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Sam Martinez9 said:Thanks for the post. My brain's reaction was really just a matter of habit and somewhat dogmatic thinking.
You responded from the heart... and honestly, that's what makes us human.
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Sam Martinez9 said:Thanks for the post. My brain's reaction was really just a matter of habit and somewhat dogmatic thinking.
Harold Doyle3 said:You responded from the heart... and honestly, that's what makes us human.
Harold Doyle3 said:You responded from the heart... and honestly, that's what makes us human.
ruggedbadger2 said:Can you actually give me an example of a goal that doesn't lead to satisfaction? I guess I can't think of any human activity that isn't either chasing pleasure or trying to eliminate discomfort (like nirvana, euthanasia, or suicide).
Harold Doyle3 said:You responded from the heart... and honestly, that's what makes us human.
James Lee77 said:Try this thought experiment on for size: imagine you know for a fact that two different choices will give you the exact same amount of pleasure. One choice is totally selfless, while the other is just morally neutral. Since you aren't getting any extra "happiness points" for being a good person, what are you picking? Personally, I’d go with the one that brings some extra good into the world along with the pleasure. If you wouldn't, I guess you might be an outlier.
Man, if I had the energy or the patience for a full-on Socratic dialogue, I’d stop there. But since I don't, here's my take: if we agree that there are other motivations besides just pleasure, then we have to talk about how much those things actually weigh. Like, is it really true that a tiny, microscopic bit of extra pleasure is enough to outweigh a massive amount of something else that motivates us? I mean, probably not. It seems pretty plausible that there are situations where a huge amount of other stuff could easily outweigh a tiny lack of pleasure. Etc.
Sam Martinez9 said:I think there’s been a bit of a misunderstanding here. You’re looking at my previous posts and assuming I was purely reacting emotionally.
In a way, you're right, but in another, you aren't.
I shared a specific situation based on my own life experience—and since personal experiences are pretty much all we actually have—so I find it somewhat strange when people on this forum claim they know exactly what someone else is thinking or feeling when they've never even met them.
I suppose I view things differently; I would never dream of telling you, for instance, that you have no clue what one of your own friends is thinking or wanting, or that I somehow know their mind better than you do.
I can certainly offer my assumptions about what a friend might be going through, or speculate on various possibilities, but because I lack the lived experience you possess, I will always defer to your judgment. You know the individual far better than I ever could.
As for my friend, she confided her intentions solely to me and no one else; not even her family is aware of what she was planning. This isn't someone who goes around fishing for sympathy or attention by making threats of self-harm. We have known each other for decades now—we have a very deep history—and I see absolutely no reason for her to lie to me. Given that she hasn't told anyone else... I can only conclude that her intentions were genuine. She truly would have gone through with it if her daughter hadn't called.
ruggedbadger2 said:Here are two thought experiments regarding hedonism. I'm curious to see how you'd handle both scenarios. 🙂
1) The "Experience Machine." This is that famous thought experiment by Robert Nozick. I’ve heard a few different versions, but here’s how I remember it: imagine there’s this high-tech pod. Once you step inside, it provides an unimaginable level of pleasure—just pure, indescribable bliss. All physical and mental suffering is wiped out the moment you enter; there's nothing but extreme gratification. However, the machine works by physically altering your body, deforming it in ways you wouldn't actually feel while you're plugged in. But, if you knew beforehand that entering the pod would turn you into something like this, would you still get in?
2) Now, let's take a variation of the classic "trolley problem." Imagine a runaway train barreling toward the person inside that pleasure pod, which happens to be sitting right on the tracks. You’re standing next to a lever. If you pull it, you divert the train onto a different track where a "normal" person is tied down. What do you think is the better outcome: ending a life filled with total bliss, or ending an ordinary life? Which life carries more value, in your opinion? Obviously, the person in the pod would die painlessly since they wouldn't even feel the impact.
ruggedbadger2 said:Here are two thought experiments regarding hedonism. I'm curious to see how you'd handle both scenarios. 🙂
1) The "Experience Machine." This is that famous thought experiment by Robert Nozick. I’ve heard a few different versions, but here’s how I remember it: imagine there’s this high-tech pod. Once you step inside, it provides an unimaginable level of pleasure—just pure, indescribable bliss. All physical and mental suffering is wiped out the moment you enter; there's nothing but extreme gratification. However, the machine works by physically altering your body, deforming it in ways you wouldn't actually feel while you're plugged in. But, if you knew beforehand that entering the pod would turn you into something like this, would you still get in?
