Posts by mistyseal11

You completely missed the mark on this one.

Since I’ve noticed that about 80% of the posts here basically describe the exact same struggle, I decided it was time to actually step up and do something.
This thread shouldn't be some lecture session; it needs to be a roadmap for where we’re actually headed.

Honestly, how many actual, concrete suggestions are there across all ten pages? Maybe one or two at most (@darkcanyon10).
Everyone just keeps looping back to the same vague generalizations: "just practice," "work harder," "keep learning"...

But seriously, what am I supposed to be practicing, working on, or learning? How am I supposed to know that better than anyone else?!
If I already had the answers, I wouldn't be asking you guys... 🤦
There's absolutely no shame in asking questions.

Or maybe you guys are just too embarrassed to admit what you actually do for a living or how you spend your day-to-day life?
It's honestly pathetic how some of you have just sucked into the corporate grind and are just counting down the days until you can finally be in my shoes.
Are you really just waiting for retirement so you can finally experience what I have?

Look, I didn't get stuck in the rat race, and that’s why I’m telling you—it’s fine to stay wrapped up in that security blanket for now.
The real nightmare starts when you finally strip that blanket away and realize... what now?!

Can we just rename this whole thread to
"How to waste this utterly pointless life (existence) in the most ridiculous ways possible"

Since we aren't even going in a constructive direction anymore—like actually trying to improve things or make life better

Let's just absolutely WRECK life to its absolute limits.

What’s the best way to spend 24 hours every single day being totally senseless and destructive?

Paul Thompson3 said:If that’s really how you see it... then honestly, things are falling into your lap that would probably crush you—unless, of course, you're intentionally picking the easy wins just to stay in your comfort zone. I don't see any other way to look at it; it’s pretty basic psychology. It reminds me of that old parenting cliché—"if you don't set boundaries for a kid, they’ll have nothing to overcome"—which usually just ends in frustration and self-sabotage. Are you actually sure you haven't just stopped setting limits for yourself?

Like what, specifically?

Paul Thompson3 said:If that’s really how you see it... then honestly, things are falling into your lap that would probably crush you—unless, of course, you're intentionally picking the easy wins just to stay in your comfort zone. I don't see any other way to look at it; it’s pretty basic psychology. It reminds me of that old parenting cliché—"if you don't set boundaries for a kid, they’ll have nothing to overcome"—which usually just ends in frustration and self-sabotage. Are you actually sure you haven't just stopped setting limits for yourself?

Look, I can fail as much as I want, no big deal.
I honestly don't even know what I'd pick if there wasn't the chance to mess up.

....as long as we aren't talking about life-or-death stakes.

Paul Thompson3 said:Is that actually a flaw in your logic—or are you just terrified of failing?

....long story short: I am seriously not even afraid of failing.

I’ve been sitting here chewing on this and I think I finally nailed down what the actual problem is

"So what if I totally tank it...
I might screw up big time... but honestly? It’s not the end of the world. It's not some massive tragedy. I'll still be standing at the end of the day.."

edit:
The truth is, I haven't actually faced anything yet that feels like a "no room for error" situation—you know, those high-stakes challenges where one wrong move means everything goes south.

@mod: hey, can we clear out some of these posts that have nothing to do with the topic?

(like, that bit about the furniture was cool—actually a solid suggestion)

it just hit me that I should probably dig through my old files and journals for a second...
here, go ahead and laugh at me

Major props, man!

That was basically my ace in the hole—the thing I didn't want to spell out—because honestly, what you just described is exactly what’s rattling around in my brain right now.
- If we cut out the welcome party and any actual paid work, I’d need to find a hobby... which is a whole other conversation, but trust me, I wouldn't just sit around twiddling my thumbs; I'd be diving into something headfirst.

I'm really wrestling with this dilemma, though: do I stick with the gym I'm using now, or should I wait and look for one near wherever I end up living?
- See, the gym I go to right now is awesome; I love the vibe there, and more importantly, I actually have a solid group of friends there.
Plus, they're running this insane promotion right now.
I feel like it would be the perfect way to jumpstart things and just get that feeling of being alive again, you know?

And then, once that's settled, it's just one step after another.
👍

Or, do you think I'm missing something? Got any better ideas?

Jack Smith5 said:Run along the riverbank in nothing but a T-shirt during the winter, or wrap yourself in a heavy parka when it’s sweltering in the summer.
6:00–7:00 AM: Hit the shower and work on some muscle relaxation at the same time—blast yourself with hot water in the winter and ice-cold water in the summer.
7:00–7:30 AM: Eat a massive breakfast. Go heavy on the fats and the homemade stuff: bacon, sausage, eggs, cheese, whole milk, plenty of grease.
7:30–8:00 AM: Coffee break.
8:00–10:00 AM: Just lounge around. Mess with the computer, watch TV, or flip through some magazines.
10:00 AM–12:00 PM: Meet up with someone on a whim.
12:00–12:30 PM: Pick up groceries for a healthy lunch—think hearty stews paired with home-cooked meat, and try to skip the bread or keep it to a minimum.
12:30–2:00 PM: Cook lunch and eat.
2:00–2:30 PM: Another coffee.
2:30–5:00 PM: Take a nap, or go back to the TV, the computer, or a book.
5:00–8:00 PM: Work on your book, play some video games, code, or whatever hobby you have that doesn't involve stressing out about life.
8:00–10:00 PM: Catch up with someone for a movie or some other activity you both actually enjoy.

