Posts by Brenda Cooper3

And look, they exist... but it’s not that PDFs are inherently built that way; it's just that certain individuals make them that way.
Isn't this more of a psychology topic? 🤔

Start picking up some supplies 🤣

Lisa Baker6 said:I’m with Brenda Cooper3 on this one—most people just get annoyed by those "idiots" running up to them

I could never bring myself to be rude to someone like that

Wouldn't it be better to just explain that you can't just barge in? If they're really that obsessed with me, I wouldn't mind grabbing a coffee sometime in a month or so. Is it really that hard to make a little time if someone is genuinely interested?

Just to be clear, she was the first one to reach that conclusion; I simply found myself in agreement with her. 😁

casualharbor9 said:... So, what you're actually saying is there’s zero empathy for anyone who doesn't fit our specific little mold? That we'd much rather take our frustrations out on others instead of actually meeting them halfway? Yeah, I'm with you on that... (though, granted, not everyone is quite that cynical...)

No, that isn't what I'm saying.

Compassion is noble.
Mockery is primitive.

However, we can never truly know if this guy is actually as exhausting as a parasite, or if he's just being perceived that way...
The reality is, most of us have felt cast out by society at some point—everyone has, at least once.
Perhaps this sudden urge for "sympathy" is just a projection of our own inner child, reacting to an old wound rather than dealing with the actual person. We might be projecting onto someone who is genuinely, pathologically draining, or even just incredibly dense and unable to see the obvious, as the author describes.
Maybe he was the golden child, coddled by everyone, and never learned how to handle being socially ostracized.
Who knows. It's all speculation.

There's no point in debating this further until I can look this guy in the eye myself.

Jason Booth25 said:To Brenda Cooper3: I’ve been lurking on this forum for about a year now, which has actually helped me figure out exactly who I vibe with and who I don't. As for posting, my motivation is pretty hit-or-miss; some days I feel totally inspired to write, and then I'll disappear for a while because I just don't feel like it.

Regarding the topic at hand, I’ve always felt a certain level of sympathy for people who get ostracized by their social circles. Even if they deserve it in some cases, I try not to make sweeping generalizations because every situation is unique. I can certainly empathize with the author’s frustration regarding being interrogated; personally, I find it unbearable too. Being someone who struggles with anxiety, being questioned feels like an immediate trigger for my panic attacks😁. That said, if someone is acting with good intentions but is simply oblivious to how exhausting they're being, I think it’s important to gently point out where they're going wrong. People often truly lack any self-awareness about how they come across to others.

He probably is just tedious. It seems we all love to manufacture these grand narratives here, trying to convince the OP about some pervasive goodness or humanity that should reside in our hearts—his heart, specifically. Apparently, he’s strayed from the path of righteousness, which is quite a development.
yada yada yada 🤣

Of course the guy is as exhausting as a nagging neighbor on a Sunday morning. 😠
Why bother chasing after anyone on a bike?

The real question is: is a person truly incapable of cutting someone off if they want to, or have they just been gripped by a sudden burst of sentimentality that they feel compelled to share on a forum? We all know who this psychoanalysis is actually aimed at—the OP himself!!

How could you, honestly? 😠 🙂
🤣🤣
Imagine how you would feel if your friends refused to tell you that you're redundant. You partially know you are, yet you keep hoping and convincing yourself that you aren't... ??

The author isn't to blame. It's this primitive society that creates these awkward situations and eagerly anticipates them.
In America, people find it entertaining to mock those who are struggling... I have countless examples from growing up...
Someone is socially awkward or difficult? Wow, let's gang up and make fun of them! 🙏

I have to admit—compliments are nice to receive😬
I’m just an ordinary person🤷
Thanks!

By the way, how can you claim to know everyone's character on this forum after only two months and 153 posts?🤔
Are you some kind of clone, or do you just spend all your time reading? Hmm...

