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Olivia Nguyen3 said:What really gets under my skin are those comments... people saying stuff like, "Oh, the baby will come back to life at X months"...🙄
I mean, if I heard a heartbeat at five weeks, then the baby is already here. What kind of nonsense is that? Saying someone might "come back to life" at four or five months... as if they weren't alive to begin with. I can't stand hearing that.🙂

Ugh, tell me about it, that drives me absolutely crazy too. It didn't bother me quite as much during my first pregnancy, but now with this second one, it's just so much harder to deal with.

silentnomad8 said:That’s different. I wouldn't want to be alone either. But my husband is going to take three weeks of vacation and be 100% focused on us. If I realize toward the end of that time that I can't handle it, then I'll call my mom.
It seems more logical to me to have my mom or mother-in-law take three weeks of vacation to be with us instead of my husband. It's not like they're retired and just sitting at home; everyone knows they both work. I really don't see it working that way. I'd rather struggle through the beginning with him than with my mom. He's the parent to this baby, not my mother.

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Mine is already retired, so... 😁
And his mom is retired now too 😁 😁
For me, I basically just needed someone there to handle the laundry, the cleaning, and the cooking. 🙂 I really just couldn't manage it all on my own. And I honestly felt so good having that kind of support.
My husband should probably take some time off work soon to be with us, but I definitely won't hesitate to ask one of them to come over and help out, and I know they’d actually love to do it. It doesn't bother me one bit, and I’m not ashamed of it—I tell everyone I had help. On the other hand, I have this friend who absolutely refused to let anyone near her because she wanted to prove she could handle everything solo, and man, she really went through it. Then she goes around telling everyone how she pulled it all off by herself 🙂 I mean, who knows, I guess we're just built differently. 🙂

silentnomad8 said:On a related note, what really gets to me is how some people assume that once the baby arrives, either my mom or my mother-in-law should basically move in to help. It's like they think I don't have a husband. As if he won't handle the housework or the baby just because he's a man.

Ugh, I honestly don't even know how to respond to that, but for me, my mom actually stayed with me for a full month and a half after my first baby was born. My husband had to keep working, so he'd take off his Fridays and Saturdays (even though he usually works every Saturday), which meant my mom was there Monday through Thursday, and then he would step up from Friday through Sunday. And honestly? I don't think I could've done it alone, like, at all. For those first ten or fifteen days, I was pretty much just lying there, nursing, eating whenever, and heading to the bathroom. So, this time around, I'm really hoping either my mom or my mother-in-law—maybe even both of them taking turns—will be there to help me out.🙂

jadewolf91 said:Sentences that always start with: "Just you wait..."

It feels like I can't even share my two cents anymore without getting hit with that same old threat 😁 Like, there's zero room for debate because once someone has kids, they suddenly think they have some kind of ultimate authority—meanwhile, us pregnant women are just supposed to sit tight, shut up, and wait our turn 🙂😁

Honestly, that used to get under my skin too 😂
But it turns out everything they said was actually true, and things really do play out exactly how they warned me. 🙂 Now I try my best not to throw that "just you wait" line at other people, but I guess sometimes it just slips out 😁

Gerald Wright3 said:It honestly drives me crazy that in my city, absolutely NOBODY gives pregnant women priority! 😠

It’s gotten to the point where even I’ve stepped aside to let an elderly lady cut in front of me at the doctor's office.

But what can you do? She looked like she was about to pass out right there, so I just told her, "Go ahead, ma'am, I'm doing fine." 🤷

It isn't even about being overly polite; I just really wish we had some actual sense of order around here. 😳 🙂

Honestly, don't even sweat it, just speak up and say, "Hey, I'm pregnant, could you let me go ahead of the line?" I actually managed to squeeze myself in like that once, even though I wasn't showing much yet, because I seriously just cannot deal with standing around waiting in line forever. 🙂😢

And don't even get me started on people grilling you about whether it's a boy or a girl, acting like we definitely know but are just being secretive, or those annoying comments about weight gain and stuff... 🙄

I guess I’m also a little bit worried about my stomach being on the smaller side 😢 I mean, you can definitely see it, but if I put on something a bit more fitted—you know, like regular everyday clothes—it’s honestly pretty hard to even tell. I think I’d actually prefer if it looked a bit bigger 😢

Angela Davis74 said:My brother-in-law. He asked me five times if I wanted ice cream. I told him clearly and loudly five times that I didn't. Now he shows up with this massive bowl, probably half a pound of the same stuff. I had to fight the urge to snap at him and ask if he’s deaf, stupid, or just plain rude.

"I just wanted you to cool off," he says. I don't care what he wanted; if I said no, the answer is no. I told him to take it back to the freezer because I am not eating it, period. Please. Act like an adult and then play the martyr. I'd honestly prefer if he focused on controlling his alcoholism rather than forcing ice cream on me. 🙂

but honestly, he sounds pretty sweet 😍 don't be like that 🙂

boldbison32 said:Let me share my own recent experience on the bus with you. I hopped onto a half-empty bus and found a seat, but after a few minutes, it started filling up mostly with older folks. This one elderly gentleman sitting across from me looks at me and goes, "Ma'am, we ought to give up our seats to those older than ourselves." (I'm almost seven months pregnant, and there was this same lady on the bus earlier lecturing everyone about seating priority for pregnant women, seniors, and all that...). So, I told him, "Pregnant women, just like seniors, have every right to a seat on the bus," and he actually looked me in the eye and said, "It's not my fault I'm old, but it is your own fault that you're pregnant." I was just speechless...😲😲😲

Man, that is just awful, seriously awful!! 😲 I mean, you probably should've just snapped back and told him it wasn't his fault he's still breathing either ☕ It feels like maybe he doesn't even have kids, or isn't close with them, because he clearly hasn't ever felt that kind of parental or grandparental love. Some older people can just be so incredibly nasty sometimes 😢

Nathan Kelly said:And look... he isn't even through the door until 5 PM...