2) Now, let's take a variation of the classic "trolley problem." Imagine a runaway train barreling toward the person inside that pleasure pod, which happens to be sitting right on the tracks. You’re standing next to a lever. If you pull it, you divert the train onto a different track where a "normal" person is tied down. What do you think is the better outcome: ending a life filled with total bliss, or ending an ordinary life? Which life carries more value, in your opinion? Obviously, the person in the pod would die painlessly since they wouldn't even feel the impact.
Sam Martinez9 said:I think there’s been a bit of a misunderstanding here. You’re looking at my previous posts and assuming I was purely reacting emotionally.
In a way, you're right, but in another, you aren't.
I shared a specific situation based on my own life experience—and since personal experiences are pretty much all we actually have—so I find it somewhat strange when people on this forum claim they know exactly what someone else is thinking or feeling when they've never even met them.
I suppose I view things differently; I would never dream of telling you, for instance, that you have no clue what one of your own friends is thinking or wanting, or that I somehow know their mind better than you do.
I can certainly offer my assumptions about what a friend might be going through, or speculate on various possibilities, but because I lack the lived experience you possess, I will always defer to your judgment. You know the individual far better than I ever could.
As for my friend, she confided her intentions solely to me and no one else; not even her family is aware of what she was planning. This isn't someone who goes around fishing for sympathy or attention by making threats of self-harm. We have known each other for decades now—we have a very deep history—and I see absolutely no reason for her to lie to me. Given that she hasn't told anyone else... I can only conclude that her intentions were genuine. She truly would have gone through with it if her daughter hadn't called.
electricrider16 said:That famous thought experiment almost always requires a specific clarification to make any sense at all.
Personally, I’d step into that machine—plug myself in—right up until the moment the physical toll on my health became too great to ignore. Anyone who wouldn't act with that kind of pragmatism is, fundamentally speaking, just an auto-destructive addict.
I wouldn't do a single thing.
It is frankly absurd to even frame the question as if one were obligated to act, rather than simply trying to sabotage the entire train system to ensure nobody dies in the first place.
Harold Doyle3 said:The people on this forum just have a different perspective than yours, and looking at things from multiple angles isn't a bad thing. I don't think anyone here is claiming to know the person better than you do.
You mentioned she only confided in you, yet somehow her daughter knew enough to call and stop it... how? Was it an intuition? Does she just know her mother that well? Did you tell her? Or maybe... are you the daughter?
Look, if you know this person as well as you say:
Would anyone actually want someone to die because of them (whether during their life or after)?
If they would, what does that say about that kind of person?
Your friend lost her son... should her daughter have lost both her brother and her mother? From a mother's perspective, what was she supposed to do?
What does your friend think about mothers who wouldn't do what she wanted to do? Maybe they didn't love their sons enough?
Would she try to prevent or encourage other mothers from doing what she intended to do (if they were considering it)?
She has a "reason to live" now... but anyone who has a reason to live also has a reason to die.
If you're emotionally attached to something, don't bring it up here. Don't cast pearls before swine.
Right now, I'm just the "swine" trampling over your feelings, and you basically handed me the opportunity.
Sam Martinez9 said:The daughter picked up on it through conversation. Her mother was saying things along the lines of: *if something happens to me, rent out the apartment, sell the house...* and the daughter replied: *I don't need an apartment, I need my mother alive.*
As for your questions, I don't sit around discussing suicide with my friend, so I have no idea what her stance is on the matter.
I can tell you what I think, though. It’s roughly this:
Every person is unique, shaped by singular life circumstances, and they react to those circumstances in their own way. Some people will take their own lives under certain pressures, and others won't. That doesn't make one person "better" or "worse" than the other; it just means we are all fundamentally different. I prefer to try to understand people rather than slapping labels on them or judging them for their actions—or their lack of action.
