Fashion for curvy girls

Dana Wilson said:nimbleheron47, how do those pants look on the butt? 😁

Charles Gomez4, what size dress did you grab?

18. Tall, because I want the dress to hit my knees or just slightly below them.

Can someone please explain why we’re such masochists—why we insist on hunting through stores despite everything? 🙂

As you guys probably figured out—I'm basically scouring shops because I have absolutely nothing left to wear. Last time I checked this thread, I was buying stuff way less serious than what I need right now. Everything I've worn for the last two or three years is suddenly huge on me—and even if it did fit, it's pretty much worn out. The only things that still work are my old coats 😍 and honestly, I'm just glad I could dig them out of storage.

First store. A woman grabs the clothes I was looking at right out of my hands and tells me they'll be too big for me—then hands me something that looks like a size 12 max. I mean, thanks for the "compliment," I guess, but I think I know my own size. 🤣 So, I leave.

Second store. They actually have what I'm looking for, but only in a larger size. Fine, I'll try it on—it's not like I'm picky about numbers—maybe it'll work. It didn't. The clerk's comment: Well, at least it fits. 🙂 So, apparently, she thinks I'm massive and that I should be grateful I can even squeeze into anything at all. 🤣 🤣 🤣 After I finish struggling with it, comes the kicker: Ma'am, there's nothing I can do when you've put on that much weight in your hips. You're lucky your waist stayed normal.

🙂 😕

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Anyway, has anyone ordered more classic or formal pieces from ASOS lately? Like tailored trousers, dressier skirts, and stuff like that... I'm not going to gamble with Banana Republic since I don't really fit their typical demographic.

Unbelievable 😲 And then you hear people say, "Oh, poor things, they just couldn't make it work in America, it's all the customers' fault / the politicians / the small fry"... if we could just filter out the trash here and/or send them to some basic human decency training, maybe it would actually mean something 😠

One time, while I was picking out a watch worth over a thousand dollars, the sales clerk told me it was perfect for someone more substantial like myself. I think I was about 155 lbs at 5'10" back then. I turned around and walked straight to the competitor to buy the exact same watch.

Kimble, that’s awful. They treated me with that exact same attitude back when I was thin—just as dismissive. Around here, the retail staff are generally rude and completely checked out. Honestly, they should be paid strictly on commission—then we'd see just how much malice they could squeeze into a single sentence.

That is precisely why I never ask for help in stores. I navigate the aisles myself, put everything back where it belongs, and only flag someone down if I actually intend to try something on. That’s the extent of our interaction.

Look, I’ve been nothing but a total bore, just hitting up all those second-hand shops, and honestly? I wasn't complaining. Most of the stuff there is straight from Europe—you can usually still find the original tags attached and everything. The clerks are actually decent, too. Prices usually hover around $17, maybe topping out at 100 bucks, though if you're looking at jackets or coats, you're looking at closer to $133🤷.

Charles Gomez4 said:Unbelievable 😲 And then you hear people say, "Oh, poor things, they just couldn't make it work in America, it's all the customers' fault / the politicians / the small fry"... if we could just filter out the trash here and/or send them to some basic human decency training, maybe it would actually mean something 😠

One time, while I was picking out a watch worth over a thousand dollars, the sales clerk told me it was perfect for someone more substantial like myself. I think I was about 155 lbs at 5'10" back then. I turned around and walked straight to the competitor to buy the exact same watch.

dustycyclist72 said:Kimble, that’s awful. They treated me with that exact same attitude back when I was thin—just as dismissive. Around here, the retail staff are generally rude and completely checked out. Honestly, they should be paid strictly on commission—then we'd see just how much malice they could squeeze into a single sentence.

That is precisely why I never ask for help in stores. I navigate the aisles myself, put everything back where it belongs, and only flag someone down if I actually intend to try something on. That’s the extent of our interaction.

Look, at the end of the day, this whole thing is really just about how you view yourselves and whether you’ve actually made peace with your own reflection. Don't get me wrong—don't take this the wrong way—I'm fat too. But if you were actually okay with your body, these kinds of comments wouldn't sting nearly as much as they do. It reminds me of that show *The Biggest Loser*, where you see these contestants breaking down in tears because their trainer gives them a hard time for not pushing themselves hard enough. And the trainer is doing it to help them, right? But then one girl starts sobbing and says, "That hurts even more than someone calling me fat to my face." Well, what exactly are you doing on a weight-loss competition if you aren't overweight?! I'm not trying to be a jerk or insult anyone here, I really am not, but I genuinely don't get why it's such an issue to just acknowledge the obvious. Why does it bother you so much when other people notice the very same thing you already know about yourself? Is it really better to have people smiling at you and throwing out fake compliments like they're being hypocrites? Or is there some other catch I'm missing? Honestly, I'm curious...

