Posts by Scott Miller4

Jacob Cooper5 said:Look, you can play around with this "void" concept all you want, right up until the moment you're forced to face the same circumstances that wrote those "deleted" programs into your subconscious in the first place. That's when you have to find an answer—an answer from both your subconscious and your conscious mind—and that answer is entirely dictated by those very programs.
If there’s no answer, your subconscious is just going to write it back in based on the next experience you have. And let's be real: we rarely pay attention to positive responses because we don't feel the need to work on things that are already working fine—there's nothing to "fix"—so it's incredibly easy to get confused and mistake that for reaching a state of emptiness. You can actually test if that "emptiness" is real just by asking the right questions.
A blank space is useless on its own. It only gains purpose once you actually fill it with something meaningful.

What even is this "authentic emptiness" you're talking about? Do you actually know anyone who is "authentically empty"?😁

So, emptiness only has a purpose if it's filled with content, and by "content," you mean programming? 🤣 Hmm... 🤔
Personally, I see content as one's own genuine expression that hasn't been cluttered up by those old scripts.

What makes you think the conscious response depends entirely on programming? Are you suggesting that true authenticity doesn't exist? If we define "programming" as just memory, then where does creativity come from?

Jacob Cooper5 said:They are synonyms. Period. If you're stripping away a toxic program, a positive one naturally takes its place. Even if you don't consciously plug in a specific replacement, those old emotional triggers—those "programs" everyone talks about—get swapped out for something fundamentally different... otherwise, no real clearing actually happened.
And honestly, neither stage of this process messes with your authenticity—not that you could even "lose" it if you tried, right?

You could try to get all theoretical about some "void" left behind after a program is deleted, but that's like trying to use a radar to spot thin air. You send out the signal and just sit there waiting for a return that’s never coming.
Everything we actually know about the subconscious comes from the feedback it gives us. If it wasn't feeding us info, we wouldn't even know it was there in the first place...

So, is reinstalling Windows on a PC the same thing as wiping a chalkboard?
They aren't synonyms.

Clearing techniques—not reprogramming—actually rely on that empty space (the tabula rasa, the void, the gap). That emptiness is the actual platform where authenticity shows up.

And where are you getting this idea about losing authenticity? You aren't losing anything; you're just removing the distractions (the programs, the beliefs, the patterns).

I’m talking about the mechanics of the system I use. What you wrote is just your own take on it, and it doesn't really align with how it works.

vividrider472 said:I don't really use the word "reprogramming" myself—when you look at the actual meaning, it’s more about how clearing those negative beliefs inevitably reveals your true Self. You're just removing the barriers—the programs and patterns—that block it. If clearing a belief like "I DON'T love myself" results in an actual state of self-love, then saying "I DO love myself" isn't adding a new program... it's just the technical way of expressing that the Self has finally surfaced.

Meaning follows expression. 😉
Subconscious reprogramming and cleansing the subconscious of harmful beliefs aren't quite the same thing, I suppose.

A program is basically an external installation, and as such, it gets in the way of your own authenticity. It doesn't really matter if that program is "I don't love myself" or "I do love myself."

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I’d say that by clearing out those limiting beliefs, we’re essentially reprogramming the power of your subconscious—it's like a reset. Those old, negative patterns just fade away as you work through them, letting all those heavy, painful emotions finally resolve and integrate. Once the process is done, you can really test your new status—you'll see the results showing up in your actual life through how differently things function, or more simply, through much better outcomes in everything you try to do.

The thing is, "reprogramming" implies there’s already a program running. I’m more inclined toward the idea of clearing and erasing harmful beliefs to establish the Self—you know, finding your own authenticity without all those programs, beliefs, or patterns getting in the way.

jadegardener12 said:Alright, but how does one actually pull that off?

