Sophia Thomas7 said:In the middle of this debate where guys are claiming that any decent, respectful man couldn't possibly go that hard in bed—which, by the way, a user pointed out was just a vulgar way to frame things—it basically implies that only the bottom-of-the-barrel types can actually perform. And let’s be honest, society usually labels those guys as nothing more than low-class thugs. These posts aren't exactly high literature, either.
It’s not just about what’s on the screen; you have to look at the context behind it.
Look, "decency" and "dignity"—especially when defined by this user’s standards, where you aren't even allowed to speak plainly or describe reality as it is—won't bring a woman to an orgasm so intense she can barely walk or breathe. Neither will long walks in the park or polite conversation (which is what the discussion was actually building toward); what brings that result is raw, vigorous action. That was the entire point of my post.
But even if I were to argue that point, the issue here is how personal this has become. Even if we set aside the offensive language, the user is implying that we all just tear each other apart—something she claims we've admitted to ourselves. In reality, men don't derive pleasure from that, whereas women—speaking generally—actually do enjoy being taken roughly; it's perfectly natural and normal.
Therefore,
if we follow her logic to its conclusion, it would be perfectly reasonable to claim that while we don't tear each other apart, she—since she stated she won't tolerate "low-lifes" doing it—would have to rely on sticks, brambles, or other household objects to achieve even a fraction of the effect that we "low-lifes" could provide, assuming she even deserved such an honor.
Of course, we might be wrong if we assume "decent" guys lack that capacity, but she is equally in the wrong for suggesting that any man inclined toward vigorous sex is somehow part of a group of men who act that way with each other. It's all quite subjective.
Because of all this, I believe one should either embrace her rhetoric consistently or reject it entirely; selective application of logic simply doesn't work.
I will add, finally, that I understand moderation is a difficult job and mistakes happen.