Carol Scott98 said:I totally agree with this! Once I started wearing bras, I wore them—CONSTANTLY!! Day or night, it didn't matter... but over time they started getting annoying, so I scaled back a bit 😬 Right now, I have no complaints about "the twins" (😛) but I am honestly worried everything might just sag after pregnancy/childbirth/breastfeeding... at least that's what some of my friends who became moms told me... 😢 Does anyone have experience with this?? 😁
Look, a bra isn't going to help you here. During my pregnancy and while I was nursing, my breasts went from a B to an E. That’s nearly three sizes. The skin stretches out, and there isn't a single bra in existence that can save you or make the skin snap back. The only way would be to not breastfeed, maybe? It seems girls whose breasts don't grow much have it much easier—some don't even go up a size, they just fill out a little. And I get the feeling women with smaller chests handle it better🤷. I've just made my peace with it😁.
And that pencil trick? When I was younger, I used to try it and think, "Good grief, how are they supposed to look if the pencil doesn't fall out?" 😕
Rebecca Bailey16 said:What on earth are you people talking about? The idea that a woman needs mental health intervention just because she hasn't given birth by age 30 is ridiculous.😲😲😲
I'm 26. I have zero intention of having kids before I'm 32. I need to finish college, find a career, and get my own place first. I refuse to be one of those frustrated parents who never grew up or found emotional stability. A person’s personality is still evolving until they hit 28 anyway.
Otherwise, what's left? Just a bunch of resentful parents who can't raise their kids properly, take their frustrations out on them, and struggle to afford even the basics.
No thanks.👎
Well, you've swung straight to the other extreme.🙄 Does that mean everyone who had kids before 28 is automatically a resentful parent who can't provide for their children? That's nonsense.
When you feel ready and actually want a child—especially if you have a partner and the basic means to support them😁—then that's when it happens. Whether you're 20 or 35 doesn't matter. Physically speaking, you're definitely more prepared at 20.
I also forgot to follow up on that question—can you actually turn the faucet on and off using a paper towel, or do you happen to have some Kleenex on you?🤷.
Emily Mitchell80 said:What do you even do when the restroom door is too heavy to push open with your elbow, and there isn't a single paper towel in sight to use as a barrier? You're basically forced to use your bare hands. You suggest washing your hands; but do you honestly feel they're clean if you just touched the faucet and turned off the water after someone else—who likely didn't wash up properly—just used it? I won't go into the messy details, but I hope you see my point. So, does nobody else bother disinfecting the seat after guests leave? I get the impression everyone here is quite particular about hygiene, yet you don't wipe down the seat after a guest, friend, or neighbor sits down (especially during this sweltering summer heat)? To me, disinfecting seems like common sense.
Generally, I avoid using restrooms anywhere else. As for neighbors, I have to admit they rarely visit mine, 🤷though occasionally some kids stop by to play, or perhaps a family member like a grandma, sister, or sister-in-law. I don't host anyone I find unpleasant. If a neighbor were to sit down, I would definitely disinfect the seat first.
wanderingheron482 said:I assume they wash the glasses properly, though I’ve definitely spotted a greasy one here and there. It probably just gets a quick rinse under the tap and they call it a day—they aren't the ones drinking out of it, after all. Honestly, I actually caught a cold once because of something like that. I'm careful at home; I never drink from someone else's glass...
They might clean them, sure, but when you see someone visibly sick using a glass, you just feel like no amount of scrubbing can fix it. It's more about the "ick" factor than anything else. I don't think I'll actually catch a disease, it's just gross.
I don't mind eating a pastry without the wrapper. Honestly, who knows how many hands touched it before it got wrapped up? My hands aren't even my biggest concern, though I don't really ride the subway. It doesn't gross me out at all—I'd much rather deal with that than grab a soda or coffee at a local pub from a glass that's been passed around by God knows who. I don't carry disinfectant wipes everywhere. I just wash my hands after using the restroom, when I get home from work, and obviously before I eat.
Michael Diaz4 said:Don't just wipe. You really need to wash up, then pat the hemorrhoids dry as much as you need. Without washing and maintaining perfect hygiene, you aren't going to get any relief...
Look, I know what to do when I'm at home, but I'm usually not😠, and I have bowel movements 2-3 times a day—at least one of them always happens while I'm at work.😢.
The worst part is just not being able to wipe my butt like a normal person😢. Look, it doesn't hurt and there's no bleeding, but I just want to grab some toilet paper and actually wipe properly instead of constantly patting at these little cushions😢.
Honestly, it doesn't matter which pad I use; there's just too much blood. I feel like I should be changing my protection throughout the night—especially during those first three days—but I just can't bring myself to do it.
Anyway, I went in for some swabs yesterday. My plan is to get the Mirena IUD inserted during my next period, assuming everything goes smoothly and I don't deal with any side effects. Then, I'll finally have one less thing to worry about.🙂.