Life is messy and unpredictable. Many people endure massive tragedies, far greater than what my friend is facing. Yet, they move forward; they find a reason to keep going. That doesn't mean they are cold or less grieving than my friend; it just means their paths were different. I suspect that for those with larger support systems, finding a reason to carry on might be slightly easier. But the truth is, everyone hit by personal tragedy suffers, and that suffering lasts for years, even decades.
A significant number of people take their own lives in America and across the globe. Almost all of them leave family behind, many leaving children. How do they justify it to themselves? It's simple, in a dark way. They believe their loved ones won't need them anyway, or that things will actually be better without them. *They won't miss me; they'll be better off once I'm gone...*
Regarding the pearls: I can trample over the swine as much as I want, but real pearls remain pearls, and swine remain swine.
Sam Martinez9 said:The daughter picked up on it through conversation. Her mother was saying things along the lines of: *if something happens to me, rent out the apartment, sell the house...* and the daughter replied: *I don't need an apartment, I need my mother alive.*
As for your questions, I don't sit around discussing suicide with my friend, so I have no idea what her stance is on the matter.
I can tell you what I think, though. It’s roughly this:
Every person is unique, shaped by singular life circumstances, and they react to those circumstances in their own way. Some people will take their own lives under certain pressures, and others won't. That doesn't make one person "better" or "worse" than the other; it just means we are all fundamentally different. I prefer to try to understand people rather than slapping labels on them or judging them for their actions—or their lack of action.
Life is messy and unpredictable. Many people endure massive tragedies, far greater than what my friend is facing. Yet, they move forward; they find a reason to keep going. That doesn't mean they are cold or less grieving than my friend; it just means their paths were different. I suspect that for those with larger support systems, finding a reason to carry on might be slightly easier. But the truth is, everyone hit by personal tragedy suffers, and that suffering lasts for years, even decades.
A significant number of people take their own lives in America and across the globe. Almost all of them leave family behind, many leaving children. How do they justify it to themselves? It's simple, in a dark way. They believe their loved ones won't need them anyway, or that things will actually be better without them. *They won't miss me; they'll be better off once I'm gone...*
Regarding the pearls: I can trample over the swine as much as I want, but real pearls remain pearls, and swine remain swine.
Sam Martinez9 said:The daughter picked up on it through conversation. Her mother was saying things along the lines of: *if something happens to me, rent out the apartment, sell the house...* and the daughter replied: *I don't need an apartment, I need my mother alive.*
As for your questions, I don't sit around discussing suicide with my friend, so I have no idea what her stance is on the matter.
I can tell you what I think, though. It’s roughly this:
Every person is unique, shaped by singular life circumstances, and they react to those circumstances in their own way. Some people will take their own lives under certain pressures, and others won't. That doesn't make one person "better" or "worse" than the other; it just means we are all fundamentally different. I prefer to try to understand people rather than slapping labels on them or judging them for their actions—or their lack of action.
Life is messy and unpredictable. Many people endure massive tragedies, far greater than what my friend is facing. Yet, they move forward; they find a reason to keep going. That doesn't mean they are cold or less grieving than my friend; it just means their paths were different. I suspect that for those with larger support systems, finding a reason to carry on might be slightly easier. But the truth is, everyone hit by personal tragedy suffers, and that suffering lasts for years, even decades.
A significant number of people take their own lives in America and across the globe. Almost all of them leave family behind, many leaving children. How do they justify it to themselves? It's simple, in a dark way. They believe their loved ones won't need them anyway, or that things will actually be better without them. *They won't miss me; they'll be better off once I'm gone...*
Regarding the pearls: I can trample over the swine as much as I want, but real pearls remain pearls, and swine remain swine.
Sam Martinez9 said:The daughter picked up on it through conversation. Her mother was saying things along the lines of: *if something happens to me, rent out the apartment, sell the house...* and the daughter replied: *I don't need an apartment, I need my mother alive.*
As for your questions, I don't sit around discussing suicide with my friend, so I have no idea what her stance is on the matter.
