Rachel Kern26 said:I can't quite tell if everyone here is this skeptical of people, or if I'm just overthinking things and spiraling into my own head... 😳 I was reading through the stuff about cash on delivery earlier, and I totally get why you'd be wary when you're the one sending items—you want to make sure some stranger actually hands over the money and doesn't just flake... but what about the buyers? For instance, what happens if I pay up, only to open the box and find out it’s not even what I ordered? I wouldn't exactly be thrilled to find a dead cat in my package instead of my gear 🙂
Is there any way I can just open it right there in front of the courier and tell them, "Hey, this isn't what I asked for," so they can just take it back and refund me on the spot?? 😁
No. Your only real move is to refuse the shipment entirely, but then you're essentially screwing over the seller, who's already stuck dealing with $7.25 the cost of shipping the item to you plus whatever extra they have to pay to have it sent all the way back $3.25. As it stands, once you accept the delivery, you're on the hook for the payment. If you end up hating what's inside, you're stuck with the hassle of returning it yourself.
jadetrucker43 said:The "problem," if you want to call it that, is that you’ve been uploading your photos directly to the Reddit servers as attachments. Because of that, you're running into the site's hard limit on how many individual files an account can host at once.
If you click ->here<-, you might be able to go in and purge some of those old attachments. Though, honestly, it's quite likely the non-moderators don't have the permissions to actually pull that off.
Anyway, moving forward, I’d really suggest just using one of those free, easy image hosting sites instead; I usually just stick with Imgur. 👍
Thanks. I already tried following that link you sent—I did that quite a while ago, actually—but there isn't any option to delete anything in there. It’s funny, because whenever I used to upload this way in the past, the system would always give me a prompt asking if I wanted to clear out some old files to make room for the new ones. But apparently, that only works if I haven't hit my full quota of eleven or whatever the limit is, and since I've maxed it out now, the option just won't show up. Anyway, let's not overcomplicate things; I realize now I was doing it the hard way and it was my own mistake. As for cleaning up the mess I've made, I'll just have to reach out to the moderators and see if they can help. 👋
Betty James83 said:I'm not entirely sure what you're getting at since your question was a bit vague, but I'm fairly certain that when you go in to edit, you have the option to delete whatever you want and just swap it out for something else.
Oh, thanks so much—I’m clearly the one being imprecise here, and your advice is just absolutely invaluable. I’m sitting here saying I don't know how to delete something, and you’re telling me that I certainly can. Just wonderful. 👎
No, I think I may have misspoken there. What I meant was that I wasn't actually taking photos myself; I was just grabbing product images from the web—you know, like a shot of some Johnson & Johnson cream from a Google search—and then just uploading those directly to my listing.
I’ve got these old listings over on Craigslist where I attached a bunch of photos, and apparently, I’ve gone and hit my absolute limit for storage—I haven't the slightest clue what the exact metric is, but I've clearly maxed it out. It’s all tied up in those dusty old posts from ages ago, which means now, when I try to put up anything new, I can't attach a single image. It makes perfect sense, of course, since I've filled my quota, but I’m feeling a bit stuck because I honestly have no idea how to go about deleting the images from those vintage ads or, more importantly, how to actually clear out some space.
There’s really no point in continuing this. I’ll just leave the thread here so certain people can go back to their little delusions of grandeur, congratulating themselves on how stunning they look in a "mini dress." I suppose I’ve gone and ruined the illusion by touching a nerve, which explains why everyone started screeching. To some, 140 pounds is considered heavy, while to others, it isn't—it’s all just a distorted mess of perceptions. I genuinely thought we were discussing fashion for "curvy" women, but it turns out we’re actually talking about fashion for those who carry maybe 2-$67 extra pounds, so you decide. I guess it’s just expected that a middle-aged woman who doesn't spend her life scrolling through online boutiques would shop this way. It’s the same whether she’s picking things up at a local Target in rural Ohio or browsing high-end shops in downtown Chicago. And apparently, according to this logic, someone weighing 220 pounds will look great in a miniskirt, while someone at 120 pounds is somehow told they look fat. It’s pathological. Anyway, cheers—do carry on. I refuse to waste my eyes or my mental energy bickering with people who lack even a shred of basic decency, especially since they were the ones claiming they’d wear absolutely anything, which clearly they do, likely ordering everything from Amazon or hitting up a mall in Phoenix. I suppose that’s just the modern way to dress for every generation and every corner of the US. Human stupidity truly knows no bounds. 🙄
rapidheron2 said:Tara, you are spot on! Just to back you up from a guy's perspective, 😉 skirts and dresses really do look wayyyyy better on curvy women than pants do! 👍 Obviously, I'm not talking about micro-minis 😉 but more like knee-length or longer styles. If the cut is right, it can totally hide extra weight or camouflage things like wider hips or a bigger backside... Honestly, the worst thing to see is when curvy women try to squeeze themselves into these super tight jeans where everything looks like it's about to "explode." It’s just not a good look... I guess I really don't get why some fuller-figured women think they look better in pants?! 🤷
Just read this carefully. You’ll see what people are actually thinking—even though he claims dresses are better for curvy women, he specifically qualifies it by saying "not short ones" and only those that can "hide" the weight. I mean, what kind of clothing is designed to "hide" someone's body? Maybe don't tell him his opinion doesn't involve much intellect.