Anyway, back to the point.
It isn't that I'm defending obnoxious people.
It’s just that nothing irritates me more than those "victims" who seem to take a certain gloating pleasure in the unexpected mess they've found themselves in.☕

P.S. I hope I'm using the right term since it's been a while, but I think it's that specific sensation—that little flutter in your stomach when you're thrilled about something but feel you can't share it with just anyone. Schaudenfreude? Or perhaps just pure glee.☕

Jason Booth25 said:Personally, I think you're totally cool because you're genuinely different from the crowd. It's weird to me that you don't really have friends—you probably just ran into the wrong people. To me, you're actually pretty interesting.

WTF... 😕
this thread isn't about me.

Edit your post before the mods hit you with a strike for spamming. ☕

Sam Hayes said:I know exactly what you mean—I’ve been through this myself, actually. There are just certain people like that, where even though they’re using perfectly normal words, you can just feel it... you can sense that something isn't quite right with them, and their way of speaking feels forced rather than natural or spontaneous. So, I am completely on your side here. Honestly, I'm not sure how one even goes about getting rid of someone like that, but I don't think running away from them or trying to belittle them is the answer, either.

What gives it away?
Is it their eyes? The way they phrase things?
Specifically, what is it?

As someone once put it, you're rejecting anyone who isn't an absolute carbon copy of the rest of the population.
Good grief, if you want a war of clones, why not just have everyone wear the same clothes, get the same haircuts, and follow a manual on "proper" behavior?
Give me a break... 🙏

Yeah, well, I'm one of those people who smells a bit off... my eyes wander when I talk and I'm terrible at small talk. I'm not "normal," alright?

At least I don't obsess over the Hollywood red carpet. I'm still doing okay on that front. 🤣

I have the energy to be difficult online, but in person? I freeze up completely.
I get people like that... including the cyclists and the runners.
I have to admit, watching those situations unfold is just painfully awkward to witness.
I feel for the rest of you, too.
I don't have much wisdom to offer the author, other than the fact that when people are truly in your position, they always find a way to push someone out if that’s what they actually want.
But the real question is—as keks puts it—do you actually want to get rid of this annoying guy?

I've noticed in plenty of cases that people seemingly love it when things like this happen. They suddenly step into the role of society's moral compass, deciding how everyone should behave, and spend hours over coffee barking about these lonely losers.
Personally, I’d argue the former group is actually more obnoxious than the annoying, lonely ones; if they weren't so desperate for attention, they wouldn't focus on them so much. This isn't really about the author, though—it's more about the women who act this way, since it seems to be a more frequent occurrence with them.

Aaron Anderson72 said:Let's talk about this!

Do you guys think things have gone too far??? It feels like women are treated as sexual objects even when they're just trying to nurse their babies! I've said before that breastfeeding should be done privately—like stepping aside or heading to a restroom if you're out and about!

Honestly, it feels like the world has just gone totally crazy.

That's not really the issue. The point is about modesty and covering up. I was simply mentioning bras as a tool for that. In Africa, for example, people might use large leaves instead of a bra... it's all the same concept.😁

Aaron Anderson72 said:Exactly! That's basically what I was saying earlier!

So, the big question is WHY DOES SOCIETY PUSH THIS???? So much has changed in the modern era, but this feels stuck in the Middle Ages!
I hear you... ☕

Established norms are notoriously difficult to shift, especially when there’s no perceived necessity to do so. 🤷

Let me put it this way: imagine you have a favorite dessert.
Do you eat it every single day?

Will it still be your favorite after a month of overindulging?

I’d argue that African Americans lose out significantly because they didn't push for women to wear bras.
Some things are beautiful, yet people fail to appreciate that beauty until it's gone. It’s often better to act as if a treasure is hidden... we can always play the part of clever pirates on a stormy sea... forever 😍

African American women often go without bras, and by the time they hit their 30s, things tend to sag, leaving them looking like just a bit of loose skin hanging there.
Back in the Middle Ages, even showing an inch of skin was considered scandalous since shorts weren't really a thing; even the slightest glimpse could trigger some wild fantasies.
So, it isn't really about breasts themselves; it’s more about how society decided to draw lines in the sand, labeling certain things as taboo while letting others slide...
Forbidden fruit is always the sweetest, which explains why people around here find breasts so incredibly enticing.