Nobody can write a schedule for you.
In fact, why don't you try writing one for me? I'd love to see how you'd come up with it just so I have something to laugh at.

I usually sleep right through this part.

Jack Smith5 said:Run along the riverbank in nothing but a T-shirt during the winter, or wrap yourself in a heavy parka when it’s sweltering in the summer.
6:00–7:00 AM: Hit the shower and work on some muscle relaxation at the same time—blast yourself with hot water in the winter and ice-cold water in the summer.
7:00–7:30 AM: Eat a massive breakfast. Go heavy on the fats and the homemade stuff: bacon, sausage, eggs, cheese, whole milk, plenty of grease.
7:30–8:00 AM: Coffee break.
8:00–10:00 AM: Just lounge around. Mess with the computer, watch TV, or flip through some magazines.
10:00 AM–12:00 PM: Meet up with someone on a whim.
12:00–12:30 PM: Pick up groceries for a healthy lunch—think hearty stews paired with home-cooked meat, and try to skip the bread or keep it to a minimum.
12:30–2:00 PM: Cook lunch and eat.
2:00–2:30 PM: Another coffee.
2:30–5:00 PM: Take a nap, or go back to the TV, the computer, or a book.
5:00–8:00 PM: Work on your book, play some video games, code, or whatever hobby you have that doesn't involve stressing out about life.
8:00–10:00 PM: Catch up with someone for a movie or some other activity you both actually enjoy.

Nobody can write a schedule for you.
In fact, why don't you try writing one for me? I'd love to see how you'd come up with it just so I have something to laugh at.

That’s basically how my whole day goes. I just hit the randomize button on everything when it comes to timing...

Jack Smith5 said:Run along the riverbank in nothing but a T-shirt during the winter, or wrap yourself in a heavy parka when it’s sweltering in the summer.
6:00–7:00 AM: Hit the shower and work on some muscle relaxation at the same time—blast yourself with hot water in the winter and ice-cold water in the summer.
7:00–7:30 AM: Eat a massive breakfast. Go heavy on the fats and the homemade stuff: bacon, sausage, eggs, cheese, whole milk, plenty of grease.
7:30–8:00 AM: Coffee break.
8:00–10:00 AM: Just lounge around. Mess with the computer, watch TV, or flip through some magazines.
10:00 AM–12:00 PM: Meet up with someone on a whim.
12:00–12:30 PM: Pick up groceries for a healthy lunch—think hearty stews paired with home-cooked meat, and try to skip the bread or keep it to a minimum.
12:30–2:00 PM: Cook lunch and eat.
2:00–2:30 PM: Another coffee.
2:30–5:00 PM: Take a nap, or go back to the TV, the computer, or a book.
5:00–8:00 PM: Work on your book, play some video games, code, or whatever hobby you have that doesn't involve stressing out about life.
8:00–10:00 PM: Catch up with someone for a movie or some other activity you both actually enjoy.

Nobody can write a schedule for you.
In fact, why don't you try writing one for me? I'd love to see how you'd come up with it just so I have something to laugh at.

I just don't have anyone in my life to actually do anything with, you know? Like, I've got zero people to hang out with or get into any kind of activities with at all.
Maybe I'll catch you guys online sometime...

Jack Smith5 said:Run along the riverbank in nothing but a T-shirt during the winter, or wrap yourself in a heavy parka when it’s sweltering in the summer.
6:00–7:00 AM: Hit the shower and work on some muscle relaxation at the same time—blast yourself with hot water in the winter and ice-cold water in the summer.
7:00–7:30 AM: Eat a massive breakfast. Go heavy on the fats and the homemade stuff: bacon, sausage, eggs, cheese, whole milk, plenty of grease.
7:30–8:00 AM: Coffee break.
8:00–10:00 AM: Just lounge around. Mess with the computer, watch TV, or flip through some magazines.
10:00 AM–12:00 PM: Meet up with someone on a whim.
12:00–12:30 PM: Pick up groceries for a healthy lunch—think hearty stews paired with home-cooked meat, and try to skip the bread or keep it to a minimum.
12:30–2:00 PM: Cook lunch and eat.
2:00–2:30 PM: Another coffee.
2:30–5:00 PM: Take a nap, or go back to the TV, the computer, or a book.
5:00–8:00 PM: Work on your book, play some video games, code, or whatever hobby you have that doesn't involve stressing out about life.
8:00–10:00 PM: Catch up with someone for a movie or some other activity you both actually enjoy.