Anyway, vividrider472 already answered you, but I don't want to seem rude, so I’ll share how I handle things.
My approach focuses on techniques that boil down to "problem-solving" or simply "clearing harmful patterns." I don't really do affirmations or visualizations; I prefer working solo.
I don't do deep digging or heavy analysis. I just trigger the process and use specific tools.
It's definitely harder to do it on your own, but if you have the right intention and enough willpower, the results usually follow. 😉

You might want to Google some techniques for clearing negative patterns. Personally, I could recommend the Sedona Method or Ho'oponopono.

jadegardener12 said:I honestly don't get it—how exactly are you supposed to flip negative, limiting beliefs about yourself or life into something positive?

Through reprogramming.
I mean, you can't really flip a bad belief into a good one; you just layer new ones on top of them.

The problem is you eventually just hit a wall because you're constantly swapping one idea for another, which wastes energy since you're still technically feeding those old patterns.

Honestly, I think techniques focused on clearing out harmful beliefs from your subconscious are way more interesting than just standard reprogramming.

The subconscious connects with the astral plane, pulling changes into your daily reality through manifestation—sort of like that "as above, so below" idea. Basically, if it isn't in your subconscious, it isn't happening. If it is in there, well, maybe it will happen.

Lately, it seems like putting God into your subconscious has become a bit of a trendy thing.

Jason Ortiz5 said:I’m not totally sure if this belongs here, but I honestly don't know where else to turn. Over the last month or so, I’ve noticed my eight-year-old daughter’s skin is getting a bit oily, and then just yesterday, she actually broke out with some real pimples on her nose. 😲 It really caught me off guard. Neither her dad nor I ever dealt with acne issues, so we're pretty lucky there, but goodness, she's only eight! Isn't that a little early? 🤦

I did a little digging online and apparently, it’s not as unheard of as I thought. She doesn't have any other signs of puberty—well, except for the occasional mood swing, but let's be real, she's been like that since she could talk... 😍 Most people suggest using the same kind of skincare adults use, or maybe seeing a dermatologist if things get worse. Definitely stay away from those fancy facialists unless a doctor actually tells you to go.

Has anyone else dealt with something like this? Does anyone have experience with kids getting breakouts this early, or maybe a recommendation for a good product or just some general advice? 🙂

Man, my kid is growing up way too fast! 😍

Someone already mentioned coconut oil. Personally, I use this tiny natural cream that contains coconut oil, olive oil, and propolis. It's called Sea Breeze, you can look it up. 🙂 Just apply it at night before she goes to sleep, since it's pretty heavy.
For washing her face, try the L'Oréal gel—the one in the bottle with the built-in brush. You should probably toss the brush after a few days, though, because bacteria tends to build up on it.
As a routine, it works great. I mean, it won't stop pimples from appearing entirely, but there are way, way fewer of them, they dry up faster, and the redness goes away.

Is it possible to get into Scott Miller4? 🙂

Sure, just reach out to Nice.

ruggednomad5 said:I agree, it's impossible for parents to be perfectly in sync all the time.

I've got two teenage boys at home and sometimes my husband and I just don't see eye to eye on discipline. He leans more towards a strict, Spartan approach, while I tend to explain things... though I've learned to dial that back after enough experience.

A few times now, his way has actually worked better. It might not be the most "educational" method, but whatever... he's the father. You learn to live with it.😁

And look, we’ve definitely kept our own individual identities, but when it comes to raising the kids, we act like a single "parenting institution." We might drift apart occasionally, but generally, we try not to let things get too extreme.

Sam Murphy said:You really need a firmer hand in the house, because whenever my boys start acting up like that, I step right into the middle of the fray and break them up just to remind them who’s actually in charge... I’ve already made it crystal clear to them that once they graduate high school, if they plan on continuing this nonsense, they can find somewhere else to live. My wife struggles to keep them in line too, and honestly, even you seem to have a hard time since all your nagging doesn't seem to stick, and I truly don't know what happened to kids these days, though I suspect it all stems from this overly permissive, liberal attitude we see in our schools and throughout society at large. Back in my day, things were different; if you messed up, a teacher or a parent would give you a sharp slap to set you straight, and everyone knew their place... I suppose I can be a bit too soft sometimes, letting them push the boundaries until they eventually walk all over me, which leads to a massive blowout, followed by a period of good behavior before the whole cycle starts all over again, and sometimes I just sit back and wonder why I even bother going through all this trouble...

