Back pain from large breasts: Any tips?

A massage chair sounds great, but I’d much rather just float around like a buoy. Honestly, I think we could all use some kind of zero-gravity chamber 😂😂😂😂:
lol:
I still dream about being able to sleep on my stomach again hahaha

Oh, please, I am only twenty-three! 🙂
I have absolutely nothing to complain about—neither my figure nor my age (though, if we are being honest, I’ve had a decent bust for at least a decade), and I certainly maintain myself quite properly.

A friend actually recommended a specific massage therapist to me, so I am planning to make an appointment...
The goal is essentially to reach a point where I can live with myself regarding this matter... though, if nothing comes of it, well... I do happen to have a medical excuse that mandates a massage once a month. 😁

Carol Price79, what kind of massage are you specifically referring to?

wiredscout7 said:Hey there!
My bust is totally out of proportion with my frame—I have a tiny ribcage (size 32 or 34) paired with DD cups.
MY BACK IS KILLING ME: whether I'm working long hours (at the computer, obviously), stressed out, or—my favorite—that perfect cocktail of work and stress, or just dealing with hormonal shifts. Basically: ALL THE TIME.
It's mostly centered around my cervical spine and upper back.

I’m in the exact same boat: my upper back takes a beating because my breasts are large, natural, and quite low-set (since they start about 10 cm below the armpit). I usually have to hunt for E or F cups depending on the cut—and let me tell you, nothing fits $133 perfectly.
As for tops, I'm pretty much stuck buying basic styles, since I have zero interest in anything that looks frumpy with giant floral prints.

Surgery isn't on my radar right now, so I just do some light exercises here and there and call it a day.

Of course, I also have to deal with the karma of having a deep cleavage that attracts stares from people who act like they've never seen skin before. 😲 Honestly, I just want to burst out laughing when I catch them looking... 🤣 😂

stormymaker24 said:Carol Price79, what kind of massage are you talking about?

The "chair massage" is basically a mix of different styles—acupressure, some sort of Reiki vibe, I don't even know. Honestly, I'm all about it. You sit in this weirdly shaped chair where you're leaned forward instead of lying on your stomach (which is a total nightmare for me), and they work on your back, neck, arms, and head. It feels incredible. I actually did mine at a Bath & Body Works, and you book it right through them.👍

this thread is alive again 😍

that "perfect" posture we were all taught? total urban legend. chest out, shoulders back, stomach sucked in... yeah, right. what a great way to intentionally wreck your spine 👎

not sure if I'm allowed to drop direct links, so here’s a hint if anyone's looking:
just google: proper posture. look for stuff like... lumbar supports or shoulder braces.
honestly, if I just had a permanent bra, I could actually hold myself up straight... right now it's a losing battle for both me and them 😁

shoulders aren't my issue... it's the part of my spine right between them.
you know how people crack their knuckles? yeah, that's me with my vertebrae. sit for a few hours and the pain kicks in—I have to shift around until it pops, then it's back to square one

over the years (since I was about 16), I've gone from a 75B to an 80D, and now I'm hovering around 75D... and the older I get, the harder it gets 😢 no matter how much weight I lose, the basket stays the same 🙄

but... getting older brings something nice too. you grow up, mature, and eventually just accept it. you stop fighting them, get to know them, make peace. you learn that sleeping on your stomach isn't really an option anymore, and that running needs to be swapped for something else... and in return, they show you how much fun life can be when you just include them in everything you do 🤣

at the end of the day, I've learned to turn my flaws—or in this case, my "assets"—into a bit of a joke. once you can laugh at yourself and them, everything feels a lot lighter 😍👍

Angela Martin2 said:...

I must confess that I hold my own breasts in higher regard than anything else in this entire world. 😍 They have been living their own lives for quite some time now, and frankly, I have absolutely no intention of meddling in their affairs; as far as we are concerned, everything is perfectly fine. 😍
As for proper posture, we spent quite a significant amount of time focusing on core engagement during our training sessions, so I find that my technique aligns perfectly with those principles. Essentially, one must tuck the pelvis inward while lifting the chest two inches higher than usual and pulling the shoulders back; this ensures the spine remains consistently elongated, though I must admit that if I remain stationary for too long, I tend to collapse onto my lower lumbar region.