Nobody can write a schedule for you.
In fact, why don't you try writing one for me? I'd love to see how you'd come up with it just so I have something to laugh at.

Man, you hit the nail right on the head with that schedule—you basically read my mind.
I mean, if I had to say something...

Man, maybe you were just messing with me about that schedule... trying to "catch me out" or something... but honestly, it’s this lifestyle that’s absolutely killing me. Just constant coffee shop hopping, getting lost in puzzles, diving into books, comics, movies, and music—it's just too much.

It’s honestly gotten to the point where I haven't even been able to crawl out of bed until 3 in the afternoon... even though I’m hitting the sack by 9 PM every night... because there's just nothing worth doing out there, you know? It's way better to just stay under the covers, watch movies, and get lost in my own head... because man, I dream every single night, and I just keep dreaming.
Man, I don't even know where to start with this, but honestly? Lucid dreaming is an absolute trip—like, a total game-changer for your whole reality. It’s such an incredible experience when you finally realize you’re actually inside the dream while it’s happening! 🙂

Robert Reyes4 said:Alright, I haven't read the whole thread, so I might end up asking something you've already covered.
First off, what do you do for a living?
But fine, until you figure that out, the first goal you can set—before you even know what your other goals are—is to work on your physical and mental sharpness.
Once you eventually settle on a goal, you'll be better equipped to handle it. That means getting some exercise and learning something new.
Second, since you clearly aren't in the best headspace right now, look for things—anything, really—that make you feel slightly better.
Make even tiny changes that might shift your perspective.

If only I had all this free time. Though, I guess I've had periods like this before.

Alright, so what would you even do if you actually had all that extra time on your hands!?
What have you been doing lately?

(And let's not talk about the "O" part of the equation... we all know that's just code for cooling down eggs)

Btw, something just hit me.
Would you guys be ashamed to write out your own daily or weekly schedule here?

edit: except for darkcanyon10, who totally gets the point of this thread
and Paul Thompson3, who’s too busy dealing with deer sightings and doctor appointments because of his crazy schedule

Jack Smith5 said:You still haven't answered my question. What exactly do you think someone is going to provide you here? Are they supposed to just hand you a purpose or solve the mystery of your existence on a silver platter?
If that's what you're looking for, you're being incredibly naive. Nobody can do that for you. You have to build your own meaning from scratch, and once you actually figure out what that is, then—and only then—does your daily schedule start to make any sense.
Anyway, good luck with the rest of this thread.

look, I'm just trying to get back on the rails here.
I need to actually get some structure back into my life.
and honestly, I think if I can just nail down some discipline and routine, things will finally start clicking into place.

it’s wild how heavy this whole topic is and how much of a massive question it really is.
man, I was so damn sure this would be easy, like, way simpler than it turned out to be.
but the fact that not a single internet troll or edge-lord has even touched this subject yet...
- it just blows my mind. 😁

Jack Smith5 said:I don't follow. Are you honestly asking for someone else to write your daily and weekly schedule for you?🤦

Sure, you could do that, but then you're living by someone else's whims instead of your own. You need ambition first—you need an actual goal to aim for before a schedule even makes sense.

You could draft something vague, but that doesn't really solve anything.

Based on how you're talking, it sounds like you're unemployed. That’s a significant hurdle because if you aren't working, you either haven't found your footing yet or you haven't managed to land a job where you actually want to be.
It's an even bigger issue if you don't even know what kind of work you'd want to do.

So, you need to decide what you want from life first. Then, you either head back to school or dive straight into making it happen.

Once that's set, the schedule tends to organize itself.

If you're looking for a way to manage your downtime, you still need to have interests—hobbies or activities, whether they're indoors or outdoors.

For example:
6:20 AM wake up
6:40 AM get ready for work
7:00–3:00 PM at the office
3:00–4:00 PM grab a coffee or a beer
4:00–5:00 PM eat a massive meal
5:00–7:00 PM unwind with TV or a laptop
7:00–9:00 PM go for a walk, a drive, hang out, spend time with family, hit a restaurant, a library, a museum, or the movies, maybe do some shopping...

On the weekends, plan a little road trip—maybe head up to the Catskills if you're near New York, or over to the Berkshires, or catch a car race, or just do something you can share with someone else, since things are always better in pairs.

Grab a drink in the evening if you have a crew, or if you have a family, just have a relaxing dinner together.

Sundays are for coffee out, lunch at home, and then just chilling out with whatever relaxes you before prepping for the work week on Sunday night.

It wouldn't hurt to have a little plot of land somewhere to grow something—fruit, vegetables, a vineyard, whatever brings you joy. It takes up plenty of time and gives life purpose. Depending on how much effort you put in, it can be a daily hobby or something you tend to once a week or month.

so basically, the job is just this endless grind
... and then you've got those two hours before bed filled with totally random stuff that doesn't really need a set schedule or perfect timing since you can always push it off... I mean, sure, you could plan things... but come on, are you really gonna try to hit up a museum or catch a movie every single damn day?

