Posts by Sandra Parker3

Thomas Miller80 said:Please, Sandra Parker3 is always two steps ahead of us—she knows exactly what the author meant before they even hit "post" 🙏 🙏

If you look from post 82 onwards, those two steps are right there for everyone to see
I wasn't guessing
It was all laid out for anyone paying attention, including you guys....🙏 🙏 🙏

silentcanyon102 said:My father originally intended to transfer his house and a small portion of his estate through a gift deed. We sat down with an attorney, but he advised against it—noting that gift deeds can be easily contested in court. So, we walked away from that idea. Instead, we decided to structure everything as a formal sale.

It’s a good thing you actually listened to some advice 🙂. Otherwise, you could’ve ended up signing one of those infamous life estate or perpetual lease agreements.
In theory, people ought to know better or at least ask for help.
But how are you supposed to know what you don't know?😕

Thomas Miller80 said:She literally laid it out in her previous post where she quoted the law
regarding what gets factored into the estate when you're calculating the forced heirship portion
so you have to include gifts—it doesn't matter how long ago they were given if they're going to the heirs, but for anyone else, there’s a one-year limit on gifts before death🙂

Ali her father is an heir!!!
When calculating the mandatory portion of the estate, that gift counts.

Under Section 89 of the Probate Code, your father's siblings have the right to request what’s called an "imputation of gifts,"
basically asking for that gifted apartment to be factored back into the total estate value (it doesn't look like there's a statute of limitations on this, at least from what I can see).
The funeral expenses you covered get deducted from the estate's total value,
so they're credited back to you—just look at the legal section I mentioned above.
If there’s anything else left that could be added to the estate,
like that Italian pension, any remaining Social Security benefits, or money sitting in bank accounts...
all of that needs to be listed and then calculated to see if it covers the mandatory shares for the other heirs. It all really depends on how much that gift was worth.
I already laid out how to calculate the forced heirship portion over in that other thread.
Also, regarding the buyout you mentioned, do you actually have receipts proving you paid for it?
Because that carries some serious legal weight, and right now, I'm just shooting in the dark here.
The fact that she lived with you matters too.
Did she give anyone else any gifts while she was alive?
Regarding the apartment received as a gift: did you personally spend money to increase its market value?
If you did, and you can prove it, that works heavily in your favor.
Honestly, there isn't much more I can tell you.
If you guys can't see eye to eye, your best bet is seriously to go talk to a lawyer.
That's just my take on it. Best, 🙂
PS
It would be huge if someone could clarify whether that half gifted to your mom is excluded from the estate mass.
That would help a lot.
Personally, I've heard people say (unrelated to the actual probate)
that these kinds of gifts are seen as blatant manipulation and usually don't hold up legally—they're mostly just strategic moves.
But I haven't double-checked if that actually holds water in court yet. 😉

urbangull25 said:But how does something gifted all those years ago suddenly count as part of an estate??
In my book, if someone wants to try and trigger a special legal dispute over it, they should have done it way back when. That wasn't part of her inheritance—it was given away a long time ago.

I agree, though I'm not sure if there's some specific statute of limitations involved after all these years...
I remember hearing something about a ten-year rule, but I have no clue if
that applies to returning gifts to an estate or just generally 😕
I'll dig around for the legal specifics if nobody else posts here first.
🙂

Thomas Miller80 said:It was gifted twelve years ago—I have no idea how on earth you'd try to dump that into the estate assets now🤔
why would they even contest it?

"A miracle of the lower extremities," they claim in the opening post.

urbangull25 said:Not real estate... just personal property. We’re talking furniture, checking accounts, an Italian pension, some back pay from her US Social Security, stuff like that. Nothing major. As for the funeral, my parents handled everything—the service and the plot at the cemetery. None of my siblings chipped in a dime. Side note: she was living with us in that house. ☕
My parents were the ones who paid the buyout for the property. Not any of the other kids. 😎

If the other legal heirs decide they want to make a stink about that gifted property during probate, then yeah, expect some serious drama.
Since you’re busy listing off all these points and making such specific claims, if I were in your shoes, I'd probably just go talk to a lawyer.
Well, you make the call then.
🙂

goldenhound8 said:Excuse me, fans, I'm just a girl who won a ticket....

I didn't even win a ticket, and I still couldn't sleep a wink all night because of the noise; the wind was howling and carrying those bass waves right through the house—what an absolute nightmare.
😱

ha, they finally sorted out 🙂

Mark Sullivan62 said:Look, if you sign it, it means you were physically there and you acknowledged receipt...

If you pay the fine listed on that citation, you’re basically pleading guilty, and once that money changes hands, you’ve lost your right to complain or appeal anything.

Out in Germany, that's how it works. No judge in the world is going to sit there and second-guess the testimony or the citation issued by an official officer—not over there. They don't deal with the kind of excuses and stories I tend to spin myself.

But here in America, it isn't like that at all. Why do you think they even have "confrontation hearings"? In Germany, nobody calls them for confrontations.

The whole point is that if you refuse to sign, they lack the proof that you were actually present at the scene. So, what happens? They call for a confrontation hearing involving the specific officer who wrote the ticket. That usually doesn't happen until a year or eighteen months after the violation took place.

And just imagine for a second—if that officer actually shows up to court—what are they going to say? How are they going to guarantee it was actually you?

Think about the math: there are roughly 250 working days in a year. If an officer pulls over just 10 people every single day, that's 2,500 people. You really think they're going to remember *you* specifically out of that crowd? Hahaha!

All you have to do is ask them if you had a bruise on your left or right cheek. If they say "right," then you just suggest bringing in a witness to confirm you actually had a bruise on your left.

