Can hypnosis help you get over someone?

Does anyone have any insight, ideas, or maybe even a recommendation for someone I could talk to? I was wondering if hypnosis might actually work to help someone "unfall" in love—you know, like helping you finally move on and stop being so obsessed with a certain person.

How do you get over someone?
Do you mean just moving on because there’s zero chance, or trying to bounce back after a breakup?

I think it could help, but if you're looking for some magic fix... I wouldn't hold my breath.

Well, look, the situation is that I'm married... but my wife has fallen for someone else. It's absolutely wild... though I’m really holding onto this tiny shred of hope that there's still a spark of reason left in her, and that we might be able to salvage this marriage—even if it isn't for the sake of our kid.

I totally get that there aren't any overnight fixes for something this heavy, but at the same time... I just can't sit here and wait months on end for this feeling to pass... assuming it even does.
It's already been dragging on for five months now.

Michael Bishop8... I sent you my reply over on that other thread,
but I don't think I quite grasped what you were getting at.
Could you maybe clear things up a bit for me...?

Michael Bishop8 said:Well, look, the situation is that I'm married... but my wife has fallen for someone else. It's absolutely wild... though I’m really holding onto this tiny shred of hope that there's still a spark of reason left in her, and that we might be able to salvage this marriage—even if it isn't for the sake of our kid.

I totally get that there aren't any overnight fixes for something this heavy, but at the same time... I just can't sit here and wait months on end for this feeling to pass... assuming it even does.
It's already been dragging on for five months now.

Is that man in love with her as well?

Honestly, I think it’s just a little bit of a bummer, as far as I can tell,

So, what are you waiting for?
A real conversation, a firm agreement, and probably the inevitable "end."
There isn’t some magic wand or a potion out there to make someone stop loving you.

I mean, sure, maybe if she just gets her head on straight... but if nothing changes, you already know how this plays out.

Sandra Parker3 said:So, what are you waiting for?
A real conversation, a firm agreement, and probably the inevitable "end."
There isn’t some magic wand or a potion out there to make someone stop loving you.

I mean, sure, maybe if she just gets her head on straight... but if nothing changes, you already know how this plays out.

Then you should be the one giving her a reality check.😬

This would be incredible. If Dr. Denise Legacy or any decent hypnotherapist could actually help me get over this guy—who, let's be real, is married with kids and has zero chance of being with me—in maybe two to ten sessions, I’d drop my current therapist in a heartbeat to switch to her. Price doesn't even matter at this point. My doctor hasn't been able to fix this in over six months. And just like Michael Bishop8, I'm not looking for some magic overnight fix. But if hypnosis can actually handle it? Then I'm interested.

Go ahead and give it a shot then, let us know how it goes—it might actually be useful for some people.
I’m not so sure anyone can truly help you get over someone... 🤷

...but man, I sure do love reading all these stories about Denise here, so... 🙂

LIQ, you little jerk....

So, I guess the big takeaway here is... there’s just no way to actually "un-love" someone? Is it possible that hypnosis isn't even worth the hype when it comes to moving on?

Hypnosis is nothing more than a tool for abuse. Honestly, what kind of person thinks they can just sit there and "program" a woman using hypnosis? You really ought to give that some serious thought before you act. For heaven's sake, what are we even talking about here? Or perhaps, who's to say it isn't beneficial? Who truly knows what kind of twisted fate life has in store for you.🙂

Yeah, who honestly knows what kind of crazy twists life is going to throw at you next...
And when I really sit down and think about it... the absolute baseline requirement for hypnosis to even stand a chance of working—whether we're talking about big shifts or just something super practical like kicking a smoking habit or losing a few pounds—is that the person being hypnotized actually has to *want* it. If they don't truly desire that change, whether they realize it consciously or it's buried deep in their subconscious... well, then nothing much happens.

Michael Bishop8 said:Yeah, who honestly knows what kind of crazy twists life is going to throw at you next...
And when I really sit down and think about it... the absolute baseline requirement for hypnosis to even stand a chance of working—whether we're talking about big shifts or just something super practical like kicking a smoking habit or losing a few pounds—is that the person being hypnotized actually has to *want* it. If they don't truly desire that change, whether they realize it consciously or it's buried deep in their subconscious... well, then nothing much happens.

Look, let’s be real here. Love doesn't just vanish. People change. That is the simple, harsh reality. If there is genuine love there, there is no way they won't realize it sooner or later. That realization is everything. But by the time they reach that point, so much time has slipped through your fingers while you were desperately trying to hold onto something that was already fading.🙄😁
In the interim, a gradual shift occurs—a metamorphosis that remains invisible to you because you are far too preoccupied with trying to squeeze sand through your clenched fists. And if the love truly isn't there, you will eventually see that too, if you haven't already. There is nothing wrong with accepting that, provided the disappointment doesn't absolutely destroy you.

slydriver17 said:Look, let’s be real here. Love doesn't just vanish. People change. That is the simple, harsh reality. If there is genuine love there, there is no way they won't realize it sooner or later. That realization is everything. But by the time they reach that point, so much time has slipped through your fingers while you were desperately trying to hold onto something that was already fading.🙄😁
In the interim, a gradual shift occurs—a metamorphosis that remains invisible to you because you are far too preoccupied with trying to squeeze sand through your clenched fists. And if the love truly isn't there, you will eventually see that too, if you haven't already. There is nothing wrong with accepting that, provided the disappointment doesn't absolutely destroy you.