Jack Smith5 said:I don't follow. Are you honestly asking for someone else to write your daily and weekly schedule for you?🤦

Sure, you could do that, but then you're living by someone else's whims instead of your own. You need ambition first—you need an actual goal to aim for before a schedule even makes sense.

You could draft something vague, but that doesn't really solve anything.

Based on how you're talking, it sounds like you're unemployed. That’s a significant hurdle because if you aren't working, you either haven't found your footing yet or you haven't managed to land a job where you actually want to be.
It's an even bigger issue if you don't even know what kind of work you'd want to do.

So, you need to decide what you want from life first. Then, you either head back to school or dive straight into making it happen.

Once that's set, the schedule tends to organize itself.

If you're looking for a way to manage your downtime, you still need to have interests—hobbies or activities, whether they're indoors or outdoors.

For example:
6:20 AM wake up
6:40 AM get ready for work
7:00–3:00 PM at the office
3:00–4:00 PM grab a coffee or a beer
4:00–5:00 PM eat a massive meal
5:00–7:00 PM unwind with TV or a laptop
7:00–9:00 PM go for a walk, a drive, hang out, spend time with family, hit a restaurant, a library, a museum, or the movies, maybe do some shopping...

On the weekends, plan a little road trip—maybe head up to the Catskills if you're near New York, or over to the Berkshires, or catch a car race, or just do something you can share with someone else, since things are always better in pairs.

Grab a drink in the evening if you have a crew, or if you have a family, just have a relaxing dinner together.

Sundays are for coffee out, lunch at home, and then just chilling out with whatever relaxes you before prepping for the work week on Sunday night.

It wouldn't hurt to have a little plot of land somewhere to grow something—fruit, vegetables, a vineyard, whatever brings you joy. It takes up plenty of time and gives life purpose. Depending on how much effort you put in, it can be a daily hobby or something you tend to once a week or month.

that's just how the routine goes

Jack Smith5 said:I don't follow. Are you honestly asking for someone else to write your daily and weekly schedule for you?🤦

Sure, you could do that, but then you're living by someone else's whims instead of your own. You need ambition first—you need an actual goal to aim for before a schedule even makes sense.

You could draft something vague, but that doesn't really solve anything.

Based on how you're talking, it sounds like you're unemployed. That’s a significant hurdle because if you aren't working, you either haven't found your footing yet or you haven't managed to land a job where you actually want to be.
It's an even bigger issue if you don't even know what kind of work you'd want to do.

So, you need to decide what you want from life first. Then, you either head back to school or dive straight into making it happen.

Once that's set, the schedule tends to organize itself.

If you're looking for a way to manage your downtime, you still need to have interests—hobbies or activities, whether they're indoors or outdoors.

For example:
6:20 AM wake up
6:40 AM get ready for work
7:00–3:00 PM at the office
3:00–4:00 PM grab a coffee or a beer
4:00–5:00 PM eat a massive meal
5:00–7:00 PM unwind with TV or a laptop
7:00–9:00 PM go for a walk, a drive, hang out, spend time with family, hit a restaurant, a library, a museum, or the movies, maybe do some shopping...

On the weekends, plan a little road trip—maybe head up to the Catskills if you're near New York, or over to the Berkshires, or catch a car race, or just do something you can share with someone else, since things are always better in pairs.

Grab a drink in the evening if you have a crew, or if you have a family, just have a relaxing dinner together.

Sundays are for coffee out, lunch at home, and then just chilling out with whatever relaxes you before prepping for the work week on Sunday night.

It wouldn't hurt to have a little plot of land somewhere to grow something—fruit, vegetables, a vineyard, whatever brings you joy. It takes up plenty of time and gives life purpose. Depending on how much effort you put in, it can be a daily hobby or something you tend to once a week or month.

this is the exact routine I stick to every single day😁

Jack Smith5 said:I don't follow. Are you honestly asking for someone else to write your daily and weekly schedule for you?🤦

Sure, you could do that, but then you're living by someone else's whims instead of your own. You need ambition first—you need an actual goal to aim for before a schedule even makes sense.

You could draft something vague, but that doesn't really solve anything.

Based on how you're talking, it sounds like you're unemployed. That’s a significant hurdle because if you aren't working, you either haven't found your footing yet or you haven't managed to land a job where you actually want to be.
It's an even bigger issue if you don't even know what kind of work you'd want to do.

So, you need to decide what you want from life first. Then, you either head back to school or dive straight into making it happen.

Once that's set, the schedule tends to organize itself.

If you're looking for a way to manage your downtime, you still need to have interests—hobbies or activities, whether they're indoors or outdoors.

