Henry Hernandez68 said:Is it actually normal for a primary care doctor to insist you show up in person just to get a sick note for the flu?
The guy was hit with a 102 fever yesterday afternoon—muscle aches, killer headache, the whole classic flu experience. We were trying everything to bring the temperature down, but by this morning, it had spiked right back up. He can barely even stand; he looks like death warmed over. He calls the doctor around 7:30 AM, and they tell him it’s probably the flu and they’ll write him a sick note, but then the nurse jumps in and says, "Nope, nothing can be done over the phone, the doctor has to see him first." So now, he had to trek out there while being incredibly contagious. We sat there waiting for maybe 45 minutes because he didn't have an appointment, and honestly, he probably infected half the waiting room, including me since I had to go with him. He was so weak, and it was just brutal watching him struggle to stay upright with a massive fever just so a doctor could spend two measly minutes signing a piece of paper.😕
I really don't get this approach. Whenever I'm sick, I always head over and wait outside the door if I'm not working, because I know the nurse is always going to say you have to come in. But this is the flu! The person is a walking contagion! It's obvious that because they have to deal with all the people who are faking it, the ones who are actually suffering end up getting punished for it.🙂
That is honestly just pathetic and low; you really ought to find a new doctor.
Henry Hernandez68 said:Is it actually normal for a primary care doctor to insist you show up in person just to get a sick note for the flu?
The guy was hit with a 102 fever yesterday afternoon—muscle aches, killer headache, the whole classic flu experience. We were trying everything to bring the temperature down, but by this morning, it had spiked right back up. He can barely even stand; he looks like death warmed over. He calls the doctor around 7:30 AM, and they tell him it’s probably the flu and they’ll write him a sick note, but then the nurse jumps in and says, "Nope, nothing can be done over the phone, the doctor has to see him first." So now, he had to trek out there while being incredibly contagious. We sat there waiting for maybe 45 minutes because he didn't have an appointment, and honestly, he probably infected half the waiting room, including me since I had to go with him. He was so weak, and it was just brutal watching him struggle to stay upright with a massive fever just so a doctor could spend two measly minutes signing a piece of paper.😕
I really don't get this approach. Whenever I'm sick, I always head over and wait outside the door if I'm not working, because I know the nurse is always going to say you have to come in. But this is the flu! The person is a walking contagion! It's obvious that because they have to deal with all the people who are faking it, the ones who are actually suffering end up getting punished for it.🙂
Look, most doctors hold themselves in such high regard compared to regular folks, and honestly, both the doctors and the patients share a lot of the blame for that. When people go to see a doctor, they tend to act so subservient, treating them like some kind of sacred figure or a high-ranking government official. This sense of humility from the patient often just fuels the arrogance of doctors and medical staff in general.
So, what kind of relationship should you actually have with your doctor?
What shakes a doctor the most is the realization that their patient might actually be smarter or more informed than they are. Once that happens, the dynamic flips 180 degrees; suddenly, the doctor becomes cooperative, starts collaborating, and might even ask for your opinion or advice. The key is to create the impression that you are, well, on their level or perhaps even a step above.
For instance, I’m practically never sick—maybe a couple of days of minor colds or viruses a year, maybe even less, but that’s beside the point. I’ll call, tell them when I fell ill, call again later to say I’m feeling okay, and then arrange a time to swing by for the paperwork. I’m fairly convinced that in a few years, everything will be fully digitized and we won't even need to set foot in the health clinic at all.