If the tables turned—if feet suddenly became "forbidden" and breasts were treated as totally mundane—I honestly think the obsession would shift toward feet overnight...
Now, why exactly did society decide that breasts were the forbidden zone instead of feet? Well... who knows.

But look, if we declared that women could dress like men—meaning walking around shirtless—I bet men would lose their minds at first, but eventually, they'd be just as indifferent as people are toward what happens in Africa.☕

Give me a break. By the time the Dalai Lama gets around to that, a mosquito will have finished its meal and flown off on its way.. 😁

On a different note, wasn't there a day dedicated to him recently, back in March? In my city, there were crowds of men dressed in all sorts of robes, dancing through the town square and all over town.. 😕

placidwolf27 said:And what Brenda Cooper3 is saying is absolutely true

For a huge chunk of the population in this country, a cat is just some creature that happens to wander around the yard—something that can be dealt with quite easily if it becomes a nuisance, assuming it isn't someone's pet specifically

Cats kill chickens, they snatch up chicks... and so on
They tend to breed like crazy all at once

A lot of people simply don't like them
Getting rid of kittens is seen by many as a perfectly normal thing

I actually came close to having to drown an entire bag of kittens myself once—we had a stray cat in the garden that managed to have two litters in about six months, I don't even know how, but the situation had to be handled...
Thank God I didn't have to do it; I don't think I could have... I might manage a dog, but a cat? Simply wouldn't be able to

But for a vast number of people, it’s as routine as slaughtering a chicken—logical, really; an animal is just an animal

There is an 80% chance that the man in question hasn't actually done anything particularly malicious toward the cat; to him, the cat is a worthless thing that potentially just gets in the way... and if you were to tell him he's a scumbag who deserves to have his teeth pulled while he's awake, he probably wouldn't even understand what value system you're using to judge him or claim he might be a psychopath

Keep in mind, it's entirely possible the man is completely fine—a good friend, a good son, a reliable employee, a jokester, a great lover, someone with interesting hobbies who knows his way around a motorcycle and tries his hand at poetry

In other words, just a man

People like that have wiped out entire villages before...

True, what you mentioned at the end is an interesting point.

But then again, those Buddhist priests... they might be just as horrified seeing how easily we handle pests over here. 🤷

electricviper2 said:I'm right there with you on that one... there’s definitely plenty of laziness and neglect out there, but thank god it isn't the rule for everyone. Catch ya later!!🙂

It really isn't... take care! 😁

electricviper2 said:Honey, please don't listen to what people tell you, or even worse, think about things that way. You should try finding a friend out in the country, hang out for a bit, really get to know rural life so you can actually compare it to the city.
On most farms, though it's not a rule, animals are way more than just 'things.'
All this talk about vermin sounds like a mild horror movie (PG-13 rated) to me; I mean, killing a rat is totally normal—I don't know any other way besides pest control... shooting a dog or a cat... as for dogs, unfortunately, there are plenty of examples of that, though maybe less common than before (city folks handle it easier... they just drive out to some rural area and dump them from the trunk), and when it comes to cats, I gotta admit, I’ve never, ever heard of anyone 'shooting' a cat just because it was injured.
Prejudices, prejudices, prejudices... and of course, stereotypes.
Dear Brenda Cooper3, Happy Easter and thanks for the 'food for thought,' because you've actually given me enough motivation to go out into the yard, give my dog a big hug, play for a little while, and just listen to the birds chirping together... Peace!!!!

I grew up in a rural area, so I know exactly what I’m talking about. Most kids out there—boys and girls alike—tend to experiment with animals at least once or twice around age 12 or 13.
It isn't always extreme cruelty, but it certainly isn't comfortable for the animals.
Whenever we had an old or seriously sick dog, my uncle would put it down just to end its suffering.
A lot of folks in the countryside will kill off cats if they have too many litters.
To them, it's just business, yet they act horrified at the mention of neutering.
Chickens, geese, and ducks are also frequently crammed into tiny enclosures, even though there are endless fields and pastures right there—though people often fear raccoons will get into the coop.
There are times when people try to breed cows using semen from bulls that are far too massive for the cow to handle during calving; the cows die, but people will go to any lengths to get a powerful calf.
Animal welfare is often neglected. On the other hand, pest control is strictly handled, at least in my experience, because nobody wants rats eating their corn crops.
Of course, there are plenty of people in rural areas who take the utmost care of their animals. But there is still a significant number of people who don't view animals as sentient beings.
Dogs are mostly kept on chains and aren't walked nearly enough.
I also remember back when we had geese in the yard; if a gander got aggressive, a neighbor might just whack it with a stick. Or if some ducklings hatched with weak legs, someone would toss them straight into the trash instead of trying to help.
I realize chickens are primarily raised for food, but I can't stand hearing such a sweet little creature crying while I sit idly by.
I actually managed to successfully nurse one hen back to health once after she was born with bowed legs.