I can tell you what I think, though. It’s roughly this:
Every person is unique, shaped by singular life circumstances, and they react to those circumstances in their own way. Some people will take their own lives under certain pressures, and others won't. That doesn't make one person "better" or "worse" than the other; it just means we are all fundamentally different. I prefer to try to understand people rather than slapping labels on them or judging them for their actions—or their lack of action.
Life is messy and unpredictable. Many people endure massive tragedies, far greater than what my friend is facing. Yet, they move forward; they find a reason to keep going. That doesn't mean they are cold or less grieving than my friend; it just means their paths were different. I suspect that for those with larger support systems, finding a reason to carry on might be slightly easier. But the truth is, everyone hit by personal tragedy suffers, and that suffering lasts for years, even decades.
A significant number of people take their own lives in America and across the globe. Almost all of them leave family behind, many leaving children. How do they justify it to themselves? It's simple, in a dark way. They believe their loved ones won't need them anyway, or that things will actually be better without them. *They won't miss me; they'll be better off once I'm gone...*
Regarding the pearls: I can trample over the swine as much as I want, but real pearls remain pearls, and swine remain swine.
Sam Martinez9 said:The daughter picked up on it through conversation. Her mother was saying things along the lines of: *if something happens to me, rent out the apartment, sell the house...* and the daughter replied: *I don't need an apartment, I need my mother alive.*
As for your questions, I don't sit around discussing suicide with my friend, so I have no idea what her stance is on the matter.
I can tell you what I think, though. It’s roughly this:
Every person is unique, shaped by singular life circumstances, and they react to those circumstances in their own way. Some people will take their own lives under certain pressures, and others won't. That doesn't make one person "better" or "worse" than the other; it just means we are all fundamentally different. I prefer to try to understand people rather than slapping labels on them or judging them for their actions—or their lack of action.
Life is messy and unpredictable. Many people endure massive tragedies, far greater than what my friend is facing. Yet, they move forward; they find a reason to keep going. That doesn't mean they are cold or less grieving than my friend; it just means their paths were different. I suspect that for those with larger support systems, finding a reason to carry on might be slightly easier. But the truth is, everyone hit by personal tragedy suffers, and that suffering lasts for years, even decades.
A significant number of people take their own lives in America and across the globe. Almost all of them leave family behind, many leaving children. How do they justify it to themselves? It's simple, in a dark way. They believe their loved ones won't need them anyway, or that things will actually be better without them. *They won't miss me; they'll be better off once I'm gone...*
Regarding the pearls: I can trample over the swine as much as I want, but real pearls remain pearls, and swine remain swine.
Harold Doyle3 said:Didn't she tell you she was planning on taking her own life? And after that, you guys just... what, kept on chatting about cookie recipes?
So, you think you went a little overboard with that enrollment? Maybe. It’s easy to get carried away when you're looking at the big picture, but I suppose hindsight is always twenty-twenty. Now I'm just sitting here wondering if I jumped the gun.
Sam Martinez9 says:
Of course you didn't. But honestly, that whole post of yours directed at Wanda just makes it look even more pathetic.
Look, suicides definitely happen. But my friend? She didn't pull the trigger because she's some kind of saint who loves life or herself. And it wasn't even about her other child. It just wasn't.
So you just went ahead and lashed out at this complete stranger, labeling her nothing more than a common liar who’s actively masking her true motives—not just from everyone else on this planet, but from herself, too.
Isn't "bolding" just a way of pointing fingers?
So, did her daughter only suddenly become a priority once she lost her son?
It's pretty obvious that if someone feels that way, their family won't miss them either, because if they truly mattered, they would have stayed by their side longer.
Your friend opened up to you... shouldn't you have told her daughter?
So, you didn't want to step on any "gems"?
hiddeneagle98 said:I’m going to drop the link to this absolutely brilliant website once again.
ruggedbadger2 said:Are you claiming you read the entire website or just the manifesto? Because there’s actually a massive amount of material to dig through in there.
I'm not going to weigh in on the rest of your post since I don't have enough background to determine what's technically possible and what isn't, but generally speaking, I agree with the analysis by Quincy that you linked.
Sarah Martinez46 said:☕
Why on earth does the Ent-like forest rise up to save the fellowship in Lord of the Rings?
And how can they claim anyone worth their salt can fly, while anyone who can't is basically worthless?