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Michelle Wilson8 said:I really feel like moving all the heavy-hitting discussions over to OFF topic is basically the beginning of the end for them—it’s where they start losing their sense of purpose and why we even bother, and honestly, I think in the long run, it’s going to have the exact same effect on the Life for Two subforum too.
It makes me wonder, how is a newcomer—someone who actually needs a shoulder to lean on or some genuine support regarding a specific issue—ever supposed to stumble upon our topic if it’s buried way over in the off topic section? 😕
Not to be dismissive, of course, but I have to ask: what kind of logic are we using here? How is it that we don't belong on ZUD, yet topics like dealing with difficult in-laws, helping out parents, long-distance relationships, porn in a marriage, or even when a husband tells his wife she's mentally unstable... those kinds of things, which are individual struggles and often quite superficial or fleeting, are considered appropriate?
Are we eventually just going to be left with nothing but wedding planning and divorce proceedings?
There won't be any actual life captured in between those two extremes....😢
So, provided our dear Jose White18 doesn't decide to delete this thread on a whim, I’m asking anyone who feels the same way I do to please leave a comment to show support for "bringing back the outcasts, Jose White18 style." 😍
Jesse Taylor80 said:Michelle Wilson8, I found myself shouting into the void just like you did (about two feet underground over there), but some of these posts are just gone. I have one question for the admins and those in charge: DO YOU HAVE PERSONAL ISSUES THAT MADE YOU SEE TOO MUCH OF YOURSELVES IN THESE DELETED GROUPS, SO YOU JUST WIPED THEM OUT TO AVOID READING THEM?
mellowlynx68 said:I'm with you on this one.
Even if it means I won't be making any new neighbors.😢.
driftingfox33 said:Signature + let's make a little bet—how much longer until this thread gets moved, locked, or just deleted entirely? 🥳 Give it about 7 more minutes and it’ll hit the one-hour mark... 😁
John Hill said:Alright, look, I moved this thread to where it actually belongs. And just to be clear, decisions like this aren't made by Jose White18 alone, or by me, or any single moderator acting on their own. These three specific threads have been a mess for a long time now. Originally, there was just one single discussion about cheating. Then, a few women showed up claiming they didn't fit into that specific conversation, so three separate threads about adultery were opened. We allowed them because we wanted to be accommodating; we thought splitting things up would cut down on the constant bickering by letting people group themselves by interest. Instead, it just created these little cliques that ended up warring with each other. In any other normal situation, when threads get this out of hand—where moderation becomes a nightmare because we're constantly deleting arguments—you’d just lock them down. But because we wanted to cater to the regulars who frequent these topics, we kept putting it off. Eventually, we hit on the idea of moving them to a section of the forum with more relaxed rules, so they can still have their space to hang out. As for ZUD, we might eventually open a new thread regarding infidelity for new people interested in the subject, but this time without all the fragmentation and the clan warfare.
John Hill said:Alright, look, I moved this thread to where it actually belongs. And just to be clear, decisions like this aren't made by Jose White18 alone, or by me, or any single moderator acting on their own. These three specific threads have been a mess for a long time now. Originally, there was just one single discussion about cheating. Then, a few women showed up claiming they didn't fit into that specific conversation, so three separate threads about adultery were opened. We allowed them because we wanted to be accommodating; we thought splitting things up would cut down on the constant bickering by letting people group themselves by interest. Instead, it just created these little cliques that ended up warring with each other. In any other normal situation, when threads get this out of hand—where moderation becomes a nightmare because we're constantly deleting arguments—you’d just lock them down. But because we wanted to cater to the regulars who frequent these topics, we kept putting it off. Eventually, we hit on the idea of moving them to a section of the forum with more relaxed rules, so they can still have their space to hang out. As for ZUD, we might eventually open a new thread regarding infidelity for new people interested in the subject, but this time without all the fragmentation and the clan warfare.
Jesse Taylor80 said:The explanation provided here is both arrogant and pathetic.
You tolerate so much from everyone else, yet somehow these specific topics bother one of the moderatorit for purely personal reasons.
hollowtrucker77 said:The threads haven't actually been moved; they aren't locked, they haven't been deleted, and nobody is being stopped from continuing the chat on them
Michelle Alvarez8 said:eureka, the classic move—repression. You could've just said so from the start! 😁