Kyle Bishop65, I was actually going to say that exact thing, but then I thought—nah, I won't, I don't want to offend anyone... But honestly, I’m right there with you. If I were in Lorraine's shoes, I’d just have laughed at myself and turned the whole thing into a joke. Because if a cashier said that to me? Well, damn, they wouldn't be wrong. So what? Am I supposed to sit here and cry just because someone pointed out that I'm tough? They were just stating a fact. It's what everyone can see.
If we were all super skinny, people would be like, "Wow, look how fit and gorgeous she is," and instead of feeling insulted, we’d probably be flattered. Come on, ladies. The sooner you embrace who you are, the better life gets.

Kyle Bishop65 said:Look, at the end of the day, this whole thing is really just about how you view yourselves and whether you’ve actually made peace with your own reflection. Don't get me wrong—don't take this the wrong way—I'm fat too. But if you were actually okay with your body, these kinds of comments wouldn't sting nearly as much as they do. It reminds me of that show *The Biggest Loser*, where you see these contestants breaking down in tears because their trainer gives them a hard time for not pushing themselves hard enough. And the trainer is doing it to help them, right? But then one girl starts sobbing and says, "That hurts even more than someone calling me fat to my face." Well, what exactly are you doing on a weight-loss competition if you aren't overweight?! I'm not trying to be a jerk or insult anyone here, I really am not, but I genuinely don't get why it's such an issue to just acknowledge the obvious. Why does it bother you so much when other people notice the very same thing you already know about yourself? Is it really better to have people smiling at you and throwing out fake compliments like they're being hypocrites? Or is there some other catch I'm missing? Honestly, I'm curious...

Look, even if I weighed 330 lbs—which I don't—it's her job to be professional and give me what I asked for. Whether I'm 90 lbs or 330 lbs, it’s totally inappropriate for her to comment on my body parts. That's the actual issue here, not how anyone chooses to carry themselves. Her stupidity didn't hurt my feelings; it just annoyed me because that kind of behavior is unacceptable, regardless of whether I'm a size 2 or a size 16. Honestly, it would be just as messed up if she told a thin woman, "Who's to blame that you haven't grown any boobs?" It’s even funnier because the person making the statement is a bit 😁 curvy herself.
Basically, I was in shock... both at the first store and the second. Luckily, 😬 they were right next to each other, which gave me enough time to decide I wasn't going to waste any more time in places like that.

Honestly, just shut up about that point already!

I am perfectly aware of my own body—which parts are critical and exactly what size pants, shirts, and everything else I need to buy.

A sales clerk’s job is to assist me without adding their unsolicited commentary. If I decide to walk out with two sizes smaller than what I actually wear—that is entirely my business. Her responsibility is simply to ring up the sale, bag the items, and wish me a pleasant day.

That comment about the watch was particularly moronic. What on earth were they trying to achieve by saying that? It isn't like they're selling a flock of expensive sheep.

Kyle Bishop65, whatever the neighbors might say— you were totally exaggerating. First off, I wasn't any fuller back then. I'm not tiny, but for my height, you could definitely see my hip bones. I definitely wasn't curvier.

It had nothing to do with the crying you mentioned. I just decided to give my hard-earned money to people who actually act professional.

Second, even if I had weighed 330 lbs, please tell me where a cashier gets the right to comment on me as a customer she's seeing for the first time in her life? Who is she to judge my looks, no matter how obvious they might be? Her job is to serve the people paying her salary, not critique them.

I used to work retail, and I treated every single customer exactly the same. There were addicts, people with mental health issues, people who were overweight, skinny, rude, elderly, or vulnerable... was I supposed to let every one of them know what I thought of their appearance? No thanks.

Self-acceptance isn't really the point here. As far as I'm concerned, this falls under experiences with retail workers or whatever similar topic this is.

