Michelle Howard2 said:There’s something incredibly grating about arrogant ignorance, but honestly, maybe nothing is worse than arrogant expertise. Just watch how Professor Mickey talks down to people when he starts lecturing on... Apropos Bergman:
Your reasons are totally valid, Mary. (The fact that she just doesn't love Bergman like she used to...)
Or even better.
It’s actually pretty great how you have such a down-to-earth, layman's take on Bergman.
Michelle Howard2, I don't think Mickey meant for this to come across as bad! Take me, for example—I read plenty of popular science books, but at the end of the day, I'm still just a layman when it comes to actual science. If I were in some debate about Schrödinger's cat and a physicist told me it was super that I had such a layperson's approach to QM, I definitely wouldn't take it as an insult.
Look, if you’ve spent several years studying a specific field and you actually work in that industry—in this case, the movie business—you can pretty much bet on the fact that you’re going to have a deeper understanding than someone who just watches movies for fun on the weekend.
When you study cinema, they drill critical analysis into your brain. It’s like Mickey once thought it was super to just watch a movie as pure escapism, but once you've been trained, you can't help but see every single frame through that analytical lens. You lose that ability to actually relax and just let the story take over.
If that isn’t the definition of a disgusting, arrogant, patronizing ex-dean approach, I don't know what is. And this is coming from someone the professor is actually being kind to! In one of those classic ex-dean power trips, Mickey starts throwing these completely off-topic exam questions at her like, "So, what do you think about Tarkovsky?" or "What movies are you into lately? (Keep it brief, though)." Pay close attention to that "brief" part. You can totally feel the condescension in his tone. He’s basically just sitting there waiting for her to beg him for a passing grade.
Honestly, I think you’re projecting here... it's the exact same thing Mickey did back when he posted on your thread about film critics... Mickey wrote:
Short. I mean, let's be real—this wasn't exactly a thread meant for discussing Tarkovsky or those kinds of movies... just trying to make sure we don't drift too far off topic.
I feel like people keep trying to tell me exactly why I should or shouldn't love someone. Legit. Or maybe the Movie God is just blessing me with my own ignorance. laymanHonestly, I feel like I'd just grab him by the throat and squeeze until I saw his eyes start rolling back in his head like that. 🙄
From what I can tell, Mary didn't feel insulted at all... I honestly don't know why you took it personally. If anything, it feels like you're implying you don't actually have a strong opinion on Mary's film knowledge, especially since you chose to frame Mickey's questions as arrogant and patronizing instead of just seeing them for what they were. She didn't even give him a proper comeback.
I have to hand it to Mickey—his knowledge is impressive—but showing off like that just comes across as totally uncool and like a total nerd.
People are saying you leave the exact same impression. 😉