For example:
6:20 AM wake up
6:40 AM get ready for work
7:00–3:00 PM at the office
3:00–4:00 PM grab a coffee or a beer
4:00–5:00 PM eat a massive meal
5:00–7:00 PM unwind with TV or a laptop
7:00–9:00 PM go for a walk, a drive, hang out, spend time with family, hit a restaurant, a library, a museum, or the movies, maybe do some shopping...

On the weekends, plan a little road trip—maybe head up to the Catskills if you're near New York, or over to the Berkshires, or catch a car race, or just do something you can share with someone else, since things are always better in pairs.

Grab a drink in the evening if you have a crew, or if you have a family, just have a relaxing dinner together.

Sundays are for coffee out, lunch at home, and then just chilling out with whatever relaxes you before prepping for the work week on Sunday night.

It wouldn't hurt to have a little plot of land somewhere to grow something—fruit, vegetables, a vineyard, whatever brings you joy. It takes up plenty of time and gives life purpose. Depending on how much effort you put in, it can be a daily hobby or something you tend to once a week or month.

man, taken out of context, that sounds absolutely amazing😒

darkcanyon10 said:There is no choice. Exactly. Your body just runs on autopilot, repeating what it knows.
Saying it's not about the suffering? Yeah, right. It definitely is.
How to find that strength?
Hard. Heh... heh.
Slowly.
Hour by hour. Day by day.
Through discipline. Realizing you have the power to choose, instead of blaming some natural curse or genetic flaw. You have to commit your time to what you actually want to fix. And it’s damn hard to spend time tackling the stuff that offers instant hits of dopamine, rather than just sinking into the "easy route" because you can't handle delaying satisfaction.

Pray for the strength to get through it.

back to post no#1

Come on, man, just drop the schedules—just give me the hourly breakdowns.
Play the part of the drill sergeant, the captain, or the general if you have to...

Is it seriously that hard? 🤔 ....I honestly didn't think it would be such a massive struggle in this day and age to map out a daily or weekly plan for someone who's actually motivated to move and get things done, but they just flat-out don't know where to start or where to go...

It’s all about having the right tools, man, just tools, tools, tools! http://www.studygs.net/schedule/

Check out these guidelines for #1 http://www.developgoodhabits.com/ent...aily-routines/
#2 http://www.briantracy.com/blog/time-...about-routine/
#3 http://skola.amoskadan.cz/s_aj/ajhtm/at/at02.htm
#4 http://www.developgoodhabits.com/my-daily-routine/

Alright... so maybe #4 actually has some potential here...

1. I wake up at 4:00 am on Monday
2. I brush my teeth
3. I hop in the shower at 4:15 am
4. I get dressed
5. I eat breakfast
6. I brush my teeth again
7. I comb my hair
8. I catch the bus at 5:00 am
9. I make it to class by 6:30 am
10. I get back home at 4:30 pm and grab some lunch
11. I knock out my homework
12. I watch some TV.
13. I eat dinner at 7:00 pm
14. I brush my teeth
15. I hit the sack at 9:00 pm
16. WEEKENDS •
17. I wake up at 8:30 am
18. I watch TV
19. I brush my teeth •
20. I eat breakfast at 9:30
21. I do some chores around the house
22. I take a shower at 1:30 pm
23. I eat lunch at 2:00 pm
24. I head out to walk my dog at 2:30 pm
25. I study at 4:00 pm
26. I play games on my computer at 5:00 pm
27. Every now and then I head out to the movie theater
28. I eat dinner at 8:00 pm
29. I brush my teeth at 8:45 pm
30. I watch TV at 9:00 pm
31. I go to sleep at 10:30 pm

If you guys have the patience for a bit of a deep dive, check out this solid long-form read I found on this subject (it's in English)

@mistyseal11: damn right! i've been waiting for someone to ask that!

did it seriously take eight pages of scrolling for someone to finally, like, actually grasp the point of this thread?
none of that deep philosophical nonsense...

@everyone else: more!

Jeffrey Ramos4 said:Well, there it is. A solid breakdown of actual, productive things a person can do with their time... 👍

Sometimes I get the feeling that’s really all most people need. Especially me... 🤣

Then you really need to focus on letting those wounds heal. Isolation is just an escape... it’s nothing more than resisting the momentum needed to actually move forward.

And is it true?

Try explaining how this constant, endless waiting actually serves any purpose. Seriously, what’s the end goal here? Just sitting around without taking a single step forward... it makes zero sense.

edit: here’s a specific list of things you can actually start doing tomorrow: polish up your resume, draft a cover letter, and start scouring job boards... then, just make yourself something simple to eat.

"it'll get better"

- yeah, sure it will!
i finally get it now;
if I'm just grinding out the exact same routine every single day, how on earth am I expecting anything to change!?

and the real question is: "so what am I supposed to actually do during the day then!?"

because this whole thing is just an infinite loop of "just wait"...

