frozenrider15 said:Regarding that point about sitting in a freezing church on Saturdays with some "old fossil" of a priest—you might be in for a rude awakening if that's what it takes for your little one to receive First Communion or Confirmation. From what I understand, school religious ed is one thing, but you still have to attend parish classes to prepare for the sacraments. As for what kind of priest or nun you'll end up with... who knows. But it’s eye-opening to hear you speak that way about someone you might actually have to entrust with your child's spiritual upbringing. You might realize later that things aren't quite as black and white as you're painting them.
I recognize that for parents who don't want their kids in school religion classes, it becomes a logistical nightmare if the class isn't part of the regular daily schedule. There are plenty of schools like that out there, even if they aren't on your radar.
We are all different, and our kids are different too. Your daughter might actually enjoy skipping elective technical or art classes if they were held during the school day, but personally, I wouldn't be thrilled if my kid had to sit in a hallway for two hours a week because of a religious studies class. In fact, I don't think she'd feel comfortable at all—especially in first grade when everything is new and she doesn't know anyone yet, only to be pulled out of class twice a week because, well, she isn't attending the religion lesson. My child was exactly like that; I certainly wouldn't call being singled out a "reward" or a "gift of free time." But, my child is who she is, and that's why we enrolled her in religion, regardless of whether she ever receives the sacraments or not.
Oh, of course I am aware of that... precisely because I am a believer myself. I am a regular attendee at my local parish and I am intimately familiar with how the sacramental preparation classes are conducted there. To put it briefly: they take place on Sundays after Mass, and I find that perfectly acceptable since she receives all the other instruction during her school hours. Since we are already at Mass together every single Sunday, she understands the significance of it, and it won't come as a shock to her. I often hear children of my friends saying things like, "In third grade, we'll HAVE to go to Mass." Given that I am a person of faith and we attend Mass every Sunday without fail, such a statement speaks volumes to me about their upbringing. My child has been raised within the faith since birth; to her, this is entirely natural and normal. If it so happens that our pastor changes right when she is due for her sacraments, or if we do happen to be assigned some grumpy old man, I will simply find a more suitable arrangement for myself and my daughter.
In any event, it is a great relief to me that we have religious education offered in our schools, and frankly, it suits ME just fine. And that is coming from me, someone who pays taxes just like those who find it so objectionable.
Since religious studies is an elective rather than a mandatory requirement, I cannot see a better or more reasonable solution than this. Everyone wins. Those who want it can participate, and those who don't have no obligation. It is as simple as that.
As for the scheduling, goodness knows that sometimes things don't go according to plan, and I certainly understand that managing schedules is difficult... I truly do. But occasionally, a simpler approach just isn't feasible. That shouldn't be a reason for such immense drama...
Our children will encounter a million more foolish, awkward, or unfair situations in their lives; this little hurdle certainly won't break them.
Goodness, what am I supposed to do, sit here and wail over technicalities and the fact that my child MIGHT HAVE TO learn certain things? Honestly, I cannot think of anything more nonsensical in our entire educational system. Though, I suppose I could criticize it too—after all, they are the ones funded by our tax dollars to fill up these schedules.
Unlike math or some other subject you might find tedious, you don't *have* to take religious studies.
But there are those of us who want it, and surely our wishes deserve to be respected as well? Or is it only the grievances of those who feel slighted that actually matter??