Toe Deformity Issues

I don't really pay much attention to other people's feet unless they’re, like, actually filthy or something.🤷
Then again, you can find just about anything these days—it just costs a fortune.

You don't seem to notice, which is exactly why I enjoy our chats. 🙂

Anyway, I am honestly so relieved that autumn is finally on its way and we can stop wearing open shoes...

I'm heading out now. I really hope people continue to share their thoughts on this. It's become quite a preoccupation for me, even though I have an exam next week and really shouldn't be letting my mind wander like this...

wiredharbor22 said:I mentioned that people have actually told me to my face that they look terrible. It’s possible I am overthinking things—since I tend to overthink everything—but I don't know how to stop. They are just there. No matter how much I tell myself it doesn't matter, one single glance at them destroys everything I've tried to build up...

Question: Would you find a woman like that attractive, even with messed-up toes?

Look, there will always be comments like that and idiots to make them. They live off it; it’s their fuel. If it isn't a finger, they'll find something else—hair, makeup, clothes, or just anything that doesn't fit their specific "taste." These types basically have to drop a comment like that just to get through the day...

Obviously, by trying to wreck someone else's confidence, they're just dealing with their own complexes, frustrations, and feelings of inadequacy. It's easier for them to deal with their own issues if they can project them onto others. They actually enjoy it.

You actually have a privilege here (unlike those "perfect" people): you get to figure out who's sane and who's a loser, which lets you pick normal people to hang out with. 👍

Why on earth would your finger need to look like everyone else's? Since when was that a rule? Who decided what a "correct" appearance is anyway? Are we all supposed to be clones? That’s some next-level stupidity right there, but honestly, it's an excellent way for you to filter out the jerks from the actual friends. 🙂

Don't let your little fingers bother you because of some idiot. Don't give them the satisfaction of making you mess with your health (who knows how that might affect your body's balance or posture?), and for what? If you did, all they'd do is find something else to mock—counting missing toes or looking at the gap at the end of your foot. You wouldn't achieve anything; you'd just be trading one set of insecurities for another. 🤷 There will always be losers; it's unchangeable, and they'll always find something to feed their mental emptiness.

Personally, I handle those kinds of idiots with a quick workaround. 👍 For example, I have visible capillaries on my legs; they really stand out. 😲 Every time I get a comment like, "Oh my god, what happened to you? Look at those veins," I just hit back with, "Well, at least my blood flows to all parts of my body, whereas yours barely reaches the surface. But hey, don't blame me, Mother Nature just played with you instead." And you'd be surprised—the nonsense stops instantly. Not only do they not get offended, they actually end up respecting me more because they failed to trigger an insecurity and got the exact opposite reaction instead. After that, everyone treats me with genuine respect. 👍

Me, for instance, I'm not going out of my way (even if I had the cash) to get those capillaries removed, even though they're noticeable, because I value myself regardless. Plus, it's a personal thrill to shut down fools while simultaneously figuring out their level of consciousness. That way, you can weed out the idiots the second they try to talk down to you with that "holier-than-thou" attitude. 👍

Can you actually "remove" capillaries? 😲

And I’m starting to find this concept of using my unsightly fingers as detectors for true friendship somewhat appealing. 🙂 Do you think it's wise to vet people immediately upon meeting them, or should I wait a while...

wiredharbor22 said:You don't seem to notice, which is exactly why I enjoy our chats. 🙂

Anyway, I am honestly so relieved that autumn is finally on its way and we can stop wearing open shoes...

I'm heading out now. I really hope people continue to share their thoughts on this. It's become quite a preoccupation for me, even though I have an exam next week and really shouldn't be letting my mind wander like this...

Look, there are plenty of us who are perfectly sane and actually view human diversity as a strength rather than some target for projecting our own insecurities. 🙂

The real issue is that while there are about 500 of us just chilling (and you won't even realize we're here because we aren't going to jump into the fray or stare at you like you're some freak), one single idiot pops up with a comment and manages to ruin your entire day, week, or month.

