ruggeddrifter85 said:I don't have any direct experience myself, but I’ve watched two close friends go through the whole adoption process firsthand.
Once they finished all the assessments, they adopted their kids almost immediately.
It wasn't because they were picking and choosing, though.
The kids were over 8 years old.
They had behavioral issues.
On top of that, they were pretty far behind academically.
According to the social worker, these were the kind of kids that hardly anyone wanted to take in.
My friends worked their tails off until they finally saw real progress in how the kids behaved and learned.
It was an exhausting, years-long journey to get things back on track, even though the kids—by their own choice—started calling them Mom and Dad right from the start.
They were just deeply unhappy kids who desperately needed to belong somewhere.
One of my friends adopted a boy who still has a younger brother and an older sister.
After two failed attempts where people tried to adopt all three siblings at once (which was the condition), families actually ended up returning them to the foster care system because the kids fought so hard for affection that it became overwhelming.
Eventually, the agency decided it was best to split them up.
They were adopted into three different families, and even though those families aren't related, they all hang out now just to support the kids. Today, the siblings act like brothers, even if they live in different homes.
You really need an incredible amount of love, grit, and pure dedication to help a child heal from so much trauma and find happiness.
Honestly, most of these kids are just deeply messed up.
Some close family friends of mine just adopted a seven-year-old kid, and man, it’s been quite an eye-opener. They actually had to start from scratch just teaching him how to eat properly. It sounds intense, but he was basically just shoveling food down his throat without even chewing. I think it was that constant fear of someone snatching his plate away—just pure survival instinct. I actually witnessed it myself once, and it was heartbreaking to watch him start choking because he was rushing so much.
He’s such a great kid now, really grown into himself. He’s actually in med school, which is impressive. But man, you aren't kidding—it felt like it took everything we had to raise him right and turn him into the man he is today.
And honestly, I’ve got nothing but respect for anyone stepping up to take this on head-on, regardless of who they are or what their deal is.
driftingtinker said:I didn't think it was possible for someone to be more full of themselves than Biden, but honestly, Smith is giving him a run for his money.
I can't wait for the election results to roll in and see that stupid look on his face when he finally realizes he totally folded.🙂
That Smith guy is such a social misfit. Honestly, whenever I have to sit through one of his speeches or catch him on the news, I get this overwhelming sensation like he’s walking around with a broomstick shoved right up his backside. It's just uncomfortable to watch.
Adam Collins4 said:It’s not about being blind to your own shortcomings—it’s about how incredibly sluggish this whole system is and the deep-seated issues baked right into its foundation.
It’s not just about adoption and foster care, either—this goes much deeper than that. It’s true across every single layer of the bureaucracy that is supposed to actually serve the citizens of this country...
But look, the answer isn't just throwing kids at the first person who happens to wander by...
Someone put it pretty well—first we focus on getting everyone settled in at home, but then what? What comes after that?
Especially when you consider that this gay couple actually tried to seize control of everything—and then, after getting shut down, they went ahead and sued the USA, all while the court case is still dragging on indefinitely...
Personally, I don't have an issue with gay people... and honestly, I don't have anything against religious folks or anyone else who doesn't see eye to eye with me either.
It’s fine until they start trying to sell me on the idea that their lifestyle, their opinions, and their entire worldview is the only "correct" way to live—once they hit that point, we’ve got a serious problem on our hands.
My involvement in this whole thing started out pretty simple—I just asked why everyone loses their minds when someone burns effigies at a parade, claiming it’s "offensive," yet they call it satire. But then you see the exact same people who are acting all outraged by the bonfire suddenly jumping to defend stuff like Frljić’s antics, or those insane stories about Jesus violating a Muslim woman, or even pulling a flag out of a woman's anatomy... and they claim *that's* culture. It's a joke.
Even if the system gets its act together tomorrow and starts running as smooth as a newborn's sleep schedule, we’re still stuck with the reality that certain kids aren't considered "desirable" for adoption. It sounds harsh—maybe even ugly—but it’s just the truth of how things work. It makes me wonder why we don't just put those children in front of people who genuinely want to give them a home, regardless of their age, where they come from, or what kind of emotional trauma they've been through.
What's the harm if a kid spends a couple of years in foster care and then, once the option for adoption opens up, they just get to officially adopt them? It seems like a pretty natural progression to me.
So, I've been sitting here thinking about this, and it really gets to you. Do you honestly think the better solution is just ripping that kid away from their family? Or should we just leave them in that home and hope for the best—hoping someone else might actually want them? Because if they don't... well, screw it, you just didn't get lucky. You turn eighteen and suddenly you're just tossed out onto the street. It's a heavy thing to weigh up.
Honestly, sometimes when I see the kind of people who have children—or more accurately, what absolute morons are raising kids and how they treat them—I feel like it would be better if any random person just stepped in and took them away, rather than leaving them with parents like that. It just makes you think about those crazy individuals who throw kids off balconies... because, well, they finally got what was coming to them.
Personally, I don't have an issue with gay people... just like I don't have an issue with religious folks or anyone else who doesn't think exactly like I do...
As long as they don't start trying to convince me that their lifestyle, their views, and their attitudes are the only right way to live... then we’ve got a problem.
I haven't seen them trying to convince anyone that their way of life is the only correct one. What kind of nonsense is that?
They just claim that their way of life is just as valid as yours.
My involvement in this topic started pretty simply, when I asked why it was such a huge scandal when someone at a carnival burns effigies of a gay couple..
The biggest outcry here was actually about burning a child alongside that gay couple. Which, if you ask me, is just freaking sick. Only a complete psychopath could find joy in burning a child.