying—Florida would be great if it weren't for all those Floridians...

Oops—was that the same kind of local chauvinism I was just complaining about the journalists for?

😁 😁 🙂

Outsiders shouldn't be running the tourism department, and honestly, maybe they shouldn't even show up at the coast as tourists because they just cause chaos.
If your grandmother didn't spend her life renting out beach houses, and instead sent you to sleep in some rustic roadside inn for two months every summer, you can't claim to understand the tourism business...
If you're from the Midwest instead of the coast, it means you've spent your whole life wandering through cornfields and soy patches while those coastal types were busy training to become semi-literate journalists for the Los Angeles Times... yeah, some things are just innate. 🙄

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Can hypnosis help you get over someone? in Psychology · Jan 11, 2008

slydriver17 said:To establish a connection, you need two people, but to sever one, you require three. And I am certainly not referring to a child here.😁

It’s like a three-way breakup where two people actually want to be together, leaving the third one out in the cold. You end up with a duo, and that first person just has to face the music and realize it’s time to go solo.

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Can hypnosis help you get over someone? in Psychology · Jan 11, 2008

Zachary Mendoza2 said:Yes, I was teasing a little regarding the swinging.🙂 I agree with you that Michael Bishop8 refuses to face reality, but that is perfectly normal for people in love; I don't view it as unhealthy. Eventually, those people face reality, but it requires time and effort. Regarding the other point, I disagree; for me, love itself is a one-sided thing—it doesn't require reciprocity to exist. Relationships, however, are two-sided interactions and cannot survive if one side is missing. It is also normal for me, when in love, to want my partner all to myself, so these "let them go do whatever they want with whoever they want" variations seem strange to me. I am happy if my partner is happy, but not if her happiness comes from screwing someone else behind my back.

Of course, you can love whoever you want without them ever even finding out. No one is going to tell you that your feelings aren't real just because they aren't mutual.

That said, the guy who started this thread is clearly trying everything in his power to save his marriage. But a marriage requires two people. It’s useless to insist that it's "fine" just because he loves her and therefore "shouldn't let her go." Nobody is suggesting he should be jumping for joy because she's running off to some lover—the guy she's actually in love with—or that he should be satisfied knowing she's having sex with another guy. Of course not. But there's a massive difference between recognizing where you actually stand in a relationship and deciding whether or not that situation makes you happy. You're implying that we're talking about letting her do whatever she wants, but nobody actually suggested that.

You can love whoever you want, and it’s only human to want that person to love you back instead of chasing after someone else. But being a functional adult means facing reality and learning how to swim in it. Being "healthy" doesn't mean throwing yourself at someone's feet and turning yourself into a doormat, all while convinced that acting like a pushover will somehow make them love you or keep them around.

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Can hypnosis help you get over someone? in Psychology · Jan 11, 2008

Zachary Mendoza2 said:If a person loves his wife, it is perfectly natural that he wouldn't want to "let her" enjoy sex with another man. Are you some kind of radical swinger? If a man takes love and marriage seriously, does that make him obsessed?

You're just messing with me, right? 😂

I'm not a "swinger type," nor am I moderate, let alone "radical"!

Love is an interaction. The fundamental requirement for it to survive is that love is reciprocated—that you love and are loved in return, rather than it being one-sided... so, like—as you put it—just you loving them and THAT is why it's normal 😲not to want to let that other person enjoy themselves with someone else.

I'm simply advocating for facing reality. And it's precisely in that refusal to face reality from Michael Bishop8 that I see something unhealthy or, as I put it, obsessive.

You claim he takes marriage seriously. No, quite the opposite—he doesn't take marriage seriously at all, and certainly not maturely. If he actually viewed it with maturity and seriousness, he would stand up for his own dignity and realize what the essential condition for any relationship to survive actually is.

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Can hypnosis help you get over someone? in Psychology · Jan 11, 2008

I have to say, I think this is a bit insane.

Your wife fell for someone else, and your solution is to take her to a therapist to "un-love" him? Seriously? 😲 😲

And now you’re actually asking if hypnosis could work to make her lose those feelings?!!?? 😕 😕

I honestly can't believe this. You have some incredibly bizarre ideas here—so weird that anyone reading this is probably picturing you as the strange one, not your wife.

So, she fell for someone else. Okay... how long have you two been together? It sounds like it's been over 20 years... do you really think you're the only person in America dealing with a marriage falling apart after two decades? And where did this idea come from that her being in love is the actual "problem"? Any intense infatuation—especially when the passion is at its peak—is inherently problematic.

Her feelings for this other guy aren't some case of cosmic fate or destiny; they're a direct result of her being unsatisfied in the marriage and following an impulse to find something new.

And then there's this part—you don't want to let her just enjoy the "fun stuff," the dates and the sex with him, while the kids stay with the grandparents so she can be free to indulge. Sorry, but that doesn't sit right with me. That is completely twisted, unhealthy, and just plain crazy. What is wrong with you, man? You can't just control her like she's your pet poodle.

In my opinion, you are the one who needs some serious psychotherapy. The way you're reasoning through this is totally abnormal to me. I know you're going to claim you "just want to save the marriage"... but look at the toxic logic you're injecting into that goal ("I won't let her have sex with him"). The level of obsession here is wild!

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