Posts by Kimberly Sanders4

Bradley Johnson2 said:So, I actually had a pretty sweet surprise today while waiting in line at the store.
I was at a small Walmart and it was packed... I only had a couple of things in my basket, and since I don't even feel pregnant yet and my bump is still tiny, I wasn't exactly trying to draw any attention to myself. I was wearing this super tight shirt, just standing there in line, when this young guy—probably like 18—turns around and goes, "Oh, sorry, I didn't see you, please go ahead of me." I told him, "No, really, it's fine, I only have two things," but he wouldn't take no for an answer. Then he asks me which month I'm in, adding that he doesn't want to be intrusive if that's too personal. Honestly, he wasn't pushy at all, he just totally made my day. 😍

Honestly, guys like that brighten my mood constantly; I guess between the pregnancy hormones and the whole chest situation, I'm just more receptive to it.😁

The only thing getting on my nerves right now is... well, the fact that I am perpetually starving. I am so over having to contemplate what I’m going to eat every three hours; it’s such a massive drag...

I honestly think it’s doable—actually, I’m one hundred percent sure about this. They could just sign a fiduciary agreement where someone acts as the fiduciary owner until the mortgage on the house is fully paid off, basically stepping in as the guarantor in the meantime...

Brenda Gray5 said:Here’s my question: am I actually required to pay for trash collection and local utility fees on a house that isn't even finished yet? It’s basically just bare walls right now—nobody lives there, nothing is happening on the property, and I haven't even been issued a trash bin. Yet, I keep getting these bills every single month. Is there any way to get these charges waived until the house is actually livable?

Well, first off, just go ahead and request a trash bin 🤷
but if you really want to get these services canceled, reach out to Pfizer and file a formal request along with a signed statement. Basically, tell them that nobody is residing at the address [xy] and ask them to stop sending the bills. Usually, they'll send an inspector out to the property to verify everything is actually vacant before they pull the plug...

analograven86 said:If you happen to know a lawyer who will do this for about $333, please, for the love of God, send them my way! Here's the reality: attorney fees for drafting these types of contracts usually run around 1% of the total contract value. That means for two measly pieces of paper, you're looking at paying at least $0.00. And believe it or not, just because you hire a lawyer doesn't actually guarantee they'll write a solid contract, unfortunately...

TRUE! But let's be real, there's a much better shot at getting it done right by a professional than trying to DIY it yourselves. Plus, if they seriously mess up, you can actually sue a lawyer for malpractice.

I will honestly never wrap my head around why people don't look at the big picture; a few grand is nothing compared to the nightmare scenarios you face when you try to skimp on the paperwork for a house worth $500k-$1M just because you didn't want to pay extra for "only two pieces of paper." We aren't talking about buying a pair of sneakers here.

Personally, if I were a lawyer, I wouldn't even consider taking $333 for a contract like this.

There’s definitely a whole club of us dealing with this stuff...
When your blood pressure tanks, the tremors just become part of the "new normal."

A few times now, I’ve actually blacked out, which is terrifying enough that I just have to drop straight to the floor. Then comes the struggle to actually fall back asleep because my heart starts racing like a drum kit in a heavy metal band, and I get hit with these shakes, chills, and this pure sense of dread. Three weeks ago, I even ended up cranking up the heat in the house. Eventually, the realization hits that my pressure has bottomed out, so I scramble to drink a glass or two of salt water—and honestly, it is absolutely revolting. Sometimes the salt water works instantly, and other times it does nothing at all, which has led to my partner having to rush me to the ER (it’s only about ten minutes away), but by the time we pull into the parking lot, the feeling has already passed. Once I feel that numbness creeping up from my feet toward my torso, I know my pressure is finally stabilizing and I’m not going to kick the bucket.🙂
So, the fix is salt water (about a cup of water with at least three big spoonfuls of salt)! Some people swear by a Coke or some lemonade... but personally, the thought of lemon or salty food makes me nauseous, and onions aren't my favorite either. You just kind of learn to live with the grind, though I am seriously considering seeing my doctor about actual medication. Oh, and I do drink some unknown wine, which seems to help a bit.😉
People always say those with low blood pressure live longer than the folks with high blood pressure, so I guess there's a silver lining in that somewhere.😍

