Posts by Michael Roberts7

Harold Wright8 said:All those pains you’re feeling? It’s all in your head. You’re living in a constant state of high stress and nothing else. The core of your problem is just pure anxiety. Look, I’m currently retaking my sophomore year at State University, and let me tell you, failing a year sucks. But you have to realize this is just a minor setback to prep you for the real world. If you don't face a failure, you aren't a real student 🙂
. Pain anywhere in your body can be a direct result of stress and tension from these situations. Just pick up a book, relax, and things will get better
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p.s. NEVER speak ill of your mother, and NEVER doubt a mother's love!

I'm sorry, but at the end of the day, a mother is just a human being, flaws and all.

And people claim a mother's love should be unconditional, but if it isn't, shouldn't we have the right to question it?
In this particular situation, it seems more like she’s preoccupied with her public image than actually looking out for her sick child.

Samuel White7 said:Thanks for getting back to me, Michael Roberts7

No, we don't really have a way out of this situation. He’s broke, sure, but at least he’s working. I’m living on disability, but let's be real—I’m footing the entire bill myself, from my physical therapy sessions to gas for the car, while my parents contribute absolutely nothing. The only silver lining he ever mentioned was that he’d eventually build a place for us at the family house, but who knows if that'll ever actually happen?

It’s entirely possible that Mom is just unhappy with how things are; honestly, that’s what a few other people have hinted to me too. She’s dealing with her own health issues, of course, but let's be honest, it’s nothing compared to what I’m going through. She wanted to finish college, but then life happened—pregnancy, marriage, all that stuff—and she had to drop everything. Now, I get the feeling she’s just constantly looking for something to do for herself, though she’d much rather spend her time sulking in the kitchen.

I haven't really vented about her before, which I guess just goes to show how two-faced she can be, right? Like, she’ll tell me straight to my face that my health should be my absolute priority, but the second I mention that I can barely even crawl out of bed, suddenly it’s all about Microsoft! NO, THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IS COLLEGE!

Honestly, you should just lose it on your mother when she talks to you like that, because you didn't just stumble into that disability status for no reason! Even if she stays quiet after you blow up, she'll probably just think, "Great, she's not just dealing with muscle issues now, she's losing her mind too!"

And even if your mom doesn't change her tune for your sake, she might just shut up just so the neighbors don't hear you screaming at her again.

You're stuck in this damn cycle.
Without finishing college, you feel like you can't leave the house, but being stuck at home is exactly what's holding you back from finishing, because she refuses to take your illness seriously.

First of all, it sounds like your mother isn't even happy with her own life, so she’s just projecting her frustrations onto you instead of dealing with her own issues.

Secondly, don't feel bad about skipping class when you're sick; you really need to make sure the people around you understand how much pain you're in, and honestly, feel free to exaggerate if you have to. If you were feeling better overall, I'm sure those pains wouldn't be nearly as intense.

I get the impression you aren't seeing anyone right now, and if that's the case, moving to a place like California might actually be a great change of pace for you.
Is there any chance you could pack up and move to a different city with a boyfriend to continue your studies there?