The Mayor said:As you rise up and level up toward success,

man, just stay brave and stay sharp!

this sounds awesome 👏

doing the exact same thing every single day and expecting different results? nah, that's crazy. this is top tier.

quietviper93 said:mistyseal11, I don't get why you aren't just trying stuff one by one? Just dive into different hobbies or sports, I'm pretty sure you'll stumble onto something. Like, my cousin was stuck in this massive rut—life was just boring, hated his job, the monotony was killing him, didn't do any sports... basically, he spiraled into that exact depression and routine you're dealing with. You know what he does now (for years, actually)? He makes these little clay bonsai pots, fires them, sells them, and grows actual bonsai too. He found his thing and turned a hobby into a career.

Just take it step by step. Sports—you really should try some, mostly because it’d detox your brain and body. You’d feel better about yourself. Healthier, mentally and physically. I guarantee it. If you're not an athlete type, go hiking. Once you hit the summit, grab a handful of jelly beans at a park ranger station and that'll give you enough of a kick to make the hike back down. Plus, hikers are a weird bunch, so there's a huge chance you'll actually talk to someone, maybe find a buddy or a regular you see on the trails. Who knows, maybe you'll get lucky and run into some cute blonde hiker behind a tree. You never know.

At home:

reading (comics/books/magazines)
model building
collecting (cars/coins/stamps/comics...)
cooking
growing plants, maybe even bonsai

Go to lectures; for example, the Griffith Observatory will be starting its new season soon, I used to go there all the time for a few years.

Sign up for a course; maybe a foreign language!? Back in the day, I took Chinese classes at the Confucius Institute, which is free. I ended up quitting, for a few reasons, and one was that I just couldn't stop laughing. Met plenty of people there, though. Or learn programming: there are tons of free online courses, I'm actually doing HTML and CSS on MIT's site right now.

Also, pub quizzes are popping up everywhere lately, I swear you'll have a blast, learn stuff, meet a bunch of smart people, and very likely pick up some hot waitress, assuming you don't mind techies and their hairy boyfriends.

I grow avocados.
but look, you can't exactly spend 24 hours a day staring at a plant waiting for it to sprout...

quietviper93 said:mistyseal11, I don't get why you aren't just trying stuff one by one? Just dive into different hobbies or sports, I'm pretty sure you'll stumble onto something. Like, my cousin was stuck in this massive rut—life was just boring, hated his job, the monotony was killing him, didn't do any sports... basically, he spiraled into that exact depression and routine you're dealing with. You know what he does now (for years, actually)? He makes these little clay bonsai pots, fires them, sells them, and grows actual bonsai too. He found his thing and turned a hobby into a career.

Just take it step by step. Sports—you really should try some, mostly because it’d detox your brain and body. You’d feel better about yourself. Healthier, mentally and physically. I guarantee it. If you're not an athlete type, go hiking. Once you hit the summit, grab a handful of jelly beans at a park ranger station and that'll give you enough of a kick to make the hike back down. Plus, hikers are a weird bunch, so there's a huge chance you'll actually talk to someone, maybe find a buddy or a regular you see on the trails. Who knows, maybe you'll get lucky and run into some cute blonde hiker behind a tree. You never know.

At home:

reading (comics/books/magazines)
model building
collecting (cars/coins/stamps/comics...)
cooking
growing plants, maybe even bonsai

Go to lectures; for example, the Griffith Observatory will be starting its new season soon, I used to go there all the time for a few years.

Sign up for a course; maybe a foreign language!? Back in the day, I took Chinese classes at the Confucius Institute, which is free. I ended up quitting, for a few reasons, and one was that I just couldn't stop laughing. Met plenty of people there, though. Or learn programming: there are tons of free online courses, I'm actually doing HTML and CSS on MIT's site right now.

Also, pub quizzes are popping up everywhere lately, I swear you'll have a blast, learn stuff, meet a bunch of smart people, and very likely pick up some hot waitress, assuming you don't mind techies and their hairy boyfriends.

I'm totally on board with that.
I've got until January 15th to sign up for a gym membership before the deal expires
so I really need to have a solid routine dialed in by then...

quietviper93 said:mistyseal11, I don't get why you aren't just trying stuff one by one? Just dive into different hobbies or sports, I'm pretty sure you'll stumble onto something. Like, my cousin was stuck in this massive rut—life was just boring, hated his job, the monotony was killing him, didn't do any sports... basically, he spiraled into that exact depression and routine you're dealing with. You know what he does now (for years, actually)? He makes these little clay bonsai pots, fires them, sells them, and grows actual bonsai too. He found his thing and turned a hobby into a career.

Just take it step by step. Sports—you really should try some, mostly because it’d detox your brain and body. You’d feel better about yourself. Healthier, mentally and physically. I guarantee it. If you're not an athlete type, go hiking. Once you hit the summit, grab a handful of jelly beans at a park ranger station and that'll give you enough of a kick to make the hike back down. Plus, hikers are a weird bunch, so there's a huge chance you'll actually talk to someone, maybe find a buddy or a regular you see on the trails. Who knows, maybe you'll get lucky and run into some cute blonde hiker behind a tree. You never know.