I honestly don't think your issue is about your toes—God forbid some other health crisis or accident hits you tomorrow—but rather that you need to settle the score internally with these losers talking to you. They are infinitely more miserable than you are, and they're just trying to drag you down to their level of zero self-esteem. Don't let them win. 👍

Once you sort that out within yourself, you'll walk around with those toes of yours feeling proud 😍 and you can tell every moron that comes your way how much you pity them, but explain that you aren't available to fix their pathetic lives. Tell them to go find another victim for an ego boost or go see a therapist instead. 😍

wiredharbor22 said:a) How can I be sure? Honestly, my gait feels off already. Everything seems tilted inward. It might be because I refused to rely on those little weaklings...🤷

b) I saw that thread, but it feels like half of it is staged. Besides, you could just as easily obsess over other topics, like photos in magazines...🤷 Some people there have genuinely messed up feet, but mine are fine; it's just these damn things that bother me...🤷

It's actually pretty simple. You want to know why flat feet matter so much? It's because even a slight misalignment ruins your balance so badly that most people spend their entire lives relying on orthotics, hunting for "comfy" shoes, and avoiding walking on concrete all day.

Or take bunions, for example. You get fallen arches, and suddenly you're dealing with crooked big toes, protruding bone, and a dozen other issues.

And you know why those old ladies in Japan walk with that heavy stomp? Because they can't help it. Their feet were completely ruined by years of wearing those tiny shoes that crush your arches.

wiredharbor22 said:Can you actually "remove" capillaries? 😲

And I’m starting to find this concept of using my unsightly fingers as detectors for true friendship somewhat appealing. 🙂 Do you think it's wise to vet people immediately upon meeting them, or should I wait a while...

You can zap capillaries away with a laser, but mine act more like a radar—they pick up on human monkeys instantly. 😍

Look, I'm in a pretty rough spot financially right now, and it’s actually helped me figure out exactly who my real friends are. 👍 Every cloud has a silver lining, I guess; 🙂 back when I actually had cash to burn, I had way more "friends" hanging around. 🙂
Now I see everyone for who they really are. If I hadn't hit this financial slump, I’d still be clueless. 👍

You should come up with a "finger-f***off"—something punchy 👍 that leaves them feeling embarrassed by their own bullshit after you say it. Or maybe you could just use it to help someone out of a jam once they realize what a total loser they've been acting like. 🙂

But I actually enjoy solving other people's problems!

So, you're saying you wouldn't recommend surgery at all... instead, I should try to find a way to accept it and discover some inner strength through the process?

Look, if that’s actually eating at you, you might want to go chat with a therapist. Honestly, nobody cares about an ugly pinky finger unless there’s something way deeper going on under the surface. It’s clearly something stuck in your head—it’s got nothing to do with the finger itself. Because let's be real, if it wasn't the finger, you'd just find something else to obsess over.
I was just messaging a friend of mine who basically has zero facial features—like, seriously—and then I see this person here crying over a finger. Aaaaah... man, go work on your mental health, that's what you really need.

wiredharbor22 said:Can you actually "remove" capillaries? 😲

And I’m starting to find this concept of using my unsightly fingers as detectors for true friendship somewhat appealing. 🙂 Do you think it's wise to vet people immediately upon meeting them, or should I wait a while...

"Health is a person's best outfit—unfortunately, it's only the sick who truly realize it." You probably agree, and I think you know exactly what I'm getting at here.
Those little fingers of yours—no matter how you feel about them—they are a part of you. They are exactly as they should be. Whether you want to touch them, hide them, or go through some whole reconstruction process... well, at the very least, don't let them become a source of insecurity.
Try looking at them through a different lens. And as for those "friends" who point out how ugly they are? Try to laugh them off or just mock them back. Be happy.
You're young, and honestly, this tiny thing feels like such a minor aesthetic flaw. Just ignore it. You have much bigger reasons to be happy and content with yourself.
Once you realize that nobody else in life—not even you—really cares about them being the way they are, you'll stop obsessing over them. Eventually, your whole perspective will shift, and you won't even be thinking about "removing" anything anymore.
Every reconstruction is a surgical procedure, which inherently carries risks and potential complications. So, really, why bother? Why subject yourself to pain, suffering, and fear? I truly believe it's pointless.
Of course, at the end of the day, you're the one who decides what to do and how to do it, regardless of what anyone else thinks.👍