A supportive bra... honestly, how can something be so brutally effective? When my hormone levels spike and everything starts swelling, I find myself searching quite desperately for someone to handle them—which usually just leads to everyone getting exactly what they want, so I suppose it’s a win-win for all involved. It’s such an exquisite sensation. Yet, looking back, it wasn't until the first time I actually experienced that physical shift that I truly grasped the immense weight I am forced to carry every single day.
What I find most absurdly comical is that whenever I am seated at one of those cramped university lecture hall desks, there is just enough space to lean back and rest my chin on my hand in a gesture of utter exhaustion. 😍

stormymaker24 said:abdominal

Same here—I’m heading to the abdominal session. Our instructor was really drilling that weird posture into us, which honestly feels totally wrong. Maybe we're actually on the same page and I just didn't catch it... 😉

And I gotta admit, those sessions are one of the main reasons I can even deal with them. It makes carrying them easier... and helps me actually love them. 😍

I’m also struggling to find a bra that actually does its job. Right now, I mostly rely on string bras because they're the only ones I trust, but it's hard to justify experimenting with new brands when the prices are so high. That's why I wanted to ask: how do you all feel about Triumph bras? I've noticed they have some great models—even in larger sizes—and the price point seems to be right around what I pay for my string bras, maybe even a little cheaper.

Also, has anyone with a larger bust tried wearing a bodysuit? I’d love to give one a shot, but I’m worried it might just pull down and cause everything to spill out. A bodysuit from Victoria's Secret is about $117, which doesn't seem too bad when you consider a single bra can cost $83.

I’ve only got one Triumph bra, and honestly, it’s a bust.
It looks nice, feels comfy, high quality—you can tell—but there's zero support and the shape is just... off. It doesn't hold everything in quite right, even though the size is technically correct. Basically, the silhouette is wrong and I hate how my chest looks under clothes when I wear it. Not that Triumph is bad or anything, I know plenty of girls who love them.

I actually found my best fits at some random stores—I've got two from H&M, one from Victoria's Secret, and three from Etam. The Etam ones were the winners, but it seems like they closed up (or moved) from their spot in the mall.

I used to wear bodysuits back when things were a bit smaller... but rarely, just for special occasions... I only had one... the kind you practically have to fight to get into before you even put it on 😍 You probably need to nail the cup size perfectly, and definitely go with underwire. But honestly, I don't really trust bodysuits to stay secure. For me, that elastic band under the bust on a regular bra gives much better support...

Personally, I'm not a fan of bodysuits because of the hygiene factor. I can wear a bra for a couple of days without feeling gross, but a bodysuit? If I'm not wearing panties underneath, there's no way I'm wearing it two days in a row. And if I do wear underwear, I just feel... I don't know... crowded and claustrophobic? Constricted? 😁

But... I guess I'm just difficult: on one hand, I want that firm, secure feeling where everything stays put, but on the other, I hate feeling suffocated... so my move is always a sturdy bra over any kind of bodysuit, corset, or camisole.

Discovering Victoria's Secret was an absolute revelation for me! I have developed a particular fondness for their padded push-ups, which are specifically designed for women with substantial 🙂 ; everything stays perfectly positioned (well, except when I’m lying down, but then everything tends to migrate everywhere depending on how I pose) and they are incredibly comfortable. Honestly, they can even be more budget-friendly than Fox. That is where I found the widest selection; the last time I stepped foot into a Fox store, the bras felt like something you'd find at a cheap flea market. Oh, and they actually hold their shape without stretching out.

The only downside is when the straps are thin, because that inevitably becomes quite uncomfortable.

My shoulder has finally stopped aching, thank goodness 🙏
This time, it was a marathon session—two and a half weeks straight.
I am heading in for a massage in about ten days, if I can actually manage to go...

I almost forgot, but I simply must share this. My ear is hurting because of my breasts. Yes, you read that correctly. My ear. It turns out they put pressure on my shoulder and my cervical spine, and then the cervical spine sends all that tension right to my ear. There is no infection; the ear pain only flares up simultaneously with the shoulder ache. It is utter madness 🤣

stormymaker24 said:I honestly thought Victoria's Secret was such a game changer! I especially love their padded push-ups for those of us with big 🙂. Everything stays right where it should (well, except when I'm lying down—then everything just shifts everywhere depending on how I pose). They're super comfy too. Honestly, they can even be cheaper than Fox. Last time I checked out Fox, the bras felt like something you'd find at a flea market. Oh, and they don't lose their shape after washing.

The only downside is when the straps are thin; that gets uncomfortable fast.

My shoulder finally stopped hurting, thank God. 🙏
This time it was a marathon—two and a half weeks straight.
I'm heading for a massage in about ten days. I really need this...

