Posts by Terry Wilson2

Ronald Smith3 said:🤔

I’m looking for some advice from the pros—you know, the people who actually have their lives together and master time management... I want to know how you structure your day to juggle everything. For me, it’s balancing college with my other side hustles, plus there's the whole house chores, family, friends, working out, and trying to find time for self-improvement like reading or those deep-dive personal growth courses. Don't even get me started on healthy eating; I manage to whip up something decent once in a while, but that's about it 🤣

What does your daily, weekly, or even monthly schedule actually look like? Do you set big yearly goals? And honestly, how do you stay motivated on those days when everything feels impossible and just too much? If you fall off the wagon and miss a goal, how do you get back on track without losing your mind?
Do you swear by any specific methods—like that Eisenhower Matrix thing where you sort stuff by urgent vs. important? Also, how often do you see your family or friends, and how do you actually maintain those bonds? Do you ever get that feeling that if you say "no" to an outing, you're slowly drifting away, and then when you finally hang out again, you realize you have nothing left to talk about? And how often are we talking for housework?

I threw a lot of questions out there just to get the ball rolling, but I’d really love to hear from someone who truly believes they can achieve whatever they set their mind to. I know life isn't perfect and things go sideways... but I know there are people out there crushing their goals and living intentionally. I'd love to hear your wisdom 🎉

An 8/8/8 split would be the ultimate formula—8 hours of sleep, 8 hours of work, and 8 hours for personal fulfillment. Of course, some people find their work *is* their fulfillment, so they might trade social time or reading for more productivity.

Make sure you have at least one day a week entirely to yourself. Use that day for absolute rest and to catch up on all those personal goals you missed. For instance, on Saturdays, go grab coffee with friends, hit the local farmers market, or meal prep enough healthy food for the next few days—(pro tip: invest in a good freezer and plenty of Tupperware, haha). Sip some tea, read a book, or just do whatever actually relaxes you.
Don't waste your precious hours on mindless distractions, like staring at the TV—most shows nowadays are just recycled garbage anyway. If you really want to watch something high-quality, like a decent movie or a prestige series, pick one specific night a week for that indulgence.
Your college lectures aren't going to drag on for 8 hours every single day, so try to stay on top of things by studying and reviewing regularly. Avoid the whole "all-nighter before the exam" nightmare—it makes absorbing the material nearly impossible.
If you’re working a side hustle alongside school, just accept that you won't have time for everything else; it's an unavoidable reality because, unfortunately, a day only has 24 hours.
If you smoke, quit. It’s incredible how much extra time you suddenly gain when you aren't stepping outside for a break.
Plus, you won't need to grind as hard at work if you aren't spending a fortune on cigarettes—you'll save 500-$333 less per month automatically.
You can teach yourself a new language or any other hobby online for just thirty minutes a week; it's plenty. If you're persistent, you'll master anything within a year or two.
Don't neglect your friends and family, but remember that quality matters far more than quantity. Cook together, dance, or learn something new as a group.
Chip away at housework every day in small increments. Treat it like light exercise—or even meditation, if you actually focus on the task at hand. And please, forgive yourself for your shortcomings. Remember the Lord's Prayer: "forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us." Would you truly be angry at a friend if they had other obligations and couldn't hang out? Would you judge someone for having a little dust on their counter when you visit?

And breathe. College ends, and then comes the career. We're all stuck in the same mess, but it'll be fine. 🙂

Escape.
If that doesn't work—well, you've got CTRL/ALT/DELETE.

1. The Last Boy Scout
2. Basic Instinct
3. Kill Bill
4. The Fifth Element
5. Star Trek
6. Some Like It Hot
7. When I Grow Up, I'll Be a Kangaroo
8. Star Wars: Episode V
9. Dirty Dancing
10. Breakfast at Tiffany's

2, 3, 4, and 5 were only partially addressed 🙂

1. Responsible enough, I suppose

These are the moments—the small, fleeting reasons why life remains tolerable. When you fall in love,
or when you catch a truly great film,
or stumble upon an old friend after years...
Don't try to lecture me on the merits of pessimism—I remind myself daily that we're all headed for the grave anyway, so suicide feels like unnecessary extra work.

And that’s just during the stage where they actually love you back...