But honestly, since we moved in together, my mom hasn't come over once to vacuum the floors, scrub the windows, dust the shelves, or whip up dinner. He handles all of that; I just tackle the little things so I don't have to be bending over all day—you know, throwing something quick in the microwave, wiping down the table, doing the dishes, stuff like that. In our house, this is just how things work. It’s totally normal for us. 🤷
It was like this before, and it’s like this now.
I spent my entire life working all day long, including weekends. And for what? I can't exactly turn around and expect him to start vacuuming the living room at 9 PM, so why should I be any different???
I will never understand why women feel the need to turn themselves into servants.

I don't think it makes sense to compare life before pregnancy to how things are now. Obviously, if both partners are working late and dealing with equally tough jobs, they're going to figure out a fair way to split chores. And hey, if a mom, sister, or a friend can swing by to help out, why wouldn't you let them? Why put the pressure on the guy and basically treat him like a servant? 😕
Ever since I got pregnant, I haven't touched the vacuum, the mop, the windows, the tub, or the toilet once. But I can, you know, wipe down the sink and let him handle the rest. I can dust, make dinner, load the dishwasher, throw a load of laundry in, and give him some affection and stuff. It's just natural that my man helps out whenever he can, but it never even crosses my mind to nag him or force him to work right after he gets off the clock. I don't know what kind of job you have or how physically or mentally draining it is, but if he comes home happy and ready to hang out, then I guess his job isn't actually that bad 🤷

Nathan Kelly said:And once he finally makes it home, what’s his routine? Does he just collapse onto the couch and pass out? 🤷 until his next shift starts?

I mean, if you’re dealing with a job that’s physically draining or just mentally exhausting, you really have to give someone space to decompress, 🤷 my dear, he rarely makes it home before 6 PM, then he grabs some food, relaxes for a bit, we might go for a little walk, or come back to the apartment and tidy up the dishes and stuff, but I honestly can't be expected to demand he's vacuuming the house or washing windows at 9 PM.🤷
sorry, but I truly don't get where you're coming from, and even if you aren't in this exact situation, I still don't quite understand how you can look at things that way? 😕

I mean, there’s really just such a tiny chance that four different tests and an OB-GYN would all be wrong at the same time. It feels almost impossible, honestly 😁
but I guess I don't quite get what you mean by a massive mistake on the doctor's part? 🤔

Benjamin King2 said:Maybe try heading over to Programs and Features to completely wipe out Flash Player, then you could just grab the specific versions for Internet Explorer or whatever other browsers you're using right from here: http://get.adobe.com/flashplayer/otherversions/

I mean, do you actually have all your latest browser updates installed?

Hey, I just wanted to let you know that I actually managed to fix the issue. It didn't really work using the method you suggested, though 😛 basically, I just disabled my antivirus software, and then, strangely enough, Flash Player updated itself perfectly fine across all my browsers 👍

So, I somehow got this prompt saying I needed to run an update, but then it just gets stuck right at the end. It’s supposed to say "100% done," but it just hangs there forever. I ended up force-restarting my computer, and after that, the prompt stopped showing up for a bit. But then, when I actually went to the update page myself to try and fix it, everything went south. I get this error message saying they have to kill the process for my own security—then the Blue Screen of Death hits, and the PC just restarts itself automatically. Since I pretty much jump between four different browsers, I noticed that only Google Chrome actually shows Flash Player as being updated. On Internet Explorer, Opera, and Mozilla, I keep getting those nagging notifications that I need to update it because I can't even load certain sites that require the latest version. But every single time I click "get Adobe Flash Player," it tries to run the update the exact same way, triggers that security error, blue screens, and reboots 😕

Hey guys, I was wondering if anyone else has been running into issues lately while trying to get Flash Player updated? 🤔

I think I’ve heard that theory floating around too, you know, the one where they say if you're carrying low, it's gotta be a boy. But honestly, I have no clue how anyone is supposed to actually tell if it's low or high, I guess it's all just guesswork to me 😬

I think I’ve heard that theory floating around too, you know, the one where they say if you’re carrying low, it’s gotta be a boy. But honestly, how is anyone supposed to actually tell if it's low or high? I haven't the slightest clue, really 😬

I’ve actually heard the same thing regarding driving while pregnant, too—like, I've seen people getting really worked up and judging those close to me who were still behind the wheel during their third trimester. Honestly, I’m just not really sure how to feel about all the drama surrounding it, to be honest.🤷

rapidrider3 said:PS.
(Samantha is from that show *The Chocolate Secret*)

😲 wait, you actually watch that?
🤣 🤣

This is such a killer topic!! 🙏
Seriously, please keep the stories coming! 🙂

Anyway, I don't really have much of a following myself 😢

hollowpuma26 said:that online game Miss Bimbo.. 😁

I think there's actually a specific thread dedicated to that topic right here, so maybe you could just take a quick look at that instead of having me explain everything all over again 😉

Wait, are you basically advertising us now? 😂