I almost forgot. But I have to share this. My ear hurts because of my breasts. Yes, you read that right. My ear. It's because the pain hits my shoulder and my neck, and then my neck sends it straight to my ear. It's not an infection; my ear only hurts when my shoulder does. It's crazy. 🤣

I don't know. You mentioned the thin straps, and I'm worried they'll dig into my skin...
And the ear thing... seriously? I can't believe it...
But I guess pain can "radiate" anywhere... 😢

Susan Allen69 said:I don't know. You say they have thin straps, but I'm genuinely worried those things are going to dig right into my skin...
And honestly? I can hardly bring myself to believe it...
Though I suppose they could probably make an impact on just about anyone... 😢

They aren't actually that flimsy, and they certainly won't cut into you. It’s just that, let's be honest, they aren't quite as cozy during a long day as something with twice the padding might be. But if we're being realistic, I wouldn't even bother buying anything with straps that thick. At the end of the day, everyone knows what works best for their own body.

Yeah, my Victoria's Secret one has those thin straps too. Super stretchy... honestly, I hate it. I need some actual support 😁

So... quick question, what size are you guys? And how does your chest react when you gain or lose weight?

Over the last decade, I went from a 34B to a 36D—with a brief stint at a 36D after putting on a few pounds... 🙂

A modest 110c... I have to say, Michelle's Fox collection is my current favorite discovery... 🤣

85d, and that was after I had already dropped ten pounds and settled at a 75c/d.
My girls grew at an absolutely staggering rate; I started out in a 75b, but just a few months later, I had already surged into the C and D territory.
When I first mentioned at around eleven years old that my breasts were developing, nobody believed a word I said; 😍 instead, within a matter of months, the rumors began swirling that I had undergone some sort of breast augmentation 🤣 when I was only eleven. Honestly, I didn't even have enough lunch money for 🤣

I was honestly floored when everything just shifted overnight once I hit 10 or 11... breasts, body hair, my period... did any of you deal with size issues back in childhood (if you can even call being 11 "childhood")?

Yeah, I did. Between the girls at school picking on me—though the guys didn't really catch on until later—to those awkward PE classes where I just wanted to hide, and then eventually dealing with creepy stares from random creeps all over town... 🙄

And generally speaking, I remember that whole stretch of puberty and childhood as this weird, unspoken truce where we just tolerated each other instead of actually liking one another.

The real spark didn't happen until much later, probably once I figured out what people could actually do with it 😍 (getting discounts, skipping cover charges at clubs, free drinks, and all that other kind of bribery 😂 along with various adult activities ☕)

Angela Martin2 said:I was honestly in shock when everything changed overnight once I hit 10 or 11... the breasts, the body hair, my period... did any of you have issues with your size during childhood (if you can even call age 11 childhood)?

I definitely did. Between being teased by other girls at school (I think the boys didn't realize what was happening until later), dealing with gym class embarrassment, and trying to hide myself, it was tough. Later on, I constantly felt like a target for creepy stares from random guys out in the city... 🙄

Generally speaking, I remember that whole transition from childhood through puberty as this silent agreement where we just tolerated each other rather than actually liking one another.

Real self-love didn't kick in until much later, probably once I finally understood what those changes were actually capable of 😍 (getting discounts, getting into clubs for free, free drinks, and all those other little perks 😂 along with various adult activities ☕).

Hehe, I second every single word here... it's like I wrote it myself. 👍

I find myself facing the exact same struggle as you ladies. Standing at about 5'4", I usually fluctuate between an 85D or 85E depending on how a specific brand is cut.
It is honestly such a nightmare trying to hunt down a high-quality bra that actually fits properly. More often than not, I feel like the sales associates give me these condescending little looks when I ask for my size—especially since I’m looking for something that doesn't make me look like a walking Dolce & Gabbana advertisement. 🙂
Most of the time, I opt for a balconette style because the straight neckline provides that perfect side compression, which helps create a much more streamlined silhouette. The most recent one I picked up was from Victoria's Secret around $117, and it is actually quite stunning—a sultry black number with gorgeous lace detailing. They truly offer the best selection on the market right now, even if they do pinch my wallet just a little bit.

what even is a balkonet? 😕

http://www.victoriassecret.com/us/page_17138_Light__Comfort.php
Take a peek at the Amuret Sweet collection.
It’s reminiscent of a classic balconette style, though it certainly breaks the mold by offering its own unique twist. It is actually the exact model I’m wearing right now, just in a sleek black instead of this color. Honestly, it is absolutely wonderful!