Besides, maybe we could all agree on what even constitutes being "plus-sized," because it seems completely subjective here; one person thinks a woman in a size 18 is perfect, while another is lamenting her size 12 figure. In my book, a size 12 can pull off a dress, but a size 18 probably shouldn't. Then again, by today's standards among the younger crowd in the States, even a size 12 is considered quite heavy, so...
Honestly, I didn't even have the heart to finish reading through all that clutter; I just caught sight of those same people popping up again, claiming they wear a size 14 or whatever, acting as if that’s somehow "fuller" by my standards, or pretending they don't shop at places like Target or Kohl's. I feel like I've said this a thousand times already—I'm not sure why it’s such a struggle to grasp, though perhaps my way of expressing things is just too convoluted for some. Why the sudden outburst? Just because I mentioned that plus-sized women shouldn't try to squeeze into little dresses because people will laugh? Well, I certainly would. They do laugh. People tell you an outfit looks great to your face, and then they snicker behind your back. And as for those who spend their time trying to convince themselves they aren't actually heavy and that everything fits perfectly... fine, go ahead. That isn't on me, and it certainly isn't a flaw in my reasoning, thank you very much. I don't wear that clothing; it’s worn by people struggling with deep insecurities, trying to force themselves into the same styles as their skinny friends. I'm not twenty years old, so there's no need to lecture me, especially not from the younger crowd who haven't yet navigated the nuances of a professional career. It’s frankly quite rude to call someone stupid or "disconnected from reality," because, frankly, I might be thinking the exact same thing about you, even if I’m too polite to type it out. I wasn't targeting anyone specifically, just speaking generally, so let's try to maintain a little decorum. I've lived enough life to see just about everything when it comes to how larger women dress, both through my university years and throughout my career. Rest assured, whenever a slightly heavier client walked into the office, the reaction from the crowd was always predictable. If a fuller-figured woman walked in wearing a tight little dress, you’d hear people—both men and women—muttering things like, "Did she really not look in a mirror before leaving the house?" So, there it is. Besides, the whole point of this forum is to offer advice on what to wear and where to find it, not to use the space as a platform for direct insults.
Personally, nothing under a size 14 feels "curvier" to me. So, any commentary regarding smaller sizes is frankly redundant and misses the point of this discussion entirely. As for those of us rocking a size 14 or higher, we can certainly dress however we please, of course, but there is the matter of aesthetics. It’s about knowing when to draw the line. It never occurred to me—nor would it ever—that I could just slip into the same cuts as someone with a perfectly balanced silhouette. We can lie to ourselves all we want, but let's be honest: this isn't a question of self-confidence, it's a matter of good taste. It simply looks unflattering, and people will laugh; they won't be thinking, "Wow, look at that confidence," they'll be thinking, "That person has zero sense of style," at best. That doesn't mean we have to resort to wearing shapeless sacks, either. There are plenty of options out there, and you don't have to limit yourself to just one department store. It is far better to actually get out, take a stroll, and see things for yourself rather than hiding behind a screen and ordering from the comfort of an armchair. Then again, people will find any excuse to avoid the effort—it's too expensive, they don't have my measurements, they don't have a car, and so on. I stand by my stance that online shopping is a lesser option for all the reasons I've already mentioned.