Joseph Wright5 said:Look, if that’s actually eating at you, you might want to go chat with a therapist. Honestly, nobody cares about an ugly pinky finger unless there’s something way deeper going on under the surface. It’s clearly something stuck in your head—it’s got nothing to do with the finger itself. Because let's be real, if it wasn't the finger, you'd just find something else to obsess over.
I was just messaging a friend of mine who basically has zero facial features—like, seriously—and then I see this person here crying over a finger. Aaaaah... man, go work on your mental health, that's what you really need.

Hmm, I think I'd feel a bit silly walking into a psychologist's office just to say my fingers are ugly. 😕 I might as well mention my parents don't love me while I'm at it. 🤷

It's not a bad idea, actually. I've thought about it quite a bit, but everyone who knows me tells me I'm just overreacting and that there's no reason to see a therapist...🤷

@copperrider20: Aren't flat feet considered a problem? Personally, I don't think they would throw my balance off that much.

@wearygardener19: No crude finger jokes come to mind, though I could certainly find ways to bring myself down with them.😢

I might be able to post some photos tomorrow. I don't have any natural light right now, and my schedule is just too packed. I'm in quite a rush. Thank you all for trying to help me... 👋

wiredharbor22 said:But I actually enjoy solving other people's problems!

So, you're saying you wouldn't recommend surgery at all... instead, I should try to find a way to accept it and discover some inner strength through the process?

Hell yeah! Besides the fact that you could seriously wreck your health, you’ll just end up obsessing over your new foot situation anyway. It’s always the same people—they run around looking for that kind of mental fast food. 😉

Just wait until you shut down the first idiot who tries something (come up with a killer comeback that totally levels them); you’ll feel incredible. And when that person approaches you next time, hoping to see if you've backed down, there’s no way they’ll even dare to speak. They’ll suddenly feel a massive amount of respect for someone who actually possesses what they lack: genuine self-confidence. 👍
That kind of confidence radiates more charm and attraction than any perfect toes or physical looks ever could. 🙂

You’ll feel a hundred times better than you would after some random procedure. That feeling comes from within, not from the outside—it’s an amazing sensation that you can’t even compare to physical appearance. 👍

Practice a little. Work on your sarcasm; for me, it just clicked back in elementary school when I started wearing glasses and everyone was like, "Look at the nerd! Look at the nerd!" for a day or two. I just gave them this sideways glance, laughed mockingly, and by the end of the year, nobody mentioned my glasses again. They simply didn't get the reaction they were hunting for, and once there's no "food" for them, they move on. That's the trick. In fact, everyone ends up wanting to hang out with you because you're seen as "cool" since you aren't insecure like they are. You just have to make that clear to them. 👍

wiredharbor22 said:Hmm, I think I'd feel a bit silly walking into a psychologist's office just to say my fingers are ugly. 😕 I might as well mention my parents don't love me while I'm at it. 🤷

It's not a bad idea, actually. I've thought about it quite a bit, but everyone who knows me tells me I'm just overreacting and that there's no reason to see a therapist...🤷

@copperrider20: Aren't flat feet considered a problem? Personally, I don't think they would throw my balance off that much.

@wearygardener19: No crude finger jokes come to mind, though I could certainly find ways to bring myself down with them.😢

That's what I'm trying to say! It was just worded a little clunky. The point is, they matter—they really impact your health.

btw from Wikipedia
The anatomy of the human foot consists of numerous bones and soft tissues which support the weight of the upright human. The toes specifically assist the human while walking[2], providing balance, weight-bearing, and thrust during the gait.

wiredharbor22 said:That’s exactly what I want—to only have memories left of them. 😉

Thank you!