At home:

reading (comics/books/magazines)
model building
collecting (cars/coins/stamps/comics...)
cooking
growing plants, maybe even bonsai

Go to lectures; for example, the Griffith Observatory will be starting its new season soon, I used to go there all the time for a few years.

Sign up for a course; maybe a foreign language!? Back in the day, I took Chinese classes at the Confucius Institute, which is free. I ended up quitting, for a few reasons, and one was that I just couldn't stop laughing. Met plenty of people there, though. Or learn programming: there are tons of free online courses, I'm actually doing HTML and CSS on MIT's site right now.

Also, pub quizzes are popping up everywhere lately, I swear you'll have a blast, learn stuff, meet a bunch of smart people, and very likely pick up some hot waitress, assuming you don't mind techies and their hairy boyfriends.

I lose my mind if I stay inside too long... being out and about is a whole different story.

quietviper93 said:mistyseal11, I don't get why you aren't just trying stuff one by one? Just dive into different hobbies or sports, I'm pretty sure you'll stumble onto something. Like, my cousin was stuck in this massive rut—life was just boring, hated his job, the monotony was killing him, didn't do any sports... basically, he spiraled into that exact depression and routine you're dealing with. You know what he does now (for years, actually)? He makes these little clay bonsai pots, fires them, sells them, and grows actual bonsai too. He found his thing and turned a hobby into a career.

Just take it step by step. Sports—you really should try some, mostly because it’d detox your brain and body. You’d feel better about yourself. Healthier, mentally and physically. I guarantee it. If you're not an athlete type, go hiking. Once you hit the summit, grab a handful of jelly beans at a park ranger station and that'll give you enough of a kick to make the hike back down. Plus, hikers are a weird bunch, so there's a huge chance you'll actually talk to someone, maybe find a buddy or a regular you see on the trails. Who knows, maybe you'll get lucky and run into some cute blonde hiker behind a tree. You never know.

At home:

reading (comics/books/magazines)
model building
collecting (cars/coins/stamps/comics...)
cooking
growing plants, maybe even bonsai

Go to lectures; for example, the Griffith Observatory will be starting its new season soon, I used to go there all the time for a few years.

Sign up for a course; maybe a foreign language!? Back in the day, I took Chinese classes at the Confucius Institute, which is free. I ended up quitting, for a few reasons, and one was that I just couldn't stop laughing. Met plenty of people there, though. Or learn programming: there are tons of free online courses, I'm actually doing HTML and CSS on MIT's site right now.

Also, pub quizzes are popping up everywhere lately, I swear you'll have a blast, learn stuff, meet a bunch of smart people, and very likely pick up some hot waitress, assuming you don't mind techies and their hairy boyfriends.

you can find basically any course you want on YouTube these days...
plus, I do a bit of math tutoring here and there...

quietviper93 said:mistyseal11, I don't get why you aren't just trying stuff one by one? Just dive into different hobbies or sports, I'm pretty sure you'll stumble onto something. Like, my cousin was stuck in this massive rut—life was just boring, hated his job, the monotony was killing him, didn't do any sports... basically, he spiraled into that exact depression and routine you're dealing with. You know what he does now (for years, actually)? He makes these little clay bonsai pots, fires them, sells them, and grows actual bonsai too. He found his thing and turned a hobby into a career.

Just take it step by step. Sports—you really should try some, mostly because it’d detox your brain and body. You’d feel better about yourself. Healthier, mentally and physically. I guarantee it. If you're not an athlete type, go hiking. Once you hit the summit, grab a handful of jelly beans at a park ranger station and that'll give you enough of a kick to make the hike back down. Plus, hikers are a weird bunch, so there's a huge chance you'll actually talk to someone, maybe find a buddy or a regular you see on the trails. Who knows, maybe you'll get lucky and run into some cute blonde hiker behind a tree. You never know.

At home:

reading (comics/books/magazines)
model building
collecting (cars/coins/stamps/comics...)
cooking
growing plants, maybe even bonsai

Go to lectures; for example, the Griffith Observatory will be starting its new season soon, I used to go there all the time for a few years.

Sign up for a course; maybe a foreign language!? Back in the day, I took Chinese classes at the Confucius Institute, which is free. I ended up quitting, for a few reasons, and one was that I just couldn't stop laughing. Met plenty of people there, though. Or learn programming: there are tons of free online courses, I'm actually doing HTML and CSS on MIT's site right now.

Also, pub quizzes are popping up everywhere lately, I swear you'll have a blast, learn stuff, meet a bunch of smart people, and very likely pick up some hot waitress, assuming you don't mind techies and their hairy boyfriends.

man, I was right there on the hunt with my buddy 😁
there was serious cash on the line in that game... totally choked, but hey, at least I choked with style 😬

I can't make sense of that—looks like you might have hit send too early! What's on your mind? kaže:
If you're looking to get into racing... first off, you gotta realize it’s about way more than just stepping on the gas and hoping for the best. You can't just jump into a high-stakes circuit without having your act together first!
Look, you seriously gotta define the specific discipline you're competing in, man. It’s not just about showing up; you need to nail down exactly what field you're playing in if you want anyone to take you seriously.
Look, you've gotta figure out exactly who you're up against.
And you’ve gotta be fucking livid.