Jason Moore63 said:I don't even fall into that category anymore (I'm a size 12 or 14 in those really tight cuts)... I used to be a year ago... and back then, I actually wore dresses.🤷🤷 Take a look at this blog:http://www.leblogdebigbeauty.com/ ...she doesn't let being plus-sized hold her back one bit.🤷
Look, this entire conversation is supposed to be about fashion for plus-size women. So, honestly, it feels a bit pointless when someone who isn't actually dealing with these sizing struggles tries to weigh in on the whole "ordering a dress online" debate. It creates this false impression for people who don't realize that finding affordable, diverse options for curvy women is actually quite easy if you know where to look. That’s why I mentioned earlier that it’s often much more worthwhile to just head to a larger nearby city for a proper shopping trip. It doesn't have to be New York or Chicago; if I can find what I need in a smaller town, surely there are decent options in places like Atlanta or Charlotte. Okay, maybe not everywhere, but we have to make it work somehow. Of course, there’s the practical issue of not wanting to haul yourself around on public transit just to shop—I certainly wouldn't do it, simply because lugging heavy bags around on a bus or subway makes zero physical sense. But that doesn't really validate the online shopping argument either, because, frankly, you don't have much choice otherwise. And secondly, I think that if someone has access to a car and the opportunity to go out, they aren't just doing it because they're afraid of not finding their size or feeling awkward. They just have to swallow that reality, because stores exist now. It wasn't always like this; there was a time when trying to walk into a boutique felt like walking into a gauntlet.
Charles Kern28 said:Fair enough, that’s just how it went for you. It’s a bummer you gave up after just one try, though! I’ve ordered about ten times now and everything has been spot on (I've done everything from jackets and blazers to tops and swimwear). Sure, there might be a time in the future where I fall in love with something that doesn't quite fit right, but that happens to me even when I'm shopping at the mall... Sometimes I love a piece so much I just ignore the fact that the fit isn't perfect 😬 Plus, you just have to learn the ropes of online shopping. For example, don't order a massive haul all at once so you don't get hit with unexpected customs fees, always double-check size charts, read reviews if they're available, stick to reputable sites, and obviously buy cuts you already know look good on you. If it's something totally new, I usually try to find it in a store first to see how it sits on my body. You also have to keep an eye on certain sites—sometimes you can snag absolute gems for basically pocket change. As for driving all the way to a big city like Chicago to shop, it might make sense if you're already passing through, but for me, it’s definitely not worth it for a few reasons: 1. I don't go on shopping sprees twice a year; I just buy stuff when I need it, and if I can't find it then, I'm not going to drive hours just to hunt it down. That would mean making at least 2-3 trips a season. 2. A round-trip ticket from a place like St. Louis is almost $67, and for some people, it's even pricier, which adds up fast when you factor in multiple trips. 3. It's way easier to order from my couch than to spend the whole day sprinting between malls and boutiques—especially since most shops only carry specific sizes—all while racing against the clock to catch my bus or train back home. 😁 4. Online, I have access to a much better selection of wearable styles, and I don't feel forced into buying something just because it's the only thing available in my size. I want to choose what I wear, not settle. 5. I save both time AND MONEY, because most things I grab online are things I couldn't find for that price anywhere else in the States (even with shipping), assuming I can even find what I'm looking for at all.
All in all, I think online shopping has way more pros than cons! 😍
In your specific case, though, it clearly makes sense. Chicago isn't far for me, and I have a car. Plus, wandering through a mall is practically priceless to me 🤣. Besides, I don't even need to head into the city; there's a Target nearby where I can find plenty of what I need.
By the way, ladies, let's keep in mind we're talking about fashion for "plus-sized" women, because I see some dresses being mentioned here, and it feels a bit... well, okay, "plus-sized" is a broad term, I suppose... though, truthfully, nobody is likely to see me in a dress. Except maybe for sleepwear.
Charles Kern28 said:Ladies, don't let the mediocre selection at your local mall get you down. There are some incredible online shops out there with endless styles and sizes up to 5XL. Sites like eBay, ASOS, Evans, and Yours Clothing have amazing deals when they run sales—everything from your everyday basics to those fancy outfits for a night out 😍
Personally, I find online clothes shopping to be a far worse, and ultimately probably more expensive, alternative to anyone here having to drive all the way into a major hub like Chicago just to find plus-size options if their hometown lacks them. For starters, you never truly know what’s going to show up at your door or how much those polished photos lie about the actual garment, and even if you follow the measurements to a T, there is still that nagging uncertainty about whether it will actually fit your shape. And even if the sizing works out perfectly, what happens if you put it on and it just looks terrible on you? Then you're stuck with the headache of returns, shipping fees, and endless back-and-forth... I tried it once, and honestly, I'm never doing it again. Just a total waste of money.
