Extended stays - what are your experiences?

From what I understand, there are basically two types of after-school programs over here. In cities like Chicago, it's either an all-day program where they stay on campus, or just a standard afternoon session.
Staff is usually on duty starting at 7:00 AM. As for religious education classes, it really depends on the specific school district, so you’ll definitely want to check with yours directly. You might want to be prepared to pick them up early if they don't have a spot reserved for them during those classes.😁

Every school around here handles their shift schedules differently. I actually just checked the website for a school in the next neighborhood over—they don't even bother listing specific timetables, they just state that after-school care runs from 7 AM to 5 PM. It’s a much more realistic setup—you aren't constantly racing against the clock just to make it by 4:30.

The whole shift situation is just messy—especially regarding meal planning. If kids are there for morning care but attend classes in the afternoon, they get breakfast. Flip that around and they don't.

It's a mess. I already went through the headache of dealing with daycare organization, and at this rate, I can see myself being stuck fighting with the school system until graduation.

Leah, I’m not really part of this conversation either... But I think you’re from Rio, just like me, and since my little sister is only in 3rd grade, let's just say I have some "accidental" experience with all this.
Ever since she was in 1st grade, she’s been in after-school care. At her school, classes are strictly in the morning, which honestly makes things way easier for a parent. My sister drops her off around 7:30 AM, and the kid just hangs out by herself until class starts at 8:00. Back in 1st grade, she would’ve gone inside immediately, especially if it was raining or just crappy weather. Now? She’s acting all tough with her little group, just waiting outside for the bell to ring.
Her after-school program runs until 4:30 PM, and my sister barely makes it in time to grab her—she works until 4:00, then there’s traffic, rush hour... it's a nightmare. It’s seriously hard for her to juggle everything; she’s on her own, totally distracted, and her dad is one of those types who thinks, "Not my problem, she’s your responsibility." Unfortunately, our parents have passed away, and her mother-in-law is elderly and dealing with some serious health issues. To make a long story short, she has zero help coming from any direction. What’s killing her right now is the sheer amount of holidays and days off. Obviously, she doesn't get that much PTO, so the kid ended up stuck at home alone all summer. For instance, it’s only 8:10 AM, but since it's a non-working day for her, the schedule is already messed up because the school combined sessions and they aren't even open on the 9th.
That’s exactly what scares me the most, and I honestly have no clue how we’re going to pull it off.

Ugh, my annual mileage is such a headache—I won't even get started on it. I honestly have no clue how we're going to handle that issue 😢

Maybe coordinate some kind of split schedule with a neighbor, or just pay a sitter or check out those local play centers that offer structured programs.
I don't see any other options.

rowdypanther12 said:Maybe coordinate some kind of split schedule with a neighbor, or just pay a sitter or check out those local play centers that offer structured programs.
I don't see any other options.

That’s actually pretty much what I was getting at.
Most of my friends with kids in elementary school seem to rely on having a sitter come over for a few hours here and there, mostly just to help out when they need to pick the kids up from school or during those long holiday breaks.

I'm curious about what the total cost might look like. I'm thinking about paying for someone to pick up my kid, handle meals, and help guide them through their homework 😁 while they're under supervision all day during school breaks
. I don't have all the details yet, obviously—it's hard to say how much an 8.5-year-old can actually handle, but I'm sure they won't be able to focus for ten hours straight every single day
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rowdypanther12 said:I'm curious about what the total cost might look like. I'm thinking about paying for someone to pick up my kid, handle meals, and help guide them through their homework 😁 while they're under supervision all day during school breaks
. I don't have all the details yet, obviously—it's hard to say how much an 8.5-year-old can actually handle, but I'm sure they won't be able to focus for ten hours straight every single day
.

Is it okay if I ask?
I’ve brought this up before, but I guess I always seem to forget the specific numbers unless I’m actively dealing with them right now.🙈

The thing is, most of the childcare options I’m aware of don't actually cover the full day, even during holidays—it's more like a half-day situation, so you end up having to patch things together with grandparents or just heading out from work a little early whenever the need arises, which seems to be the norm anyway.🕺

rowdypanther12 said:I'm curious about what the total cost might look like. I'm thinking about paying for someone to pick up my kid, handle meals, and help guide them through their homework 😁 while they're under supervision all day during school breaks
. I don't have all the details yet, obviously—it's hard to say how much an 8.5-year-old can actually handle, but I'm sure they won't be able to focus for ten hours straight every single day
.

It becomes a massive headache if you don't have a fallback plan for childcare. We’ve been lucky because my parents are always ready to step in, and I usually take my vacation days during the summer months anyway. Not right when school lets out, mind you, but I can bring my little girl along to work once her classes are done. I try to avoid it whenever possible, but there's always that "Plan B" where we just group a few of our kids together in one room and run our own makeshift after-school program.😁.

I’m also curious about what a local babysitter would charge to hang out with her after school—say, picking her up after lunch and watching her until my husband gets home around 3:30 PM. They wouldn't even need to help with homework; maybe just hand over a snack or something pre-made. We’ve been weighing our options lately because she can’t attend the standard after-school program due to a broken arm, and since both sets of grandparents have had some health scares recently, things have been a bit chaotic while one of them recovers.

Honestly, who knows? We'll just have to wait until it actually matters to us.