That's so true... that sand analogy really hits home. And while there's definitely a chance they'll eventually see sense, my big worry is just how much longer I can keep hanging in there through all of this..

Because honestly, the pain is just overwhelming... I feel like I'm totally non-functional since this started; I can barely get anything done at work...

Michael Bishop8 said:That's so true... that sand analogy really hits home. And while there's definitely a chance they'll eventually see sense, my big worry is just how much longer I can keep hanging in there through all of this..

Because honestly, the pain is just overwhelming... I feel like I'm totally non-functional since this started; I can barely get anything done at work...

You are essentially shifting the entire "problem" onto her. In reality, both you and she have things to figure out. Who is to say who knows what? Blah, blah, blah... I don't want to make things more difficult, but a woman doesn't enter a relationship solely for the sake of physical intimacy. (For the most part, 😁). When people separate—if they even do separate, though in this case, something is clearly fracturing—it has to hurt. Whether that pain is "good" or "bad" isn't the point right now; the point is the simple fact that it is occurring. There's another profound piece of wisdom to consider here: 🙄—you only truly see the coastline once you've moved away from the shore where you used to watch the sun rise.🙄
Everything falls apart when it's meant to fall apart. It's like a person developing an abscess because of debris under the skin (or perhaps just hormonal fluctuations). It's like the earth itself; when it can no longer withstand the pressure, it erupts with volcanoes and various other catastrophes. When love vanishes from a relationship, people start searching for other outlets to "fulfill" that "function," especially when the root cause of the crisis isn't immediately visible. However, it isn't particularly helpful to throw generalized advice at people, because ultimately, everything comes back to you and your own ability to help yourself. In short? Pick up a shovel and get some manual labor done...

slydriver17 said:You are essentially shifting the entire "problem" onto her. In reality, both you and she have things to figure out. Who is to say who knows what? Blah, blah, blah... I don't want to make things more difficult, but a woman doesn't enter a relationship solely for the sake of physical intimacy. (For the most part, 😁). When people separate—if they even do separate, though in this case, something is clearly fracturing—it has to hurt. Whether that pain is "good" or "bad" isn't the point right now; the point is the simple fact that it is occurring. There's another profound piece of wisdom to consider here: 🙄—you only truly see the coastline once you've moved away from the shore where you used to watch the sun rise.🙄
Everything falls apart when it's meant to fall apart. It's like a person developing an abscess because of debris under the skin (or perhaps just hormonal fluctuations). It's like the earth itself; when it can no longer withstand the pressure, it erupts with volcanoes and various other catastrophes. When love vanishes from a relationship, people start searching for other outlets to "fulfill" that "function," especially when the root cause of the crisis isn't immediately visible. However, it isn't particularly helpful to throw generalized advice at people, because ultimately, everything comes back to you and your own ability to help yourself. In short? Pick up a shovel and get some manual labor done...

Oh, it's not that I'm trying to pin this on her... I am fully aware that the current situation is mostly the fallout from my own actions... the only thing I'd say about her is that she didn't speak up sooner through communication... she didn't say anything... instead, she just started pulling away... that's really all there is to it regarding her...

And I know that I'm the only one who can actually help myself... and I am working on it... it's a slow process, it's tough, but I'm making progress... or at least, I really hope I am.

There is something fundamentally masochistic about the way some women chase after a man. It feels like some primal, self-defeating instinct. 😁
When there is an attempt to "switch" traditional roles, the result is almost always a rebellious child who refuses to listen to their father—the one person who actually possesses the intellect and wisdom to guide them.🤣

slydriver17 said:There is something fundamentally masochistic about the way some women chase after a man. It feels like some primal, self-defeating instinct. 😁
When there is an attempt to "switch" traditional roles, the result is almost always a rebellious child who refuses to listen to their father—the one person who actually possesses the intellect and wisdom to guide them.🤣

That is honestly so true... but I can't help feeling like I'm stuck in a situation where one tiny slip-up could bring the whole thing crashing down. My therapist actually described it perfectly—it's like trying to walk across a frozen lake while holding a bar of wet soap that you absolutely cannot let drop.
And through all this, I have this nagging fear that if I stop "chasing" her, she’ll just turn around and walk away for good. Maybe I am totally overthinking it, who knows? Lately, I've been trying really hard to step back and not be the one doing all the pursuing, but it feels like we're just drifting further apart.

Fear is the absolute worst kind of bullshit, yet nobody is immune to it until they’ve fully felt its weight. Once it truly takes hold of your mind and your heart, you realize just how much stupidity it fuels—no matter how senseless those actions might seem. But honestly? When things boil over, they boil over. I don't know; some people react by lashing out physically at their partners, others try to talk through it, and some just resort to violence against anyone in their path. At the end of the day, you have to learn how to respect yourself. Whether that means facing the cold, hard truth and confronting your own failures, or taking a more painful route to discipline... who can say?