Edit: After posting, I saw that other girls wrote the exact same thing. Hopefully, it's a bit clearer now. 😉

nimbleheron47 said:Look, even if I weighed 330 lbs—which I don't—it's her job to be professional and give me what I asked for. Whether I'm 90 lbs or 330 lbs, it’s totally inappropriate for her to comment on my body parts. That's the actual issue here, not how anyone chooses to carry themselves. Her stupidity didn't hurt my feelings; it just annoyed me because that kind of behavior is unacceptable, regardless of whether I'm a size 2 or a size 16. Honestly, it would be just as messed up if she told a thin woman, "Who's to blame that you haven't grown any boobs?" It’s even funnier because the person making the statement is a bit 😁 curvy herself.
Basically, I was in shock... both at the first store and the second. Luckily, 😬 they were right next to each other, which gave me enough time to decide I wasn't going to waste any more time in places like that.

dustycyclist72 said:Honestly, just shut up about that point already!

I am perfectly aware of my own body—which parts are critical and exactly what size pants, shirts, and everything else I need to buy.

A sales clerk’s job is to assist me without adding their unsolicited commentary. If I decide to walk out with two sizes smaller than what I actually wear—that is entirely my business. Her responsibility is simply to ring up the sale, bag the items, and wish me a pleasant day.

That comment about the watch was particularly moronic. What on earth were they trying to achieve by saying that? It isn't like they're selling a flock of expensive sheep.

Okay, I get it, you guys have a point. The real crux of the matter is that these people felt entitled to chime in when nobody asked for their opinion 😁 rather than the content of what they were saying. Personally, I can't stand those "Oh, that looks great on you!" comments. Your job is to sell me merchandise; whether I think it suits me or not, you say it looks good, and that's it. We aren't children; why even bother saying anything else? Yeah, it's incredibly annoying when you're trying things on and some stranger decides to weigh in. But honestly, there isn't much else to do besides deal with it, just like having to hear "Do you have a rewards card?" or "Would you like to add this toothpaste to your order?" at the checkout counter. They are trained for this, and no matter how much it gets under our skin, they have to try to convince us somehow. I guess that's where "people skills" come into play—some people have them, some don't. Even though it's still not justified, I'll say it again.

Kyle Bishop65 said:Okay, I get it, you guys have a point. The real crux of the matter is that these people felt entitled to chime in when nobody asked for their opinion 😁 rather than the content of what they were saying. Personally, I can't stand those "Oh, that looks great on you!" comments. Your job is to sell me merchandise; whether I think it suits me or not, you say it looks good, and that's it. We aren't children; why even bother saying anything else? Yeah, it's incredibly annoying when you're trying things on and some stranger decides to weigh in. But honestly, there isn't much else to do besides deal with it, just like having to hear "Do you have a rewards card?" or "Would you like to add this toothpaste to your order?" at the checkout counter. They are trained for this, and no matter how much it gets under our skin, they have to try to convince us somehow. I guess that's where "people skills" come into play—some people have them, some don't. Even though it's still not justified, I'll say it again.

I don't like it either, regardless of how things fit. To be honest, I couldn't care less about a sales associate's opinion, no matter how much of an expert they claim to be. I didn't come in for an opinion or "friendly" advice; I came in for a new piece of clothing.

Thank God online shopping exists. 👋

Ugh, I’m reporting these Dorothy Perkins bootcut jeans too. They’re black and actually quite nice. My pear-shaped figure fits perfectly at the waist, which is great. But they are far too tight in the hips, and for my height of 5'5", they’re a few inches too long. If anyone is interested, let me know, otherwise I’ll be sending them back to DP in a couple of days.
The label says size 48. The tags are still attached.

By the way, I picked up some cheap jeans from Kohl's. They fit surprisingly well... honestly, even my butt doesn't look too bad in them. 😉

Charles Gomez4 said:I don't like it either, regardless of how things fit. To be honest, I couldn't care less about a sales associate's opinion, no matter how much of an expert they claim to be. I didn't come in for an opinion or "friendly" advice; I came in for a new piece of clothing.

Thank God online shopping exists. 👋

Alright, let me apologize for my post then—it’s clear we just see things differently, especially on this topic. Personally, I couldn't function if my shopping style was just "charge me up and toss it in the bag." If it wasn't for that lady driving a Mustang who suggested a specific denim cut—one that wouldn't make my thighs look even heavier but would actually slim them down visually—I wouldn't be wearing the best jeans of my life right now. Instead, I'd probably be stuck in some carrot-cut style that makes my backside look way wider. Sometimes, you actually have to listen to other people.

Peter Gray2 said:Alright, let me apologize for my post then—it’s clear we just see things differently, especially on this topic. Personally, I couldn't function if my shopping style was just "charge me up and toss it in the bag." If it wasn't for that lady driving a Mustang who suggested a specific denim cut—one that wouldn't make my thighs look even heavier but would actually slim them down visually—I wouldn't be wearing the best jeans of my life right now. Instead, I'd probably be stuck in some carrot-cut style that makes my backside look way wider. Sometimes, you actually have to listen to other people.