I was chatting with a mom yesterday, and she mentioned there’s talk about getting rid of extended kindergarten for third graders—right now, it’s only an option for the first three grades. Apparently, some schools in NYC have already moved to just the first two years, and the idea is to roll that change out across the whole country. 😲

urbantinker8 said:Is it okay if I ask?
I’ve brought this up before, but I guess I always seem to forget the specific numbers unless I’m actively dealing with them right now.🙈

The thing is, most of the childcare options I’m aware of don't actually cover the full day, even during holidays—it's more like a half-day situation, so you end up having to patch things together with grandparents or just heading out from work a little early whenever the need arises, which seems to be the norm anyway.🕺

Go ahead and ask!
Even part-time works out fine—if someone shows up around 10 or 11 and leaves by 3, that's still better than nothing.
Plus, why split the hours into three or four different shifts? We're a young suburb with plenty of kids and working parents who just need some coverage.😁

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Leah says: Honestly, who knows? We'll just have to wait until it actually becomes an issue for us. I was chatting with a mom yesterday, and she mentioned there’s this idea floating around to cut after-school programs for third graders (right now, they only offer them for the first three grades). Apparently, some schools in New York City have already scaled back to just the first two grades, and the plan is to roll that change out across the entire country. 😲

Yeah, the real kicker is the funding. There's been talk about phasing out those third-grade programs for a while now, and they're slowly being phased out one by one. It’s happening school by school—every year, fewer and fewer institutions are offering that third-year option. My kid's school still has it, but at my little one's school, they only cover the first two years. They're huge campuses, and frankly, I doubt they even have the resources to sustain a program for third graders.

Then again, it's nearly impossible to predict what a kid will be like by the third grade when they're still just a first grader. Maybe they'll be able to handle staying for just a few hours—though personally, I can't wrap my head around that, but hey, who knows. Back in our day, we all lived with keys around our necks, left home alone constantly, and stayed that way for ages. I even remember wandering outside solo while my parents were out. If I had to leave my little girl home alone for a few hours today, I’d lose my mind. I think it would hit her pretty hard, too.

In my neighborhood, none of the local elementary schools offer after-school care for kids beyond third grade.
The one I go to only provides it for first graders.👎

I need to stop stressing about school—it’s just causing unnecessary anxiety, and there's plenty of time left to worry later 😬

So, I was thinking about that common advice—you know, how everyone says a first grader should walk to school to get used to the route and build some independence. I started doing the math, and honestly, it's just not happening for us. It’s at least a 15-20 minute walk. If I walk him there in the morning, there's no way I can make it back home to grab the car and still get to the office by 8:00 AM—public transit isn't an option since it's too far away anyway. And if I tried to drop him off and then circle back for the car... forget it, I wouldn't make it by 4:30 PM. My only other choice would be to leave the car parked near the school 🤣 but then you run into all those logistical headaches with after-school activities, running errands, or hitting the grocery store. Just one of those annoying little dilemmas 🙂

Take advantage of this chance and head out on foot while you can.
We’ve been letting her navigate that crossing all by herself for way too long whenever she has to come back, basically leaving her to decide for herself when it's safe.
Unfortunately, that pass isn't exactly on our way, but we're going to make a real effort to take that route as much as possible this year.

We’ll have to figure out a game plan once enrollment season rolls around. It would be perfect if we could just walk to preschool since it's on the way—but then again, I’d never make it to my office on time. We'll just cross that bridge when we get to it.

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Leah says: Honestly, who knows? We'll just have to wait until it actually becomes an issue for us. I was chatting with a mom yesterday, and she mentioned there’s this idea floating around to cut after-school programs for third graders (right now, they only offer them for the first three grades). Apparently, some schools in New York City have already scaled back to just the first two grades, and the plan is to roll that change out across the entire country. 😲

Yeah, the real kicker is the funding. There's been talk about phasing out those third-grade programs for a while now, and they're slowly being phased out one by one. It’s happening school by school—every year, fewer and fewer institutions are offering that third-year option. My kid's school still has it, but at my little one's school, they only cover the first two years. They're huge campuses, and frankly, I doubt they even have the resources to sustain a program for third graders.

Then again, it's nearly impossible to predict what a kid will be like by the third grade when they're still just a first grader. Maybe they'll be able to handle staying for just a few hours—though personally, I can't wrap my head around that, but hey, who knows. Back in our day, we all lived with keys around our necks, left home alone constantly, and stayed that way for ages. I even remember wandering outside solo while my parents were out. If I had to leave my little girl home alone for a few hours today, I’d lose my mind. I think it would hit her pretty hard, too.

What do you mean "bad funding"? At our local elementary school, the monthly fee for after-school care is over $167, if I recall correctly, maybe around $190. I honestly think that covers the cost of a decent meal and having a teacher on duty quite well.

northerntiger9 said:We’ll have to figure out a game plan once enrollment season rolls around. It would be perfect if we could just walk to preschool since it's on the way—but then again, I’d never make it to my office on time. We'll just cross that bridge when we get to it.

Well, maybe you could just go for a stroll along that route during the weekend.
we basically do that all the time (even though I always end up walking him to and from everything myself)
but I guess there's no harm in getting a little extra movement in.😁

We’re usually stuck indoors on weekends—unless there’s a massive storm rolling through or someone catches a bug 🙂 otherwise, we're heading over to Grandma's place in Chicago. But yeah... we'll figure something out and squeeze it in whenever we get the chance

rowdypanther12 said:I'm curious about what the total cost might look like. I'm thinking about paying for someone to pick up my kid, handle meals, and help guide them through their homework 😁 while they're under supervision all day during school breaks
. I don't have all the details yet, obviously—it's hard to say how much an 8.5-year-old can actually handle, but I'm sure they won't be able to focus for ten hours straight every single day
.

around $6.75 an hour (from what I've heard)