Posts by Nicole Ruiz

Sophia Thomas7 said:It's also important that she takes care of her appearance, is easygoing, and is actually down for hanging out, going out, and playing games together.[/I]

You're looking for a girlfriend just to play Monopoly and Risk? Give me a break. 😁

What we’re looking for is our own business!
The bottom line here is that the ad doesn't violate any rules, it follows the community guidelines perfectly, and it shouldn't look out of place compared to all the other posts on the board!

First off, I really appreciate the quick and thorough response...

Tyler Cruz32 said:Fine.

Please also paste the disputed post here.

Fine, here is the post:

This is us:
A guy and a girl, both in our early 20s and in a loooong-term relationship. We are both highly educated, top students, and professionals. Full of life and energy! We don't live together yet, but we are working hard on making that happen.
The guy: 6'7" and just under 220 lbs, with short brown hair and hazel eyes.
The girl: Long brunette hair, 5'9" and about 120 lbs, extremely beautiful with strong tendencies toward the same sex.

We are easygoing, know how to have fun, love to laugh, and have a sense of humor... totally open-minded.

Through this post, we are looking for a woman/girl to hang out with us. Age doesn't matter! The important thing is that she also takes care of her appearance, is laid-back, and is eager for socializing, partying, and playing games together...
It's never boring with us!

For everything else, hit my inbox... don't hesitate to reach out.
Edit: location is New York City.

I also request an explanation as to why, if the ad was indeed deleted, I received absolutely no clarification regarding the reasoning behind it.

Because moderators aren't obligated to send explanations when deleting ads; rather, the author is responsible for asking for that explanation first. Surely you realize we don't have that much free time.

If the rules of the thread are set up so that moderators can arbitrarily remove ads they don't like, I believe it would be appropriate to explain to the user why they did so!!!

Of course.

The situation is this:
we received a user report regarding your ad.
By emphasizing both your and your girlfriend's physical looks, especially her 'tendencies': with strong tendencies toward the same sex, and by stating that you are looking for a girl who is 'laid-back and eager for socializing, partying, and playing games together... ', we concluded the ad should be removed because it is clearly seeking a potential partner for sexual experimentation.

A colleague was in a rush and skimmed through the ads; I reacted after the report, consulted two other colleagues who agreed with the removal, and deleted your ad.

Thanks, 🙂.

You're welcome. 🙂

And I’ll just paste the rules right here... strictly so you can actually read them!

I appreciate you posting those.

3. Soliciting or requesting sexual encounters is prohibited, as is trolling (we require a level of seriousness here) or commenting on specific ads. If an ad catches your eye, please send that individual a private message.

Note: It is impossible to list every single thing someone might think to ask for or offer in the rulebook. The moderators reserve the right to judge whether something is permitted or not.

If Google or Miami believe we have made an error, I will offer an apology and restore the deleted ad immediately.

Honestly, I have to wonder who exactly this post could possibly bother: 😕😕😕🤷

The guidelines in the rules state:
Regarding the ads themselves, they should include basic information such as gender, age, and location. We recommend writing a bit more about yourself or the person you wish to meet, as this will likely attract more people, so please don't be too brief.

So... I wasn't allowed to, excuse me, *emphasize* how my girlfriend and I look? And that's despite the fact that I went overboard with the physical descriptions, listing our height, weight, age, gender, and location (exactly as requested in the moderator guidelines)

As for what you put in quotes—this "preferences" thing—it isn't even worth commenting on.
I mean, gay men can post ads... sure, they can openly look for other men, explicitly stating they are gay and thereby expressing (and I won't use quotation marks here) their preferences. Women can also look for women quite openly...
But a guy and a girl aren't allowed to look for anyone? Because apparently, that counts as breaking the rules by essentially offering sex.
Of course, when someone posts an ad saying: "Gay guy from Smalltown, USA looking for a gay guy nearby, young and handsome," etc.—he isn't posting that just to hook up; he's doing it so they can be friends and watch the birds in the sky...

So, you've decided the ad was posted exclusively to find someone for sexual experimentation? Fine then, by that logic, every single ad containing phrases like: "a girl with X look, X age, for coffee, going out, and something more..."—well, we could shove all of those into that same category.
In fact, following the exact logic you described in the quote I am responding to, I could go back and review the last 50 ads and find at least 20 that wouldn't meet your criteria either.

I hope these arguments clarify my point.
My ad didn't violate any specific rule, and more importantly, it doesn't deviate in any way from the other ads you consider legitimate that are currently active in this thread!
We expect, and kindly request, that it be reinstated.

Tyler Cruz32 said:Fine.

Please also paste the disputed post here.

Fine, here is the post:

This is us:
A guy and a girl, both in our early 20s and in a loooong-term relationship. We are both highly educated, top students, and professionals. Full of life and energy! We don't live together yet, but we are working hard on making that happen.
The guy: 6'7" and just under 220 lbs, with short brown hair and hazel eyes.
The girl: Long brunette hair, 5'9" and about 120 lbs, extremely beautiful with strong tendencies toward the same sex.

We are easygoing, know how to have fun, love to laugh, and have a sense of humor... totally open-minded.