And that's the thing... the real issue is whether you can actually trust someone whose job it is to sell you something.😁 My brain starts working overtime the second a salesperson begins "advising" me. Look, I know there are well-meaning people out there—not everyone is out to get you—but sometimes they push a specific color or a certain fit just because it’s more expensive, or because they’re out of what you actually wanted, or because that one item isn't moving off the racks fast enough and they want you to try it. I don't know, everyone has different experiences and different stories. Up until this little debate, I hadn't even realized how much easier it is for me to shop at places like Target or Old Navy where I can just pick things out and try them on without feeling like I'm being watched. That's why I usually prefer big retailers over those tiny boutiques. But based on what you said, I guess it really comes down to "nothing ventured, nothing gained." It all just depends on who you're dealing with and what you're looking for in the moment.

It’s one thing to suggest a pattern, but it’s quite another to say: "Ma'am, there isn't much I can do for you now that your hips have flared out so much. You're lucky your waistline held steady."

Yeah, it's blatant—pretty sure we can all agree on that. Case closed.

Mind you, it’s not exactly a rare occurrence. My husband is 6'7" and deals with even more clothing struggles than I do. People constantly call him heavier even though he looks totally average (I guess if you're that tall, society expects you to be stick-thin just to look "normal"). All he ever hears is, "Oh, we don't carry that," or "We don't have those sizes in stock." And honestly? Every suit we stumble upon in his size looks like it would go viral on YouTube if I posted a video showing how they fit him 🤣—they're practically cut for people with much wider builds. We actually struggle more finding stuff for him than for myself. 🙂 Btw, if anyone knows where to find jeans with a 36 or—fingers crossed!—a 38 inseam, let me know. 😉

But, truthfully, nobody ever makes annoying comments about his body type. 😬 Probably because "real men" are allowed to be built a little larger. 🤣 *Typical old-school mindset.*

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Anyway, since we're all here looking out for one another 😉, if you happen to spot some leather gloves in wild colors (turquoise, deep purple, etc.), please remember to tell me where you saw them. Much love. :*

nimbleheron47 said:Yeah, it's blatant—pretty sure we can all agree on that. Case closed.

Mind you, it’s not exactly a rare occurrence. My husband is 6'7" and deals with even more clothing struggles than I do. People constantly call him heavier even though he looks totally average (I guess if you're that tall, society expects you to be stick-thin just to look "normal"). All he ever hears is, "Oh, we don't carry that," or "We don't have those sizes in stock." And honestly? Every suit we stumble upon in his size looks like it would go viral on YouTube if I posted a video showing how they fit him 🤣—they're practically cut for people with much wider builds. We actually struggle more finding stuff for him than for myself. 🙂 Btw, if anyone knows where to find jeans with a 36 or—fingers crossed!—a 38 inseam, let me know. 😉

But, truthfully, nobody ever makes annoying comments about his body type. 😬 Probably because "real men" are allowed to be built a little larger. 🤣 *Typical old-school mindset.*

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Anyway, since we're all here looking out for one another 😉, if you happen to spot some leather gloves in wild colors (turquoise, deep purple, etc.), please remember to tell me where you saw them. Much love. :*

Mine has the exact same struggle. He's 6'7", big guy, wears a size 14 shoe.
But every single store tells him they only go up to a size 11.😲

If anyone’s interested in this dress, just let me know.

($32)

http://www.asos.com/ASOS-Curve/ASOS-...rt=3&clr=Multi

It's a US size 18—they actually sent me this by mistake instead of those skirts in the longer green version. Yeah, basically the same thing. 😬

Tried it on myself—it's a bit drafty under the arms and around the waist, though the hips feel fine. It hangs a little longer on me than it does on my aunt in the photo, but honestly, that's probably just because it's too big for me and there's extra fabric bunching at the bottom (even that gap under the arm feels low).

I’d say it would be perfect for someone who wears a US 22 (if they like a slightly loose fit for this tight style) or maybe a 24/26 if they want that true bodycon look.

It’s got plenty of stretch, though.

Obsessed with my NEW dress! It just arrived via FedEx this morning, even though I only ordered it two days ago. The fit is perfect, length is spot on, and the fabric feels high-end. The lining is incredible—honestly, it’s like the quality you'd find in a custom DiCaprio suit.

Just a heads up, I grabbed the Tall version. It's designed for anyone 5'10" and up.