Yeah, Linda Edwards76, I am truly sorry to hear about what you're going through with your mom. 😢

By the way, I’ve been dealing with this same heavy pressure in my head for about three and a half years now, ever since my mom passed away. It isn't exactly a buzzing sound, but there's definitely something there... and who knows when it'll finally let up? Maybe once we all just settle down and fully wrap our heads around the fact that she's really gone. Honestly, getting out into nature—even if it's just lying around in the grass—hitting the gym, or going rollerblading... that stuff helps a ton.

So, I’d say we’re looking at either option one or three, though I’m leaning heavily toward number one being the culprit here:

1. Anxiety, depression, or even full-on panic attacks—usually triggered by heavy stress or losing someone close to you.

2. Something involving your inner ear or balance center.

3. Low blood pressure, especially if it tends to dip even lower than usual.

Hey Raymond Ortiz89... honestly, it might be time to get moving, just as a little preventative measure 😉

Man, these canker sores are the absolute worst!

Most of the time, they pop up because of stress—once you get them started, it’s like a nightmare trying to shake them off. For me, it’s a constant cycle; the more I’m stressed out, the more they flare up. It’s definitely tied to your immune system, too. Usually, I just grab some B-complex vitamins from the drugstore and take one tablet a day before eating. After about two days, they start to recede, but if I miss even a single dose, I’ll wake up with a new one staring at me the very next day. My routine is basically taking those vitamins for ten days straight, then stopping for two months until the next round hits. Honestly, if you really want to fight them, B Stress supplements—the ones with the massive B-vitamin doses—are better, but there's a catch: they make you gain weight because you feel hungry all the time 🙂. All that medicinal mouthwash, propolis, or specialized creams? Total waste of money. I've tried everything under the sun, and I always end up going back to the vitamins. 😉

James Cox6 said:Well, that's just a business decision for Bank of America.

You've got a point there...

but I’d watch out for one thing—some banks slap a restriction on you that prevents selling property without their explicit okay.

It’s illegal. Banks don't actually have the right to do that, yet they still pull it—and some courts let them get away with it.

If you're stuck with one of those, my advice? Demand that Bank of America removes it, because they have zero legal ground to stand on.

This applies specifically to mortgages.

With Fiducij, it's possible.

I’ve gotta say, this is actually the first time I'm hearing about this. 😲 Can anyone give me some more context on which bank we’re actually talking about here? I'm wondering if they typically bake that kind of clause directly into the loan agreement. Like, say a bank decides to slap a restriction like that in there, and the buyer goes ahead and signs off on it—even if the whole thing is totally baseless—does the buyer have any ground to stand on later? I mean, could they go back to the bank and demand the restriction be lifted, or if the bank plays hardball, would they actually have a legitimate case to sue them over it?

Honestly, looking at how things are going lately, I feel like we're hitting a point where even getting a basic loan or a mortgage on top of a mortgage is becoming a total pipe dream. If you don't have the rock-solid income, a massive pile of collateral, and a co-signer to back you up—just like Richard Wright was saying—you’re basically out of luck. It feels like the doors are slamming shut on anyone who isn't already sitting on a mountain of cash.

James Harris9... Honestly, I think it would be a massive help—not just for me, but probably for a whole bunch of other people too—if you’d sit down and write out your whole journey from the moment you first noticed things going sideways until the end of it all. Like, give us the full rundown: what the symptoms were actually like, where you had your surgery done, how the recovery process felt, and if it actually hurts... 😢
Also, can someone clear something up for me? What’s the actual distinction between Cushing and just a standard pituitary tumor?

I found this thread where people were talking quite a bit about pituitary tumors

just testing things out here ... thanks to everyone for the warm welcome.

Just wanted to mention that it seems like everyone and their mother has heard of Dr. Paladin—the guy’s got quite the reputation. I’m going to try my luck and see if I can snag an appointment for a consultation sometime this week. Thanks again.