And isn't it possible that your little one might be part of the reason for the divorce? I mean, did his behavior actually start when things began to cool down between you and your husband? It’s not entirely clear to me how someone decides to divorce just because a man won't go out much, especially since boys tend to be incredibly sensitive to their parents splitting up, and more often than not, they end up blaming their mother...

Well, they’ll certainly remember the day you broke them up when they're picking out an assisted living facility down the road...

Jose Howard5 said:Nice one.
Reading this thread actually makes me want to write a "teenager's guide for parents" from my perspective, but for now, being the rebellious kid is way more fun.
And yeah, regarding hitting—you aren't actually raising a child that way. You're just raising a kid who's scared of you. They aren't doing what they're supposed to because it's right, but because they don't want to get smacked. Once they hit that age where they're self-aware, man, what a headache. You can't just lay a hand on them anymore (most of the time). But honestly, it isn't easy for the parents, or us, let alone grandparents when they start weighing in too. 🧐🍿 It's a mess.

I hope you didn't misunderstand me. I'm against corporal punishment, and my child has never experienced it.
Hitting is abuse, plain and simple, not a parenting tool. It doesn't actually facilitate communication or deliver a constructive message or critique; it just uses force to shut a kid down. The only message being sent is... maybe just give up, because if you don't, someone's going to lay a hand on you. Or better yet, strike first so they don't strike you. It's pretty grim.

A teen guide? Please, start writing. 🙂

Nicholas King said:But honestly, who can say for sure? Parental authority doesn't necessarily equate to a child feeling actual fear🙂.

I haven't read the whole thread, but that statement is so good it probably deserves to be pinned to every single page. 👍

Charles Murphy6 said:Oh, please—any parent claiming they’ve never messed up is lying through their teeth. I certainly have, more than once, and what am I supposed to do about it? I apologize to my little girl and we talk it out. I’d love to tell you I’m perfect, but I’m clearly not.🙂
My ten-year-old has undergone this subtle shift lately. And by subtle, I mean she went from being this quiet, easygoing kid where I never had to repeat myself—like, "put your shoes away"—to someone who needs constant reminders. Now, she's become quite the orator, a real little advocate for her own rights. It's a massive change for me, even though she's still a good kid at heart; she’s just become much more aware of herself and her own identity. There are times when she isn't around and I'll tell my husband, "I am just exhausted from all the talking.🤣" God, the speed at which she can chatter! The second she drops her backpack—which, by the way, is now left wherever she happens to land rather than being put in her room—she starts unloading the entire saga of her school day. I sit there, listening and listening... then she starts critiquing her friends, and I'll step in to say, "Hey, take a breath," and give her some perspective on why certain things shouldn't be said or done. Basically, it's just an endless loop of conversation.
In her life, I have always been the "strict" parent. I am truly not exaggerating when I say I rarely feel the need to yell or hand out punishments. In fact, I think the worst thing I can do is stay silent; the moment I shut down, she notices immediately and insists we debate it.
It isn't easy, let me tell you. I'm currently navigating this phase of huge transitions (and she's only just starting!), and the real upheavals are still ahead of us.
Hopefully, they aren't too catastrophic.

Huh... ten seems to be when the real show begins.

My little one has always been a fighter, but lately, it's like she's on a total crusade. We talk a lot, too. There have never been any harsh punishments; I'm strictly against physical discipline.

I've just been thinking lately about whether we should actually be nurturing this whole negotiation skill in kids... you know, until they hit adulthood.🤣

Does everyone actually wear those tanning goggles?
Are standard UV sunglasses enough to do the job?

I couldn't find those specific tanning glasses at any CVS, does anyone know where I can pick them up?