Through this post, we are looking for a woman/girl to hang out with us. Age doesn't matter! The important thing is that she also takes care of her appearance, is laid-back, and is eager for socializing, partying, and playing games together...
It's never boring with us!

For everything else, hit my inbox... don't hesitate to reach out.
Edit: location is New York City.

I also request an explanation as to why, if the ad was indeed deleted, I received absolutely no clarification regarding the reasoning behind it.

Because moderators aren't obligated to send explanations when deleting ads; rather, the author is responsible for asking for that explanation first. Surely you realize we don't have that much free time.

If the rules of the thread are set up so that moderators can arbitrarily remove ads they don't like, I believe it would be appropriate to explain to the user why they did so!!!

Of course.

The situation is this:
we received a user report regarding your ad.
By emphasizing both your and your girlfriend's physical looks, especially her 'tendencies': with strong tendencies toward the same sex, and by stating that you are looking for a girl who is 'laid-back and eager for socializing, partying, and playing games together... ', we concluded the ad should be removed because it is clearly seeking a potential partner for sexual experimentation.

A colleague was in a rush and skimmed through the ads; I reacted after the report, consulted two other colleagues who agreed with the removal, and deleted your ad.

Thanks, 🙂.

You're welcome. 🙂

And I’ll just paste the rules right here... strictly so you can actually read them!

I appreciate you posting those.

3. Soliciting or requesting sexual encounters is prohibited, as is trolling (we require a level of seriousness here) or commenting on specific ads. If an ad catches your eye, please send that individual a private message.

Note: It is impossible to list every single thing someone might think to ask for or offer in the rulebook. The moderators reserve the right to judge whether something is permitted or not.

If Google or Miami believe we have made an error, I will offer an apology and restore the deleted ad immediately.

It’s perfectly logical to assume your colleagues might side with you, but I truly ask that you consider my perspective as well.
I genuinely believe my post follows all the rules to a T. If you feel otherwise, then by that same logic, quite a few other posts should probably be taken down too.

Furthermore, the guidelines explicitly state:

In case anyone needs a reminder, this is a serious matter. This thread remains open solely because there are people who genuinely want to meet someone, and this platform provides that opportunity. We are fully aware that some people use fake identities to mess with those who reach out, but unfortunately, we simply don't have the resources to catch every single one of them. Ultimately, it is up to you to decide who you respond to and where those conversations lead.
We aren't pretending to be anyone we're not; we've been as honest as humanly possible. In fact, that's exactly why we do it—so we don't waste anyone's time.
The whole point of keeping this topic active is to facilitate real connections for those looking for genuine introductions.

And look! Just today, we actually connected with a girl, swapped emails, chatted for a bit... and we even set up a meeting for coffee tomorrow. And I mean COFFEE—not a hookup—just a casual meet-up to see if there's a vibe. So, mission accomplished! The purpose of this entire thing actually works.

See? 🙂

I am kindly requesting that the moderators of the Single Hearts subforum please provide me with an explanation regarding why my post from earlier today was removed.
Furthermore, I would appreciate it if you could paste the disputed post here, as I can no longer access it to understand specifically which rules—both the written ones and those unwritten social norms—I supposedly violated...
Additionally, I am seeking clarification as to why, if my advertisement was indeed deleted, I received absolutely zero feedback explaining the reasoning behind such an action. 😕

If the guidelines for this thread are structured such that moderators can unilaterally strike down advertisements they simply don't care for, then I believe it would be only fair to provide the user with a reason for doing so!!!

Thank you 🙂

And just so we are all on the same page, let me paste the rules here... purely for your reading pleasure! 😉

1. You are permitted only one advertisement at a time. You may repost after thirty days have passed since your current ad, at which point the previous one will be cleared.

2. Posting advertisements using multiple usernames is prohibited. Please commit to a single identity.

3. Offering or soliciting sexual encounters, trolling (there must be a level of decorum here), or commenting directly on other people's ads is strictly forbidden. If an ad catches your eye, please reach out to that individual via private message.

4. Do not post phone numbers, email addresses, or any other sensitive personal information.

"Bumping" a post by replying to it a day or two after the initial posting to keep it visible is also considered a violation. Please refrain from this practice.
A month means a full 30 days; for instance, if you posted on March 21st, you cannot post again until April 21st. Not even a single day sooner.
To ensure there is no confusion: this is a serious forum. It remains active solely because there are individuals here who genuinely wish to meet someone, and we want to facilitate that. We realize there are those who present false identities and toy with people's intentions, but unfortunately, we lack the tools to catch every single bad actor. Ultimately, the responsibility lies with you regarding whom you contact and where those interactions lead.

Special Note: It is impossible to list every conceivable inappropriate request or offer in a rulebook. Therefore, moderators reserve the right to exercise their judgment on whether content is permissible. For example, even if not explicitly stated, you cannot solicit sponsors, offer "free" vacations, or post under a username designated as a sponsor, among other things.

Regarding the advertisements themselves, they should include basic details such as gender, age, and your location. We suggest writing a bit more about yourself or the type of person you are looking for; being descriptive will likely help you attract more interest, so please don't be overly brief.