Also, Happy Easter!

P.S. When I mentioned in parentheses that "we've all heard of such cases," I was referring specifically to incidents involving firearms. It reminded me of those news stories about someone obsessed with video games opening fire on classmates at a university somewhere in the US.

Look, I'm not saying people in the cities are better. People are careless with animals EVERYWHERE!
I'm speaking from what I lived through and witnessed, which is why I'm providing these examples.
So, that’s my "thought process."☕

Karen Adams2 said:😍I’ve already gone ahead and shared that image😍we really ought to organize something like this😂
But that’s just what I was saying—be a tough guy now, then.Noooooo, in situations like that, people end up wetting themselves. But when it comes to bullying cats, dogs, or any other creatures that can't defend themselves? Oh, then they’re real "tough guys."
I honestly don't get it—if I saw someone five times my size being threatened, I’d rush in to protect them; to me, that feels like a challenge... but to go out of my way to hit a cat? I would feel absolutely miserable afterward...😵
Anyway—twenty bald, tattooed guys in leather jackets—as I said, daaaaah, I love the way you think😍

Hmm... there’s a certain truth to that, isn't there? 😍

The scene:
Twenty burly men with grim expressions, shaved heads, and menacing tattoos.
You arrive... you run (captured in slow motion, just like one of those Hollywood teen movies), tossing your hair back—brown or blonde, depending on your look—and splashing ice-cold tea over your face.
Skinheads are on edge, waiting to see how this plays out... some of them are just picking at their ears in the meantime.

Then someone starts leading a stadium chant, everyone pulls into a massive group hug, and we all start dancing in a circle.
You step away for a second and suddenly a "WTF" just flashes through your mind. 😕

The guys keep dancing, then some start stripping down... just grabbing at each other because of the heat. Then the heavier types join in on the shirtless crowd. Meanwhile, the rest of the football fans just head off to the game.
You’re left standing there all alone, wearing soaked shirts with your ears ringing from that intern constantly blasting the hair dryer through your hair just because they needed the right shot for the scene...

A cat wanders in by accident, and you end up kicking it out of sheer, unadulterated rage.
Some skinhead starts screaming, all forty of them—including the ones carrying a little extra weight this time around—gather back together, and slap that idiot silly...

😂

Stupid humor, I know...
You really love spinning those little scenarios around in your head, don't you? 😬 In the style of a noir film. xD

The kind of guys who go looking for trouble with bikers or punks should be the first ones to step up and teach this animal a lesson for what he did to that animal. Not lethal, obviously. Just a few solid slaps to knock some sense into him. Aside from that, most people would probably just wet themselves if they saw twenty bald, tattooed guys marching through downtown Chicago in March...

casualharbor9 said:

Brenda Cooper3 As I was saying:
mistyseal11, maybe dial back the intensity just a notch and run the actual numbers for us? What are the odds someone actually tracks this idiot down and delivers him to justice like some kind of cosmic joke?
It’s all just stuck in your head. 😉

So, what’s the play here? You really think he can just break him mentally until there's nothing left? 😁
How many people like that actually exist? You don't even have to look hard to find them—maybe just check the neighbors' doorstep. It’s an old story: the state has always been the most effective tool for repression, provided you can first get it properly mobilized.

Both psychological and physical (whether it's the hard way or the soft way 😕)... 😁

That’s quite an exaggeration, haha... though it feels like the military has nothing better to do than hunt down this lowlife. I was actually thinking more along the lines of us regular folks—the people on these forums 😍