Actually, Endymion has me worried now. He usually knows exactly what he's talking about. :/

Of course he knows what he's talking about, obviously. He's no amateur! 🙂

Look, the first step is seeing your primary care physician to get a referral. You take that to places like a Mayo Clinic or a Cleveland Clinic—they have their own dedicated aesthetic surgery departments. There's always a chance they can come up with a "diagnosis," which might let you get some corrections covered through your insurance. I'll keep digging; hopefully, I can find the name of a solid 😉

wiredharbor22 said:There is no way I could ever love this. And calling it a "quirk" feels wrong because I always associate it with this struggle. :/

I'm not sure where else to turn. I wanted to ask here, since there are people who actually understand...

What kind of issues? Could you explain that to me?

They are. When I mentioned it to my boyfriend a while ago, he said they weren't, but that's just what people say to comfort you. I noticed him looking at them much more often after that. Perhaps I shouldn't have brought it up...

I said the same thing to my sister, but she didn't take me seriously at all. She just thinks I'm being funny.

First off, it’s going to look completely ridiculous. But honestly, that’s minor compared to the fact that you should probably be focusing on not tripping over your own feet. 😁
Good grief, woman, what on earth are you talking about? 😂 Give me a break. 🙂
I can't wait to see the photos.

copperfox22 said:It doesn't necessarily mean amputation; maybe some kind of reconstruction 😉

If something is ugly, then it's ugly. And there's nothing wrong with saying: "No thanks, I don't want it, I don't like it!" 🙂

That's one thing. But cutting things away? Good lord.
😁

placidjackal36 said:First off, it’s going to look completely ridiculous. But honestly, that’s minor compared to the fact that you should probably be focusing on not tripping over your own feet. 😁
Good grief, woman, what on earth are you talking about? 😂 Give me a break. 🙂
I can't wait to see the photos.

That's one thing. But cutting things away? Good lord.
😁

I've always had a soft spot for the expression "woman of God." It just hits different... similar to how some old-fashioned sayings used to feel... 😕 😁

I have to admit, I feel like I'm relying on those toes just a little bit anyway... 🤷

I'm a bit tipsy right now and can't take any photos. It's too dark, anyway...

That’s more like it. But man, that's quite an undertaking... 😁

I honestly don't see what there is to fix here. Those nails are never going to grow back normally...

wiredharbor22 said:I mentioned that people have actually told me to my face that they look terrible. It’s possible I am overthinking things—since I tend to overthink everything—but I don't know how to stop. They are just there. No matter how much I tell myself it doesn't matter, one single glance at them destroys everything I've tried to build up...

Question: Would you find a woman like that attractive, even with messed-up toes?

It all depends on everything else, both physically and personality-wise. Nobody is perfect, even if some people think they are. If she happens to have perfect physical features, she’s probably got issues in her head or something else going on.

If you're asking me if I'd date a girl like that, yeah, I would, provided the rest of her looks okay and, most importantly, she's a good person who has those spiritual qualities I look for in women. Honestly, that part doesn't move the needle for me that much.

No surgeon is going to amputate your fingers just because you think they’re ugly. If you’re really that desperate about it, you’d have better luck talking to a butcher...

You claim your nails look weird, that they seem to grow from two different spots and create some kind of destructive interference (as if we were discussing wave 😁 interference)? Look, if your nails are actually growing in an irregular way, that's a job for a general surgeon. And as for the swelling... maybe they're ingrown? Honestly, you should just rip them out and let new ones grow in...

As for the whole beauty thing... since when do two little toes define a person's appearance? Since when is that what makes a first impression in life, which is the most important thing? Come on, get serious...

wiredharbor22 said:I noticed you posted this under the world champion of stupidity category. I think that's pretty rude, considering you have no idea what it's actually like to live with fingers like those.

Beyond that, I don't see the stupidity. Jesus said, "If your foot causes you to stumble, cut it off." I'm just taking Him literally.

Fine, you think it’s rude, but I think it fits perfectly right there.
To each their own.
And that bolded part? It had me cracking up. Seriously, why all the drama over them when you've got a massive hunchback on your spine.
As if everyone else in the world is flawless and doesn't have a single imperfect body part.
For the record, my pinkies are also weirdly shaped and have double nails. Something similar to yours. And yeah, people have laughed at them before. So what? I'm certainly not cutting them off or throwing a tantrum for days over this 🙄