The first two or three days are always a total bloodbath for me. Back when I was a teenager, I used to wear overnight pads and they worked perfectly. Nowadays? There is zero chance I'm sleeping in those. For a while, my little one was waking up four or five times a night, so I used to switch products mid-sleep. Now, I just can't face it—the kid sleeps much better now, but I get so exhausted during the day that I just want a peaceful night's sleep without the hassle. I'm currently in the process of getting prescribed birth control, so I'm hoping that finally puts an end to this cycle.
Beyond the daily liners—which already have their own dedicated thread (so I’ll leave those alone)—I have some other bad habits I just can't seem to shake. One of them is sleeping with tampons🙄. Because my periods are so heavy, I should really be getting up multiple times a night to change a pad, which is just not happening😁. To avoid waking up with my husband (and occasionally the kids if they wander into my room) feeling like we're all swimming in blood, I just use a tampon (XL) plus a pad and try to make it until morning.
I know using tampons overnight isn't ideal, but I simply don't have the energy to give them up, even at night. While I was on maternity leave, I switched entirely to cotton pads—no tampons at all—and I even tried cutting out the daily liners. But as soon as I went back to work, I fell right back into my old routine.
Do you have any habits you know aren't great, but you just can't seem to quit? How do you deal with them?😁.
mistydrifter55 said:It's true, there are plenty of incompetent doctors out there. That’s why you shouldn't just pick any random doctor you find in a phone book. Instead, ask around—check with your friends to see who's actually good and where you should go. There is nothing illegal about wanting to avoid unnecessary trauma. An exam is an exam, as long as it's with the right professional. 👍
John Doe, let me tell you, I did exactly that. I went for my very first exam about 12 years ago to see Bljajić or Petrov. It was the same routine: he tells me to undress, I do, then he tells me to sit down—right on this greasy, dirty chair that who knows how many people had used before me—and I sit.🤦 I still remember it like it happened yesterday, it was such a shock, you know? And the thing is, my best friend recommended them to me. She still goes to them, she’s had two kids, and she thinks they are absolutely wonderful!
Oh, absolutely. I know someone who was actually told by a top specialist that she wouldn't be able to conceive, yet she ended up pregnant almost immediately—even though she was being extremely careful. Just my two cents.🙄.
She should have received her full medical history, including the specific diagnosis established by her doctor. While second opinions are always an option, there are other ways to start a family too. I am truly sorry.
She also mentioned noticing some delays in his fine motor skills. She thinks daycare will eventually sort it all out, so I asked her if she had any tips for exercises we could do at home. As parents, we want to help, but we aren't experts on the best way to support our child. She seems to believe daycare is the ultimate fix for everything we're facing. Honestly, she basically brushed me off, leaving me with a million questions.
Thanks so much, everyone.
Since when did daycare become the place to handle developmental issues?😕 Does anyone have recommendations for seeing a private specialist instead?
I get a little bit of work done, then I forget, then I start again, then I forget. It’s my bladder after my second child 👎. I'm honestly struggling here. As soon as I try to exercise, I leak a little bit just from jumping twice—unless I was in the restroom literally a second before.
I honestly can't stay quiet about this anymore. To put it bluntly, most general practitioners and social gynecologists just aren't doing their jobs properly.
Take my mom's GP, for example: I show up to pick up her referrals and prescriptions, wait an hour, and then she tells me, "Oh, we're on break now." After I start losing my cool, they finally let me in, and it takes her 35 minutes just to write two referrals and two prescriptions.😕. How long would a full exam actually take? And how many patients can one woman really see in a six-hour shift—assuming she even works six hours, given some people mentioned home visits earlier? Plus, there's the break.😕. Basically, during a standard workday, she’s barely seeing six or seven patients.👎.
It's the exact same story with gynecologists. They are disorganized and so rude that patients end up fleeing to private clinics—even though Medicare is paying them to take care of you.👎. In a normal workday, there should be enough time for at least two patients who have urgent needs. . And that leads right back to my boss,😁, asking, "Why bother going for a referral? Just head to the ER, it's faster," or individuals saying, "I'll just swing by the ER to get my blood work checked."🙄.
I use the internet to better understand my rights so I can actually demand what I'm owed. I believe in being polite as long as things are reasonable—but after 🤷, everyone gets exactly what they asked for. It's a shame when people don't know what they are entitled to.😢.
The people who actually fund healthcare reform should be the ones fighting for it. Us. We pay for it out of our gross pay, not our employers.
As for the mess at the hospitals, besides Medicare, who else is to blame but the director?🤷. They are the ones responsible for managing the funds they receive.
It usually takes about six weeks, though if the incision isn't major and there aren't any stitches involved, you might be able to get back at it sooner.