Just wanted to mention that I think everyone’s pretty much on the same page when it comes to Dr. Paladin—his reputation seems to precede him everywhere you go. I'm going to try my luck over the next few days and see if I can actually snag an appointment to sit down and talk with him. Thanks again for the heads-up.

Wow, two replies in under five minutes? Thanks guys, you're too kind.🙏 Honestly, you guys have me getting all misty-eyed over here—sorry, I’m just being a total softie today.😢

Anyway, let's see if I can actually make sense of these pointers, especially those tips from Kimberly Sanders4. I'm definitely going to do some digging and look into this further...

Much appreciated.

Hey everyone...
So, sorry if this topic has already been covered, but I couldn't find anything quite like this while I was searching. If someone could drop a link if this has been discussed before... thanks in advance—I’d throw a happy waving smiley your way right now if I actually felt cheerful 😢

Basically, my sister was diagnosed with diabetes when she was 20. It could have been the stress, college, losing our parents... honestly, there are so many factors. Anyway, she's an amazing person, a student who's almost finished her degree, and she's worked so hard, but sometimes life just hits you with everything at once 😢😢 She has type 1 diabetes and takes insulin four times a day. Every year she’s had an MRI on her pituitary gland and everything always came back fine, but this year, they found a microadenoma on her pituitary—basically telling her she has Cushing's syndrome. Over the last two years, she’s gained a ton of weight around her waist while her legs stay relatively thin, her face has gotten rounder, she looks swollen all over, and she misses her period for three or four months at a time. My sister doesn't live in Washington, D.C., but out in Boston, and the doctors there suggested surgery would be the best move. They said it would be done transnasally. Ideally, the surgery would fix the swelling, the weight gain, and her cycle—and maybe even help stabilize her blood sugar, because even with insulin, she’s hovering around 15, and while she feels okay at 13 or 15, we all know 15 is still way too high. She talked to a neurosurgeon in Boston, but since I don't live there and am based in Washington, D.C., I'd love to bring her to see a specialist here in the States. I just want to talk things through and see what the surgical options look like in Washington, D.C. (and obviously, I'm prepared for whatever the costs look like...). We're going to ask around and check with friends or private clinics, but what I really need are your personal experiences or stories from people close to you... Where should we go, how does it work, and most importantly, WHO is the best? Feel free to send me a private message if you can help.

Man, I've totally tangled myself up in all this; I honestly don't know which way to turn 😕

Thanks again in advance....

driftingfox13 said:So, I was involved in a car accident yesterday. I failed to yield the right of way to another vehicle, which brings me to my question: is there any chance the liability could be shifted onto him if he was traveling at roughly 50 miles mph through a residential area? It happened at this small, poorly lit intersection tucked between some buildings. To clarify the sequence of events, I had already merged back into my lane when the collision occurred because his car swerved while he was braking. The police measured the skid marks on the pavement; they noted that the impact hit the side of my car, but they also confirmed that I was the one who failed to yield. Naturally, his speed was significantly higher than the limit. The officers told me I’ll have to wait for the accident reconstruction expert's report to come back. I’m trying to wrap my head around what the fallout might look like so I can prepare myself, especially since the damage to my car is massive. Is it even possible for his insurance to cover my damages due to his excessive speed, or is the fact that I failed to yield the deciding factor that leaves my insurance solely responsible for his repairs? Thanks.

I dealt with something pretty similar once; I pulled out right in front of a guy who was driving the wrong way down a one-way street meant only for taxis and buses. I need to dig through my files to see exactly what kind of ticket they slapped me with—I remember paying something in the ballpark of a few hundred bucks—but I think he got fined too. I honestly don't know if he managed to get anything from his insurance since he was also in the wrong, though maybe he walked away with 50% coverage? As for the damage to my own car after he slammed into me, I ended up paying for those repairs entirely out of pocket. Honestly, failing to yield is usually considered a much heavier offense than going the wrong way on a one-way, but given that your guy was only doing 50 miles mph, that might work in your favor. I actually forgot how fast he was going when I saw the police measuring the speed of the guy who hit me 🙄