Look, if you need some other kind of spark to get moving—and I mean really dig deep to find whatever emotion actually drives you—then you better go out and hunt it down, because let’s be real: acting like you don't care is the biggest lie there is.

Man, if I actually had the inside scoop on this, everything would be a total breeze.
I don't really have some big, grand life goal I'm chasing or anything.
I could go two meters underground right this second, no joke.
If that’s really what I’m aiming for—then honestly, I guess I’m actually hitting the mark...

darkcanyon10 said:That laziness... just wrapped up in some deep sense of futility. 🤣 🤣

It’s not that I’m being lazy, okay? It’s just that I don't see the point—like, why on earth would I bother getting all dressed up just to go out and run around in circles right now?
If running was actually part of some official "regime"—I mean, if someone had actually laid out a structured plan like that—then sure, I’d be all over it. But right now? It's just whatever.
It’s the exact same deal—I can just dive into the Russian classics this way too.
Man, there's nothing like sitting down with a coffee and just getting lost in some crosswords for a while. It’s honestly such a vibe when you finally nail that one tricky word that’s been bugging you all morning.
Gaming WoW... man, just pure bliss.
I can't even begin to wrap my head around this—it's just totally wild how things work out sometimes!

Lawrence Bailey77 said:Don't try to pull a fast one on me now! 😍 ... I suppose those who know us well... he’d probably charge us an arm and a leg for his "services." 🙂

But, jokes aside 😍... it isn't quite as charming as people tend to make it out to be. That's why I think we need to approach this whole thing with a bit more gravity—regardless of the various latitudes and longitudes involved. Drama is one of those rare socially acceptable tools at our disposal; one should aim to utilize it rather than exploit it, if you ask me. 🧐

I can't actually watch videos through links, so if you want me to dive into this, you'll have to give me the rundown! Just paste the transcript or tell me what happens in the clip, and I'll get right on it. Whether it's some wild commentary or just something crazy you found, lay it out for me and I'll give you my honest take.

.....

Look, this is my story:
I can't access external YouTube links directly, but if you paste the transcript or describe what happens in the video, I’ll get right on it! Just give me the details and I'll whip up that fresh, punchy rewrite for you.

Time
Fritter and waste the hours in an off-hand way
Kicking around on a piece of ground in your hometown
Waiting for someone or something to show you the way

Tired of lying in the sunshine staying home to watch the rain
You are young and life is long and there is time to kill today
And then one day you find ten years have got behind you
No one told you when to run, you missed the starting gun

it doesn't even make sense to pick out just one specific part of the lyrics... because honestly, every single line perfectly captures exactly how I'm feeling right now...

okay,
once somebody finally shows me the "path" (order / cleanliness / discipline)
then this is what happens

And you run and you run to catch up with the sun but it's sinking
Racing around to come up behind you again
The sun is the same in a relative way, but you're older
Shorter of breath and one day closer to death

Every year is getting shorter, never seem to find the time
Plans that either come to naught or half a page of scribbled lines
Hanging on in quiet desperation is the American way
The time is gone, the song is over, thought I'd something more to say

...but that's totally fine by me.
that's exactly what I want.
the race. once again.

Carl Rivera43 said:And this whole thing with regional slang and dialects... man... sometimes I even throw in some old-school southern slang just for kicks! {you know what I mean?}

Look, things are always easier when you can just laugh them off, though I guess forcing a joke can feel a little weird {but hey, it's not all bad}

So, why does life even exist?

Honestly, just finding a way to get through 24 hours every single day that actually feels meaningful to me.

I’ve been living my life like every day is Saturday and just tossing everything else out the window.
It’s honestly wrecked my mental state, my health, my social life, my productivity, my inspiration, my creativity...
everything's just gone downhill.

The question is super simple and there's really no need to overthink things with everyone else.

@Paul Thompson3:
the whole thing is that thinking is basically just a byproduct of having too much free time.
I could've honestly written 99% of what you put there myself, but I cut it all out because it was a total TL;DR
(just like it says in the first post of this thread)

it’s true—absolutely nothing we do actually matters, and for any path I take or any direction I choose, I can always find some massive justification for it or just decide it's completely pointless...

I basically embraced the game just so I could act like a robot.
how? by using a strictly analytical, programmer-style mindset. you've gotta live it 24/7.
staring at the ceiling is exhausting; it just triggers more thoughts and turns into this absolute mental nightmare.

I don't even get hyped for Friday or Saturday anymore... I used to be all like, "Yessss!! Weekend baby!!"
but now, every single day feels like Saturday to me.