Ah, those little fantasies...🙄

Here’s my take on this. I sometimes feel like just packing everything up and sending it all back to where I was born—to my hometown. It isn’t even pessimism, really—it’s more of a "what’s the fucking point?" situation. If we’re all destined to die anyway, why bother justifying our existence? You exist simply because your old man finished what he started with your mother that one night. He could have just stayed home. It’s not that I care about my own existence—it’s that I’m stuck living in a world governed by rules that nobody ever bothered to ask me about. Does that make sense?
It’s like someone telling you—look, we’re playing this card game. These are the rules, take them or leave them; if you don't play, you lose, and if you play poorly, you still lose. Honestly, I don't have the energy to explain who came up with these ridiculous regulations—you get what I mean.
So, here’s the plan. That’s what I actually want to do. Scrutinize every single rule. Start an Inquisition for the current status quo. Overhaul the social contracts and ethics from the ground up. Because even the parts of this world I actually tolerate are just mediocre imitations of what things would be in my own world.

The flu is finally gone, though I’m left feeling completely drained—that’s about it.

But this damn headache just won't quit.
My head is throbbing like nothing I've ever felt before.

Is it even possible for a sinus infection to hurt this much? I've never dealt with anything like this.

It might be my sinuses—during those high fever stretches (hitting 39-40), I was constantly pressing cold, damp cloths to my forehead, and I always sleep with the window wide open.

Honestly, even standard headache pills don't do much; they just leave me feeling slightly dazed and that's it.

And if it actually is my sinuses, do people usually take antibiotics for that or what?

Please, everyone, help me out—this has been going on for five days now, and I can't take it anymore.

By the way, I also recently quit smoking—could there be any connection there?

Ha ha ha😁 😁 😁

My son just called me "mom" 😕 😍 — even with a thirty-nine fibroid diagnosis hanging over us — and I can't help but laugh. He actually reminded me that back when I was forty 😍, I used to call him "dad" 😕.
What’s your take—unresolved Oedipus complex?

Oh, and Tihana, that was solid advice... 👍

Honestly, I’ve never had the flu last this long in my life—it's exhausting. It hit me on Monday, and that first night I was spiking a 105.8; my husband spent the whole time trying to cool my head down, but it's finally settled to 103.7 yesterday, 102.2 last night, and today we're looking at about 97.5.
My head feels like it's splitting open, and my bones, joints, and spine are just aching constantly—but there is zero rest to be had. Right now, I'm busy applying compresses to my husband, who is sitting there at 102.2.

Please answer—I’m actually terrified of psychiatrists. My uncle struggled with schizophrenia, and my mother... well, she's "eccentric" at best. There are days when she doesn't say a single word in the house—I assume she manages to communicate with her coworkers at the office, though I doubt it—but honestly, we prefer the silence. It’s easier when she isn't talking; everything she says, even just stating a fact like "it's raining," is deeply unsettling. Her voice alone can freeze you in your tracks. She has this frustrating way of being able to depress anyone with just one sentence.
Now, it's not like I don't have my own issues. I'm wondering if any of this stems from a chemical imbalance. I took a psychological test once where the woman told me I was psychotic—my trainer had to step in (since I needed permission)—so I retook it, but this time I filled it out exactly how he told me to. Besides, there are times when I won't leave my room for days, and other times when I won't bother coming home at all. I constantly find myself in life-threatening situations; I love hitchhiking and chatting up strangers. To me, these people seem perfectly fine until someone else warns me that I'm talking to someone who is clearly disturbed.
Sometimes, out of pure aggression, I'll go looking for a fight—I'm a 22-year-old woman, and I tend to provoke older men. You might call it childhood trauma, but I don't buy that.
I also struggle with concentration. Back in school, my teachers were used to me getting up and pacing around the classroom at any given moment. It felt normal to me until a high school teacher finally called me out on it. What else? Well, I talk to lightbulbs, gadgets, and animals. I know they aren't talking back, but in the heat of the moment, I completely forget that. I don't sleep much; to tire myself out enough to drift off, I'll spend hours reading or watching TV, sometimes right up until dawn. I often feel like I'm being watched. I've had several hallucinations. I frequently get paranoid that people don't actually want me around and are just faking their friendliness—even my friends. And I often feel like I can read people's minds. I worry they're doing the same to me but are just too polite to admit it. Not in some wild conspiracy theory sort of way, but just the sensation that they can hear my thoughts. Has anything like this ever happened to you?