Not to be judgmental, but maybe because I never experience that rigid, cold doctor-patient dynamic, I actually feel even more awkward about it.
I get it. Honestly, I’d go as far as to say that a little bit of confidence—or even slight arrogance—actually makes me trust them more.🙈
hmmm I just wonder why they tend to be gentler.
Oh man, I’ve said this before, but it’s like men think, "Sure, she likes it when a guy does it, but if a doctor does it, she’s going to claim it’s just an exam." Think about it that way during your next appointment; it might help you shake that discomfort.🙂.
I remember waking up with this intense craving to just talk to someone—it was almost like saying, "Hey, I'm awake! Come over here and tell me everything." But what actually came out sounded like: žlačksaj khduw d qud dc.
Then my sister walked in and told me, "It’s okay, just try to get some rest."
I was completely frantic. I wanted everyone to gather around me so we could chat about my surgery, you know, just debrief on how everything went😁. I kept trying to call them over, but they just stared at me like, "What on earth are you babbling about??"
Anyway, it wasn't an unpleasant experience; it was actually pretty fascinating.
I’ll try sharing a quick story from my labor (though I’m not sure if it’s quite on-topic).
I arrived with contractions—relatively intense ones. They hooked me up to the monitor, but it wasn't picking up any activity. The OB/GYN gave me a quick exam and just said, "You aren't dilated, you don't have contractions, go home."
Then my primary doctor, the one who handled my entire pregnancy, walked in. I panicked, telling him, "But I really am having real contractions, seriously, seriously, seriously!!!" He replied, "God, I believe you, let me check you myself." After a gentle exam, he told the staff, "Get her ready, she's in labor."
Three hours later...😍.
And that was my bad experience with a woman.
But obviously, the takeaway is this:
It was an encounter between someone doing their job poorly and someone doing their job well. In this case, unfortunately, incompetence was paired with rudeness, while expertise and kindness were paired with professionalism.
Amy Fowler48 said:I don't feel awkward at the OB-GYN. But I think visiting a proctologist would be tough🙂 just because of the positioning.🙂
That’s exactly my point. I've been putting off that specific exam for a while now, though I suspect it might just be because I'm already used to the routine with my gynecologist.🤷.
Female doctors are no exception either🙂. The real question is, what defines an attractive woman? And why does she always have to be young😕?
I suspect those with less experience might struggle with this more—and it’s not just the interns; other doctors do it too. (Or maybe it's just me🤷.)
Besides, a doctor is likely to be more intrigued by a unique medical case than by a pretty patient, even if she happens to be a bit older😉.
In my life, I’ve probably seen about ten gynecologists, two of whom were women. I never felt any awkward vibes. I can't imagine one asking me, "So, any recent action?" or something like that. It just hasn't happened. Maybe I'm just not that type. My doctors have all been polite professionals rather than jokers, which worked for me. I'm not really one for banter.
At the end of the day, I am a sexual being, but I’ve never felt any excitement during a pelvic exam. For most men, I'm sure that's completely unimaginable.
To be honest, I tend to prefer male doctors. They just seem a bit more comfortable to be around. It’s not that I’m self-conscious, but much like being at the beach, there’s that slight awareness of bodily imperfections 🤣. Plus, I’m never quite sure what the protocol is (and I’m in my thirties🙄). For instance, if I hear someone say, "I forgot to wear a skirt"😕, I wonder—what am I supposed to do? Just lift the top? Personally, I show up in pants, take them off, and walk over to the exam table completely naked. Is it just me, or does anyone else do that?🙈 And what about those medical booties or the paper covers? Am I expected to put those on?
I always arrive clean and groomed. I don't feel like they're viewing me as a sexual object.
OB-GYNs can definitely feel a sense of arousal when a young, attractive woman comes in for an exam. No matter how hard they try to keep things strictly clinical, there's an inherent sexuality involved. I’m not saying everyone is like that—there are certainly doctors who have no patience for women at all, or those who perform procedures without enough anesthesia—but it stands to reason that some are secretly turned on.
It’s an intense, overwhelming pain. It makes it impossible to think straight; it just leaves you feeling on edge, with nothing else on your mind.
Honestly, reading this makes my own issues feel manageable, and the daily discomfort I deal with seems almost trivial by comparison. But the thought that this might be a lifelong struggle? That’s terrifying.
What really gets to me, though, are the people who sound so resigned—as if they've just accepted that chemical imbalances are something you simply live with forever.
Look, I know exactly which medications I was on during my pregnancy, but after reading through everyone else's experiences, I started thinking there might be ways to manage things more effectively. Or maybe I totally misread the situation.
So, what’s the point of the creams and pills if they don't actually work? I also wanted to ask: at what stage do you typically see a doctor? Is it even necessary to make an appointment if there isn't any active inflammation? It’s honestly not a huge deal to live with. Or am I just in that early phase where nothing like surgery or specialized treatment is even required yet?
Sorry if I'm rambling on with all this nonsense. None of us are medical experts here; I'm really just looking for some quick advice, 🙂.
I figured I’d jump in with a few questions of my own. After reading through everything here, I’ve honestly lost track of what was said at the start. To give some context, I dealt with hemorrhoids during my pregnancy. They cleared up on their own after the first bout, but the second time around, they just won't budge. I've adjusted my diet and occasionally use some Fact, but since I'm breastfeeding, I'm hesitant about taking any medication—probably best to avoid it. I haven't seen much change, though maybe a slight improvement. There's been minimal spotting, nothing heavy. Since there isn't intense pain, I assume they aren't inflamed; it only hurts when I'm using the restroom. What actually causes inflammation? And at what point should I schedule an exam (besides the obvious)? Due to a previous surgery, I still have stitches at the vaginal opening, so I'd prefer to delay an exam for a few months if possible. I'm also curious about creams and meds. I've learned not to sit on cold surfaces (or hot ones), but what's the most common cause of inflammation? By the way, I have one external one, and I'm not sure how many internal ones are present.
Also, is it actually possible for an external one to shrink on its own without surgery? Just purely for aesthetic reasons, even if that sounds silly to some.
I read somewhere that insurance coverage doesn't actually kick in until 30 days after you sign the contract. It’s designed specifically to stop people from gaming the system—you know, paying the premium in the morning and rushing to the ER by the afternoon.
And honestly, that’s exactly what I was planning to do.😂.
I have an upcoming hospital stay, but I don't currently have supplemental health insurance. Since my admission is less than 30 days away, I won't be able to secure a new policy in time.😢
Does anyone happen to know what the typical daily costs look like?