I've got some on hand, but they wouldn't even reach you by mail until Friday, so... anyway, they actually work. They stick right to the spot. Honestly, if nobody has ever given me a second glance or asked me anything strange while I’m wearing them on my lip in broad daylight, then they're practically invisible—or at least, very hard to notice.
northernscout99 said:Yes, I definitely meant skinny legs! Oh my gosh, thank you so much, you just made my day! 🤣
Well, you’ve already gotten your answer. Though, if I’m being honest, my experience with Dorothy Perkins has been pretty disappointing lately when it comes to denim; it’s like they don’t even carry the good stuff anymore. Everything seems to be geared toward little girls now—all glitter and butterflies—or else it's those weird flared cuts or that overly washed-out look that just doesn't sit right. These days, whenever I need a solid pair of black chinos, I still find myself heading there, but for actual jeans? C&A has definitely become my go-to. Generally speaking, you should head over to the CC1; you’ll almost certainly find them there. And whatever you do, don't let anyone talk you into thinking they carry them at those other shopping centers—they absolutely don't. Personally, I’ve never had any luck finding a decent pair of pants at the Avenue Mall, King Cross, or even the Garden Mall... it's just never happened.
fadedmarlin402 said:Look, I get it. This forum isn't exactly a clinic where we hand out official diagnoses or prescription plans, but that doesn't mean we can't offer some perspective or point people in the right direction when they're feeling lost. We can certainly speculate on what might be causing certain symptoms—why not?—but there really ought to be a clear nod to the fact that this is all just guesswork. It’s on the individual to go find a professional who actually knows what they're doing. At the end of the day, a random comment on an internet thread just can't replace the expertise of a doctor who can actually examine you in person and manage your care, and that goes without saying regardless of whether the person typing is a licensed MD or just someone with a passing interest in biology.
That goes without saying, really; we're on the internet, after all, so it feels a bit redundant to have to hammer that point home at the bottom of every single thread, doesn't it?
I’ve got that exact same kind of gut situation going on myself—it seems like some people just pack it all on around their waistline, while others just sort of protrude straight out. Looking at that front-facing photo, there is absolutely no way that’s a pregnancy; it’s just textbook stubborn fat. It just settles right there in the front. And honestly, don't even get me started on the upper arms, because I'd bet anything they're carrying some extra weight there too! It’s never just the stomach. I'm dealing with the very same thing. As far as the whole pregnancy versus tumor debate goes—if that were actually the case, she wouldn't be having her period or dealing with those typical cramps, I mean, let's be real... plus, I’d wager if she tried to suck it in or push it back with her hands, she could do it without much trouble, which really points toward... well, just fat.
I usually find myself settling for a size 46 or 48. To be perfectly honest, you can still find those sizes relatively easily, though finding anything larger becomes a genuine struggle. Up until lately, my wardrobe was mostly built from places like Peek or Dorothy for trousers... but ever since C&A opened up at the local mall, I've basically become a regular there. I haven't really run into any major issues sourcing clothes so far. Granted, I can completely forget about hitting the big sales, but C&A is genuinely affordable... for instance, neither now nor in the past have I ever spent more than $67 on a pair of pants or a sweater. Or maybe $33 for a simple T-shirt. Of course, I don't even bother glancing at other shops anymore; once you stumble upon the one place that actually works for you, life gets a lot simpler. The one thing I am constantly, endlessly, perpetually struggling with, though, is bras. Good grief.
Honestly, I suspect the issue stems from the fact that I’ve always sourced my pills in much smaller towns, so I suppose anything goes in those local pharmacies.
Anyway, just to illustrate how small-town life really is—after I finally finished my course of medication, I went into a local drugstore to ask if they carried LH testing strips, and the woman behind the counter just looked at me blankly and asked, "Of what?" And that wasn't even the end of it. She actually added, "Ma'am, I don't think that even exists."
The Yasmin scandal broke back before March of this year. Well, who can truly say? I just used to buy whatever was available at the time—honestly, I don't even know if I ever happened to visit the exact same pharmacy more than twice. Life was a bit scattered back then; I’d be working in one city, living in some tiny third town, and seeing a partner in a fourth... so, I suppose I never bothered to keep any records. What you're saying makes sense, though, and frankly, it’s how things ought to work. But then again, that isn't the reality everywhere. So, based on what you're saying, you walk in, pick up two three-month supplies, and they immediately log the prescription, right? That sounds logical. Or is it possible to just grab two one-month boxes at a time? I'm genuinely curious, as I mentioned, because this is all news to me. Even my colleague, who deals with Yasmin, tells me they never record anything under a prescription.