Besides, officers rarely show up for these hearings because they'd have to miss work. Just picture this: if only 5% of those 2,500 people they cite annually were called in for a confrontation, that would mean the officer has to show up 125 times. That's half their working year spent in court! Their boss would probably give them a medal for spending more time in front of a judge than actually on patrol.

I finally get what's going on here. Just one more thing:
so you didn't sign, fine,
now what? You just wait?
For what?
A new summons from the police department?
A notice to show up in municipal court?
Because I'm pretty sure the clock doesn't even start ticking just because you refused to sign something.

I'll shoot you a DM

copperangler15 said:Look, here’s the deal: if you sign that citation, you’re essentially pleading guilty. At least, that’s what the officer told me—he happens to be a close buddy of a friend of mine. Honestly? I trust his word more than anyone else's. That’s exactly why I refused to sign the ticket that officer was trying to shove in my face 😬. But since I don't have his number, I'm stuck. I have no way to get clarity on this whole mess regarding my court date and all that other nonsense
.

Oh please, that's just not how it works; that whole idea has been debunked already—you're just signing to acknowledge you received the ticket, not to plead guilty.
@Michael Perez5, the only thing questionable in that statement is whether you should contest it right now or wait (but honestly, you're only even asking that because you didn't sign for the delivery)

Alright, let me jump back in here like a total amateur. Honestly, I'm almost afraid to ask. 😲 You guys have made this way more complicated than it needs to be. The real question is actually this:

Gregory Walker15 said:Pardon me for hijacking Michael Perez5's thread... but could someone finally clarify one thing for me? What is the actual difference if you sign or don't sign?

Is it possible to file an appeal in either scenario? 🤔

Michael Perez5 said:Man, some people say one thing and others say the complete opposite... can we please just get some consensus here?🙂

So, here’s the deal:
- I got a citation that I didn't sign, even though the officer noted "handed to subject personally."
- He called dispatch over the radio to ask for the ticket number (the next one in the sequence).
- I already received the payment notices.

So, what am I supposed to do? Should I just wait and then try to wiggle out of it, or should I file an appeal only to have them tell me it's not being considered?😢

Is an officer's word enough when they write "handed to me personally," assuming that skipping the signature means you haven't officially "received" it? 😕 In other words, if there's no signature, does that eight-day clock even start ticking, or are they required to send it via certified mail first?

Thomas Miller80, Mark Sullivan62, you guys nailed it!
If only someone would just drop a quick summary—just the facts, no quotes, no drama—so we actually know the who, what, when, and how. Honestly, I can't be bothered reading through everything from the top every single time, and it’d be way easier to get the most out of this if we had a cheat sheet. 🙂
whether it's first thing in the morning or after a backyard BBQ........... 🙂

Thomas Miller80 said:It’s pretty straightforward—Mark Sullivan62 just overcomplicates things with all his advice, which ended up driving Michael Perez5 absolutely crazy 😬
Honestly, I have to admit that Mark Sullivan62 even managed to trip me up for a second with his "expertise"—just for a moment, though 😁

It didn't even last a second for me.
All you guys need to do now is figure out if the law applies the same way today as it did back then.🙂

You want my honest opinion?
-Between all the overthinking and everyone dumping legal articles everywhere, I can't make heads or tails of any of it,
-I don't have much to contribute since I've never actually been in a situation like this; the absolute worst that happened to me was getting pulled over and having the officer just give up on the ticket—I guess my charm worked that time
-And if you're asking whether I'm interested, yeah, I am, because you never know when you might stumble into a mess like this one
-Also, honestly, correcting someone's grammar when they're clearly freaking out isn't exactly... well, anyway, kudos to you for putting in the effort both before and after...

Michael Perez5 said:copperangler15, I’m seeing the exact same thing over here....
To be honest, I have no clue which street they're talking about, and I suspect the officer is a local, so he probably didn't make a mistake.

But look... regarding the mail delivery, if you don't receive it after several attempts, they just send an officer right to your door to try and hand it to you personally...🙂

Thomas Miller80 said:yeahI think
sotoo

🥳

Brilliant, honestly, that's the most important part of this whole mess.... 😲
Kudos to Michael Perez5
Michael Perez5, happy birthday—though you're a few days late, aren't you? 🙂

copperangler15 said:Thanks, thanks, 😘
I honestly can't wrap my head around how some people actually pull this off. Take my friend, for example. He’s the type who always has his foot heavy on the pedal. We were driving through a coastal town in California—the kind of place where you know the local police hide behind bushes just waiting to catch someone with a handheld radar gun. He cruises right into a residential zone 60 miles/h, even though the limit is clearly 31 miles/h. I’m sitting there, suppressing a smirk because I think he’s finally getting caught, when I hear the officer start reciting the standard speeding penalties 😲. Then, my friend starts spinning this ridiculous web of excuses: "I'm unemployed," (lie), "I'm living on welfare $93," "This car was a gift from a sponsor for my amateur handball league," and "I lost my hearing in the war" (he has some hearing loss, sure, but he's claiming it's combat-related). I 😕 just stared at the cop, wondering if he was actually going to buy this nonsense. Instead, the officer visibly swallowed hard, handed back my friend's documents, and told him, "Just slow down, okay?"

People like that truly 🙏 🙏 🙏 🙏 🙏 🙏 🙏

Nobody’s actually mentioning the part of the story where he swallowed that lump in his throat.

copperangler15, screenshot these two posts before Vojko deletes them... 🙂

So you're driving the wrong way down a one-way street and you still haven't signed the paperwork??????? 😲

copperangler15 said:What kind of situation did you run into?

Anyway, getting back to the topic—maybe I can just breeze past this quickly: I might have slightly bent the truth while testifying in a divorce case, which would have resulted in a much longer sentence if I hadn't, and honestly, it wasn't in anyone's best interest anyway... so, basically, nobody was harmed.😎